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my boyfriend wants to have sex
i'm 16 years old and my boyfriend is 22 and he wants to have sex but i dont and he sead ''if we dont then we have to stop going out'' but truely love him and we have been going out for 2 years but if we did have sex he it would be rape right cuz i'ma minnor and thats why i dont want to and i told him that but he still wants to i would have sex but it's illegal so i dont know what to do should i have sex or not (keeping in mind we love each other)????
-Bryona
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if he loves you like you say; he will wait
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if he really loved you then he wouldnt have said if you didnt have sex with him you guys would have to stop going out. thats not fair to you and it shows he doesnt care about you as much as you might think.
so in my opinion, i wouldnt do it.
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No, I really don't think you should. It doesn't seem like your boyfriend cares about you at all, it sounds like he is trying to take advantage of your youth. If he really loved you he wouldn't say, "If you don't have sex with me I'm going to break-up with you." He should understand that you aren't ready and that you don't want to.
Yes, it is illegal, but your mother would have to press charges against him for anything of consequence to happen. I had sex with my ex while we were illegal, but I was also ready.
If you don't feel comfortable with sex and you don't believe you are ready then you should let your boyfriend know that and if he breaks-up with you then he really didn't love you to begin with. When you really love someone you are willing to wait on them no matter how long it takes. Truthfully your boyfriend sounds like a jerk and I think you need to get rid of him, but you do whatever makes you happy.
Hope I Helped.
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If you don't want to have sex, then don't. Your boyfriend should understand that you aren't ready. If he doesn't, I'm sorry, but maybe he isn't as "in love" with you as you're assuming =/
-Laura. (16-f)
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ok... look im young too. younger than you. and i deff. dont think that tahat is wrong.
if he says he will break up with you if you dont have sex, dump him first.
bite the snake before it bites you.
and how are your parents with this?
and yes it is illegal. and i argee.
go with your guts!
just think are you in love with him.
or are you doing it to feel 'mature' like him.....?
honestly, good luck
i hope you find the right decision
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NOOOO. from experiance mama, DO NOT let it happen. for one, although age is JUST a number, it can be a problem. the older they guy, the more 'mature' you may think he is but all he might be doing is manipulating you. if he 'loves' you and plans to spend the rest of his life with you why can't he wait instead of threatning a 2 year relationship.. that's why theres something called masterbation.. sorry if i seem mean but don't do it. you may regret it. and yes it is considered statuatory rape. he's more than 4 years older than you PLUS you're under 18. good luck!!!
flirty :)
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if he really loved you he wouldnt tell you that you need to have sex with him. he would wait until you were ready. what hes doing and saying to you is wrong. and your right it is illegal. if he were to get caught he would be put in jail. dont give in. do what is best for you. if he really does care for you, he'll still be there. if he leaves then your much better off without him and you can find someone that will respect you and your decisions much more. Good luck
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Your boyfriend is pressuring you. Go back and read your question, and see how much he truely sounds like an asshole. Anyone who says "have sex with me, or we have to break up" isn't someone worth staying with.
You should only have sex because you want to. Not because your boyfriend is too old, and not because your boyfriend wants you to. But because YOU want to.
I think your boyfriend is an ass, and if I were you, I would have left him the day he tried threatening me into sex.
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Ok, it is wrong for your boyfriend to pressure you into doing it otherwise he will break up with you! That is not right! Even if you really truly love that person, that dosen't always mean you want to have sex. If i were you i would wait until i was ready and comfortable doing it. You don't want your first time to be something you regret! Hope this helps!
p.s-Go with your gut feeling on this one.
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No, you should not let him rape you. That's basically what you are asking, isn't it?
Look any guy that tries to manipulate you by saying ''if we dont then we have to stop going out', obviously thinks you are not all that intelligent. Anyone with half a brain can see that what he said makes no sense. Love is unconditional, and saying you will no longer love a person if they don't do what you want is conditional love - in other words, phony love.
Honestly, this is exactly why you shouldn't date men who are that much older than you.
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DON'T have sex with him. Not because if the legalities ect but he is putting pressure on you to do something you are not willing to do and he obviously doesn't love or respect you, i'm sorry.
''If we dont then we have to stop going out''
That isn't something someone would say to someone if they love them., you must be able to see that.
He also sounds very immature, i'd expect a guy of 15 to say that, not 22.
It sounds as though he would dump you either way, if you dont have sex he'l dump you. If you do hav sex with him, he'll dump you because he obviously doesn't care, love or respect you anymore.
I know it's hard to hear, but it's the sad truth. xxx
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