|
Jealous?
Well, there is this girl that I'm okay friends with, but now don't really like her that much anymore. My boyfriend is starting to hang out with her more and talk to her more. Sometimes talking to her more on AOL than me. While I was away for two weeks my boyfriend went on a choir trip to Six Flags. Ashley (the girl that I'm okay friends with) and my boyfriend hung out the whole time. IE. Rode rides together, walked together, got food and ate it together. That doesn't make you're girlfriend feel very good, but now she's in his info. It's an inside joke with her, but surprisingly it's about the same lenght as me in his info. Well, my whole info is about him. Am I being stupid to be mad, that's what he said.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Work/School Relationships?
That makes you jealous I guess but not stupid.
Your worried that he'll break up with you because of your so called friend Ashley and you don't want him to break up with you because you really like him a lot. You should explain to him why you acted jealous and apologize. Maybe he's just hanging out with her more because they have a lot in common but that doesn't mean that people who have a lot in common work out. Their
probably just friends don't worry about. If it still makes you jealous hang out with him more but be friendly.
]
Your boyfriend is wrong and he knows that he is. Him and Ashley have gotten a little too close for friendship. I think you should probably dump him now for calling you stupid because you were upset. Its probably the best thing to do at this point. Hes really hurt you, and you shouldn't take it anymore. And as for Ashley and him, let them be and just don't talk to them. Take the info about him out of your profile, and just leave it blank so he will suffer not knowing the updates in your life. Any girl would be jealous of this, so you aren't stupid for feeling jealous, he is stupid for feeling like he can do this to you and call your feelings about this wrong. Hes a bad boyfriend in denial.
-TheTeenGirl
]
no you are stupid for being mad.
no offense, but if you are still going out with him, then that is being stupid.
he is not worth your time, get rid of him.
]
I don't think you are being stupid. I think it sounds like a reasonable reaction. Talk to him and ask him what is up with him and Ashley. :)
]
girlfriends are a lot more loyal when you get older. She's working on getting your guy and it's very obvious to everyone but HIM. if you act all jealous, he'll just want to "prove" that they are only friends and she's gonna end up winning. I think you should tell both of them to take a hike and find some friends/bf's that are honest and loyal.
]
If it's important to you, then it's not stupid to feel mad and this shows that he's being childish and isn't properly considering how you feel. Bring it to his attention because it matters to you. But if it's a small technicality then don't take it too seriously because it could be a one time thing. If it happens again, then lose it. Hope I was some help and good day to you.
]
i understand how you feel. talk to him and tell him that it's really bothering you because he's talking to your friend more than he is to you. if he sais your being stupid, then you should brake up with him. because if he really likes you more than your friend, then he should understand and tell you how much you meen to him and that he loves you. but if he sais your being stupid about it, then wait a while before you brake up with him. maybe he'll realize how much that bothered you, and he'll start hanging out with you more.
hope i helped!
]
You're NOT being stupid by being mad. You have a right to be feeling a bit jealous! After all, YOU'RE the girlfriend & YOU'RE the one he SHOULD be hanging out with alot & you should take up his whole info. Look, I've got to write to you from the "point of view" of the "other girl". I've always been close with this one guy, even when he's gone through relationships. When girls started to like him, I was always the girl that got in their way. All I can say is that the best way to work this out is to talk to him. Tell him that you don't mean to overreact, you're just a bit hurt. If you want it to be extra-effective, make sure you add in how much he means to you because guys like to feel needed. Good luck hon! ♥
]
Hey babe! I know how you feel I'm goin thru something similar right now myself! haha! And you have every right to be pissed off and everything bc I would be too! But if your bf really likes you he wouldn't be acting like that behind your back, and if your friend is a true friend then you should definately talk to her about it and tell her you're upset. If she doesn't listen then she's not a very good friend!! and if you're bf isn't sorry that he hurt your feelings then dump him bc there are a TON of better guys out there that wouldn't do that to you and you deserve better! Ok well hope i helped! Love yah!
]
i understand how you feel. if your his gf he shhould be spenidng time with you caring for you lovign you showing you how much u measn him and so on. he should treat you like a priness. my advice is to talk to your bf and tell him how you feel. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
]
He's right. It's ok for his whole life not to revolve around you. He can have other friends and he can hang out with them. I'm sure you have guy friends that you hang out with. Just get over it.
