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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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--Jack

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I'm trying to trace someone's phone number back to him... He keeps sending me strange text messages and I don't know who he is. Doe anyone know of a website that will let me see a full profile, at least a name, for free? I already know where he's from.

I don't know of any cool websites like that.. all I know of is going to the police. I'm not 100% sure they can trace it, but if it's bothering you then they can do something about it ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

what causes a miscarriage?(different ways)

I really don't have any expertise on this subject, but here are a few websites that look like they do:

http://www.healthsquare.com/fgwh/wh1ch27p3.htm
http://www.pregnancyloss.info/causes.htm

From there:

There are several categories of miscarriage causes:

bullet Hormones
bullet Chromosome Defects
bullet Physical Problem with the Uterus or Cervix
bullet Immune Disorders
bullet Premature Rupture of Membranes and Early Labor
bullet Other
bullet Unknown
bullet Blighted Ovum, Ectopic Pregnancy, Molar Pregnancy, and Stillbirth

--Jack
(16/m)

So I had a dream about my fiance and I. In my dream he was straight forward and honest about any question I ever had (spoken or thought) relating to our relationship. For the two major questions I had, the answers were things that hurt me (he did or intended to do stuff that would be bad for our relationship). When he gave me the answers afterwards he tried to hold me and i pulled away (calmly) and just left him. I looked at my phone later and had 97 missed calls - when I listened to the messages they were clips from songs saying he loved me and basically he wanted our relationship to go back to the way it was when we first started. --- Eventually we were fine but I'm not sure if the fine part was the start of a new dream so it might not be related ---

any idea what it MIGHT mean?

Usually dreams are just dreams. They sometimes are really odd and can cause us to question if they are real or not- and in your case, I guess that's what you're doing by wondering if this is supposed to tell you something about your relationship. Usually it doesn't mean anything, but if you're really wondering- maybe try to remember the questions you asked him and think about asking them in real life. Or just talk to your fiance about it- and that may help you feel better ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

My fiance lies to me about stupid things. My beliefs are that there's nothing more important in a relationship (whether it's mother&child/husband&wife etc) than honesty. I don't mean NEVER lying because sometimes people need to be told they look great on a crappy day haha but never lying about big things. On the whole, my fiance is an amazing man but like I said, he lies about these stupid things. I get angry about him lying, not about what he has lied about. How can I get it through his head that if he tells me the truth, no matter what it is, I love him and we will work through whatever? His lies cause me to snoop and I absolutely hate being like that!

You said that you love him and you will work through whatever- so don't tell US that- tell HIM.

Like the person below said, there can be many reasons why he lies about stupid things- which I'm really not an expert on, so I won't go further in to it.

Really all I can say is let him know that you want him to be honest with you and that yes, you may be mad when he lies, but that will go away.

Maybe the problem isn't all him, though. Maybe he's afraid to tell you the truth with things because he's scared of how you'll react to it. Try to just listen to him sometimes and don't yell at him right away. Let him explain himself and whatnot.

--Jack
(16/m)

I'm 18/f and I've heard and read and watched so many things on how guys appreciate "the chase" or "the girl that doesn't put herself out there" or even "the girl that doesn't put her body on display". But, I'm always seeing the girls that throw themselves over any guy/the one with the short shorts and tight shirts always get's the guy. Always. My question is, are all guys looking for in a relationship is big boobs and an easy date? I know I'm only 18 but it's just becoming predictable and disapointing, and really crushing my own self esteem.

Thanks,
Gen

The thing about teenage guys is that they do tend to do what you're describing. However, to say that all of us are like that is a horrible generalization. I think it's pretty safe to say that I'm not like that. I tend to go after the intellectual and social girls- not the ones who are freaking skanks =O.
I know there are others like me, the thing is finding them- at least in the teenage years. As guys mature, they will realize that it's stupid to just chase after a "hot" girl.

The guys that are worth dating aren't the ones who obsess over the hot girls. Sure, some can be genuine, but most really aren't. I can pretty much guarantee you'll find someone in college, if not high school.

Don't let the immaturity of high school guys turn you off to dating or turn your self-esteem upside down. It's not really worth it, especially since you will find someone. I'm a strong believer that everyone has someone in this world for them- and part of our lives are to be spent finding them ;].

--Jack
(16/m)

my friend is starting to get really obsessed with this one guy and quite frankly i don't think he is going to like her in that way. she is nice and all but i don't think he wants a girlfriend. and plus he doesn't really know she exists. so how do i make her like him less, i don't want her to get hurt =[.

Sometimes the best thing to do is to let your friends discover things for themselves, and by that I mean let her "obsess" over this guy. She'll eventually realize that he isn't interested, and she'll stop.

Sometimes the point of friendship isn't to stop your friends from experiencing life but to let them do so and be there for them when they realize they've done wrong.

--Jack
(16/m)

OK, I have a question.
Do people flirt with the opposite sex even when they dont like them..?

