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how can i help my friend with BULEMIA?? sorry its so long.
hey my friend has bulemia.. and i dont understand what happens. she doesnt eat around me and she says she can eat by herself but when she does she says she cant control herself and eats too much and ends up throwing up. she can still drink coffee though is that weird??
i dont understand she doesnt look like shes losing weight but shouldnt she be if shes not eating??? shes 18/55kg..why does she do it to herself?? cant she just stop if she wants to??
she says shes too scared to get help cos she has been battling since she was 16 but on and off, [[iv seen her eat when she didnt have it and its recently come back, this is the 2nd time iv seen her with it since we'v been friends and shes had it 4 times but the 1st was the worst time when she lost the most weight]]
her family doesnt know she has it again and im trying to get her to seek help by going to councilling but i know she doesnt want to go cos she is scared. she said she will if i am with her. what else can i do to help her??--thanx!
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one of my best friends had this for two years. it was so sad, and it got to the point we were scared for life and it was to either temporarily lose her as a friend, and tell someone, or lose her for good. her parents aernt really "parents" to her. they dont really notice her, you know, theyre just not around. so she did a good job hiding it from them. first of all, i think you should do a little bit off google researching on what bulimea is and what ways you can help her. because it seems like you dont really understand the illness. this is a PSYCHOLOGICAL disorder... no body that has it, actually wants to have it. it becomes an addiction, and a cycle, and it takes control over your mind, and it's very hard to stop. she may want to stop, but it's not all that easy. ( go read up about it, theres waaaaay more to it).... and she may not begin to lose weight for a while. my friend actually was kind of big, & she didnt start losing the weight till about 6 months later. it depends how often they are purging, and also on their body type. also, it might not be bulemia. its only bulemia if she is MAKING herself throw her food up. you can help her by talking to her about it. research research research and let her know the serious dangers of it, and let her know that if she doesnt let you help her to go talk to someone and get help, then her life will be at stake. you reeeeally should tell one of her parents. wheather shes going to be mad at you or not, she'll thank you in the end when you saved her life, trust me. whatever you decide to do though, PLEAAAAASE dont let this pass you by.. cus if in the end, something happens, you'll have the guilt that you could have easily prevented it..
hope i helped and good luck!!!(:
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The only way you can help her is to speak to the adults in your family, at school or who know her about the truth. Unless you do this nobody can give her the medical help she needs. Why can't she stop? It's a disease and that's how it grips ahold of its victims. She would stop if she could but can't control this hurricane.
You should approach your teacher or guidance counsellor anonymously and tell them that you know she is eating tons of food and purging and is known to have suffered from bulemia in the past. Your friend will not know you spoke to them as a teacher might have noticed or someone else. Even if she did get upset there's secrets you can't keep such as this one that can endanger her.
Let your parents know as well. They can approach her parents with the concern that they know she's bingeing and purging or simply not eating and needs help. She needs help and you have to be responsible here. That's what a real friend would do no matter how difficult. Nobody said it was easy.
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