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so I'm 16 yeah, and I'm only 4"11. It's well gay I know.
but from a boys point of view, does height matter a lot? and if yes then would my height be unattractive?
This may not be an answer you want, but the answer to both is "maybe". It really depends on the guy. However, as you (and the boys you're dating) get older, you'll find that the ratio of guys that it DOES matter for will go down.
Personally, I would not say your height matters very much at all. Nor would I say it's unattractive by any means. I'm 6'0" and my girlfriend is 5'1".
how do i take off tanning lotioin thats already dried . my skin looks really distorted and i want it gone!thank you so much
Water and scrubbing. If that fails, give it time to go away naturally..
I'm looking for a new product to use for my skin. I don't wash my face everyday anymore. Maybe once or twice a week and exfoliate. My friend suggested Mary Kay products .. any experiences with that?
I rarely ever get any acne anymore so now that I FINALLY have that under control, I just want smoother skin and something to fade my scars.
Mary Kay products tend to be overpriced, and generally not work as well as advertised.
The best medicine in your case is time. Your acne is now under control not because of any routine, but because you're finally "growing out of it". It'll only get better from here.
However, if you're impatient, aloe is always a plus on skin. In my experience, Proactive tends to work pretty well, too, although that may be a bit pricey.
how do i increase my metabolism or my bodys metabolic rate or watevah...fanx
Short and sweet: You don't. You can't. There's no way. I'm sorry if this isn't the answer you want to hear, but there's no miricle pill or miricle exercise that will increase your metabolic rate.
Basically, I am a 15 yr old freshman, turning 16 and will be a sophmore soon. I have my permit and I am currently taking driver's ed. Prepare... because this is going to be long.
School is almost ending. Drivers ed is only one semester, i passed the first semester with an A because it was just bookwork. Now, it's driving. First of all, my teacher is completely mean and strict. He loves to yell and will get any chance to yell at me, even when I am the best student in his class... not when it comes to driving though. I happen to be a great student so the fact that I'm going to fail this class is new for me. My teacher expects us to know how to drive and I DONT KNOW HOW. He has gotten into my head to the point where every test we take, I know I'm going to fail because he is just that MEAN. I would LIKE to be taught how to drive, however... my dad does not want to teach me. The only times he has taken me was after huge arguments which led to tears on my part. He doesnt even seem to care that I will fail. He stated so but I would like to believe that its not true. My brother who is 18 does not have his license still because he is a procrastinator, as well as my brother before him who waited also. I asked my dad to take driving lessons... he refused to let me do so and would rather give my brother lessons (who doesnt even seem to care whether he drives or not). I keep stressing how not practicing will effect my grade, my gpa, and everything. He doesnt care. He would rather WAIT until school ends to LET me take driving lessons. I'm just SO sick of waiting... and I dont want to fail and I just dont know what to do because... I want to learn how to drive. ALSO, my parents dont let me take the public bus, learn how to drive, and they never want to take me anywhere... HOW DO THEY EXPECT TO GET AROUND? Honestly, whenever I mention this, it turns into a fight. I dont know how to handle this anymore because I cant seem to get my dad to understand how important this is to me. Not only that, but I WILL FAIL if i dont practice and it's not like I'm actually learning IN DRIVERS ED because my teacher expects us to know already. Once something is introduced like "angle parking" or "parallel parking", we... barely get time to practice and there's 60 kids in my class so sometimes I dont get to go and when test day comes, I FAIL. HELP HELP HELP ME, i'm so... sad that i have no control over this whole situation. I mean, what am i supposed to do? I'm really sorry that this was long but thank you for reading this much... I would really appreciate any help at all... :) :(
There is only one way to learn how to drive, and that's through an exaustive, ridiculous amount of practice. I was able to ace my driving test because my parents let me drive myself to night classes for a few months before I took my test. That amounted to about 250 hours worth of driving experience, which is above and beyond the 6-hour requirement in California.
