Just your average nice girl next door. Married the love of my life at 24, widowed at 29.
I love cats and sailing and get to the beach as often as I can.
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ok..well...my friend who i have known(he is a guy0 since before kindergarten is going out with this girl who every1 totally hates because she is like sluttish and whoreish. a lot of girls like him and he said no to all of them..except he was leading one girl on..and then he just suddenly goes out with the other girl..now everyone is mad at him bc of that..and he has been lying a lot recently. the girl who got lead on is so depressed. i dont know whether to agree with her or my guy friend. and im somehow in the middle of this. please help me sorry this is so long
torn in 2 (link)
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it's probably time to back off your friend. Just remember to give him his space to run around with the slut and not say a word. real, true friends are around forever and he'll be back.... boyfriends/girlfriends come and go.
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I just moved here from a different state & I'm starting school on Monday next week. I'm extremely nervous, I've never moved schools before & I'm 15. Pretty much, my question is: At lunch, I'll probably be sitting by myself. Does anyone have any suggestions on some things I could do to interest me, while sitting at lunch by myself. I don't want to look stupid and just sit there and stare around at people. I want to be able to do something. I'm not going up to people and asking them to sit with them because, I'm not that type of person. Thanks for your help. (link)
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yep, bring a current magazine or a book that has a really interesting cover/title.
be yourself but don't disclose too much. And when you meet new people be sure to ask way more about them and listen to them then yourself. you'll be great!
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ever since I have had a bladder infection and they gave me a pll for it at the end of my period I get a yeats infection. I have went to the doctor and everything but still it comes back does anyone have any idea what to do or if something is wrong with me? I will rate high (link)
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to help avoid bladder infections drink cranberry juice and/or you can take 'acidophilus' which is at the health food stores.
the antibiotics the doc gave you for the bladder infection can cause the yeast infection. next time the doc wants to give you antibiotics tell him you always get yeast infections afterwards, they can give you a different type of antibiotic that gives you less of a chance of a yeast infection.
oh... and BTW, do NOT put calimine lotion down there like the other person wrote you. try to keep clean and dry, and wear clean white cotton undies.
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my friend taught me this new way to "masturbate" w/out actually TOUCHING yourself. you go in a bath tub, put your vagina beneath the water and turn the water on, so it hits your vagina in JUST the right spot. soo, i tried it, and it felt really good. i was wondering if anyone knew if this is unhealthy or anything, or if i could keep going... thanks!!! depending on your answer, i'll rate 5s!!! (link)
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Nope, it's not unhealthy. A detachable showerhead can be the single girls best friend.
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I'm 29 and I've been dating a 27 yo girl for about 8 months now and I thought things were going great. However, recently she planned her holiday season (thanksgiving and christmas) without even asking me what I was doing. Her rationale was that couples only plan things together when they are engaged or married. She tells me she loves me and doesn't understand why I was surprised that she made all her plans (which exclude me) without even talking to me about what she wanted to do. I have no intention of trying to change her plans. I just thought it was common courtesy to discuss it first and hopefully find a way to spend the holidays together. Your thoughts? (link)
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You are right.... after dating for 8 months at the very least she should have invited you to one or a portion of her family events. it's understandable that maybe they have strictly "family" time during the holiday. I think you should take it as a sign to move on. sorry!
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My boyfriend and I have been having sex since late June. Last night he asked me if i got it yet ( i got it june 30th, after we first started to) and i said no but im not worried about it im going to wait a few days because my comes so randomly. and it never comes on the same date. he is yelling at me about he knows he asked girls, but i think i know mmy fuckin period and a bunch of girls periods come different times and late. he is really stressing me out, should i go to a clinic to see or buy a test now? (link)
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Just because you don't like the advice you asked for doesn't mean it's bad advice.
You wouldn't have to worry about your "fuckin period" if you were using condoms and having safe sex, honey.
Given your and his lack of knowledge on the subject to begin with - you shouldn't be having sex anyhow. Grow up first and find yourself a real boyfriend.... obviously he's only concerned with the sex, not about you.
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Hello*
Well, here's my question...(this might sound like a dumb,slow,or whatever u wanna call it question.) But how can u figure out if your really in love with a person.(boy,in my case). I have this boyfriend and i think i'm falling in love with him (sorry if this sounds corny).He's so sweet.And i can't stop thinking about him.Please tell me.
Brenda*** (link)
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Good question Brenda... it takes a lot of time an experience, but in a nutshell...
