|
friend and boyfriend
ok theres this girl..i dont know if i would consider her my friend but i try to be nice to everyone.well she liked my boyfriend b4 we started to go out.and of course i did 2.well she WAS mad when we started to go out so ever since then shes been butting into our business.like we can be walking down the hall holding hands and what not and she just walks up in between us.after awhile it can get verrry annoying.when me and my boyfriend are on the phone ill get online and she'll IM me and want me and my boyfriend to 3 way her.he doesnt like her and she pisses him off.today she crossed my boyfriends line.she pretty much was trying to invite herself to the movies with me and my boyfriend and that pissed him off so he goes no we want to be alone for once.i cant really blame him but shes allllways on my business.i dont want to be mean to her because im not that way.what are some ways to tell her to back off without being mean?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Work & School category?
Maybe give some free advice about: School?
just be straight forward with her, and if you don't feel comfortable doing that then maybe you should have your boyfriend tell her to back off
]
Me and my boyfriend have a problem kinda like that with this one girl and the way we handled it was dropped big hints we didn't want her with us and when that didn't work i talked to her alone and said something like "okay, we really like our time alone together so if you will please stop inviting yourself to our dates?" and if that doesn't work she deserves to be yelled at.
]
my best friend is exactly like that.. except i am not sure if she likes my boyfriend or not... she always walks with us and always wants to know what we talk about... i try and give her little hints like saying i never get anytime alone with my boyfriend anymore (but not in a rude voice) or sumthing like one time when you got picked up from school early eric told me he loved me and he told me i was prettiest girl in the world... my boyfriend usually doesn't say that to me when she is with us because he is shy like that... if she doesn't understand ur little hints than definetly tell her you and your boyfriend need some space and since you said you wouldn't consider her a good friend than i would just not be friends with her anymore. ALso, don't tell her what your plans are with your boyfriend and don't tell her when you guys are on the phone.... and if she asks if you have plans be like we're going on a very romantic date that way she won't be able to come because it's going to be romantic and she shouldn't get in the way of that
]
well maby you can try talking to her saying things like..well im not trying to be mean , but me and my boyfriend want to be alone more ..and it seems like everytime we try to do something together you come and interupt wat ever it is..and if she styll trys asking to do things with you and your boyfriend just let her know straigt out that you dunt want any1 else with yoo..then try explaining to her that you like her still or watever else you want to say..but i no if i was you i would get really agervated and let her know how i felt..well hope i helped you* xO
]
Well, first of all, why do you internet when you're talking on the phone? My daughter does that when she's on the phone with her dad and, personally, I think that's rude but then again, I'm old-fashioned. I think you should pay attention to the person you're TALKING with on the phone, not WRITING with IM. Now, I'll stop ranting.
This girl is feeling betrayed. Neither you or your boyfriend did so, but that is what she's feeling. So, to make up for that, she is doing everything in her power to get noticed by both of you. The problem is, of course, that it's gotten out of hand and now your boyfriend is about to verbally pop her. You need to do something before that happens and it really hurts her emotionally.
Is there any way you can invite her for a Coke or something without your boyfriend so that you can talk with her privately and kindly? Ask her why she is acting this way and tell her that it's really putting her in a negative light so that YOU don't feel comfortable about getting to know her better to become better friends or something like that? That might be one way to let her down nicely without hurting her feelings too much. It's a very delicate matter, so be very careful. I know how important it is to be with a boyfriend, especially at your age, but cultivating girl-friendships are equally important and, who knows, she might turn out to be a really great friend. This is a tough one. Hope I helped some.
]
Well sit her down as a friend and tell her that you aren't being mean but me and my boyfriend want to be alone sometimes and tell her that if one day we invite you there is no problem but for now we want to be alone. And if her don't learn from that then you tell her off.
]
well its kind of hard not to mean to a bitch like that so what i would do is tell her that she needs to backoff and that your boyfriend doesnt like her...shes gonna come back with a smartass remark so say something like u bitch...and then fight her..
]
More Questions: |