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what kind of jeans will make your hips/thighs look slimmer? certain colors or washes or anything? most of my jeans are already medium-dark blue, i only have one or two light pairs. but yeah, i want to draw attention away from my hips/thighs, because im pretty thin, but very pear-shaped and i hate it!
I only wear skinny jeans and I find that the jeans that are darker on the outer seams of the leg and lighter on the front tend to do the job :) Of course, if you don't like skinny jeans, straight jeans would also work. Just make sure you try whatever you buy on at the store and make sure it's comfortable! I have one pair of jeans that I really regret buying but I can't return them :/ so just make sure they fit right :) Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
(I'm 16 female and the boy's 17)
So during the summer, I met this boy who was everything I ever wanted. We both did the same activities, we watched the same tv shows, we both thought the same things were funny. Plus he was probably the sweetest guy I've ever met, he's so nice. He was perfect for me and I was so amazed that I found him. So he asked me out when school started and from then till probably late November, things couldn't have gotten better. We were in love, we lost our virginity to each other and it was just so amazing being with him, he meant everything to me.
So here's the bad part, he lives probably like 30 minutes away from me and he is the busiest boy ever. His schedule is so jam-packed, it's like he's a business man, not a high school student. And during early December, it started getting really rough. He would get up do homework go to school go to rehearsal (we're both theater people), go to another rehearsal, get back at like 10, do homework and then he was just so tired that he would fall asleep after that. He never answered his phone. He only called me once per day and it was in between car rides. And our conversations would last 5 minutes. I had to drop whatever I was doing when he called me because I knew that's the only phone call I would get. And he was texting me less and less.
So I started confronting him about it. I didn't want to because I know it's not his fault that his schedule is so busy, that's just his life but I mean I had to tell him what was on my mind. I told him that I felt like we were drifting apart, and I didn't want to because I loved him. I told him that i know he was busy but if he could please spare like one weekend where maybe I could drive up and see him. And then he would get defensive that I was blaming him for something that wasn't his fault, but I really didn't mean for it to be that way, I just really badly wanted to see him or talk to him for maybe more than 10 minutes. It felt like I had to take a number to tell him about my day or something. It felt like I was just apart of his busy schedule and not a priority in his life.
It was getting worse and worse because our conversations were becoming less happy and goofy like they always were. One time we were on the phone and I said "I love you." and then he said "Aw thank you!" Thank you?! After that, I knew we were heading downhill.
So, a couple of days ago he broke up with me because he said that he didn't have time for me and I deserved someone who would have time to be with me. I knew the break up was coming, but I didn't want it to. I loved him, and I still do. I told him, how can you break up with me if you love me? And do you know what he said? He said I love you like a best friend. WHAT?! When did that happen? What did I do that made your love for me disappear?! That hurt my feelings so bad, I can still hear it in my head. Anyways, he said that he really liked talking to me and that he wants to keep in touch with me like call me every once in awhile to see how I am. And I said no, I can't do that. How can I become buddy buddy with someone who I feel more than buddy buddy with? I hate it that we're not talking now but I feel that's it's the best choice for me to get over him.
So now that you guys know the WHOLE story, what comments/advice do you have for me? Please I need help because I'm so confused. Do you think I made the right choice?
Wow, I feel for you. I totally agree with your decision. The less you have to remember him by talking to him, the quicker you'll get over him :) This guy seems to have put his busy schedule before the ones he loves and he was right when he said that you didn't deserve that kind of treatment. I think this break up was for the best. After a while, when you've gotten over him, it's ok to gradually begin talking to him again, but this will take some self discipline to keep from falling for him again. If you don't think you can be "just friends" with him, then don't try it. You'll just fall hard again and he won't be there to catch you...again. I hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
I am a girl in high school and I need some major advice concerning boys. . . I'm ussually ok but I don't know how to act around boys that I really like, I always freak out and it is super embarassing :( See I have this friend, lets call him Joe, so "Joe" and I just started hanging out and we are pretty cool together but I only talk to him once in a while in math but I love talking to him, he's just so sweet and nice. He's not like drop dead gorgeous or anything, hes cute, but in an innocent way :) I really want to get to know him better but I don't know how, do I ask him to hang out? do I talk to him more in class? Do I just leave things the way they are now? What do I do??????? How do I persue this, to see if there really is anything to persue, without freaking him out?