You can tell if you truly love someone, if you are willing to put him above all else (including yourself, and including giving him up!) AND he does the same for you.
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ok so i have a boyfriend that i've been with for about 6 months now. im 16, my boyfriend is turning 19 in september And about four months into the relationship, i got raped by his older brother and now his family is blaming me and telling ppl it wasnt raped so now im questioning myself if it was rape or not. and then the cops got involved because my boyfriend called the cops since i told him what happened when i slept over. so when the cops were investigating, they found out that me and my boyfriend have been having sex as well. so now me & andrew arent even allowed to see each other legally and im just wondering if i should stay with him after all this happening, we want to have kids in the future and he even asked me to marry him...is this a good idea? (link)
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For the love of God, NO! You shouldn't have anything to do with him or his family ever again. Since you asked for advice, you realize that at 16 you don't have the mature judgment or you would have never ever been in this situation in the first place. Get out now and find yourself a good, healthy relationship for a 16yr old.
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me and my boyfriend been having sex for almost 5months( we been together for 9 months)and when we have sex im usually not on top..well the other night i was on top and i had to get off cause it hurt really bad. why is that? is there something wrong with me?. and i have another question after we are done i always get all tingley? why is that (link)
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when you're on top, it allows him to go much deeper and you actually can bruise your cervix.
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ok i need some good advice here. every day i put on deorderant(soft&dri) and i still sweat perfusely and get large sweat rings. also i might add that i am allergic to the powder/white deorderant cause it gives me large rashes. Any advice on what i could do so that i dont sweat as much? -thanks (link)
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there's a difference between deodorants and antipersperants. Try using an antiperpersant instead.
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Okay, i need help, well I have a myspace and my boyfriend does too. and he comments on some of my friends myspace's saying that they have a nice ass, and look hot etc. but when i confronted him about this he said "i was only playin please, dont be mad at me i love you soo much ill cry if your mad at me. etc." and i forgave him .. but now i found another one of my friends on myspace and she is flashing the camera and he said. nice pic. then commented again and said take off the bra lol j/p.....but the thing is i dont think he was just kidding. i mean wow .. i didnt know he was like that before i started going out with him? i dont know.. but can you guys help? please? (link)
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Find a new bf! If he does that kind of thing right in front of you, he's doing more behind your back. And you can only take the "i was only playin please, dont be mad at me i love you soo much ill cry if your mad at me. etc." ONCE. He's hurting your feelings and relationshiop and he KNOWS he's doing it but continues. He's a jerk and you deserve to be treated much better than that.
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I have been married for 5 years and have been with my husband for 6 years. He is a Army soldier. We have lived in Germany for the past 4 and half years. My husband just recently told me that our hole marrige was based on lies, and that he has never been in love with me!!!! He told me the truth about everything!!!! He has cheated on me so many times that he can't remember!!!!! My question is what can I get in the divorce? Do we have to split everything, and can I make him pay for pain and suffering? (link)
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don't say a word - get all your ducks in a row first. Like a separate bank account, separate credit cards etc. and then go to an attorney off-base to file.
In the military, adultery is a punishable crime... you have all the cards in your hands, especially if you have some real proof.
If you don't get the response you need, call his commanding officer or first sergeant and make an appointment for a private discussion and spill the beans.
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I'm in 11th grade now... well i'm going into 11th... and me and my friend have been friends since 4th... we are two completly diff people but that's what makes us good friends... she is more wild and i'm more not... she will do things without thinking and I think things through... last week she told me she liked this guy... every week it seems as though she likes someone diff... she had a 3 some with him and his friend... the two guys is her exes good friends... and the guy she doesn't like is one of her best friends ex and her other friend slept with him before she had the 3 some... she has wanted me to hang out with them but i'm not that type of person... i'm waiting till i get married to loose my virginity and i have more respect in myself than that no affense to her... i love her but i don't know what to do...she has told me if i hang out with them nothing like that will happen... but everytime she tells me a story about when they hangout something sexual like that always happens... we havent talk in almost 5 days... maybe more, maybe less... i don't know what to sday to her... she has had sex before with her ex and after she did it all changed... she kisses guys without really thinking... to her hooking up witjh a guy is no biggy... to me you should know the person and have semi feelings...
confused and lost (link)
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Find a new friend. Obviously you and she don't share the same morals or values and you feel as though you'll be pressured if you do hang out. That's wrong - real friendships don't ever work that way. So she has had a threesome? that's a class act... by the time she's 23 she won't even be able to count how many she's been with and how many times she's put herself or others at risk for an STD or worse. Even though you are an individual, people will judge you by who you associate with, especially at such a young age.
