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Please don't put comments like your too young, your not ready for this, etc.
This guy I like wants me to go to his house friday. He are both in highschool, and I know he wouldn't do anything bad. I trust him.
Anyways, I'm going to his house, and he wants to eat me out, finger me, and teach me how to make out. He said he would be very casual about it.
So I was like okay. And he wants me to give him a hand job and a blow job, I said no the the bj though. He said that he would take this very seriously and not talk dirty and stuff, and guide my hand where it should go.
Anywayss, now that you have the background info, what's it like doing all this?
I know its different for everyone, and whateverr, but I wanna know what its like for you.
How do you sit? How does he sit? What do I do during? What does he do during? Where does his jiz go XD.
Haha. Uhmm, I had another 1question, but I forgot it. Oh well.
Please answer fast!
15/f & he is 16/m
We're dating.
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STOP. THINK FIRST. Ask yourself do I really want to do this? Then ask will I regret doing it with him or in general later? How long have you been dating? I'm assuming this isn't a new relationship. I hope not.
I've got a problem with the word casual and you should too. If he wants to be casual like it's no big deal and seems to be pressuring even lightly DON'T. Someone who loves you wouldn't be so flippant about sexual practices and just dump the idea into your lap and expect a fast yes or no and consent.
All of this stuff oral sex etc. you mention above is a big deal. Do it only with the right partner. Who is to say he hasn't used other girls and did this with them and moved on?
Tell him, I want to try that stuff eventually but not now. If he loves you he'll wait until you really want to. Don't do it to keep him happy etc.
If you have more questions than answers about any of these practices you mentioned, positioning and how to you aren't ready yet. If you have any fear or lingering doubts than forget about it until you have fully thought about it, researched more and feel confident. This shows us you're not ready for some of the things he's trying to get you to do. Just tell him no.
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so there is this guy..and he's a few years older than i am. me and him like each other..and we wanna spend time alone..but our parents wouldnt be happy with it cause of the age difference. we dont really even want to do anything bad..just hand out and stuff..so what are some way's that me and him could get alone or something? (link)
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As long as the age gap isn't huge and he's not seen as an adult 18+ and you as a child 0-18 why not be friends? The best way to handle this and show your parents he's no threat is to invite him and his parents to dinner.
Talk about your friendship and that you want to hang out but didn't want anyone upset over the age difference as there's no romantic chemistry whatsoever with each other.
Even if he is 18 and you're 15-17 there's nothing wrong with him being a friend but being more than that... That is so long as nothing physical occurs.
If they see he's an outstanding person, his family are decent people and you're just friends it shouldn't be that big of a deal to anyone. Besides, you can tell your parents the truth that you're not interested in anything physical or sexual with anyone let alone him yet anyways.
But yes if he's 18 and you're still viewed as a kid several years younger it's definitely a problem and you shouldn't be hanging out with him alone. If we're talking two or three years difference and both within the same range than it should be okay as long as your parents know.
If you're afraid they won't like this at all trust your gut instinct and know not to pursue things with this guy as there's got to be a damn good reason for you to know that they would not take this well. Bottom line, don't hide your interest in him, let them know and meet him, his family for any chance at hanging out alone.
If you can't do that and let them know than maybe there's a good reason why you feel that way and why you should back off completely. If it doesn't feel totally right.... But to me, it looks just like a normal friendship that you should fill them in on before pursuing it further.
Also, if something about the whole thing seems awkward, creepy or as if you shouldn't be around him trust that vibe. I'm not saying that's the case but wanted to throw it in there as there's something you don't feel comfortable about the two most important adults in your life knowing.
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so, my boyfriend lost his virginity to me the first time a couple of days ago... the thing is, i noticed that his attitude towards sex is a bit weird.. or awkward, however you want to say it. like, i know it's his first time and everything, but he's feeling comfortable around me. but when it comes to sex, he wanted to lose his virginity to me and everything... but it's hard for me to explain. for example, if he wanted to do something with me, like a new position... he wouldn't say anything. or i just tell him to get up for one second, he gets up, takes off the condom, and throws it away. he said he wanted to finish it but it was "okay", but i let him get another one and everything... but why get up and throw it away if i told him to get up real quick?i spoke to him about it, asking if he was shy about the stuff he does... and he said he wasn't. but why does it feel like he does? (link)
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When it comes to sex guys can't admit that they don't know what they are doing easily. Why? They don't want their peers to learn of this nor their partner to know. He's acting all confident and comfortable but you've read between the lines.
