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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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I am looking for advice on a rape victim, keep the kid or not?

16 YEAR OLD GIRL.

Really, it's not the child's fault, they didn't ask to be killed because they were concieved wrong right?
But then again, having the kid will be a daily reminder, and ruin her future.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
ANY ADVICE?



Thank you for the time!

I strongly disagree with abortion, no matter what the circumstances. There are other options. MUCH better optnios. Adoption is a great one! This way, the child will get to live it's life, and it will have a loving, responsible family.


Like you said, it's really not the child's fault, so why should it be punished? It shouldn't! But you do not have to keep the child, because you think it will ruin the mother's future.


I would say to go with adoption, because abortion is just terrible. That child could change the world, that child could do something. You never know...

Make the right choice =]



-Laura. (15-f)

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my homecoming is coming up.
where can i get a really cute cocktail
type dress that does cost a crap load.
im a size 1/2/sometimes a 3.

also, i need to able to dance in it.
cause there will be grinding and what not.
and i dont want my dress riding too far up. (:
and if i helps, i live in the houston area.
THANK YOU!

Like Laura Michelle said, Macy's is really good.
Try Carson's, too. Also Charlotte Rusee and Wet Seal, which are found in msot malls =]
Have fun!


-Laura. (15-f)

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Sometimes I will hear Lara quoting and/or read it in one of her poems (she asks me to read it). About her self feeling lonely, It was pretty interesting but it makes me curious about it. I want to know if she wanted some one I wanted to find out. I remember I ask her last time in the chat room if she wanted a boyfriend and she said no not really. I text her this Sunday morning if she read the note yet She didn’t reply back, seems like she is ignoring it or cant make up her mind. Saturday we went to a corn maze at night with my family and our friend Mandy. We had fun and she was holding my arm sometimes when we were in the maze. All girls do that but when it falls into explaining your feelings to that person its hard to look at it as a friendly way. I don’t know what to do I been asking and waiting but I guess the answer is no. all I want is a reply saying no or something, I didn’t want no reply because to me it means she is ignoring it or cant disside. Well fine but I don’t her to get jealous when I go out with someone else!

If she was holding your arm, it was a show of affection. Possibly just friendly like you said, or maybe more. I honestly couldn't tell you, because I'm not Lara and I don't know how she feels.


But it's good you're ready to aceept it if she doesn't like you. I would try seeing somebody else, but make sure to ask Lara first. Just bring it up like, "What would you say if I had somebody new?" See how she responds, then go from there.


-Laura. (15-f)

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Now I am unsure when I can ask her if she read the note yet or ask her when she can write me back. I don’t know what is right to do, if she said she does like me then what if it works out? But I know next year I might move out of state and she is going to a college next year. I don’t what to do! Should I ask anyways and stop worrying? Or wait until she writes me back?

Ask her if she read it. What have you got to lose? You just really need to talk to her about your relationship (after she reads the letter). Talking to her would really help fix things =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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My b/f's homecoming dance is next week, and i need some ideas on how to dress. Im not exactally sure as to how to dress 'semi formal.' Please answer quickly, im going to the mall tomarrow.
Please and thanks.

Something not super fancy, but formal and nice enough that you wouldn't wear it on just any day.
Something like these:

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dresses&product%5Fid=2043062919&Page=1

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dresses&product%5Fid=2044370979&Page=2#

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dresses&product%5Fid=2041849287&Page=2



Get what I mean?
Have fun! =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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so are you saying that doesnt mean anything? to me it sounded like she likes me, or am i getting it wrong?

Of course it meant something, that was what I meant; she was afraid of losing you because she likes you.


-Laura. (15-f)

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if its no then okay i will move on but i always wounder why she said this to me "i guess time will tell for the both of us" and "if you get a boyfriend we won’t be close anymore”

those words always make me think why she said that usely friends dont say that to one another.
do they?

To me, I think she was just afraid of losing you.
And the time will tell one, she was just unsure of what your future together would be. Both friendship and relationship wise.


