about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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My iPod lists music alphabetically, but for some reason, songs that begin with a number are always last.. (For example, a song called "13 Stars" would come after "xepher", or something..) ..And it's really annoying.

Is there any way to get the iPod to list songs in numerical order BEFORE the songs in alphabetical order? Or is my iPod just broken?

No you iPod is not broken. The new iTunes just organizes the songs differently. Mine is the same way. Try clicking "Song title" above your first song in iTunes. That will reorder them.


-Laura. (15-f)

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I've been buying heels lately and trying to break them in but I just hate it. When I wear them out I always end up bloody-heeled. It always skins the back of my foot and I have to take them off. I try to wear band-aids with them but they always slide off. Its inevitable... I always get my heels cut up! I step on the backs of the shoes to make them softer but still... OUCH!!

Any tips??

They may be too small.
Try a half size or
a whole size bigger.


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http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=ort9j4&s=2

okay, what type of bird is that? I think they're doves, but someone else says swallows or sparrows. idk, is it possible to tell?

It's not really possible to know, because they are cartoonish. You'd have to ask the original artist, which you probably won't be able to find =/


-Laura. (15-f)

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I have a wart on my toe and it wont go away.. I also have a wart down there... BUT it's nothing like the genital warts you see! I've never had sex!... I was molested once but the guy didn't go to far... Is it a real genital wart even if I never had sex? And it's on the outside, about 3/4 of an inch away. Is it anything I should worry about?

Tell your mom/dad and go to the doctor to have it cheked out. Better safe than sorry! And have you ever told them you were molested? If not, you should really consider it, because that's illegal.


-Laura. (15-f)

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do you like george bush?

To put it simply: No.


-Laura. (15-f)

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Hey. in drama class, we have to do an assignment in which we act out the top 10 moments in the average person's life. (eg, starting kindergarten, getting married, having a child etc)

I am the group leader and i came up with a few but their mostly applied to education. We have to act each one out, therefore, i need help coming up with 10 of them. I googled already, but couldnt find anything. (14/f)

So far I have...
1) birth
2)starting kindergarten

......

need help!

Thanks!!!

1. Birth.
2. Starting Kindergarten.
3. Starting school all day/recess.
4. Realizing boys don't have cooties.
5. First kiss.
6. Getting your license.
7. Graduation.
8. Getting married.
9. Having children.
10. Retiring.

hope it helps =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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does anyone know a really good like one line quote? im tyring to make my aim profile and i dont want anything long. short and sweet yaa know? thenkyouuu ♥

All you need is love. =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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So I wanna get a nice tan without going to the tanning beds, and it's not exactly tanning weather out lol. anyone know of any good taning lotions that work great, aren't streaky and look real? Thanks

Aveeno & Dove have some good self tanning lotions.
Jergens made my friend looks orange though =X


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I am writing a movie script, which should be in production next year, and I need advice for a few of my teenage characters. It's been a few years since I have been a girl in high school and, although things were hard back then, I can only imagine the abundance of peer pressure you guys face these days. I want these characters to portray real life feelings. Say real life words that teenagers say. And react the way kids react in certain situations. By using your own or someone else's experiences I would appreciate advice on how girls and boys would act or respond if faced with situations such as:

GIRLS:
A girl and her boyfriend had sex for the first time then he breaks up with her a few days later. What would she feel or do? Would she consider doing something desperate? Is it no big deal? What reason would the boy give for breaking up with her?

Would a girl ever lie to her friends about being sexually active when really she's a virgin? If so, why is being a virgin so terrible to admit?

If a sexually active girl had an opportunity to go back in time and say no to sex, would she? Why, what would she have realized?

BOYS:
Do guys have any regrets about sleeping with a girl? What are they? Be honest.

What are some good lines a guy would say to have a girl say yes to sex?

And I really hope someone out there can advise me on this one...Are there guys who choose to refrain from having sex until they get married? Not because they can't get a girl, but simply because they choose to save themselves for their wife?

Thanks in advance.

Hello! I will try my best to answer the girls part:


"A girl and her boyfriend had sex for the first time then he breaks up with her a few days later. What would she feel or do? Would she consider doing something desperate? Is it no big deal? What reason would the boy give for breaking up with her?"

Well, this could go either way. Most girls I know woulld cry over it and act like any other breakup, only more emotional.

OR they would try to get revenge on him, bad mouth him, and spread roumors about him.

I personally would (not be having sex) but to put myself somehow in that situation, I'd be the first girl. It would hurt, bad. Crying, and asking, "Am I not good enough?" or "Was he jsut using me?"
I wouldn't consider doing anything desperate, but I might look for somebody to comofrt me. Maybe a different guy who I know will not use me or do the same thing to me.
The boy might give something like, "We moved too fast." or "I would just rather be friends with you right now."



"Would a girl ever lie to her friends about being sexually active when really she's a virgin? If so, why is being a virgin so terrible to admit?"

Yes. I know a lot of girls in my school lie about this. I personally don't, and I think it's fine to be a virgin. Why do people think it's so terrible? Well, at my high school, they think it's "cool" to be having sex. They think you're "prude" if you're not giving blowjobs every weekend. Girls think they have to put themselves out there to be accepted. But that's the total opposite of how I feel. There aren't too many girls like me at my high school, but there are a few.



"If a sexually active girl had an opportunity to go back in time and say no to sex, would she? Why, what would she have realized?"

Most likely. It depends on the situation. Anything like the first scenario youu gave above, I'd think the girl would want to go back and not have sex. She'd realize it didn't bring her and the guy any closer. It didn't make her any "cooler" or more "popular". It juse messed her up. It just emotionally wrecked her. She's realize sex just wasn't a physical thing, but an emotional thing as well and there's a lot more to it than just the guy and her.