He's just not and well, you aren't enjoying it as much as you would like. When it comes to him quickly stopping and discarding the condom maybe he thought you wanted him to stop completely. It's either that or he felt embarrassed to be asked to stop even for a second and figured it was over. I dunno and he's not telling you.
What would I do? Tell him that you enjoyed sharing the experience (even if you didn't fully) and that the first time is always difficult for males and females and that you know deep down he wants to please but feels awkward. Tell him to just go with the flow.
I have a hunch that's the analytical type and tries to pre-think or jump ahead a few steps and get things exact and then if it's not what he hoped get this weird attitude towards it and you.
Next time tell his to listen to you and let him know what he needs to do and what you enjoy. If he doesn't do something right tell him "you know if you did this...."
Tell him if he wants to try something to ask first and then you can let him know how you feel. In fact you have got to communicate about sex before sex. That's how you avoid miscues tell him what the rules are and when to ask and to tell you what he feels and is thinking about when it comes to sex. Otherwise you're both lost in the ocean with a life raft and no oars.
For some guys being told what to do and shown and lead is actually desirable and a turn on so long as you do this in a way that doesn't humiliate him for being lousy it will all be okay. He needs to be shown that he can open up to you about this and anything else. If he can't or won't than you really don't have a strong relationship to be doing this with him. And that's his issue not yours. He may indeed be doing stuff he ain't ready for because he feels it's what you need or want.
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He's moving!
the boy i like he, he's leaving and i'll see him again in time...
but i like him so much... and he used to like me before i screwed it up i don't know if he does anymore... he used to like me but i got scared and stopped talking to him and he later on, he went for another girl with whom he is still dating... but i like him so much, i might even... i might even love him... but he's moving from Virginia to California... what should i do? should i tell him how i feel? What can i do to make him want to stay? he has a choice here or California.. and he's choosing Cali ... what can i say to make him want to stay? please help me... please i'm so confused... i don't know what to do... just help, please. =[ (link)
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Neither you nor anyone can make him stay. That's a decision only he can make. You can perhaps influence it but that's it. Is he going for university or some other purpose?
If so, congratulate him and tell him you wish he would stay but know you'll cross paths again. Be honest and frank as you were here letting him know what he meant to you and how fear and other things stood in the way.
Wish him well and see what happens as plans can change. Maybe when he comes back he'll remember you and perhaps it could be right or not then. One thing is for sure he'll certainly remember you and how gutsy and hard this was. Don't sit on it let it out. You'll feel better even if he can't physically stay.
If he stays he must decide on his own. It wouldn't be right to think he would drop everything though. Don't think that you can as getting that dose of reality hurts but do tell him your feelings. It's healthy and needed and he'll respect you for it.
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My mother is so annoying and self-centered and my husband dislikes her intently. She calls our house 1-7x every day! She just moved back to our location and is a 3x widow in good shape. Holidays are hard because my husband and our 2 kids have always enjoyed being together and that is our time but now she wants to move back here and expect me to provide her happiness. She won't do anything to make friends of her own. I'm so stressed out about all of this and just need a little advice. I'm in my 50's and female. Thanks so much! (link)
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She calls for two reasons. First, she cares deeply about you and your children. Secondly, she likes to be seen as independent but deep down is/must be rather lonely without her last husband.
She might not want to join groups out of fear she'll meet friends or maybe a man she feels attached to that may fade out of her life suddenly. Maybe the activities aren't what she enjoys to do to begin with. Ask her what she wants to do and help her do it.
50 years ago your mother put a lot of dreams, goals etc. etc. aside to raise you. That was HER time but she NEVER ever dreamed of thinking like that about you. It would have been entirely selfish to. I hate to say it but do you truly love your mother? ACT LIKE IT. Right now you and your husband come across as spoiled brats who can't see the good she once did for you.
If he doesn't like her that's fine but needs to be respectful. Your mother wants to be with her family and feels comfortable being with you and your kids. She may not live a lot longer. If you have room it's a small price to pay. You'll regret it when she's gone. Don't make a mistake.
