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Q:

Sorry for the topic, I didn't know what to put.

Anyway, Say someone ate a meal then puked up a mouthful of food. However, They didn't stick there finger down thier throat.. and they did it occassionally. Would you say that person had a problem?

Yes, that person has an eating disorder even if they don't gag their self first..whoever it is should get help. Hope this helps!

Q: PART 1:
Okay so there WAS this guy. But then i realized that he is not the type of guy i want to be with because he was a jerk at some points. But i just realized this morning. And he is friends with my 12 year old brother. MY 12 YEAR OLD BROTHER MADE OUT WITH AN OLDER GIRL AT THE FAIR!! Im sorry but i think that this boy is a bad influence. My brother does not need to be doing things like this at such a young age...am i wrong for thinking this?? How would you feel??

PART 2:
And another thing. There was this boy CJ that was a senior that i could have "had" but he had a girlfriend, so i kept my mouth shut. And he liked me and i liked him, but i knew he liked me. He didnt know about me. But i didnt want to screw up his relationship. But now im thinking, it could have been love, would have been love, but wont be because i screwed up. To say i regret it is an understatement. I figured if i messed with the guy in part one the regret and feelings would go away. WRONG! And now he is at college. or going to it at least. But i dont know what to do about this. I hardly ever see him, but when i do, we sort of have a "moment". Like he will stare at me as if i am the only thing in the world, and its like something explodes inside of me everytime i see him. I dont know if this is love, like, lust, or what...can you help me with that and my regret?? and what should i do??

Part 1- Yes, i think this boy is bad news. He is a bad influence especially on your brother who made out with an older girl. I agree with you there.

Part 2- Maybe because that one boy you had in part one didn't treat you right, you want someone who will and you think that is CJ. I agree with you about not saying anything because he has a girlfriend. I can see why. Just hold on until he dumps his girlfriend because if he likes you, then he would dump his girlfriend for you, if he dosen't then he might not really like you. If you think he is a good guy and you want to be with him, i would wait to tell him after his relationship is over to tell him or let him know your feelings. I'm sorry your having trouble with this...i am trying to give you the best advice i can but this is a really hard situation. If you have any other questions or need advice just slip it into my inbox! Hope this helps and Good luck!

Q: I'm 18 and I really need advice. I've been home schooled since the 5th grade because I've been dancing and singing my whole life and I couldn't stay in public school. Well, I've only had 2 boyfriends my whole life, and I've dated but I never did anything with any of them except for the 2. I only kissed the first and I was with him for 3 months, he broke up with me ON our anniversary because he was cheating on me. Then the second one I was with for a little over 8 months and I slept with him. Well, aftet he broke up with me he lead me on for a REALLY long time, like a year and a half and he treated me really badly but I didn't know how bad he really was. It's been 2 years since the guy of 8 months and I have been officially together and it's been a year since we've talked. Well, I found out that he is still talking a lot of crap about me to people and I'm still finding out that he cheated on me a lot more then I knew about. Since that guy I've meet other guys, but every single one of them (and I'm not over exaggerating) has NEVER wanted to be my boyfriend. They ALL have only wanted to sleep with me, and because I don't ever want to make that mistake again, I haven't so all the guys just stop talking to me, they say it's because they are busy, but there have been about 6 since my ex and they all started ignoring me after I told them I'm not going to sleep with them and I either want a friendship or a real relationship.... Now, I have a really good life, I have a job I love, a compete in dance, I'm an A student in college, good friends, and good family. And it seems like the only thing I've never had/met, is a good guy. I'm sorry for making this so long but I feel like I needed to explain. Has anyone else my age/older ever been in my shoes? I know I'm still young but, I feel like I'm never going to find someone. I long to have someone I can hug and hold and call my boyfriend. Someone that for once won't cheat on me and won't call me names and go behind my back. I'm just starting to lose faith that I will ever find a guy to treat me right, or a guy that will love me or like me for me, and not to get in my pants. I'm not that kind of girl at all. I don't party, I don't drink, I don't smoke, and I don't dress in "I'm a slut all I want is sex" type of clothes. So, what's wrong with me? Why am I only attracting these types of guys? Am I ever going to find someone? I know that being in a relationship isn't the most important thing in life. But it's hard being alone and never knowing what a good relationship is like at my age. It kills me to see EVERY friend I have in what seem like perfect relationships. ALSO I'm not trying to be cocky, that's not how I mean it but I am not an ugly girl either, I've got a decent face and I've been dancing since I was 3. And I train for at least 8 hours every other day at least, so I'm not like big or something if that's what anyone thinks is the reason. I mean I'm not the most beautiful girl in the world but, I've seen people less attractive with great boyfriends. And I'm not shallow or picky either.... I just need help!!!!