]
let me tell you! your bf isnt all that great of a guy! if he thinks your stupid for being mad then ditch him! he has no right to even do that! if your telling him how you feel and he thinks its stupid then thats plain pathetic! but on the other hand if he is a great bf and you love him then talk to ashly then yell at ur stpid bf for saying how you feel is stupid! but if you trust your bf and trust that he wouldnt do anything behind ur back that would upset you then okay. but i do have to admit he is getting a bit close! i hope things work out!
xooxoxox princessme
]
It's perfectly normal to be jealous of that girl. But, part of being a gf means that you have to respect and trust your bf. If he wants to hang out with another girl, let him. Guys and girl both need to hang out with members of the opposite sex even while they have a gf or bf. They need friends also, and someone to talk to when they get confused. Also, if he wouldn't hang out with her how would he remember how great you are? Anyway, just leave him be, try to suck it up and not show how much it bothers you. If you really can't stand it at all tho, and he wont listen to you, talk to the other girl, ask her if she knows how u feel and just see if she can try to back off a lil since it makes you so uncomfortable. Hope everthign works out for ya hun.
]
I would tell him that its ok to hang out with her sometimes but not more than you. If things don't change then get a new bf.
]
WElL ii tHiiNK yOu SHoULD lEt hIm nO hOW yOu fEEl ANd As yOU sAId hE sAId tHAT yOUR ebInG STuPiD...wELl sAY tHATs hOW i FEEl sO i tHiNk yOU shOULD rEsPEcT iT! ANd bE lIkE i tHiNK yOU lIKE hER AnD iTS mAKiNG mE mAD bECAuSE i DOnT! wELL iF tHAT dOEsNT wORK oUt tHEn tELL mE! Ex-oH ShAnNiiN
]
No, its not stupid at all. But you should be the perfect girlfriend and trust your boyfriend. I know its hard for you to see him with another girl, but maybe you're just with him so much that he's starting to kind of suffocate. So allow this to happen, play it cool.Again, it's not stupid, it's normal. Next time he says that to you, why dont you say "what would you do if you saw me hanging out with a guy?"
]
wow...umm this obviously doesnt seem like a good friend..i no how feel.. my x-boyfriend lives right by his x-girlfriend... and she wouild always go over there and he wouild always be over thee..but i gave up with him..i finally broke up with him...but you shouildnt do that..and you wouild sound pretty jealous if you say pick me or her..well just try to sit him down and talk to him about it..but evfer be a bitch about it..like dont go to the girl and say hes mine not yours...that will make you sound so jealous and you dont want to sound jealous..maybe you shouild talk to the girl and tell her to cool it... you dont no it but she is trying to ruine your relationship with your boyfriend...stand up and do something about it...dont let her...
hope i helped...
love always..,
ilovepink101
]
I can completely understand what you're going through--I went through it last year when my boyfriend and I had just started dating. He would talk to this girl on AOL all the time, flirt with her, etc., and it really hurt my feelings.
I was his first girlfriend, so I think he just didn't understand that what he was doing was hurting me. I talked to him about it, but he said I was "being stupid", that he was just friends with this girl and he could talk to her if he wanted to. He now realizes how much it bothered me though, and says that <i>he</i> was the stupid one.
Anyway, your boyfriend probably doesn't know how much it's really bothering you. He probably <i>is</i> just friends with this girl, and doesn't see the line that you've drawn for his female friends. Just pull him aside and explain to him that it really bothers you that he and this girl are really close, and that you'd like him to spend more time with you and not this other girl. If he says you're being stupid about that, well...it's time to drop him.
If he agrees to spend more time with you, take that time to get closer to him, and build up trust. That's all you can do if he's still going to be around other girls--trust him. Also make sure that you get the point across to him about being around other girls and it bothering you. He'll get the point, hopefully, and stop doing it.
I hope you can sort things out with your relationship. Feel free to ask me anything else because I've been through this before and come through it happy.
<3 Sporkster
]
Honestly I don't think you should be mad. Just imagen yourself in this girls place, would you want her to be mad at you if you hung out with her boyfriend? You probably wouldn't but you would just feel a bit jealous. Trust me I know because I have been in this situtation before. If you would like to know what happened if you did get mad you can ask me because the girl got mad.
]
More Questions: |