This is your time? Once again pretty selfish and cold way to look at one's mother wanting to be in your life. Yes, you'll have to make a few sacrifices but I'm sure mom is old and wise enough to know when to make herself scarce so you, the kids and your husband can have downtime. I doubt very highly you'll be bending over backwards and at her beck and call 24/7
She's lonely, need support and hopefully by now you see that you owe her that much. She's held you up for 50 years.... surely you can put up with her for awhile and address what she needs.
There's no reason to be stressed as it can all be harmonious once you see that your motives are in fact the wrong ones. If you husband hates your mother tell him to suck it up. He's trying to manipulate you.
Your mother isn't self-centered but your husband sure sounds like it and sadly you do for agreeing with him. One of these days your mother will be dead. Don't wish then for the opportunities you have with her now and look back thinking you listened to him or others when you knew what was right all along direct inconvienence or not.
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my boyfriend admitted tonight that hes upset because he cant make me orgasm. it hurts me to be fingered, and we never have sex long enough to climax (he still lives at home and his parents sometimes interrupt).
i give him handjobs all the time, and it pleasures him, but he still doesnt know how to fully pleasure me. i keep reassuring him that i dont need him to pleasure me, but he really gets upset. maybe he feels like hes not doing his job or something? i dont know, im not in his head.
his friend mentioned that he should go down on me, and then i go down on him. he said it'll "drive me wild". i'm waaaaay iffy on oral sex. it took me forever just to get used to the idea of giving my boyfriend a handjob! and hes never seen my body before. im very modest and i guess a little old fashioned? i dont know how to prepare for that. i dont even know if i really want him down there...but i cant decide if i should give it a try or not.
can i get girls and boys opinions on this certain subject? if you're afraid you might get banned for answering a sex question, then just send me a private message.
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If you aren't sure whether or not to do this and are this uncomfortable it means DON'T. At least, don't yet. Instead, talk to him about what he's upset about and make sure he knows this isn't an issue. Aside from that there's not much you can do but tell him you don't think he's a lousy boyfriend.
The problem is with his head and his insecurities. Only he can convince himself that what you're telling him is true. You could also tell him that you're interested in oral sex but don't feel ready yet and want to talk, learn and decide on it in the future.
If you aren't prepared, don't want him to see or touch your body especially private parts than you aren't ready and shouldn't even attempt it. Trust what your gut tells you about sexual matters and don't rush. Right now you should read up about sexual practices together, get comfortable and plan things so you're safe and feel comfortable.
If you don't feel 100% that you want to do this or iffy or anything other than totally sure it's what you want do yourself a huge favor and don't. You'll regret it--believe me.
Also ask yourself if this is really the guy I want seeing my body and to be doing this with? Am I doing it just to satisfy his ego? You owe him nothing really including trying to make him feel secure sexually.
Also you say you know how to pleasure him but he doesn't for you. The problem may be as simple as communicating exactly what you want and instructing him in the moment. He's not likely to understand what to do. Remember you are the expert on your body and the female body and not him. He's trying to figure things out blindly.
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Alright, I'm 16 and not athletic at all. I hate sports with a burning passion. Not a big fan of getting all sweaty and I'm definitely not good at the whole "team player" thing. Lol, just not me.
But as of this year my school is requiring everyone to do some sort of physical something (like a sport or something) or else they have to take gym.
My question is do any of you have any suggestions about what I should do? The physical activity could be like swimming lessons or gymnastics or something.
My problem is that I'm 16 and have never actually played a sport. I took dance lessons like 6 years ago, but I doubt my parents would be keen on sending me back to dance. So I'd need something that's easy to pick up that I'd only really do for like two years until I graduate.
Thanks for the help in advance.
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Try kickboxing or one of the martial arts on for size. You'll get great exercise, lose weight if need be and learn how to defend yourself in all situations. While you will be with a group you move at your own pace and with their support.
That should be your choice if you hate most sports and teams. It's a wise investment too. You'll undoubtedly want to continue after graduation. The skills learned here may save your life or another's for that natter. It's very invaluable stuff.
The best thing you could do is take that as well as your swimming lessons to have a 4 or 5 day fitness routine and more than surpass what your school asks of you with the amount of hours.