:) I have some good advice. Many people ask this question, so here it goes:
I think, since you said you only talk to him once in a while, talk to him more! :) Try to make a connection and get to know each other better. It might freak him out if you ask him out before you two know each other that well. So yes, talk to him more. Then, casually, when you two have gotten to regular conversations, just say "We should hang out some time". Chances are, by then he'll either have already asked you, or he'll say "sure, that'd be cool" when you ask him :) ha ha hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
16/F
I really don't know what to do. I used to go to a school,and there i had a lot of (i thought at the time) Great friends. I pretty much went out every weekend and idk,i just had a lot of fun you know? i ended up getting transfered to another school. Over time (a kinda short period of time),i started to realize that those other people werent really good friends. Some pretty much forgot about me. And some,would do the occasional "Hey,How Are You" blah blah. Im a very friendly person but people at this new school i go to arent so friendly as i am "/ , so i only made like 3 friends. My problem isnt that i dont have as many friends as i used to (i dont care about that), its just that,my new friends dont really go out. 2 of them always say they want to, but they end up lagging it. and the other one has VERY strict parents. I feel so depressed. I know to some this may sound kinda stupid, but to me its a big deal. i hate staying home,i always like to be somewhere. And since i dont talk to my old friends anymore because they just changed so much,and my new friends dont really do the same things..i dont know what to do :( if your just going to answer me saying deal with it or something just please say nothing at all. Thank you to the people who do help though
Well, this is interesting. I must say, I understand completely how you feel, but I also understand how your old friends feel. When people move to another school, it makes it more difficult to stay up to date with their life. This being said, your old friends probably aren't trying to flake on you. They're just trying to maintain their life without having to also stay up to date with everything going on in your's. I'm sure they still care, it's just more of a hastle to set up plans with a person you don't regularely see any more. My advice for you is to 1. Try to make more new friends at your new school. Spot out the more social crowds and try to wedge yourself in with them :) and/or 2. Get all of your old friends together if you want to go some where. They might not feel as uncomfortable if they're all together with each other AND you because then they can all be with people who are currently part of their life, and they can also update you on everything easier. Hope that wasn't too confusing ha ha :) Goodluck!
-Jessica 14/f
okay me and my ex broke up not to long ago...its not like we wanted to really its just that certain circumstance broke us apart we still love each other but cant be together right now. i still talk to him but he still calls me names like babe, baby and all the others we had is that strange since we broke up or do u think its okay since we technically didnt want the break up to happen
My friend went through a similar situation. Her dad discovered her boyfriend was into some bad stuff and pretty much forced her to break up with him and cut off all communication. They still loved each other, however, so they always acted like they were dating even though they weren't. I think it's fine to still say those sorts of things, especially if you two still love each other. Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
Im 15 years old and would really like to start writing a book. I don't just want any kind of book but i want a best selling book. I know this is just a dream but i would love for my book to be made into a movie one day. I like fantasy novels, like Eragon, Harry Potter, and Twilight. Before i begin writing, i would like to know what will it take for me to have a best selling book?? Also i would like to know what do you think some good ideas would be for a book. I personally was thinking of maybe something about werewolfs. What do you think?
-thank you
Well, the first rule of writing is: the sky's the limit. You can write about whatever you want. However, the first rule to writing a best selling book is: Reach your audience. Think about who your audience is going to be. Will teenagers like this book? Or adults? Maybe Pre-teens? Maybe all of those? You, the author, need to be able to get into character in order to write that character and make the character alive and real, rather then just a stereotype. You need the characters to be real and for them to be able to touch your audience. However, it's not all just writing. It's also writing properly. This one's a pain for me, but you have to always remember grammar and spelling or your idea, no matter how awesome, won't even get past the editors. As to the question "What should it be about?" I believe it should be about whatever the author creates. If I told you what to write about, you wouldn't have come up with it, therefore wouldn't be as inspired. So, I think a book about werewolves is a great idea :) Let your imagination take it from there, and goodluck! Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
What is codependent??
A condition in which you rely on being in a relationship all the time. You can't stand being single.
Last friday i got sunburnt, but only on my face,shoulders and my lower leg therefore im darker in those places..But I was wondering, how do i tan my thighs? I dont wear mini jeans because im too embarassed of my pale thighs =[
Well, you could go to a tanning salon and get a tan all over there. Or you might just half to break out of your comfort zone and wear some shorts. You can put on some tanning lotion on your thighs and then wear shorts around and soon you'll be tan on your legs! :) also, I'm pretty sure they sell tanning lotion that also comes in skin colors so while you wait for your legs to tan, they look tan in the process! Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
i've been wondering... do guys rather consider a girl to be a virgin or a non-virgin to be with them? the thing i've always wondered about is that, if they're a non-virgin... would the guy just try to be with her after he finds out to get some ass?
most people that tells others that they're not virgins anymore, the others don't look at the person any differently. that's what i know.. cause it's all about the personality right? as long as they're not going sleeping around.