Oh my gosh- yes ;]

Flirting is just something we all do. Normally I flirt with every girl I talk to- not inappropriately - and that doesn't mean I like them, it just means that I like flirting.

Though I'll never flirt with someone I can't stand.. that would be giving the wrong impression.

--Jack
(16/m)

alright so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 3 weeks nows.
there is a HUGE spark between us, and i love it.
he's my first hookup and honestly...

so when we kiss and stuff. i don't know. its good and romantic..but i don't know if i'm doing it right... is there even a right way to do it???

There's no guidelines to how to kiss correctly. If what you're doing seems "good and romantic" you must be doing it "right".

Besides, even if you're doing it "wrong", it doesn't matter what other people think: it's your relationship and if you both enjoy it there's nothing wrong about that.

--Jack
(16/m)

What are some good songs and/or albums by Rooney?
And also, bands that are similar. Thanks! =)

From their Album Rooney:

1. Blueside
2. Stay Away
3. If It Were up to Me
4. I'm a Terrible Person
5. Popstars
6. I'm Shakin'
7. Daisy Duke
8. Sorry Sorry
9. That Girl Has Love
10. Simply Because
11. Losing All Control

From their album Calling The World:

1. Calling the World
2. When Did Your Heart Go Missing?
3. I Should've Been After You
4. Tell Me Soon
5. Don't Come Around Again
6. Are You Afraid?
7. Love Me or Leave Me
8. Paralyzed
9. What For
10. All in Your Head
11. Believe in Me
12. Help Me Find My Way

Obviously those are just the track lists, but honestly they are all amazing. I haven't personally listened to their first CD, but if it is anything like "Calling the World" it is phenomenal.

My favorite song of theirs is "When Did Your Heart Go Missing?" and "I Should've Been After You" is a close second, along with "Don't Come Around Again".

--Jack
(16/m)

i need song feel-good, sing-to-in-the-car, fun songs for a summer playlist. they don't have to be recent songs, nor do they have to be any certain genre (although i don't think many hardcore or metal songs can be classified as "feel good" or "fun", haha). i'll provide some examples that already made the list:

- "all i wanna do (is have some fun)" by sheryl crow
- "big yellow taxi" by counting crows
- "pocketful of sunshine" by natasha bedingfield
- "four minutes" by madonna ft. justin timberlake
- "boys of summer" version by the ataris

so yeah, you catch my drift. help me out (:

Anything by The Rocket Summer is "feel good".

Here are some of his best:
1. So Much Love
2. Break It Out
3. Hold It Up
4. High Life Scenery
5. Do You Feel
6. Taken Aback
7. A Song Is Not A Business Plan
8. Brat Pack
9. Around The Clock
10. I Was So Alone

I also recommend Relient K:

1. Falling Out
2. Forward Motion
3. Hoopes I Did It Again
4. College Kids
5. I'm Lion-O
6. What Have You Been Doing Lately?
7. High of 75
8. Who I Am Hates Who I've Been
9. This Week The Trend
10. Maintain Consciousness
11. Come Right Out and Say It
12. I Need You
13. The Best Thing
14. Must Have Done Something Right
15. Up And Up

That's really only a few. There are so many more but I don't think a long list will be helpful ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

Hey, I'm having trouble with somethings. I want to add things to my column from the profile setting but I am not a computer person. :[

How to you get your words in BOLD, and slashed through?

also I am trying to add links and I followed the thing on the FAQ on forum question but it is not working for me. (I am trying to add other links).

Please help me in what I should type to do these things. A link would be great too.

thanks :]

Bolded words use this code:

ENTER TEXT HERE

Slashed through:

ENTER TEXT HERE

Links:

ENTER TEXT HERE

Let me know if there's a problem ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

so yesterday me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time, and i know im probably being really paranoid, but we did use a condom and it didnt break. he didnt come but im pretty sure he like precummed or whatever. is there ANY way that i could be pregnant?

Anytime you have vaginal sex, with or without a condom/contraceptive, you risk becoming pregnant. Sure- your chances are small, but there's still the possibility.

The best contraceptive is abstinence ;]

Take a pregnancy test in about a week if you're worried.

--Jack
(16/m)

Ok i am a 13 y.o. and im in 7th grade right now. I was thinking about what i want to do with my life and ive always wanted to be a Marine Bio. but i am realllly clueless on how college works like where do you go first and whats it called where do you go next if you could give me full rundown explantaion that would be great!!

P.S. Anually how much does a Marine Biologist make

P.P.S. where are good colleges to go for that ( im a 4.0 avg. student)

Hey.

Don't stress TOO much about what you want to be when you're older- you have plenty of time =D.

But to answer your questions..

First you have to be accepted into a college [duh ;D] and then you have to do 4 years of undergraduate [basic college education with courses aimed at your desired career]. Then it depends on what exactly you want to do. Sometimes you can go for a Master's Degree or a Bachelor's Degree or a Ph.D.

2. 7. What do marine biologists make as a salary?