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Well okay, I've seen my boyfriend twice in my whole life. I met him like 2-3 weeks ago. And then we met up again at some fireworks like a week ago. He asked me out there. I didn't wanna say no though because like I was like hmm what the heck, Ill give him a chance. So the day after he asked me out. He went away for two weeks*he comes back this coming Sunday* and he calls like 3 times a day. He kinda gets annoying though and everyboy that knows him thinks he's annoying too. Also he is a jerk at times. Like he'll make fun of me and my music and stuff. But i noticed he has a really sweet side underneath it all. No one else knows about this sweet side of his. So when I tell them, they think im crazy. Another thing is that he cant even say "I love you!" When he says it, it just doesn't sound like he means it. Well.. i guess I love him, but it's just hard ya know? I have no clue what to do. So please help.
P.s. To add on to this all, he's friends with my x-bf and my x-bf wants us all to hang out but whenever me and my x are together we're all like close and kinda act like we're goin out. because I love him still *he broke up with me because I kinda cut because of him* and he apologized for it and said it was a mistake. But it's kinda late now.. i dont knwow.... we're all gonna hang out when my bf comes back. But im afraid its gonna be weird. Please help me.
Sorry this is sooo effin' longg. (link)
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you've known this guy for 2 weeks and you're upset because he can't say "i love you" Please don't take offense, but you are way to young to even be in this confusing situation. Why not just be friends with lots of people? Then you can hang out with whoever you want whenever you want. You're putting yourself through too much headache... you've got years and years for this BS.
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For some reason, things that my husband says or does make me so irritated and angry I end up saying mean things to him. He is very negative and says things that aggravate me, but I know that I overract and need to control my temper. For example, we were watching a kid's talent show that I really enjoy, and every time I try to watch it with him, he makes snide remarks about the kids and their parents. He seems to disaprove of children competing in a talent contest and parents encouraging their talents. I ended up getting angry the last time this happened (just recently). I turned off the show and told him he was being idiotic and there nothing wrong with children having a talent and pursuing it. He kept on calling it "child abuse" because a little boy was out of breath after playing the drums on the show, and making a big deal out of the fact that he was "only 5 years old." So what? I told him a lot of famous musicians and athletes started at young ages, and it's not child abuse if they enjoy what they are doing. I think he is very narrow-minded about this subject and other things as well and it leads to some heated arguments, mostly on my part because I think I explain my point of view much more clearly than he does and he tends to just repeat the same things over and over. It wasn't till much later in the argument that he said he disaproved of the music that the boy was drumming to because it was heavy metal and had strange lyrics. I said that you can't even make out the lyrics in the songs and even if you could, I doubt that a five-year old would understand them. Besides, he listens to this music too. This led to an argument that there shouldn't be music that you can't play in front of your kids. I believe all music should have clean lyrics. He said why don't we go further and have only g-rated t.v. and movies? I said that it is easier to control t.v. and movies. You can block out channels you don't want kids to watch, but you can't do anything about people in other cars blaring their obnoxous music with vulgar lyrics when your kids are in the car with you. I know I have strong opinions, and some of you probably don't agree with me, but I can't help how I feel. I guess I need to learn how to express my opinions without hurting my husband. I love him, I just don't always agree with him. Does anyone have any advice? I know I've been judgemental and already feel bad about it, so try not to make me feel worse. Thanks. (link)
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Your husband ALSO needs to learn how to stop being mean to you. I was in a marriage like that... every single thing that I did, or liked was put down. I liked buying old wood furniture and refinishing it... instead of saying, wow hon you did a good job, I got - why do you do wierd stuff like this? I divorced him btw.
Even if your husband hates the show you're watching, he should learn to appreciate the fact that YOU enjoy it. I bet if he like motorcycle racing and you hated it, you'd still be there supporting him in the endeavor, not trying to make him feel demeaned and stupid. His negativity is going to be the death of your relationship. Didn't he used to be proud of your opinions and accomplishments when you first got together?
You should both go to a counselor to learn patience and appreciation of eachother if you want your marriage to work.
Hope this helps.
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I dated a guy for a few months last year. Things moved way to fast and I found out that I really didn’t like who he was, he was lazy and sports obsessed and treated me like a child. The last straw was a very racist comment he made. I broke up with him almost 6 months ago.
