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orgasm
I'm able to orgasm by myself...but I can't with another guy. I've never been able to with somebody else.
Even the guy I've been with for two years, I will tell him exactly what I like, and how to go about doing it.. and then I just can't reach an orgasm. Usually I have to reach my climax by myself then have him finish it off, but I've never been able to reach a climax with somebody else.
There are only certain ways I can orgasm by myself though... I cant just lay down on my back and play with my clit and eventually orgasm. I've tried that and it didn't work. I tried finding the exact amount of pressure, even using a little lotion, and moving to the exact rhythm that felt best.. and it still hasn't worked.
The only way I can do it is kinda laying on my side with both hands against my clit and kinda moving body in a rhythm until my clit sorta rubs against my hands until I reach my climax.. other than that I can't do it.
During oral I can't, and while I'm being fingered I can't. And it's only through clitoral stimulation that I orgasm, I never orgasm just from penetration...and he's tried both penetration and oral.. everything..
so what's wrong with me?
How can I go about having an orgasm with him? It makes me feel cheated or something.. he tries so hard, and anyone else I've ever been with has tried hard, and it still doesn't work.
It'll work if I have 'dry-sex' with clothes on, because of all the friction, but other than that, direct skin to skin contact, or anything of that sort.. I just can't do it.
Any tips? If so, please be specific.. this has really been bothering me for awhile. Thank you so much...
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I think your problem lies with putting too much pressure on yourself and him for that matter to have one. The vast majority of women can't orgasm through penetration or penis in vagina intercourse. They need a combination of manual, oral etc.
When it comes to reaching climax it occurs on its own and you can't force it or get all tense and wrapped up n that during sex or even when you're by yourself. Go with the flow when with a partner and relax. Eventually it will come.
There doesn't appear to be anything physically wrong with you. Obviously you can achieve orgasm and have done so through clitoral stimulation. If there was something wrong with you obviously you couldn't period.
It may be nerves and you putting too much pressure on yourself and your partner to achieve it that you can't enjoy yourself or let yourself totally go. It will happen in a moment when you are like that.
When it comes to sex you can try different positions and see if there is a difference or not. I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you but you could make an appointment with a gynecologist and tell them your frustrations. They could examine you and give guidance on what to try. Wish I could be more helpful.
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Try Purchasing a Pull Down Shower Head With Several Pulse & Pressure Settings, you'll know where to put it and irreguardless it will have you off in seconds. Or find a hottub or jucuzzi with jets and you'll know how to handle the rest :) Hope I helped
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