hey! (:
okay well my question is about handjobs. im with this guy that i RLY like and he like actually loves me. hes shown me love and cared for me like no one else ever and ive been with a lot of guys. anyway that leads to i want to go a little farther with him. hes fingered me and ive touched his penis but i havent actually given him a handjob. i really want to but i feel clueless. hes experienced and im not.. haha. we mean the world to each other and really have a future so i feel like if i do it'll be something really special for us. he keeps telling me i dont have to and that if i do itll be amazing just because its me.. but i want it to be legit good too haha. he tells me that no matter what i do he'll love it but can you give me some pointers? i want to know what feels super good to guys cus i have no idea. the head of the penis has the most nerves, right? and i know i hold tightly onto it and move my hand up and down but im sure other girls do other little things to make it better and stuff. and also he takes a while to cum even if hes super turned on like whether hes doing it or a girl is so what do i do to make it feel good for a good amount of time and maybe help him go a little faster? lol, cus id rather it not take tooo long. :P thank you so much! i just need some instruction and pointers haha.
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category? Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions? blwinteler answered Sunday May 24 2009, 6:41 pm: Well, it is hard to go wrong. Most guys are happy to just get one.
I do have some pointers.
First, lubricate. Use lotion, vaseline, ky, or your saliva (you can just lick your hand). No lubricant is ok if it isn't going to last long. Otherwise, friction will get uncomfortable (think indian burn).
Vary the touch. Use your fingertips to lightly stroke the whole length a few times, then grip firmly for a bit. Use both hands to completely wrap his penis up and firmly stroke up and down. Or, use one hand to stroke his penis and with the other cup his balls. Just behind the balls, if you put a little pressure, you'll get a reaction. That is as close as you can get to the male g-spot without fingering him in a place a lot of guys are uncomfortable being fingered.
What will really make it great is pretty simple:
Enjoy what you are doing. What kind of touch do you like? Sure, you don't have the same parts, but the touches are similar. The way he touches you (firm or soft, fast or slow, etc) usually will reflect what he likes.
Anyway, I hope that helps and doesn't get booted from the site for being too graphic.
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coconutcatastrophe answered Sunday May 24 2009, 4:45 pm: haha well there's really not much to it. you said you touched his penis before so just do the same thing only move your hand up and down. yea the head of the penis has the most nerves but its also really sensitive so you don't wanna be too hard up there. and also make sure your nails don't go anywhere near it, cut them if you have to. just be gentle and glide your hand up and down, thats really all it is. good luck ;) haha. [ coconutcatastrophe's advice column | Ask coconutcatastrophe A Question ]
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