-Laura. (15-f)

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14/f (Not Long)

I just met this guy in high school. We talk all the time in English class and thats about it. We have eachother on msn, and i do make an effort to talk to him but he only always has to go at that point. This conversation we had on msn today:

Me: What do we have for English hmwk?
Him: I dont know
Me: Didnt you copy it down?
Him: Nopee i didnt
Me: Okay, ill get it tomorrow
Him: Kayy byee
Me: Oh, are you leaving?
Him: Nope, i dont feel like talking anymore
Me: Ohhkay...bye...

He stayed on for about 10-15 minutes more. What did that mean? All answers are greatly appreciated.

He said it, plain and simple:
He didn't feel like talking any more.

No Big? =]


-Laura (15-f)

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okay so i just downloaded limewire to get some free music. but i have herd some rumers about like viruses coming from limewire..
is limewire vary unsafe?
can u get viruses from it?
if so is there a way to avoid them?

please helppp

All I can say (speaking from experience):
It crashed my entire computer.


And there's really no way to avoid it, except not using it at all.


-Laura. (15-f)

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how can you get it? and what is it caused from? the person not being clean or something??


i know you can get it from sharing drinks but from if you get it from making out..does that mean that person doesn't brush his teeth or something??


THanks

No no no.
Mono has nothing to do with how often one brushes their teeth. You can get it from sharing toothbrushes, though? You can also get it from making out, sharing lipgloss, sharing eating utensils, straws, or any other things that involve "swapping spit".


Here's a really good website that'll help you:
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/infections/common/mononucleosis.html


-Laura. (15-f)

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her answer is i dont know? cause thats how i am taking it with out a reply. if its a no i want her to tell me or write it.

Well, if it's I don't know then it could be a few things.
I'm guessing it's either (and I'm gonig to be honest):

A. She doesn't like you as more than a friend, but doesn't ant to hurt you. She isn't telling you, because she's afraid of how you will react and whatnot.

B. She honestly doesn't know and is just plain confused. Just give her a little time to sort out her feelings, like I said before. If she doesn't give you a straight answer or any form of response soon, though, then confront her about it and do like I said in your last inbox to me =]


But judging by how she was acting, I really don't know which of the two it is. I really hope it's the 2nd and that everything works out for you!



-Laura. (15-f)

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hey honey its me again!! so yeah guess what?! drew, yeah he made his friends danny and ryan and jt promise not to tell me so danny and ryan told my friend ariel and i made her tell me bc danny made her promise not to tell me bc he didnt want to see me hurt, but drew thought it was weird to write him a note bc no other girl has ever wrote him a note, but isnt that a good thing??!! so i started to feel bad and wrote him an apology, heres what it says (sorry its long i know): so here we are again, another note... *surprise surprise* yeah im still finding it a little difficult talking to you directly, so wtih all do respect- get over it! i got something to say about the other note; sorry, i probably should have never gave it to you, yes i know it was funny, trust me i was laughing too! give or take the note was not the best way to go, & here it is again. sorr. but everyone was saying "im gonna tell him hayley" and i would say okay... no big deal right?? next day would roll around and "hayley sorry we couldnt tell im we got scared." so i got sick of it, wrote a note, gave it to you, realized the effect, felt like i had to apologize and here we are!*surprise surprise* yeah it might have made you mad, been awkward or maybe even weird but at least i had the guts to tell you. think about it most girls would not have done that. so take this seriously because im trying to apologize i guess. so congrats on the game, have a nice day, and come back again soon. PS at least now i know, huh...love hayley" so yeah what do you think, sorry about the length again!!

Hello again =D


If I was in this situation, I would talk to the kid face to face. No more of this he said, she said stuff.


Just go up and start talking to him. Tell him you like him, and that you just wanted him to know. Then, ask him how he feels about you. Tell him it's no big deal if he doesn't, but you just really want to know.


Then I'd maybe apologize for all this stuff you got into with your friends and his friends.