Hope this helps && Best of luck =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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home comming is almost here and i need a dress and anyone have any good sites or stores to go to or look at?

Go to your local mall and try Macy's, Carson's and Charlotte Russe.


-Laura. (15-f)

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sorry if you are getting annoyed with me if you want me to stop i promise i will, but i forgot to ask you in my last question- what do i do when he smiles at me???xoxo

Hi! I'm not getting annoyed. Don't worry about it.

And:
Smile back! =D
Maybe even do a little wave to him to let him know you saw him smile.


-Laura. (15-f)


Edit:
Thank you so much! =D

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i talked to you before...(about same topic except with new info)...i got fed up with all the crap of everybody cuz i had this secret about me likin this guy. everyone knew but him and i wanted to tell him. so i did through a note. and he was actually nice about it...i think the only person that knows is his friend danny. but now when he sees me he giggles and smiles. what does that mean?? and also when i told my friends they said i was an idiot for doing that. they really made me feel like crap and i started to cry. only 3 of my friends said that it was couragous and they could never do something like that. but should i feel bad and not have told him? because the secret was eating me alive. i was going crazy from it. i was always sitting at home wondering what would happen if i told him but now i dont do that. i just told him today but still. i dont regret it, im just worried...plz help me!

Hello again =]

Well, if he acts all giggly around you, it really depends. I'd ask him how he felt about the note, in private, with nobody else around. I think it WAS courageous of you to admit your feelings, if that counts for anything =]
I could never do that, I can barely talk to the guy I like without internally freaking out, but enough about me!


And as for your friends, they don't sound like good friends. I'd let them know that what they said hurt you, and to stop doing it, cause it's so not cool. And for the 3 friends that stood by you, thank them for not being immature about it and making fun of you. That's what true friends do.


I don't think you should feel bad, it would feel worse not telling him. Trust me, I know. Never regret it. You see, here's my philosophy in life (and I don't share this with just anyone, so feel special ;])
Don't ever regret anything. Nothing, not good things or bad things. Because if you hadn't done them, you never would've learned from them, or gained from them. If you regret something, you just have it eat away at you. What's the point? Never regret anything you do, because you did it for a reason and the outcome taught you lessons you might have never learned.


Best of luck && keep me updated!


-Laura. (15-f)

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You said that you don't recommend using body wash as a shampoo and I'm giving you a 5 for your opinion but why don't you reccomend it?

Hello & thanks for inboxing.

Well you see, body wash is made specially for your body. Where as shampoo is made for you hair.
Your hair and body are different, hence the different products.


I'm not saying your hair is going to fall out or anything, because it won't. I'm just letting you know it would probably be better to use shampoo which is made for your hair =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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have you ever seen on like myspace or screen names when people have there name an then a word after that sarts with the same letter or sounds the same (like "mel madness" or someting like that)

what would be good to go with jessica

Jessica Jealousy.
Just Jessica.
Jaded Jessica.
Jazzy Jessica.

That's all I got.


-Laura. (15-f)

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I am 15 years old almost 16 in March
and i'm still a 34A for bra's .
is there even anything i can possibly do to make my boobs bigger ?
please tell me i'll really apreciate it!

Nope. You just have to wait it out. Most girls breasts reach their final size arond the age of 17-18. Plus, I don't know if I'm alone here, but I like having a smaller chest rather than a huge one.


-Laura. (15-f)

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If a guy wears a lot of rubberbands around his wrist, what does that mean?

It means he thinks he's stylish?
Or maybe there's a meaning to them. You can ask if you're really that curious =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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Can you use your body wash as a shampoo?

Yeah, but I wouldn't reccommend (sp?) it.


-Laura. (15-f)

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no he no's who i am, its just he never talks to me and i never talk to him, so idk

Oh! Sorry, I misunderstood!

Well if he knows who you are, then yes, I think it's ok to write him a note.
Just don't go overboard declaring your undying love for him ;]
Best of luck!

-Laura. (15-f)

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Does anyone know of any sites that i can download this song from?:

It Don't Matter to the Sun by Rosie Thomas

I have already tried Limewire, but it does not seem to have the right song i want.

The song is sung by a girl, not a guy!

Thanks in advance!

My friend used this one called Bearshare once. She really liked it, so maybe you can try that?


- Laura. (15-f)


EDIT:
Ok, don't use Bearshare.
I'm glad Theymos caught that!

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okay i met this guy 10 days ago and hes cute,nice and quiet guy i thought he was cute and he was walking on the hallway so 1st time i tried talk to him by saying i saw him on myspace and after that we started talking and he dropped me off to my class, and after that we keep saying hi to eachother and we began hugging and poking eacother on the stomach and now he hugs me really tight and sometimes when he hugs me he puts my head on his chest when we see eachother and he pokes me on the stomach and stuff and he started hangout with me and my friends and when i sit somewhere else he says"sit here" next to him and he was trying to hold my hand by asking whos hand is bigger. and i like him too but the thing is do you think we're going too fast? because i just met him 10days ago and now we're hugging so tight and stuff am i being easy too? what do you think about this question? and do you think he likes me?

10 days isn't really a lot.
I'd get to know him a bit more before getting close to him, like you seem to be.

Get to know him, and talk to him more, then maybe start getting closer and forming a relationship. But 10 days, it's not even 2 weeks =/

It's ok to like him, but think twice about getting really close to him that quick. It just might end bad, which I'm sure you don't want.
Make good choices!


- Laura. (15-f)

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