Well, most guys I know like virgins, like the person below me said, because they're "tighter" or they want to be her special first. Some guys go after the non-virgins because they think they're easier to "get". It depends who you tell you're not a virgin too. Some people will think those people are slutty and others wont care. It just depends who you tell :) I don't judge my friends on whether or not the are a virgin, but I don't like having friends that are way over slutty. Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
So there's this guy, that's really friendly and popular and all. He's kind of different / normal. It's hard to explain. Anyway, he basically talks to everybody. I'm homeschooled now so of course I don't talk to him anymore. But when I was in school, when I had classes with him, we'd always talk. He's kind of got a silly personality and he's definitely well liked. But the thing is, now he's like a major jock. And I'm well, haha not much. So I haven't seen him in like two years. I mean, I might have SAW him at a football game recently, but he didn't see me or anything. Anyway, it's not like we have any relationship at all. I've never even considered liking him. So, last night, I had a dream about him. I've been thinking about it ALL day. It was like we knew each other forever. And I don't remember my feelings for him in the dream, but when I woke up it was like wow. My heart had that crushed feeling. In my dream we held hands and were all over each other and stuff, not in a sexual way. And part of my dream was we were riding around in the car, holding hands, and just little things like that. It felt amazing. Then I woke up and missed it.. and have been thinking about it basically all day. SO now, I just sat down at the computer, went to myspace. And in the new 'people you might know' section, IT SHOWED HIM. I haven't seen him in years, and didn't even know he had a page! Coincedence or what?!It only shows three people. What are the odds. I don't think I want to add him, cause I mean he's like way popular and he probably barely even remembers me or even cares. So I don't know. Could it be a sign or something? This is really freaky =/
Wellll, first off, that "people you might know" thing scans people who are friends with your friends and people who live close, so it's not like a MAJOR coincidence :) but it's ok, I definitely think you should add him. You said yourself he's really friendly so it's not like he'll reject you or not talk to you or something. Just message him and be like "hey what's up?". Start simple and then you guys will start talking and bam, we got a couple ha ha :) I do that sometimes, when I randomly see one of my old crushes and they look at me and it's like a wave of curiosity washes over me about if they still like me and then I'm obsessing over it all day ha ha So yeah, if you like this guy, you make the first move! :D Goodluck dude!
-Jessica 14/f
Omg,
So since its been getting colder;
My hair is like getting kinda frizzy latley.
It sucks :[
My hair is wavy.
But like ive been thinking of getting like
one of those straight perms.
& like i was wonderig,
if i get it,(the perm)
will my hair still frizz or no?
& also if theres any do it at home ones,
which are TRUElY the BEST ones cos i dont want to f*ck up my hair lol
THANK U!
No, your hair will not frizz if you get the straight perm. However, do you really want to spend all that money on your hair just because of it's reaction to winter air? If I were you, I would just get an anti-frizz gel for your hair. I use "Garnier Fructis Sleek&Shine Anti-frezz Serum" and it works wonders! If you do get the perm though, I would reccommend going to the salon instead of buying a do-it-yourself one. It's more professional and they're less likely to mess up :) Hope I helped!
-14/f Jessica
Open Minded and Knowledgable answers only please. OK, so I was watching this thing on youtube where this guy comes home from work and after he does all his nightly things, he dresses up like a woman and then has some champaigne and a cig and relaxes. Now my question is what is the thought process? Like when you say ok, I am a guy, but for the next i donno 2 hours i am giong to be a woman...do you start thinking like a woman? do you start like being in the mind process of a woman or do you still keep your male perspective and thought process? Fill me in... thank you.
A cross dresser is a person who believes they were supposed to be the opposite sex of what they are. This is a mental condition. I believe it does effect how they think, meaning if it's a male it might have female thoughts and vice versa. However, this doesn't mean all cross dressers are homosexual, contrary to popular belief. Some are, but some aren't. In your video, the guy might have dressed up like a regular man would to work because he's afraid of what people will think. Then when he gets home he's more comfortable and changes into what he believes is truly him. The man knows he's a man, but he feels more comfortable as a woman :) hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
what is the most meaningful thing anyone has ever said to you when you were at such a low point in you're life? i would really love to know what people say to others, something that they will keep with them forever. any advice that helped you get through some rough times, because right now i'm going through really hard times.