The point being, the only way you're going to learn to drive is to actually drive. I'm sorry your father doesn't seem to let you drive around, but that's the only way you're going to learn--There really is no other way (Unless you drive with your mother, but I digress).
It sounds like failing is not an option for you, so you're going to have to beg and plead and grovel with your dad, even it comes to fighting and crying. No amount of book-learning can make up for behind-the-wheel experience.
Try reasoning with your parents. Offer to drive them to the store or to do errands with them whenever they need to and whenever you're able to. ANY driving experience will help.
If after all this, your parents still aren't willing, there really is nothing you can do.
idk why, but i really cant break up with my boyfriend.. and i sorta want to. But apart of me is making me hold on.. idk what to do anymore.. please give me some advice.. i really like this other guy.. and me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. & if i do break up with him its only for like 2 hours and im running back to him..
Part of your problem is you're not sure what you want. The other part is that you don't have the willpower to follow through with your decisions.
First. Decide if you want to break up with your boyfriend or not. Don't settle for "sorta want to". It's either a yes or a no. Secondly, once you've made your choice, follow it to the absolute. For better or for worse, you have to make a choice and stick with it, or you'll be stuck in this wishy-washy romance triangle. If you don't break out, you'll never move on to bigger and better things, and you and your current relationship won't go anywhere. It's a lose-lose situation.
Ok guys here's my problem. I'm 16 years old and a sophomore at my local high school. I have been dating my boyfriend (almost 18) for 9 months now. We've had our ups and downs but I've been usually the one causing the downs. I am a big flirt and guys intrest me. I love goofing around and being myself, but my personality is outrageos and flirty. This has landed me awkward positions and back in mine today.
It's not that I like them, but sometimes it leads to me getting a crush. It has happened before. Once was just a simple "Out of state visit" crush and didn't last long. Once to the point where I broke up with my boyfriend to be with someone else. When that wasn't what I wanted I realized how much I really needed my guy.
We had things to sort out but we eventually were back to being us. We were better then ever, and happy to be together.
So things were back to normal. But then, there was another guy that liked me. He's really gorgous and I flirt with him alot. We were at a baseball tourny in NY and I really wanted to flirt. We did. Alot. But I told him to promise me that he wouldn't let me cheat. He agreed. I told my boyfriend about all of this. This guy still erks him and he's still worried when I'm around him. He's just so cute. I can't help myself.
Then something else happened. One of my guy friends got the wrong idea and tried to kiss me! It's not just that he's my friend that makes it wrong, it's the situation behind that. It's who he is. (But I can't get into that) It came as a shock. I didn't kiss him but I kept this from my boyfriend because I didn't want to ruin what we had.
Eventually, we took that next step and I felt that I had to tell him. He wasn't too upset, but he wished that I had told him. I did too.
So things were back to normal. We would fight, be fine and fight again. Usually ended in apoligies and kisses. So here's my current problem.
A friend of the guy that tried to kiss me began talking to me to set straight what had happened. Keep in mind I do know him and he's totally gorgous. (Used to work at Hollister. 18 year old Brazillion...yeah. I know. Hott) Now he's flirting with me and telling me that he thinks I'm beautiful and we talk all the time. He's such a nice friend but sometimes I see myself...actually being with him. It's weird. But we do flirt alot, but I have done nothing wrong. I have never cheated on my boyfriend and I never will.
I have not told my boyfriend about this guy but I don't think I want to. He doesn't have to know about every guy I talk to and I don't want to ruin what we have. I know I'm young and that's why I don't feel so concerned about this.
Please help me. I really don't know what to do. I really do feel like I AM A WHORE and I don't want to feel like that anymore. I can't help the flirting but I do love my boyfriend. It's just...idk.
thanks for helping!
It sounds to me like your problem is one of self-restraint. You can't help yourself from not cheating. Even when you're not aware of it, you're attracting the wrong kind of attention. In the same way that some people learn to be "victims", you've learned to be a flirt-magnet.