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hey my friend has bulemia.. and i dont understand what happens. she doesnt eat around me and she says she can eat by herself but when she does she says she cant control herself and eats too much and ends up throwing up. she can still drink coffee though is that weird??
i dont understand she doesnt look like shes losing weight but shouldnt she be if shes not eating??? shes 18/55kg..why does she do it to herself?? cant she just stop if she wants to??
she says shes too scared to get help cos she has been battling since she was 16 but on and off, [[iv seen her eat when she didnt have it and its recently come back, this is the 2nd time iv seen her with it since we'v been friends and shes had it 4 times but the 1st was the worst time when she lost the most weight]]
her family doesnt know she has it again and im trying to get her to seek help by going to councilling but i know she doesnt want to go cos she is scared. she said she will if i am with her. what else can i do to help her??--thanx! (link)
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The only way you can help her is to speak to the adults in your family, at school or who know her about the truth. Unless you do this nobody can give her the medical help she needs. Why can't she stop? It's a disease and that's how it grips ahold of its victims. She would stop if she could but can't control this hurricane.
You should approach your teacher or guidance counsellor anonymously and tell them that you know she is eating tons of food and purging and is known to have suffered from bulemia in the past. Your friend will not know you spoke to them as a teacher might have noticed or someone else. Even if she did get upset there's secrets you can't keep such as this one that can endanger her.
Let your parents know as well. They can approach her parents with the concern that they know she's bingeing and purging or simply not eating and needs help. She needs help and you have to be responsible here. That's what a real friend would do no matter how difficult. Nobody said it was easy.
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whenever my boyfriend fingers me, it feels good and everything until it starts to feel good to the point where it becomes painful
if that makes sense
i mean i start breathing heavier and everything, and it feels like pressure building up
but never the release
anyone know why it starts to feel good to the point where it hurts?
and could it have anything to do with me being underweight (recovering from anorexia, which i heard affects your sex drive)
also when we've tried having sex, he doesn't "fit in"
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I think you need to describe the pain more so you get the best advice. Is it a stabbing pain or shooting pain? Does it always happen during sex or alone? If you think it's physical have a gynecologist check things out.
They're responsible for your reproductive health. Pain certainly isn't normal. As were not doctors and can't diagnose there's not much we can offer. There's only one other thing I think it could be.
If you're enjoying manual stimulation, or sex and are breathing heavier and then feel tremendous pressure to push down (or push at all) that's temporary and signs that the G-Spot is being hit and building to climax. That's the only other thing it may be. Like I said, concerned it's physical see a gynecologist.
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I'm able to orgasm by myself...but I can't with another guy. I've never been able to with somebody else.
Even the guy I've been with for two years, I will tell him exactly what I like, and how to go about doing it.. and then I just can't reach an orgasm. Usually I have to reach my climax by myself then have him finish it off, but I've never been able to reach a climax with somebody else.
There are only certain ways I can orgasm by myself though... I cant just lay down on my back and play with my clit and eventually orgasm. I've tried that and it didn't work. I tried finding the exact amount of pressure, even using a little lotion, and moving to the exact rhythm that felt best.. and it still hasn't worked.
The only way I can do it is kinda laying on my side with both hands against my clit and kinda moving body in a rhythm until my clit sorta rubs against my hands until I reach my climax.. other than that I can't do it.
During oral I can't, and while I'm being fingered I can't. And it's only through clitoral stimulation that I orgasm, I never orgasm just from penetration...and he's tried both penetration and oral.. everything..
so what's wrong with me?
How can I go about having an orgasm with him? It makes me feel cheated or something.. he tries so hard, and anyone else I've ever been with has tried hard, and it still doesn't work.
It'll work if I have 'dry-sex' with clothes on, because of all the friction, but other than that, direct skin to skin contact, or anything of that sort.. I just can't do it.
Any tips? If so, please be specific.. this has really been bothering me for awhile. Thank you so much... (link)
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I think your problem lies with putting too much pressure on yourself and him for that matter to have one. The vast majority of women can't orgasm through penetration or penis in vagina intercourse. They need a combination of manual, oral etc.
When it comes to reaching climax it occurs on its own and you can't force it or get all tense and wrapped up n that during sex or even when you're by yourself. Go with the flow when with a partner and relax. Eventually it will come.
There doesn't appear to be anything physically wrong with you. Obviously you can achieve orgasm and have done so through clitoral stimulation. If there was something wrong with you obviously you couldn't period.