"Just keep going."
"Things can't get worse, they can only get better."
"Even if it feels like it's not worth it, it is."
I'm going through some pretty tough times right now too. I'll be happy to talk to you about anything if you want to message me. Life can be rough, but that's what makes it interesting.
any ideas of a short a story i could animate..it's my first time so something like stick figures or circles..lol.
Ohhh You could do little red riding hood :) just because it would look cool to animate the wolf eating the grandma lol. Or how about a greek myth? Those have cool things like cyclopses and transformation in it :) goodluck!
-jessica 14/f
I want to get my boyfriend something
he would really appreciate for x-mas!
he is very into cars!
and things like that...
any ideas????
Well, you're ahead of most girls then, since you already know what he likes :) base his present on cars. Whatever you get him, make sure it has something to do with cars. Do this, and he will be happy :) how about getting him tickets to go see a car show/monster trucks/race, depending on what he likes about cars. Or maybe you can get something autographed by a famous car racer off of ebay? Just look out for fakes. Oooorrr how about a necklace with a little car charm thing, if he likes wearing jewelry :) Just make it come from the heart, and think about what he would like :) Hope I helped! Goodluck!
-Jessica 14/f
this girl at my school wont stop preaching to me about God. "God loves you, he loves you do much, he has a purpose for you, blahblahblah" and yeah. ive told her this before: I KNOW ALL OF THAT!! i go to church, i hear this every week. iknowiknowiknowiknow. but she just wont shut up and leave me alone. what do i say to her? is it bad for a christian to not want to talk about God because its getting on my last nerve??
Wow, I HATE it when people preach. You need to set this chick straight. If she begins preaching to you, tell her kindly but sternly "Look, I know you're just trying to do you're job by spreading the religion, but maybe you should start preaching to people who DON'T believe in God, because I already do". That should shut her up :) If not, a restraining order is always helpful ha ha goodluck! Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
Does anyone have good tips about talking to girls as im useless.
Girls almost always like a funny guy :) try to make her laugh. If she's laughing at almost any joke you make, she's definitely into you :) just relax, they're human beings just like you. Of course, they aren't one of your buddies, and everyone acts less mature around your buddies, so hold off on the fart jokes or other disgusting things O.o most girls think those are gross. Also, when talking to her, look her in the eye. Looking away will give her the feeling you're uninterested. Just listen to what she has to say, ask a few questions, and recall a few funny times from the past :) Goodluck! Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
So, I'm making Thanksgiving dinner this year for my family. I've already asked about how to make a delicious Turkey for Thanksgiving, but I left out a very key question.
When purchasing a Thanksgiving turkey, what should I look for? I will be feeding my whole family (5 people total but they eat A WHOLE LOT) so I am now rethinking the size of the turkey I thought would be best. I am also unsure of which brand is best, and if the cheapest is actually the best bargain or not. I'm also curious if all Thanksgiving turkeys come frozen or if some of them are fresher than others. There are also some with pop up thermometers to let me know when the turkey is done cooking, but I'm not entirely sure if they are worth the purchase or if I should just cook the turkey according to my recipe.
I've heard of people purchasing spoiled turkeys from the supermarkets. Even my mother brought home a turkey once and the whole back end of it was BLACK! I want to end up with something GOOD, so I need information before I head out and start choosing turkeys for Thanksgiving! Choosing the right Thanksgiving turkey is already confusing.
So, what should I look for when purchasing a Thanksgiving turkey so I get something delicious that my whole family will love?
Ok, this is a very popular question right now, and here are some answers I found from a few other sites
Question- What matters when buying a turkey?
Answer- "The price. Seriously, if you buy a frozen turkey there's not much else to look for except weight and price. They say fresh turkeys are better, but I made one a couple years ago and no one noticed any big improvement over frozen. Its all in the preperation. Turkey's do benefit from brining (soaking in a salt, water mixture, sometimes with spices added), which leaves them tender, juicy and flavorful. Do a net search for "brining turkeys" and you'll find tons of advice on how to do it."
Question- (same question)
Answer- "I buy for the weight, size and feel. I go for Butterballs because they are the ones that are not dry tasting. I love for my turkey to have good color, smell and freshness. This year I did not buy a Butterball because I found a 30 pound one for $10.00. I thought that was a steal!"
