about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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okay you know what, i like this guy and umm lets see i told my friends to tell him about it and then they was all like no tell him yourself, and so now im writing him a note cuz i never see him but do you think its stalkery???

Thanks for inboxing!

Well, you've never seen or talked to him?
In my opinion, that's a bit odd, to like someone when you've never even spoken to them. Why no try talking to him first, so he at least knows who you are? Or at least smile or wave at him, to get his attention and for him to know you a bit.
Good Luck!

- Laura. (15-f)

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Hello =]
Whats your favourite party theme and why ?

I personally like the 50's/60's/70's.


Why? Because I love the music!
Motown music, like The Supremes, and Jackson 5.
I love it. And the times were just so much more carefree than they are today. It makes me happy just thinking about it.
Also, it's fun to decorate.
Jukeboxes and records! =D


-Laura. (15-f)

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alright.. so ever since i told my boyfriend that i wanted to wait awhile to have sex.. it seems like things have really changed.. when we first started dating he always called me and when we were together he would tell me that im beautiful and sweet and perfect.. he even told me that he loved me.. but now he NEVER says nething like that.. do you tihnk its because of sex? i mean i know a lot of you girls out there have boyfriends.. and dont oyu think its weird if your boyfriend came over .. played his psp for an hr and then said he had to leave in an hr to play cards.. and said that he would call you later.. and doesnt call you the next day til 3:30? and then we talked at 3:30 for about 5 min and he said he would call me back and he never did so i started callin him around 8:30 and i called him like 6 times before he picked up and was like hey im playin cards and the call was lost.. and i tried to call him back like 5 but he never answered and hasnt called me back? am i just being too obsessive or what bc this really seems like not enough effort to be in a relationship with me.. please help i hate this feeling :(

We actually just talked about this in health today! =]

I would talk to him about it. Just ask him if he's feeling awkward/shy/upset/embaressed or however he's feeling about the sex issue. That's really the best thing you can do, is talk to him.

And make sure to explain to him that you aren't ready to have sex. Then tell him why. Tell him you just aren't ready, and that you don't want to risk getting pregnant at your age. Just let him know it's not him, it's the fact that you want to wait, and he should respect that.

It's perfectly fine to want to wait, too.
More girls should be like you, and not give in so easy when their boyfriends ask them for sex.


- Laura. (15-f)

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see my old best friend hates my new best friend what should i do

Get them together and just talk it out.
Try to see why they dislike each other, from both points of view, and then try to resolve the issues at hand.
Go out with both of them, someplace they'll both like. If they both like to mini golf, then go mini golfing. If they both like shopping, go shopping. Get it?
Find a common ground between them, something they both enjoy. This way, they'll be having fun together and with you. Good Luck! =]


- Laura. (15-f)

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Okay, so my hair is medium, closer to dark brown hair. Its a little lower than my....chest....and its really thick and wavy, sometimes pretty curly. I also have layers, and they are kinda long, cause i need to be able to put my hair in a bun for dance.

So im looking for something new i can try. my face is kinda squarish, so i think sidebangs would look weird? any ideas? thanks!

Are you planning on cutting it lengthwise, too?
I also think sidebangs would look fine. You never know until you try =]

Lengthwise, how about shoulder length, like this:

http://www.connectstores.com/wigsrusltd/images/SamanthaRP2514SB06.jpg


Bangs wise, how about something like:

http://i165.photobucket.com/albums/u78/katxxoxxo_x3/100_4770.jpg

http://i165.photobucket.com/albums/u78/katxxoxxo_x3/slkfdj.jpg


I think her hair is really cute!



Or maybe something like:
http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u248/whitpay/Scene%20Hair/6becaad4.jpg


The bangs, not the length of the hair. I like that style, too.


Hope it helps! =]
- Laura. (15-f)

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i really want a new hair style, and i love the emo hair cut. i want pictures! lots and lots of pictures!!!! thanks!!!!

Well, you didn't specify boy or girl, but
something like these? (If not let me know):

http://i68.photobucket.com/albums/i31/pcompaq/emo%20hair/456_.jpg

http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u248/whitpay/Scene%20Hair/emo67.jpg

http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u248/whitpay/Scene%20Hair/msg-115770102511.jpg

http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u248/whitpay/Scene%20Hair/1469668813_l.jpg

http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u248/whitpay/Scene%20Hair/1337431835_l.jpg

http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u248/whitpay/Scene%20Hair/787148573_l.jpg

http://i170.photobucket.com/albums/u248/whitpay/Scene%20Hair/f.jpg

http://i175.photobucket.com/albums/w145/cheezemeplease/emo.jpg

http://i195.photobucket.com/albums/z152/emo_tears2007/5956626-1.jpg

http://i200.photobucket.com/albums/aa67/MyBloodyHands/hair46.jpg

http://i155.photobucket.com/albums/s282/elle1340/hottmanyehaa.jpg


Hope it helps =]
- Laura (15-f)

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Last night around 5 my mom put highlights in my hair. and she said not to wash or straighten my hair this morning. she said she thought it would be ok tomorrow morning to go back to my routine and wash dry and straighten, anybody that has put highlights in there hair know if that would be ok?
thanks in advance

I had highlights a while back and I washed my hair the night I got them. They were perfectly fine afterwards. Though I don't know abou straightening, as I didn't try it.