It may be nerves and you putting too much pressure on yourself and your partner to achieve it that you can't enjoy yourself or let yourself totally go. It will happen in a moment when you are like that.
When it comes to sex you can try different positions and see if there is a difference or not. I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you but you could make an appointment with a gynecologist and tell them your frustrations. They could examine you and give guidance on what to try. Wish I could be more helpful.
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Next year, my younger sister will be joining me at high school. I am female, sixteen, from a religious family, and in the middle of the American South. The problem with my sister joining me at school is that I am an out bisexual everywhere except my home. I have a darling girlfriend at present who, though she does not attend the same school as me, is a frequent topic of conversation amongst me and my friends. My main concern is that my family and public life will mix. My mother is very religious and, though she has walked in on me with a woman (it was awkward), she has chosen to ignore it and try to set me up with her friends' sons. My father is unaware of this. What would be the best way to prevent my family finding out about who I really am? (link)
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I think you need to take your sister aside and tell her that this is a very private matter but you want her to know the truth before she hears or sees something. Inevitably she's going to.
Let her know it's up to you and not her to fill your parents and other family members in when it's right. Be who you are at school and with those in your circle that you trust.
What I would suggest is using the resources and groups at PFLAG (Parents Friends of Lesbians and Gays) to educate your parents and knock down anger and stereotypes as sooner or later they're going to have to deal with you being bi-sexual one way or another. Your mother knows but isn't ready to process it.
I understand how rigid some of the beliefs and religious teachings are in the South. Having said that you're their child and they have to accept (not embrace the lifestyle) you.
You can hide this but I wouldn't as one day it will have to come out. You should do it on your own terms with the support of your sister and mother and work on this as a family. Nothing changes except now they know. I think once they see that things will be fine.
As things progress gradually introduce them to your partner. Once they see how wonderful he and or she is their guard will come down and any hate or fear will fade. It'll be a struggle but hiding reality will only get you so far before you have to let them know. Start with your sister as she's bound to be more accepting. Let me know how things go for you.
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i have a very close friend who is sometimes physically abused by her mother. i, outside her nuclear family, am the only person who knows. her mother scratches at her skin and hits her, only on fridays so the marks will be gone by monday. she also yells at her far more than normal in front of me even and criticizes everything she does anywhere. my friend also is severly subservient as a consequence and apologizes for trivial things very frequently, among other things. i think these are signs of mental abuse, from being so traumatized. i would do something about it as soon as i found out, except that i think, and i know my friend thinks, it would cause more problems for her in the long run. we'll be off to college in one moe year. she also has a younger brother who undergoes the same. what should i do, if anything? (link)
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Situations like this escalate the longer they are allowed to continue. If her mother hits, claws, punches and leaves bruises what's to say it doesn't turn worse than that? Her mother has an inability to control herself.
When you were a little kid you learned rather fast that there are secrets you just don't keep. This is one of them. Tell your teacher, parents, guidance counselor to look for these bruises and ask questions. They can get it documented in photos etc and get her and her mother the help they needed. Not telling what you know will make things worse for your friend.
In the short term your friend might think this will cause problems but in the long run it won't. if you see that she's cracking under the stress and mentally not in good shape do something. It's the only right move to make. Nobody said it would be easy for you and for her.
If parents can abuse their kids due to whatever reason and lose all control not to stop themselves who is to say a situation couldn't lead to injury or even death. That's how a classmate of mine was murdered because people never told others what they knew or suspected.
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Ok so basically my sister gets everything that she wants...
Actually what happens is that evertime I finally get something I've been wanting forever, she suddenly thinks she should get it, too.
For instance, whenever I'm going out with friends or they're coming over, she always has to go out with her friends, too.
Or how I had to wait until 8th grade to wear makeup, and finally when my mom let me, my sister asked if she could wear makeup too (she's in 6th grade) and my mom said it was fine and she could use MY new makeup.
Also, she recently got grounded for a month (at least), and mom and dad STILL let her go over other people's houses, or her friend's coming over here, and go out shopping and go on the computer and stuff.
And just now (which really blew it) I had to wait until my 14th birthday to get a cellphone, right? And I've been asking for one for a long time. So I just recently upgraded my old phone, and now my sister gets to have my old phone! And she's only 12! She's sharing my bill of unlimited text and internet...