So, I don't believe there is really any difference between frozen and free-range ones, which haven't ever been frozen. So, the main things to look at are:
1) The expiration date! A MUST! You do not want to come home with a spoiling turkey!
2) Weight. Get more then you think you'll need :) everyone likes Thanksgiving leftovers!
Really, as the other answer suggested, it depends on the preperation of the turkey :) do some online searching to find a great stuffing and everything else that goes into making it yummy :)
And another thing, make some other stuff for the dinner also :) that way, if the turkey doesn't turn out as good as you wanted, your guests will be distracted by the lovely amount of various foods ha ha :) goodluck! Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
ok me n my bf have been 2gether since 2000! we have a 3 yr old son n we love each other! but he jst ignores me alot n treats me like im not here! but he treats other people all diff! hes all nice n respectfull 2 them but with me is a whole diff story! he always tells me that i need 2 quit carring about things he dose n i should jst care about that he loves me only! but i tell him but u dnt show me that u do! he says 2 quit bitching n nigging at him! that i need 2 change! n i admit i do bitch n bitch at him alot! its like everyday! but wat gf doesnt! wat can i do 2 change my attitude tores him! how can i show him that i dnt really care about wat he dose even dough i do!
I'm sorry, but this sounds like a failing relationship. There are two things wrong here;
1) You shouldn't be needing to change for him. A guy should like you for who you are, not anything else. If you change, then he doesn't like the real you.
2) Why do you nag him? Constantly? It sounds to me like he's getting tired of it. I don't look to argue with my boyfriend everyday, and I don't know anyone who does. If there is no reason for an argument, don't start it! It's pointless, and useless to start something big because of something small.
So, I don't think you should end it, but I do think you should THINK about your relationship and TALK to one another. You need to TRUST that he loves you and wouldn't do anything to hurt you instead of assuming he already will. Just believe he loves you, he doesn't have to "prove it" if you two truly love one another. Hope I helped, goodluck.
-Jessica 14/f
I always end up feeling attracted to girls who seem like they like me. I know it's because it makes me feel good about myself, and so i try to nurture that interest - so i end up getting with nearly everyone who even flirts with me. Thing is though, I'm not interested in girls.
Before I decided I was gay, I really liked this girl at college. She's like, the girl equivelent of me. About 9 months ago we really liked eachother and we kissed a few times when we hung out (drunken kisses only). Then she went really cold on me and I moved on. I later found out she started seeing another guy at college and they were still together. We left college for summer and that was that. But then when we came back, the two of them just argued all the time. He kept judging all these things that she did and kept giving her a hard time. It was really awkward for everyone in our class, and about a week ago she ended it.
But since the break up, everyones been taking her exs side because he's really hurting bout it. She's been hanging out with me now and shes been talking about how horrible it is for her, with everyone giving her a hard time and that. She never really talks about her feelings and I feel kinda priveledged. She doesnt seem that upset about the break up, I think its because it was bad for quite a while before it ended.
I dont know whether I like her. I feel like I do, and I can feel the feelings for her inside but it doesnt make sense. I talk about her all the time and I really have to tone it down when I'm with my girlfriend. - this bit might not make sense, but its all ethical and that because she knows im gay and weve been together on/off for 5 years and weve decided to stay together. I'm not ready to come out because im not 100% sure, and this thing with this girl is even more confusing.
She suggested us hanging out and getting drunk again - like we used too when we liked eachother.
What do I do?
Do I tell my girlfriend that I might not be gay because I like this other girl?
Do I hangout with this other girl and see if anything happens to learn more about my sexuality?
Do I avoid spending time with this other girl and just remain... me?
Do I break up with my girlfriend, because if im not gay she obviously just doesnt do it for me?
I'm really confused. I might be in love with my girlfriend. We have sex and I enjoy it. But it's not the same.
Help me please?
Male, 19.
Wow, this is VERY confusing lol :) I think you should take a break from dating for a while to "find yourself". It sounds to me like you are VERY confused with your orientation, so I don't think you should be dating someone if you're questioning whether or not you're gay :S take some time off, and just expiriment. That's what the teen years are for, to find who you are. Don't get into a relationship, just look around and set your priorities straight. However, I suggest you remain friends with both of these girls because if you eventually discover you're not gay, you've got the two girls you originally liked right there and it's easy to spark an old fire :) Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f