The problem is he still calls me, sends me text messages and insists he wants to talk to me for ‘closure’ and to ‘explain himself’ or just to hear the sound of voice agian. I don’t even like the guy, he kinda creeps me out and have no desire to speak to him ever again. Do I owe him this? Or is okay to just keep saying that I don’t want to talk to him and want him to leave me alone?
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Change your phone number and shut off all contact. If it's been this long already and he's still contacting you, etc., it's the beginnings of him stalking you.
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Hello all!
I started a relationship with a man that I'm mentally fascinated with. He is well educated and very articulate, which is what attracted me to him. We were together for about a month when I busted him cheating. Now, two months later, I have told him I forgive him and still want a relationship with him but he is lukewarm. He "says" that he doesn't know what to do/say to make things better between us, but I've told him countless times that I'm not worried about him cheating on me again. His response, "Nothing is certain but death and taxes." My brain tells me that if he could say that to me, he doesn't care about making things right. My heart tells me that he's a good man and he won't do it again. Am I dilusional??? The Bible teaches us to forgive 70 times 70, but that doesn't mean I have to be with him still right? I'm in love with this man but I don't know if I can ever trust him again. Please help! (link)
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Between the lines... he doesn't want a relationship at all with you, thus his answer about not being certain about cheating, etc. It's a bummer, but I bet that his cheating on you was his way of breaking up. It's strange, but I bet if you were cold and unforgiving he would have been knocking down your door trying to get you back. I hope you find someone nicer.
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Well, there is this girl that I'm okay friends with, but now don't really like her that much anymore. My boyfriend is starting to hang out with her more and talk to her more. Sometimes talking to her more on AOL than me. While I was away for two weeks my boyfriend went on a choir trip to Six Flags. Ashley (the girl that I'm okay friends with) and my boyfriend hung out the whole time. IE. Rode rides together, walked together, got food and ate it together. That doesn't make you're girlfriend feel very good, but now she's in his info. It's an inside joke with her, but surprisingly it's about the same lenght as me in his info. Well, my whole info is about him. Am I being stupid to be mad, that's what he said. (link)
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girlfriends are a lot more loyal when you get older. She's working on getting your guy and it's very obvious to everyone but HIM. if you act all jealous, he'll just want to "prove" that they are only friends and she's gonna end up winning. I think you should tell both of them to take a hike and find some friends/bf's that are honest and loyal.
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Ok here it is, my boyfriend hasent called me in like 3 weeks and i called him 3 times in the past week and he hasent returned my calls. When i called him last Sunday to tell him somthing his mom pick up and i asked for him and she said "who is this Brittney" (My name is not Brittney) I have no clue what to do!!!!! Can you help me? (link)
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That's a bummer... but he's broken up with you and seeing someone else without even telling you. I'm so sorry!! That's how boys do it - even when they're my age (39!). Boys suck.
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okay well me and my boyfriend were going out for 5 years and then he proposed, and well we were gonna get married but some stuff happened and we made each other really mad so we broke up. so then he got a girlfriend and they got married. so i wasnt that upset because i had a boyfriend. and we went to my xboyfriends house to see it, because we dont hate each other. and then i was mad when i saw the house because it was the one i'd been looking at for like ever. so my boyfriend and his wife were inside and i was outside getting some air and he came out and he was turning the sprinklers on, and i walked up and asked him what his problem was and he fliped out on me and was saying how my boyfriend doesnt love me and hes only with me because im hott. then i got upset and my boyfriend drove me back to where we lived at a camp. so i told everyone [family + friends that live there] and they got mad at him. and he showed up 2 days later and told everyone that he still loved me and all that. so then my boyfriend proposed to me and i didnt know what was wrong, i said no. i told him i loved him and everything but i still had feeling for my xboyfriend. so i went to walmart ((idk why)) and i saw him there. and i asked him if he still loved me why he got married. nd he said cuz he wanted me to feel the pain he put me through. so i told everyone at home that we were back together and now theyre all mad..did i really do anything that bad? (link)
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for one thing, you sound too young for marriage to begin with. No one that truly cares about you would marry someone else to spite you. Seems more like he considers his marriage just like going steady. and what about that poor girl, maybe she really does love him. you both made your beds and should lie in them.... he's already in a marriage and he needs to devote himself entirely to that or walk away - there is no inbetween.
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