Well, maybe the reason guys do this to you is because you are a pushover, i know you said that you won't sleep with them, but when they first meet you, your first imprssion to them might be a pushover. And, i would forget about all those guys who hurt you and cheated and all that. It is sad that guys do that but one day you are going to find the perfect guy and you will be glad that this is the right one, even though you really want someone to call your boyfriend and support you and everything, the time will come when it comes and you will be so glad that you waited. I know this might not be what you want to hear but it's the truth, when you find someone, who you really like, pay attention to them and ask what their intensions are in the realtionship so you know what they want from you or if they are really "the one." Hope this helps!

Q: I was the girl who wrote earlier asking for help on how to get along better with my mom.

This morning we got in a fight over a lunch box, a stupid lunch box. Now she told me she wishes I were never born her child.

Its so hard to stay in this house with someone that would say something like that to you.
I don't know what to do. My dad won't listen either.

Aww! That's so sad. I would talk to your mom about your feelings and if that dosen't work, i would consider living with another relative like aunts, uncles, grandmas and grandpas. Hope this helps!

Q: I'm f/14.
I've had my boyfriend for 5 months, and I really don't like him as much as I did at first. He seems to be pretty in love with me, though. I feel bad because I don't return the feeling.
A few weeks ago I went to this camp and met a guy I really like. I think about him all the time. He lives in a completely different state, but I email him every day.
Now I'm seriously considering breaking up with my boyfriend, but I don't know how or what to say. (It will be my first time breaking up with someone.) I'm nervous to tell him about the guy from camp because he might get the impression that I was cheating.

Any suggestions on what to do????
Thanks. =]

I would just tell him that you'd be happier if you were friends and that you like someone else and you don't even have to mention who he is or where you met him, just tell him your exact feelings and i think it will turn out all okay. Hope this helps!

Q: Heyy.
There is this guy that i REALLY like, but i'm too scared to talk to him and i have no idea what to say. He isnt in any of my classes..i just see him in the hallway Some of my friends say they think he likes me because he blushes sometimes when he sees me and stares and me sometimes, but he is really shy too so he wont talk to me. I want to say something to him and maybe become friends. but i dont want it to be ackward. Please help. ♥

Try to get his number if any of your friends have it and call him and be like hey, and just start talking or if you have texting (even better) text him and be like "hey, whats up." Just start a convo and see if he likes you. Hope this helps.

Q: K this sounds kind of stupid but I am 14 and almost 15 and still have not had my period. I know that up til 16 you are ok if you don;t have it. but it is kind of embarising because all my friends are like 'don't you think tampons are such a pain' I don;t want to lye but I don' t want to feel like a baby. I have been getting like a whole bunch of whitish yellow stuff in my underware, do I have an infection? I want my period!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This stuff in your underwear is discahrge. It means your body is going through puberty. Also, i am 15 and i didn't start until i was 14 6 months before i turned 15. Everyone starts at differsnt times so don't worry. When it comes, it comes. It's not really something you want to have because it is kind of a pain. Hope this helps.

Q: So I checked my BMI and I am on the high end of Normal.
All of my friends are fairly small, but all they eat it fast food!
Im not as small, so I have gained a lot of weight this summer.
I need to loose this weight before school because I could be at risk of becomming over weight.
Does anyone know of any quick and healthy ways to take weight off and keep it off?

