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bruised friend
i have a very close friend who is sometimes physically abused by her mother. i, outside her nuclear family, am the only person who knows. her mother scratches at her skin and hits her, only on fridays so the marks will be gone by monday. she also yells at her far more than normal in front of me even and criticizes everything she does anywhere. my friend also is severly subservient as a consequence and apologizes for trivial things very frequently, among other things. i think these are signs of mental abuse, from being so traumatized. i would do something about it as soon as i found out, except that i think, and i know my friend thinks, it would cause more problems for her in the long run. we'll be off to college in one moe year. she also has a younger brother who undergoes the same. what should i do, if anything?
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You should tell someone. Your friend would regret it when she is older, and looking back knowing she didn't do anything about it. What will happen to her little brother when she is off to college? He wont have anyone to go to, and it will just be him all alone.
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I was being abused and my mother attempted to even kill me once or twice, and I had a friend who convinced me to call the police and it was the best thing that happened to me. She saved my life.
If you really care about her and you KNOW she's being abused; call. the. police. She does not deserve to be abused at all. Even if she's going to college, that's one more year of being abused she doesn't deserve.
Her sibling is being abused, too, and that should be the final line. He's younger, and he'll be just as traumatized as her. Their mother even has a game plan of WHEN to abuse and scream at her children. My dear, that is a very, very, very sick woman.
You could possibly save your friends life and her brothers by calling the police.
Also, if she's suffering from not only physical, but also mental abuse, then people could help her get therapy to straighten her out.
Talk to her about these things before you do anything drastic, though.
Please think what I have said through.
Hope I helped and good luck<3 :)
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Situations like this escalate the longer they are allowed to continue. If her mother hits, claws, punches and leaves bruises what's to say it doesn't turn worse than that? Her mother has an inability to control herself.
When you were a little kid you learned rather fast that there are secrets you just don't keep. This is one of them. Tell your teacher, parents, guidance counselor to look for these bruises and ask questions. They can get it documented in photos etc and get her and her mother the help they needed. Not telling what you know will make things worse for your friend.
In the short term your friend might think this will cause problems but in the long run it won't. if you see that she's cracking under the stress and mentally not in good shape do something. It's the only right move to make. Nobody said it would be easy for you and for her.
If parents can abuse their kids due to whatever reason and lose all control not to stop themselves who is to say a situation couldn't lead to injury or even death. That's how a classmate of mine was murdered because people never told others what they knew or suspected.
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