- Laura. (15-f)

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Is there any way to find out what song someone has even if its hidden, other then asking them. Because i really want to know this song, and i looked on google, and i cant find it, and ive asked the person and they wont tell me. So can you figure out the song even if its hidden

Exposedspace.com ;]


- Laura. (15-f)

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is there anyway to not sweat so much...during sports i sweat like crazy and its soo gross. pleazzz help

Drink lots of water,
and use an extra strength deodarent (sp?)
Try using one that is both an
antipersperant and a deodarent (sp?)
hope it helps!


-Laura. (15-f)

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But I don't know how to carry the convo over just saying hi like what things to talk about

Ask her how her day was/is going.
Talk about the types of music you like.
Ask her if she has plans this weekend.
Ask her how school is going.
Talk about movies you like.
Talk about something going on around you.
Talk about things you like, and see if she likes them too.
Just bring up something random, like the weather, and let it go from there.
Just be yourself, and you'll be fine =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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Well I gotten no note or any word about my question to her, I saw her on Tuesday at class and we talked about work and school but not the subject of the note. We joke around a little about other stuff and she seems herself in a happy mood. The thing is I am thinking if she did read the letter or not. I hand it to her and she open it to read but I told her to read it later and she said okay and in the note I said write me back as soon as you can. It’s been 4 days that she had the letter why didn’t she give me a reply back? At least she can just write me back about it instead of not saying anything. I didn’t ask her if she read it but what should I do wait for her reply or ask her? I just want a simple yes or no not an answer of not saying anything.

Maybe she is consdering what to say or how to say it. Give her a little more time, maybe a few more days.


If she doesn't respond in a few days, then either write her another letter or just ask her about it. Just casually hint at it, like, "So have you read the letter I gave to you?"


Good Luck =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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Is it weird for a 9th grade girl to date an 8th grade boy? I rate and thanks so much!

Not at all =]


- Laura. (15-f)

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okay so im 14 and most of my friends hav gotten fingered, eaten out, gave hjs and bjs, but ive only made out... like its just not my style. i only like to really makeout if i like the person.i just dont know when im ready to give a hj or bjor anything related to that. any advice/opinions would be great :]

Guess what? I'm 15 and in the same boat, kind of. A lot of people I know are like, "Omg I gave this guy a blowjob, then this guy was eating me out!"


Totally NOT my style either. I agree with you and I'm glad to see there are more people like me. I don't even see the appeal in blowjobs, or handjobs. But maybe that's just me.


And I agree with the person below me who said the girls you know probaly didn't even do it to guys they love. Don't worry about what other people are doing. As long as you're happy with yourself, the actions others are taking shouldn't matter. They will regret it one day, like the person below me also said. And you won't have anything like that to regret, because you're not gonig around giving blowjobs to ranomd guys you probably won't even talk to in a year.



- Laura. (15-f)

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is it ok for a girl to ask a guy to homecoming?

Totally. It shows you're brave enough to actually ask a guy =]

-Laura. (15-f)

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I am freaking out again, I gave her the note and when I hand it in she said nothing but she open it right in front of me I got all red and told her to not read it yet she said “okay“ and she put it away. I gave her the note on Thursday, I will see her on Tuesday at math class and I don’t know if she will tell me or hand me a note. I am afraid of her answer I am afraid she might not like me more than a friend and/or might like me more than a friend. If it is yes she does like me what shall I do? I am never a good romantic and I know I will laugh if we do get in that stage (nervous laughter). But if she doesn’t like me than I will try to get over her and move on and be happy for her when she meets someone that will love her. What ever the answer is I just can’t wait to find out. I just hope that we will still be best friends no matter what the answer will be.

Before I gave the note last week on Monday she called me I wasn’t near my phone but she left me a message saying “I had a bad weekend but it was still okay, I cant wait to see you tomorrow” on that Tuesday I ask how was her weekend and she said “boring” and that was the end of the conversation well I guess she couldn’t wait to see me.

Ps I will keep you updated, thank you again

Hello again =]

Do not freak out! It's ok to be worried, but don't let it eat away at you like this. It's not good for you.