Firstly, decide what it is you really want. From the sound of what you're describing, you don't really want your current boyfriend--or any boyfriend. You may decide that a relationship isn't right for you at the moment. That's okay, but if that's the case you need to tell your boyfriend immediately, and act accordingly.
On the other hand, it's possible I have you all wrong, and you really do love your boyfriend and the relationship you're in. If this is the case, you have to stop what you're doing right away. Every flirt, every kiss, every breakup and ensueing fight brings you one step closer to losing the fedility that you value so much. Don't blame it on your personality. Personalities can change, given enough will and effort. You CAN help the flirting, and every time you tell yourself you can't you're defering responsibility.
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ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year and i was just thinking about what i should give him...He gave me a frog for my b-day a few months ago and i love it! i cuddle with it everynight and it reminds me of him which helps me with living 30 minutes away from him...I love him soo much i was thinking about giving him a stuffed anomal so that he will have something to cuddle and remind him of me. but i want somethign else to go with it all ik is i want it to be special and something to remind him of me no scrapbooks im gonna wait until we have a ton of pictures for that please help
what else should i get
&
is the stuffed animal a good idea??
thanks in advance :D
Stuffed animals are a good bet, unless you know he doesn't like them.
As for what else you should get, it should probably reflect his (And if possible yours too) interests. If it's something relevent to his tastes, he'll A) Like it more, and therefore use it more, and B) Reflect your knowlege and understanding of him that you've gained over the past year, and show that you really do care about his opinions.
Having that said, I don't know enough about your boyfriend to give you specific gift ideas. Just try to find something relevent to his interests and you'll be okay.
Does proactive actually work
thanks
In the time I used it, I saw a bit of progress.
Although it didn't get rid of my acne completely. Nothing did. I just kind of grew out of mine.
I need to make a directory of about 150 people. I want an alphabetical ist of clickable names. The link would go to a fact sheet giving a few details and a picture. At least, thats what I invision. Anybody know where I can make something like that? Maybe a website has a quick easy way of doing it?
I would recommend using Microsoft Access to make a database. Although Access has much more advanced features and is really meant for things above and beyond what you're describing, it should be okay for your needs.
Hi im having a party and Im looking for good rap and hip hop music. Like Lil Wayne-type stuff. Nothing light and poppy like the Black Eyed Peas. Preferrably newer songs. Thanks.
"Good rap" and "newer songs" tend to be mutually exclusive. If you're looking for good rap, you really can't beat the classics; 2pac, etc.
Although there is this song by the FlowBots that's caught my ear called "Handlebars". You might find it worth a listen.
so my firend said that guys like asain girls, i asked why and she said its cuz their "tighter" im guessing tighter down there. Is that true? and do guys really care about that all that much?
Your friend is a moron.
would you rather see a 5'5 girl 125 lbs with or without a belly button ring?
are they even that attractive to men?
This will always come down to a case-by-case basis. Some guys like them, some don't. Personally, I don't, but my opinion doesn't represent every guy's opinion.
If you're thinking about getting one to impress a particular guy, find out what his views on it are.
ok i heard that if a guy jacks off and then pees, his precum won't contain sperm. is this true? if it is, how long does that last. like, is it safe from sperm all day? or just a little while? also, how many times can a boy precum? like, i've looked at his boner and we've seen it before. but can it still precum at anytime? or is it done after one time? sorry for all the questions! thanks!
That is absolutely false. precum will always contain sperm, at least in trace amounts, and no secret combonation of penal functions will change that.
The number of times a boy can precum or cum depend entirely on the boy. Some boys have trouble cumming and usually don't do it at all, while others can lose it within several seconds, and still others can be coming back for round two, three, and four.
is "kinky" considered a cuss word?
like if you said it in front of mom or dad what would they say?
or in front of a high school teacher?
In short, no. It is not a "cuss" word.
However, high school teachers and parents may or may not take offense to the term, as morals and definitions of "cussing" are all subjective.
