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I always end up feeling attracted to girls who seem like they like me. I know it's because it makes me feel good about myself, and so i try to nurture that interest - so i end up getting with nearly everyone who even flirts with me. Thing is though, I'm not interested in girls.
Before I decided I was gay, I really liked this girl at college. She's like, the girl equivelent of me. About 9 months ago we really liked eachother and we kissed a few times when we hung out (drunken kisses only). Then she went really cold on me and I moved on. I later found out she started seeing another guy at college and they were still together. We left college for summer and that was that. But then when we came back, the two of them just argued all the time. He kept judging all these things that she did and kept giving her a hard time. It was really awkward for everyone in our class, and about a week ago she ended it.
But since the break up, everyones been taking her exs side because he's really hurting bout it. She's been hanging out with me now and shes been talking about how horrible it is for her, with everyone giving her a hard time and that. She never really talks about her feelings and I feel kinda priveledged. She doesnt seem that upset about the break up, I think its because it was bad for quite a while before it ended.
I dont know whether I like her. I feel like I do, and I can feel the feelings for her inside but it doesnt make sense. I talk about her all the time and I really have to tone it down when I'm with my girlfriend. - this bit might not make sense, but its all ethical and that because she knows im gay and weve been together on/off for 5 years and weve decided to stay together. I'm not ready to come out because im not 100% sure, and this thing with this girl is even more confusing.
She suggested us hanging out and getting drunk again - like we used too when we liked eachother.
What do I do?
Do I tell my girlfriend that I might not be gay because I like this other girl?
Do I hangout with this other girl and see if anything happens to learn more about my sexuality?
Do I avoid spending time with this other girl and just remain... me?
Do I break up with my girlfriend, because if im not gay she obviously just doesnt do it for me?
I'm really confused. I might be in love with my girlfriend. We have sex and I enjoy it. But it's not the same.
Help me please?
Male, 19.
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Have you ever acted upon your gay feelings with another guy? Perhaps you're bisexual??? I'd say just have fun. You obviously have something with this other girl, so go for it... Dont worry what anyone else says... Life is meant to be fun. Dont stress about being straight or gay, just be. Have fun!!!
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Wow, this is VERY confusing lol :) I think you should take a break from dating for a while to "find yourself". It sounds to me like you are VERY confused with your orientation, so I don't think you should be dating someone if you're questioning whether or not you're gay :S take some time off, and just expiriment. That's what the teen years are for, to find who you are. Don't get into a relationship, just look around and set your priorities straight. However, I suggest you remain friends with both of these girls because if you eventually discover you're not gay, you've got the two girls you originally liked right there and it's easy to spark an old fire :) Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
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