Thanks!

You can start working out and becoming more active. You also should try the slimfast granola bars and the drinks. They are really good but they don't have as many calories or fats as a normal drink would. Hope this helps.

Q: 11 months ago this guy asked me out, we saw a movie and everything it was perfect...but it just faded away and I realized that we never really were actually bf/gf or that's just what I thought. Now, everyone thinks he still likes me by the hints he gives me..Like we were playing tennis on sunday and he dumped buckets of water on me and expected me to chase him..He laughs at everything I say, and my friend says that he kept trying to walk with me at the mall. I'm really confused because I still really like him, but I just don't know what to do anymore., I don't want to get my hopes up and think that he does like me and get crushed...I don't know...I just really need advice.

Well i would call him or text him and just be casual like "hey, what's up, i havent talked to you in forver." Then after you get to talking, ask him what his feelings are toward you and tell him your feelings. Hope this helps!

Q: okay so i've had my period for a little over a year now and my mom makes me use pads because she says tampons arent healthy.
im a cheerleader and i hate the feeling of the blood leaking like how can i tell my mom that i perfer wearing tampons?

I would just sit down and expalin to her, you feel uncomfortable wearing pads when you have cheerleading. Tell her it's hard because you move a lot of different ways and you don't want any leaks. At first, just ask her if you can wear them at cheerleading only and if she gives in, and you are comfortable wearing them, ask her if you can permantly wear them. Hope this helps.

Q: where can i get the cheapest cds?

walmart!

Q: There are bumps on my vag, usually about 5 or 6 at a time (not all clustered like cellulite). Some of them look like pimples that match my skin color, and there's usually one or two that have the texture and size of a mosquito bite. There's also this one bump that looks kind of like a scar. It's about an eigth of an inch long , is several shades darker than my skin color, and is surrounded by a VERY VERY thin yellow-whitish line. and these bumps sometimes itch.

additional info:
-i am a virgin, so no STIs..
-i masturbate on average four-five times a week, depends on where i am in my cycle
-14/f

what is it, and should i be worried?

Ive been told from a friend to get it checked out but im scared and dont want someone looking at me.

I would go see a docter if i were you. It's the only safe way to know what it is and how to treat it. Hope this helps!

Q: i'm 16 years old and my boyfriend is 22 and he wants to have sex but i dont and he sead ''if we dont then we have to stop going out'' but truely love him and we have been going out for 2 years but if we did have sex he it would be rape right cuz i'ma minnor and thats why i dont want to and i told him that but he still wants to i would have sex but it's illegal so i dont know what to do should i have sex or not (keeping in mind we love each other)????
-Bryona

Ok, it is wrong for your boyfriend to pressure you into doing it otherwise he will break up with you! That is not right! Even if you really truly love that person, that dosen't always mean you want to have sex. If i were you i would wait until i was ready and comfortable doing it. You don't want your first time to be something you regret! Hope this helps!

p.s-Go with your gut feeling on this one.

Q: What age should you start having sex? I really just have to know because I'm afraid I might do it too early or too late. Thanks for the time.

There is not a certain age you should or shouldn't have it. It is when you know you love the person that you are with and you are willing to spend the rest of your life with them. And the most important thing is when you are comfortable enough to do it and that you yourself are ready. Hope this helps!

Q: my name is mark im 19 and im a male ... im dating a girl we dated for 2 years on and off we broke up over this past summer and over the summer she did stuff thats bothering me now in our relationship she had sex w. a total of 3 guys multiable times and messed around w/ 3 other guys she told me everything b4 we got back together and it botheres me alot i dont know whwat to do i talked to her about it and shes there for me and all but i dont know what to do i need some advice the only reason im w/ her is because i really love her anyother girl i would tell leave me alone but i need something that will help over that break up i only messed around w/ 2 girls but we didnt have sex or ne thing like that i dont know what to do help me out please email me at gen3eclipsegt@aim.com thank you

I think you should tell her exactly how you feel. Girls are more open to talk about stuff and if she loves you, she will spill her heart out to you and open up. I hope this helps!