I can't tell you how she will respond, as I am not her. The best thing I can tell you, is to stay calm with her. Be patient, and don't put pressure on her to answer a certain way.


If she says she can't wait to see you, though, then it seems to me (though I could be wrong) that she's feeling something for you. Why not try a relationship (IF she wants one)? You've got nothing left to lose, and everything to gain! I think it would make you both happier, and it would build a stronger foundation for your friendship.


But for now, just find something to keep you busy. I know how nervewrecking it is waiting for something big like this. Just go read a book, take a walk, bake some cookies, or something like that.

Hope all goes well and definently keep me updated!


- Laura. (15-f)

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Hi, i am 14 and i have just started high school two weeks ago. I am in a new school, and only a few of my friends are here with me. I have some new good friends and i know my way my around the school. I have a problem though. In my math and drama class, i only know about two people. Everyone else in the class is friends with eachother and hang amongst themselves. My friend and I are alone, while everyone else is in their groups, talking and everything. We would try and sit and meet them, but they are not good people. Almost all the girls are bitches and the boys, well their always talking about sports or girls. I dont know, we seem like such loners in the class, but we really dont want to be involved with bad people, we are way smarter then that. That is in my drama class. Now, in my math class, i know about two people but they sit ahead of me and i sit around the back like a loner while everyone sits and talks with their old friends. Please, i need some adivce! What should i do? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you

I asked another columist this question as well.

Hi && thanks for inboxing!

Well, I had this problem in my French 2 class. I didn't know anyone except 2 people!
I just started talking to the people around me, and now I'm totally comfortable in that class.


I also have this problem in science class. I don't know a single person. But today actually, I started to join the conversations of those around me. I'm hoping now I won't feel so alone.


Overall, like I said, just start talking to people around you and you should be fine =]


- Laura. (15-f)

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Ahh! I have my school picture coming up and i have no idea what to wear or what to do with my hair. My hair is about an inch or two below my shoulders. Any ideas?

I'm about 16 by the way. (10th grade)

I'm in 10th grade also, and just had pictures. I straightened my hair, wore a solid dark green sweater, and pearls.


My adivce? Do something nice with your hair (straighten or curl) and wear a solid colored, plain shirt. Such a a sweater, polo, or button up shirt that doesn't clash with whatever the background color of your picture will be.
So if you're background is blue, don't wear a blue shirt.
Then, add a nice necklace, but nothing too out there. Something simple, like pearls.


Good Luck =]



-Laura. (15-f)

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Okay i just got a betta fish, and i have two questions.

I need a name for HIM. He is all white.. kinda
creamy but all white. And all my friends can come up with is Scotch, i kinda want it to be creative.. no just like MARK or somehting.


And is it true that you can feed betta fish anything really.. like any type of fish food or do they need the special BETTA fish food??

thanks. ill rt.


I've had a few Betta fishes in my life.
My most recent one was named Stinky =D
I don't even know who that came to be his name.
Just think of a word you like or something funny and you've got a name!


I fed them all Beta fish food that I found at the local petshop, too.


-Laura. (15-f)



p.s. now you've made me want to run out and get a new fish =D

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i want a guy to have enough balls to answer this

why are you all such pigs????
do you ever like a girl for her personality!!!!
and why is it impossible for girls like me who have a big chest and nice body to walk into a room and not be harrassed like a slab of meat!!!!!!!!!!!!
do any of you have your own personalities or are you all just clones of your damn friends !!!!!
r there no decent guys out their!!!!!!!!!!
prove to me that u r actually decent human beings who r sensitive and care!!!!!!













I answered a question like this before, and I'm going to repeat myself.


Not all guys are pigs.
Some are nice and actually care about what we have to say. Don't believe me?
Here's an example:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=CuxMiBeckNow7


Jack's one of the few good guys in this world. It's guys like him that totally prove your assumption wrong.


I know, a lot of guys are immature jerks, but they honestly aren't all like that. Just try and find a good guy who likes you for who you are and doesn't care about your chest size or any other physical aspect.
There are some guys who like girls for their personalities out there. These are the type of guys I associate myself with. If you have a large chest and a good body, guys probably like it, therefore teasing you to show interest? I don't know, maybe.
Just tell them to shut up and stop being immature pigs.
But like I said, there are decent guys out there (like Jack) and I'm sure you'll find one!


Good Luck! =]



-Laura. (15-f)

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Ok....do any of ya'll guys out there do anything sweet for your girlfriends....stuff "just because"...not for any particular reason. If so what do you do? And for the girls.......what have your boyfriends done for you?

Hold her hand when you're walking with her.
Text her saying "goodnight & I love you".
Take pictures with her in the photobooth.
Make her random cards/drawings.
Give her your jacket to wear.
Give her flowers.

Those are my favorites =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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