It's just all very frustrating. I work up the right to do things, and just when I get the privilege, she suddenly thinks she deserves it, too.
So I really need help on what to do and say. I've talked to it about my parents a lot but my dad always has excuses (ex. but this new phone won't cost anything, and it has to go somewhere) and my mom is just stuck on the idea that we get everything equally.
Also, I'd really appreciate if people didn't say things like "You're a spoiled little brat" or "She deserves that stuff, too" because I'd really rather not be yelled at about it anymore. And I also don't need the whole "She admires you by coping you" thing because that won't help at all.
Other than that any ideas will be appreciated.
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Your problem has nothing to do with the cell phone, her being grounded or the way she is or isn't disciplined by your parents. It's with RESENTMENT. You may not like being told this but deep down even you can see that you have a rotten relationship with and thought on her.
No matter what she does you'll find a way to see it negatively. Once you figure out why you truly are disgusted by her and work on developing a stronger relationship there's no issue.
When it comes to your cell phone your parents likely researched your plan and found that it would be good for her to have the other one as getting two phones on one deal works. You have unlimited text and even sharing with her won't take away from what you have.
When it comes to makeup be helpful and show her what to do but have them get her own kit. It's not healthy to share makeup either.
The reason everything is distributed equally is that it wouldn't be fair to either of you if it wasn't. They can't let two kids near the same age not get something the other has because of the problems it will cause.
Nobody is calling you a spoiled brat at all. We just want you to see it from another perspective and not let this stuff about privleges and rights come into it. Yes, you don't want to hear it but neither of you have a right to any of this stuff but should be thankful for what you do in fact get. Most kids don't.
And yes, she's 12-year-old and wants to be like the big kids and a teenager. You used to feel like that too. There must be something she likes about you and being around you that you don't see.
Try a little love and curb the anger and see how strong a bond you can get with her. You'll need it later. She's struggling with puberty, crushes, being accepted and you've been through that. She wants everything you've got just to look cool as that's what you appear like to her. It's an image and identity thing. She's not copying but rather emulating you.
You're going to have to learn to like her better and ignore certain faults. You have no choice but to go along with what your parents say regarding her as it's not going to change. She needs more attention from them than you do.
You're fighting because of the proximity in age most likely and different personalities. All of this really is nothing as long as you drop the anger you're fine. There is no problem. Really!
It's classic sibling rivalry and perhaps a touch envy on her part. It's easily dealt with if you work together to get past it and see that your parents are trying to maintain peace by making everything equal.
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For as long as I can remember, I've had these awfully annoying sensations in my ear when I lay on my side. It feels as if something is falling through my ear canal very slowly and is usually associated with slight crackling noises.
Sometimes if I lay on my side long enough, I'll get small spasms/twinges in my feet and/or lower legs. Sometimes in an attempt to relieve these sensations I'll stick my pinky in my ear briefly, and after I do, I notice a little bit of fluid is in my ear
Despite the feeling that something is going to come out of my ear, nothing has in years. I remember something small and clear coming out of one of my years ago after experiencing this, but I was too young to really think anything of it.
I've described this to both of my parents (I'm 16) and neither seem to have any clue as to what I'm talking about. Doctors have looked into my ears briefly when I went to the doctor for sinus infections, but they haven't expressed any apparent abnormality.
I'm just incredibly frustrated, because these sensations make it very hard for me to sleep and lay comfortably. I'm looking for an answer as to what this could possibly be or what kind of doctor I should go see when looking for relief. I've tried Google and what I'm describing seems to be unprecedented.
Thank you!
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What you need to do is see an ear, nose and throat specialist. Describe how this has progressed for years and mention the ear fluid and that you saw something weird come out of them once.
This may not be a problem as lots of people get fluid in their ears and have pops, crackles, momentary deafness in one ear etc. It could just be that but if it's eating at you have it checked by a specialist. They'll catch whatever a regular doctor may have missed.
This could also have something to with posture and always laying a certain way. It seems to always happen then. Stop doing that and see what happens. Also mention this to the doctor.
We aren't doctors and nor are sites found through Google. They can't diagnose and nor can we. If you see a specialist they'll find the root of the problem if in fact there is one.