Q: im offically hating my life at the moment. i hear rumors about my boyfriend cheating me but yet everytime i confront him about it he'll say there making it up and start flipping out even say im lieing and making it up. but yet would people say stuff if it wasnt true? i want to believe hes telling me the truth, but yet deep down i know he probably isnt. and than when he goes back to the girls that told me they all tell him they never told me so it makes me look crazy. He'll ask me to the movies one night and than make up an excuse and turn everything back on me and say we arent going cause i didnt want to and not see me that ngith and tell me the next morning he went out with his friends. he thinks hes being honest but if he was honest wouldnt of he told me in the first place that night he was going intill the next morning? i feel like he always picks his friends over me and when were on breaks he tries so hard to get back with me yet goes around telling everyone hes single. and throws in my face the girls hes talking to. yet he tells me he doesnt like them and hell stop talking to them for me but who knows if hes lieing. He saids we need to talk about our problems but everytime i try and he wont answer me back or just push me to the side and say hell call me later but never does. it would nice to save this relationship cause its been for 2 years and id like to believe him when he saids he loves me. but its tearing me apart honesty and i dont know what to do cause when i try to stop talking to him and finally go this is it im done. he'll text..callme... message me.. non stop. and its my fault for giving back in. i feel as he only wants me when he has nothing better to do. has this happen to anyone else? any good advice, it would help alot.

Ok, to me this guy sounds like a jerk. It sounds like he picks his friends over you and denying everything. Go with your gut feeling about if he is cheating or not. If you don't feel happy with him right now, then take a break or just tell him that you don't want to be together. It kinda sounds like he has a big ego. Well, i hope this helps.

Q: Okay so I used to be like best friends with this one guy and he told me he liked me and we just completly stopped being friends. We talk occationally but not like we used to. I miss my friend. I want to be closer to him. How should I fix it?

I would just start talking to him again and tell him you just want to stay friends and tell him he is a really good friend to you and you don't want to lose that kind of friendship. Hope this helps!

Q: i have a really hard spot near the side of my mouth which is really swollen and really sore :( any tips on how to calm the swelling and ease the pain?

cheers :)

x

I would wash it out with warm water so the bacteria can get out and put some ice on it. Then, go see a docter about it if it is really bad. Hope this helps!

Q: Hey, I'm a girl and i have a lot of scars on my outer vagina area. and their like purple? its from likee.. i dont know, one was from popping one of those red bumps after shaving, and it turned into a purple scar? how can i get rid of them?

They shouldn't turn purple after shaving and leave scars. I would go see a gynacologist and get it checked out. Hope this helps!

Q: f/17
My bf (18) does the cutest things for me. during school, he filled my locker with a bunch of balloons and chocolate and stuffed animals and confetti and when I opened it, everything came pouring out and a sign popped out that said i love you. Another thing he did was write cute little messages on a million rose petals that led to my front door. I constantly find little love notes in random places whenever he comes over or in my car. one time he wrote all over his body, supposedly to support his sister's soccer game and there was ink alllll over him and then at midnight we rode our tandem 2-seat bike to the lake and we swam and when he got out of the water, everything washed off except for I love you on his abs. He wrote everything but that in washable marker. The first two months we went going out, we climbed into a treehouse in his friends neighborhood and he took out his guitar and sang to me. He does cute things like this all the time and it just makes me feel so special and all i do is cook him food and give him back rubs sometimes. I love him so much and I feel bad like he does so much for me and i can't think of anything creative and cute and I really want to. I really wanna show him I care as much as he shows me. Nothing sexual, either. Any ideas??

I like the idea of making a scrapbook with 100 reasons why you love hime to. It is very sweet. You can put pictures of you guys in there and make sure you you tell him everyday that you love him and he is the best boyfriend you have ever had. This will make him feel good.Hope this helps!

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