Sorry if this is really long but PLEASE HELP
My boyfriend Levi and I have been together almost two years. I'm almost 18 and he just turned 18. This is his first relationship and he's not very good with people. He's independent. I'm the complete opposite. He's really sweet though and will cater to me. By that I mean, if he's upset he just bottles it up. Occasionally he says I should do the same but he still lets me cry to him. He's going away to college in a few months and this has been a big issue with us for awhile. He's the type that wants to live his teenage years to the fullest and drink and smoke and party... I disagree. I refuse to be with a smoker or someone who drinks (irresponsibly) So anyway, right now we've got a few problems. But you need to understand that I'm the nicest person in the world until you do me wrong.
Levi's Dad and Step Mom are really nice people. I get along with them great. Levi's Mom is a horrible person. For no reason. Her name is Carrie. Now, when Levi and I first got together, when I'd occasionally hear from Carrie she was pretty okay. I didn't dislike her at all. But Levi told me a little about her and said she's a bitch and she's rude. I figured, well, she's been okay to me this far. I'll just wait and see before drawing any conclusions. Well, I waited and I saw. She's the most horrible person I've ever met. She's so rude to me for no reason! Levi always tried to keep Carrie and I apart. I now see why.
Occasionally over the past couple years she'd get on the phone while Levi and I were talking and tell a joke or something... But that doesn't make me forgive all the times she's just been so horrid to both me and Levi. She thinks she hasn't been so bad to me.
Last weekend I FINALLY met her for the first time. She came to pick up Levi from my house and my Mother and I went outside to say hello. We walked up to the car and I say "Hi!" totally politely. She said nothing back to me. She didn't even look at me. In fact, I'd turn my head away but keep my eyes on her to see if she'd look at me and she did. With a glare. She talked to my Mom about how they both thought the other looked familiar but she wouldn't look at me or talk to me. What did I ever do to her!?
All she said to Levi on their way home was how I was wearing too much makeup around my eyes for her taste. I dont care! My boyfriend was over! We were at my brother's party that night! Why wouldn't I wear makeup!?
So... Carrie has been working the graveyard shift at work. SHE WORKS AT JUVI ! no wonder she hates me. lol. I'm a teenager. So anyway Carrie has a rule about being off the phone at 10 pm on schoolnights. If time gets away from us and we're even 5 minutes late she freaks out! So she left at 9 pm and she works until 6 am or so. So we just decided to be on the phone until 11-12. No harm done. Levi can't get to sleep until 2-3 am anyway because of his insomnia.
So a couple of nights later, Carrie's at work and Levi and I are talking. It's around 12 or so and his Mom comes home and finds Levi on the phone. All hell breaks loose. We got off the phone and Levi tells his Mom that I was in a fight with my Mom and Brother and I needed someone to talk to.
The next day, she calls my house and tells me I'm disrespectful, and I'm insecure and she's going to block my phone number so I can't call so late. I said "How dare you call me and insult and threaten me!?" You see, Carrie never has anyone stand up to her without her winning in the end. So when I stand up and tell her that she hasn't earned my respect and I dont back down then she goes completely crazy.
Today is a friday. Levi usually comes over on fridays and/or saturdays. So this morning he tells his Mom that he's going to come over to my house after school. She has no problem. At around 1 pm she calls me and says "Hey Jessica, I just unblocked your number, call me right back to see if it works." So I did. It worked. I had no intentions of talking to her. I just wanted to get off the phone and she said "You see what happens when you decide to not act like an adult?" (she meant in reference to not following her rules about getting off the phone at 10, and then she blocked my number.) and I said "Carrie. I don't respect you or your rules that don't have a point other than to show that you're the boss. Maybe if you were polite and nicer to me and maybe fed your son a little bit I'd respect you a lot more."
So she calls Levi at school and tells him to come home after school to "mow the lawn." So he went home. They left to go pick up the lawn mower at his grandparents' house. And on the way Carrie told him that she doesn't like me, I'm a huge mistake that he's making and he'll regret that he and I ever got together. She told him that I called her and tried starting a fight which is a huge lie. She told him that she was permanently blocking my number. Levi stood up to her for once and said she doesn't need to tell him what is or isn't a mistake in life. That's for him to learn himself. And he told her he wasn't going home with her.