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well i have this pimple looking thing on the inside my right lip near my clitorous and it hurts. i am a virgin, but i do masterbate, is it jus because my hands mihgt not have always been clean? or is it something serious..HELP (link)
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We can't diagnose what this might be. We aren't doctors and not having seen it cannot hazard a guess. It does sound strange and should be seen to by a gynecologist who is the only person who can tell you what it is. I doubt it's life-threatening. The fact it hurts means it needs to be seen to.
Unless you had extremely long nails that could rip, tear or cause this it's not what did. Same thing with jagged objects. You should always have clean hands but masturbation and or being vigorous and this issue in all probability have zero to do with eachother.
Talk to your mom about it and see to a doctor looking to see what's happening. That's the best way to deal with things.
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18/F So basically, I want to become more conservative with how I dress...and beyond that live a pure life. (Do charity...speak kindly to others.) What is a religion I could get involved in? But, the tricky part is: I don't really care to read or devote my life to a book. (torah, koran or bible) I just want to find a group of people who try to make a difference in their community and have values. Thanks for any suggestions! (link)
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You answered your own question but probably didn't realize. You don't need to believe in God or even be affiliated with a religious or other organization to live purely.
It's NOT about scripture, beliefs or what church you go to. It's an attitude and core belief to do good for others through whatever means you can. You can speak kindly to others, do charitable things etc. with that.
Believe me a lot of people who devote themselves to church or studying scripture are also the most judgmental. It's not the church or the book to totally devote oneself with but its principles and you have that in spades.
If you want to study religion later learn about each through research and find which one matches up to your way of life. No wrong choices. Don't rush. Keep on doing what you are doing. Live the attitude and values you have. A lot of religious types can't do that and put what is in their books into practice.
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This is gonna sound like a stupid question, but do guys really care about how much a girl weighs? i'm definiely not the skinniest person but i think i am really pretty. im also a really nice person, with a great sense of humor. but im 21 years old, and ive never had a boyfriend. so do guys really only care about looks? (link)
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The only stupid question is the one that remains unasked. If someone doesn't want to date you because you have a few extra pounds on you than they're the ones with the problem. You know that you are pretty, funny and nice and that's all that counts.
Looks don't matter unless your appearance is always disheveled or looks like you aren't taking care of yourself. From what you have stated you aren't grossly overweight at all. You're fine.
Guys might not know how to speak to you if you appear shy and aren't outgoing. You have to show them you're interested and initiate conversation. If you like someone invite them to a party, flick or coffee. You'll be surprised at who says yes.
Age and dating don't matter. The fact you have never had a date at 21-years-old bodes well for you. You won't have to deal with immature teenagers and mind games. You'll likely find a real man.
Join clubs, take classes etc. and go where you can meet new people. It might take a while months, a few years etc. but you will attract someone who is right. Even if you are 30 and haven't ever dated that's not an issue. We all experience certain things at the right time.
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Okay so I've been looking for a car for awhile now and I found a 2002 Ford explorer with 127,000 Miles on it for $5,500. its been owned by one person and looks great. Is that a reasonable price for that kind of car? And if its been taken care of and I continue to take good care of it, how many miles would I be able to get out of it? Thanks in advance =] (link)
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Always take the car to your own mechanic. They'll check everything and either certify the car or not. If anything is amiss they'll tell you and the dealer what is and it's up to the dealer to replace it.
I also recommend that you read Lemon Aid's used Car guide and the page on Ford Explorer and the 2002 model. You'll know from that all the problems this model has, hidden warranty and or recalls. 127,000 Miles is a lot.
If it were me I would pass and find a Honda, Hyundaii, Nissan, Suzuki, KIA, Toyota, ACURA, Infiniti in your price range. You don't want a FORD, Saturn or GM manufactured car. American cars are too risky right now. With those companies and especially Chrysler going bankrupt don't touch 'em. Parts over time may be harder to come by for earlier models.
Japanese cars typically have better miles to the gallon or KM to the liter than American and better quality ad safety standards. That said if you have your heart on this one have your own mechanic look at it or don't buy. If the dealer refuses that run. It means they know there is something wrong with it.
Also please test the car to see if it's been in a wreck and rebuilt. You'll know it has because steering will be difficult and you'll have to wrestle a bit. The car will favor leaning to one side or the other.
