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My boyfriend...
Well okay, I've seen my boyfriend twice in my whole life. I met him like 2-3 weeks ago. And then we met up again at some fireworks like a week ago. He asked me out there. I didn't wanna say no though because like I was like hmm what the heck, Ill give him a chance. So the day after he asked me out. He went away for two weeks*he comes back this coming Sunday* and he calls like 3 times a day. He kinda gets annoying though and everyboy that knows him thinks he's annoying too. Also he is a jerk at times. Like he'll make fun of me and my music and stuff. But i noticed he has a really sweet side underneath it all. No one else knows about this sweet side of his. So when I tell them, they think im crazy. Another thing is that he cant even say "I love you!" When he says it, it just doesn't sound like he means it. Well.. i guess I love him, but it's just hard ya know? I have no clue what to do. So please help.
P.s. To add on to this all, he's friends with my x-bf and my x-bf wants us all to hang out but whenever me and my x are together we're all like close and kinda act like we're goin out. because I love him still *he broke up with me because I kinda cut because of him* and he apologized for it and said it was a mistake. But it's kinda late now.. i dont knwow.... we're all gonna hang out when my bf comes back. But im afraid its gonna be weird. Please help me.
Sorry this is sooo effin' longg. <333
~Caitlin 13/f
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Looks to me like your better going out with your ex boyfriend .. ask your self .. who has a boyfriend that you only see 2-3 time ever!!? even though he is sweet and calls you, you still get annoyed by it .. being in a relationship means you see eachother and you love being together .. seems to me you have better luck with you ec boyfrind honey
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You can't really expect someone to say "I love you" and mean it if you've only saw them "twice" in your whole life. If they did they would be really weird. They might like you really well, but love is asking a bit to much of the guy.
If you have feelings for both guys it might be weird at first to hang out with both. Maybe you will be able to pick on or the other when you see them together. :)
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you've known this guy for 2 weeks and you're upset because he can't say "i love you" Please don't take offense, but you are way to young to even be in this confusing situation. Why not just be friends with lots of people? Then you can hang out with whoever you want whenever you want. You're putting yourself through too much headache... you've got years and years for this BS.
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this sounds very furmilliar...lol ok i have been in your place too....and what you might need to do is tell yor bf that you need to take a break to get to know each other...now i am not sayin you cant ever talk to him again u need to if you really like him so you can see is he would make a good bf.....and as for the ex boy friend...i dont think it would be a very good idea to have you all to gather bcause it seems you might still have feelings for him and you definetly had feeling if you cut when you went out wit him(dont worrie been tere too...it gose away eventually) soo ya....i hope i helped....bye
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Um, you only met him twice before he asked you out, and you agreed to it? You can't really except that much of a romantic relationship at first, because you really need to be friends before moving on. That way you know each other at least a little bit, etc.
If he's calling you too much, just be honest with him and tell him you'd rather he called just once. Tell him if he's annoying you, because that's the only way he'll know. He may be just teasing about your music--guys like to do that. People think my boyfriend is weird/goth/etc., but he's not. He's sweet, but they just don't know him.
As for not saying "I love you", why would you want him to feel forced to say that? Honestly, saying "I love you" without meaning it isn't good at all. Good guys don't say "I love you" unless they mean it. Don't feel offended--they only do that because they really don't want to hurt your feelings. And if you've only met him twice or so, I really don't think you can love him at this point in your relationship. What's your definition of real love?
And if you have feelings for your ex boyfriend, why are you going out with someone else? Does your ex boyfriend have a girlfriend? If not, maybe you should leave this new guy and go back to a guy you still have feelings for. Let's try not to make our lives confusing/dramatic, okie dokies?
If you feel weird being around your ex with your new boyfriend, that's perfectly normal. But if when you're around your ex you act like you're still going out, you probably should be going out.
You could ask me personally via a private question, email, or AIM and I'd be glad to help you out.
<3 Sporkster
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