Later, after they talked some more and I hear all about it, Levi completely changed.... He said that something needs to change. I dont get along with his family and it's stressing him out and he basically said that if nothing changes by the end of this summer that he's going to break up with me because he doesn't want this tension in his family. That hurt so badly. I never did anything. I know he loves me I just think he doesn't want to admit that he fears his mother. I told him that if this all affects him so badly that he should tell her that she and I should have nothing to do with each other. But I'll give her one chance if she decides to be genuinely nice to me and never rude then i'll forgive her and try to have a nice relationship. He just makes it out like "Carrie never will budge" so I need to make it better. And I never did anything. I'm not going to kiss her ass!
So I guess I just need to know what should I do about Levi? Should I just break up with his since he seems like he could give me up over that bitch so easily?
It could be because he's really really stressed out lately that he just doesn't care anymore. but we really love each other and... I dont know. I just want to know what you think I should do and say. His college is 4-5 hours away... is he worth it?
I have to disagree (at least partially) with the other advice given. Respect is earned, not given automatically. I'm not suggesting that you treat Carrie the way she treats you--you should strive to be civil with all people you meet--but "respect" is a term that's thrown around a lot lately that everyone seems to feel entitled to, and in your case, Carrie is entitled to very little.
Anyway, your question seems to be "is he worth it?", and to that, only you can give a good answer to. If I were in your case, I would say "No, it isn't", but I'm not you, and nobody else can decide this for you.
I'm sorry for what you may see as a flimsy answer, but this really isn't the kind of thing that can be answered (accurately) over the internet in advice columns.
yes i had a boyfriend but my last one broke up with me because all his friends said i don't have big enough boobs how stupid is that now none of the guys will date me what do i do
14/f
You're still pretty young, 14/f. I know this probably isn't an answer you're looking for (Or an answer you'll appriciate), but give it time. In a few years, you'll find that the guys you'll be going after will be able to look you in the face, not in the breasts.
(Im 15 and female by the way darlings)
So there is this guy that started flirting with me a few weeks back, and I don’t know why. But anyway he is pretty much a player, and I keep telling myself that, but when ever I see him he is always a sweetheart and flirty to me. He is a senior too. And he is going to leave within like a week. But I don’t know what to tell him. He probably won’t even talk to me after he leaves. I want to tell him that I like him, but then I just become "just another girl" for him to add to his large collection. I like him for the guy he is when he is alone, because when he is around others he is like really flirty and perverted with everyone he sees. We text allot, but then again he texts just about everyone and their dog. When we text its like REALLY sexually oriented. But when we talk he is such a charmer, and nice and funny. When he is alone I think he seems so much more real, and not so full of an ego. He is really smart and we can talk about lots of stuff on the same level, unless its music, on several occasions we spent over a half an hour with him showing/teaching me about music on the piano in the back of the auditorium (play practice). It was a different person almost, and that’s what I like. I don’t know what I want, and I don’t know what he wants, but I really don’t want a broken heart because I am afraid he would break it (which is most likely)
He is just messing with me isn’t he? I can’t help myself but I don’t want him to know it
That’s why I think he flirts with me, because I didn’t fall head over heels for him when he started talking to me, and it makes me so angry to think I am a conquest of some kind. So it’s the Hard to get thing. He sees me as a challenge right? I keep telling myself that but I just can’t help myself. This is part of his charm.
just tell me what you think. I think I also have trust issues kinda bad. that might be part of it =)
The problem here is you're unsure of this guy's intentions. Rather than going into every possible doomsday scenario on what he COULD want, my advice to you would be to find out what it is he wants (Keep in mind that he could even be lying then, but at least it's a start) and make your choices from there accordingly.
However, I do have to say that if he's leaving within a week, you'd be best off not bothering.