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I am a full-time college student, and I need a part-time job. The problem is that I have not worked in a long time. I'm afraid that the only places that will hire me are fast food jobs. The jobs I had in the past I did not have very long. I had a job for nine months once, and that is the longest I have stayed at one job. I realize this sounds horrible to employers, but there's nothing I can do about my past.
My question is this: How can I make myself sound employable in an interview? How can I make myself look employable in an application. It's highly unlikely that I'll be looking at any jobs that require resumes. I just don't know how to make myself sound like a good employee when I haven't worked much. I've always been pretty terrible at looking for/getting jobs. Please help me, because I don't really want to work at McDonalds with the fourteen year olds. (link)
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When you speak to employers focus on your education, what you are studying and how the money is to go for university. If you sell them on your passion and then explain that you haven't wanted to work because you're focused on and at school it will help you.
You should try to work at a bookstore, library, coffee shop or restaurant for starters. They're not big on needing experience depending upon what kind of restaurant. Libraries are also good places to try as you can do research for patrons, clerical work etc.
You also need to consider places that have high turnaround with staff. They rely on college students and high school students to become employees and then release those who go back to school and you can stay on. Try movie theaters as a box office attendant. Even if you work as an usher it's okay. People on concessions also get bonuses.
There's an abundance of those jobs and yes even though they hire high school kids too there will be people your age and maybe if an employer sees you have the skills to be a manager or supervisor you could be.
If you can swim and have all your courses to be a lifeguard you might be able to get a job at a community pool and or teach. That's a job you can do without an employer really.
You could also create your own company and or join an established place that needs cleaning staff for offices and homes.
These are just a few random items. I'm sure you'll have have many ideas after you receive more answers too.
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I'm in 10th grade and we are going to be dissecting frogs, starfish, and i think something else soon. I really don't think I can handle doing it. First, I love animals, and in 7th grade when we did it, as soon as I saw it, I started crying, and had to leave the room. That's my first reason I can't do it. I also don't really believe in it either. Some one told me that they like find them dead, they don't kill them. Which honestly, to me sounds like a complete lie. I'm assuming they breed them and kill them. But, anyway.. I also hate cutting things open, seeing all their organs and everything, I have a weak stomach and can't handle it. I don't want to do it, I told my science teacher I didn't think I'd be able to handle it, and he said "well whose your lab partner" and I told him how it was this one girl, who never ever comes to school. and he didn't say anything. It going to be worth a lot of points. Has anyone had this problem? How do I get out of this assignment? Has anyone ever heard of an alternate one? I need help on what to say. (link)
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Like the previous poster said you don't have to do anything at all you feel wrong about doing. They can threaten to fail you etc. etc. but it's your right not to participate.
The teacher nor the school can fail you period or screw up your grade. How do you get out of it? Tell your parents how you feel. Next go to the town or city office and get a letter or form stating this violates your religious or core beliefs. Once you have that letter notorized by them there isn't a bloody thing they can do.
That's what you need to do get an official document that bars them from doing anything or make you take a tumble in points. Also, a compromise can be made as there are tons of computer programs out there showing what the insides and dissection of animals reveals. Tell your school to get one.
Things like crayfish, starfish are usually dead but frogs etc. aren't. You more or less put them to sleep with a cotton swab and some kind of drug and then kill them with what they've told you to do. Take a stand and don't back down.
Like I said go to the town or city office tell them what you need. I believe it's the clerk's department that does it but they'll help guide you to the right person. Nobody can do anything to you or make you do it after that. A plain old letter from mom and dad won't do it with these people. Trust me. It's the only thing they take seriously.
More or less it's legal wording that tells them where to go about forcing you to do something you find wrong. They can get in so much shit for ignoring it and therefore they can't. It's your rights being trampled if they did and that can wind up in a legal problem for them for violating it. Teachers, principals etc won't take you seriously without said document.
The document exempts you from that class either permanently or for a certain time because they are teaching something contrary to your beliefs that you want no part of. Usually this letter is obtained by those who don't want their kids taking health, receiving vaccinations, dental screenings by the school or anything against their culture, religions, principles.
Also if you know of anybody that is a lawyer they could draft such a note as well. Use these ideas if the school just won't budge. Get your parents involved now so it doesn't come to getting notes like those.
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