This is not easy to answer as the variation is great. If you were an average Ph.D. entering a university job these days as an assistant professor, you would earn a salary of ca. 45,000-65,000 USA dollars for the academic year and then could earn a summer salary as well, mainly from grants. Salaries of public school teachers are generally lower and the variation is great. Consulting firms start also in the 40s and above. The upper end is extremely variable but in universities, marine biologists' salaries usually correspond to the average for science professors. A full professor these days in a university is earning 65,000-100,000 and more for the academic year.

[From: http://life.bio.sunysb.edu/marinebio/mycareer.html]

3. So which college should you choose? Here's my advice. Don't just choose a college because it has a marine biology program. Many such colleges are not that great and most of the students in such programs don't really intend to have careers in marine biology. Instead, find colleges that are good in science and writing, but also have marine biology faculty. There are lots of colleges in surprising places. For example, Carleton College in Minnesota is a great place but also has a dedicated marine biologist who will inspire you. Gettysburg College in landlocked Pennsylvania is another example of this. Find the best college in which you can enroll and ask whether this college is good in science and writing/communication and also has some marine faculty in whose lab you can work.

[From: http://life.bio.sunysb.edu/marinebio/becoming.html]

I think Michigan State University in East Lansing, Michigan has a good program, but I'm not sure.

Good Luck!
--Jack
(16/m)

Alright, I have a 30GB iPod video (one of the older ones, not the colored new ones).

I have a ton of pictures on it, and I was just wondering if I could transfer the pictures TO the computer fROM the iPod itself?

Because I got a new computer, which means I don't have those pictures anymore.

Any help is appreciated! =]

I'm not sure if this will help, but my friend answered a question similar to this one before- so I'm going to send you to that question/answer page ;]

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=528183

LM is pretty helpful ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

in the past week.
me and my boyfriend have had sex like 3 times.
and we have used a condom all of those times.
and well. it never really hurt when we had it.
and yeah he was my first.
and i never bled.

but i usually start my period around the twentyseventh every month.
and i havent started yet.

am i pregnant?

Wait a week or so and take a pregnancy test if your period still doesn't come.

Just because you wear a condom doesn't mean you can't get pregnant.

And relax! It's only the 28th.. periods at young ages are never regular. It's ONE day off- so like I said just be patient and wait.

--Jack
(16/m)

Okay I already know this girl isn't my friend because she always likes the guys I like. And I finally found this AMAZING beyond awesome guy. And I'm super shy, and she know's he likes me & I like him. But now she talks to him ALL THE TIME. And I havn't asked her if she likes him, but like I just know it. And now, she's like, pretending to be me and like the same things as me and asking me like "what kind of music do you like?" "What are you talking to _____ about?!" and I'm like going crazy. I'm so shy, and he wants me to talk to him but I want him to talk to me. But then this girl, my so called friend like keeps purposly messing it up by telling me like "Oh you shouldn't talk to him, he said he's not in the mood" even though that was a complete LIE. What do you think I should do?

Live your life as if she wasn't there.

Think about it. The source of your problem is her. If by some miracle you could act as if she didn't exist [and trust me I know what a feat that would be... been there and done that] then what would happen to your problems? They would surely disappear, eh?

So try things out with this guy and just ignore the immaturity of your "friend".

If you want some tips on not being as shy- just ask and I'll be sure to oblige ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

why would non-married people wear rings? not on ring finger but elsewhere. what does that mean if they have several?

There are a lot of reasons people where rings; they aren't just for married people ;].

1. Class ring from high school or college.
2. Their parents bought them a ring for birthday, Christmas, Easter, etc.
3. Friendship rings.
4. Claddagh ring [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Claddagh_ring] or other heritage rings.
5. Rings passed down in the family.

And that's only 5 of the many reasons.

--Jack
(16/m)

i was wondering if most guys who are experienced with sex usually have an orgasmif they're having sex with a virgin...? all answers will be appreciated i'll rate : )

It really wouldn't matter, I guess? o.0

Despite the girl's virginal status- the guy can still have an orgasm.

--Jack
(16/m)

my friend the other day was saying that her and her boyfriend were having sex in the butt...and the he cummed in her butt. now shes scared she could get pregnant from that. i told her it wasn't true but she keeps worrying and saying that it probably is true.

sooo...heres my question

can you get pregnant if a guy cums when hes inside your butt?

Oh dear.

This is an urban legend =/.

Unless some of it magically made its way to her vagina- then no.

Ugh.. just no.

--Jack
(16/m)

Is there a difference between anxiety attacks and panic attacks? also, is it possible to wake up in the middle of the night for no reason having one? Thanks!

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/anxiety%20attack

From there:
anxiety attack
n. See panic attack.

panic attack
n. The sudden onset of intense anxiety, characterized by feelings of intense fear and apprehension and accompanied by palpitations, shortness of breath, sweating, and trembling. Also called anxiety attack.

I think they are considered the same thing.

I'm not really sure if you can or cannot wake up in the middle of the night because of one- but it certainly doesn't seem unlikely.

--Jack
(16/m)

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