Hi, everyone. i'm 14/f (15 this june), and my boyfriend is going to be 16 this month.
First of all, I've never really had a boyfriend before, so I don't know all about "what to do" and everything, but my boyfriend and I have kind of just decided it'll be chill, you know..not too stressful or whatev. In other words, nothing that would make it awkward.
we've been seeing each other for about a month now, but i've known who he is/he's known me since jr. high school. I've always had a huge crush on him to be honest but he'd had a girlfriend for about 2 years, '0n-and-off' or whatever, I guess.
Sooo here's the thing!
He's really an amazing guy, and I, being a hopeless romantic at heart, fell in love with the fact that he plays the guitar (we play together often now), like's quirky movies/music, and likes being outdoors and all the same things about it that I do. Not to mention he's really into philosophy, as am I. (most of the stuff we talk about is pretty deep...somewhat random sometimes, but it's nice to have someone else I can talk to about "the meaning of life" or anything for that matter =P)
Buuuutt......
He told me recently that he smokes pot, and that he drinks. which I knowwwwwwwww isn't uncommon in high school....but he's only a sophomore, and I don't really dig that whole scene....as in, i guess i don't mind if he does it really, but I just don't want to be involved in any way, like having him trying to convince me to do it or anything. I don't think he would, but I'm not sure.
he was very mature about telling me, and he said he wanted to make sure I heard it from him and not from some vulgar rumors or anything like that. It kind of just caught me off guard. (even though I had heard rumors, it was unexpected to just have him tell me one night.)
So, I really don't know what to do...I feel uncomfortable with the whole idea of it, and I just can't stop thinking about it. You know, like randomly imagining "oh, he's probably out smoking pot or getting drunk right now..." and I don't think it's even that extreme, but I'm just not used to it (most would say i'm very innocent, or even naive in terms of this kind of stuff) but i kind of am more into the whole "getting naturally high off life" thing. It seems like pot-smoking and stuff is just a waste of time, and i'm sure it's fun and all, but it seems so depressing and it's sad to think of him like that..i reaaally don't see him that way around me, but I am always paranoid that the topic will come up, and he just jokes about it, so i laugh nervously while really i'm freaking out inside.
please give me some advice...i definitely don't want to break up with him, i'm really into having just a chill relationship with no drama or whatev...and this situation is making me worry, which is the opposite of what i want.
I just don't know how to bring it up to him, and tell him i'm not into all that.
thanks so much for taking the time to read/respond to this. :)
Normally, I would say that this kind of situation would cause an unnessessary amount of drama, but if he's really as mature as you claim he is, there really shouldn't be a problem here.
My advice to you would be to sit down and talk with him about it, and during the conversation make it clear to him that you're not interested in smoking out with him. Then continue your life together. It doesn't seem like you're trying to change him in this case, and I don't think he'd let himself be changed just for a one-month relationship. Just do what you can to prevent any future drama from arising.
so...i've been with my bf for almost 6 months now.. we've had our ups and downs... believe me on that one... but no matter what we seem to find out way back to eachother... lets cut to the chase.. me and him are not virgins.. but me and him have not had sex yet... and he's real sensitive on the subject.. i know guys LOVE sex bla bla... but, why is he so sensitive when it comes to sayin no? i understand, but it;s not like im teasing him or working him up on purpose... im not leading him on... i dont understand =( im not going to give in just because he;s sad... but i also dont wanna push him away or make him feel neglected... what should i do... say? p.s he's a very jealous guy so explanations make things worse sometimes... he's impatient as well lol thanks a bunch!!!
You need to stand your ground, here. It takes two willing participants to have (and enjoy) sex, and no matter how badly he wants it or "needs" it, he needs to wait until you're ready. It doesn't matter if you've had sex in the past--This is a new relationship with a new man, and you need time to grow accustomed to him.
You should obviously never be mean to him, but don't feel the need to sugar-coat you saying no. If he can't accept that you don't want to have sex after six months, then he doesn't belong in a relationship with you.