And next time, just tell the guy yourself, rather then tell everybody else =]



-Laura. (15-f)

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i ask her on the phone i text her today if she read it yet and she said"i thought u didnt want me to read it"but the thing was when i gave it to her she was aboout to read it in front of me and i told her to read it later. she got it wrong so i told agian today on the text to read it. i really dont want to bug her about it but honstley i cant take it any more i am tride of asking questions and trying to find out if she likes me or not. i want to know what she really feels and she is the kind of person that doesnt express her feelings. she only hides it by body language so i really want a plan out answer yes or no. i do want to move on if she says no truthfully i will be heart broken but if she says yes i dont know.

hopefully she will give me a reply this tuseday or thrusday.

Thanks for inboxing =]

First, give her some time. A few days to read the letter and let it all sink in. Tell her you need a straight out answer. I know how you feel, waiting for someone you really really like to give you a reply. Trust me, I've been there before and it's awful.


Just explain to her that it's hurting you, and you need a falt out 'yes' or 'no'. Don't be mean about it, but be firm. Be nice, though as well of course =]


Tell her you'll give her a few days, but you need an answer regardless. But make sure you give her time to really think about it and sort out her feelings.


Good Luck!


-Laura. (15-f)

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i bought a ringtone off itunes
how do i get it onto my phone.
please help asap!


xo

The ringtones on iTunes are only for iPhones =/


-Laura. (15-f)

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Is there any way to put music in your library from your iPod..I don't know if I can or not..I have 2 songs that aren't in my library, and I want to put it in my library. Is there any way?


thanks a bunch.

Music Rescue.
It's free. It's fast. It's super easy.


-Laura. (15-f)

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Hey, im a freshman in high school and i had a question.

Basically, i need to start stepping out of the box. I need to open up and start talking to boys in my school. I do talk to guys, but only when they talk to me. I need to go up to them and start a conversation but i am too shy like that. I mean, i can continue a conversation once the guy puts forth the effort, but i can never start one with someone random, im way too shy. Like, my friends can start conversation with randomm guys and be so confident about it, but i cant do that! I think im pretty and i used to be so confident, but i dont know what happened. Any adivce?? I do flirt, LOL...but im way to shy to flirt with a random hot guy, because im scared of being rejected. Im sure that is what it is. My friend can go up to any guy and just start anything, while i just stand beside her and smile. Any advice please?! Im really going to try hard this week to be noticed! Thanks soo much!

Thanks for inboxing!

I'm kind of like you at times. You just have to be confident! Just think to yourself, "I can do this. It's just a guy. No big deal." Chances are, you'll be fine! Don't worry about sounding stupid or anything, because if the guy doesn't like how you sound, he's not worth it anyways.


Here's what I do/did. Set a goal for yourself. At the begining of the week, say "I'm gonig to talk to so and so during whatever period and I'm going to be fine." Just start talking to the guy. Start by asking how he is, how his day is going and what he's got planned after school. Ask what kind of music he's into or what sports he plays.


Good Luck =]



-Laura. (15-f)

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hey darling i have been meaning to ask you something! why is it that now that i have told him how ive felt i seem to feel lighter? like im walking on air? i always seem to have butterflys now and they wont stop. i just feel so happy and anxious now. its just a weird feeling, like i said like walking on air??
xoxo
(do you want to know my columnist name??) cuz i ask and help!

Hey!

I know how you feel. lol. It's totally normal! You're just feeling good, because it's out of your system and you don't have to keep it in anymore.
and your username = teardrops, correct? =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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hey guys..well, lately I've been getting into like Electronic music. Some artists that I'm like obsessed with :

Imogen Heap
Frou Frou
Ladytron
Kraftwerk
Yello..

does anyone know more like these? :)

Try Freezpop, The Medic Droid, Shiny Toy Guns, Young Love, PlayRadioPlay, and Progress in Color.


-Laura. (15-f)

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any songs under that genre that you really like?
i wanah know :)

name of song - whos it by.

My 10 favorite songs of all time are:

A Lonely September- Plain White T's.
She Will Be Loved- Maroon 5.
Lying Is The Most Fun- Panic! at The Disco.
Hey Italy- Halifax.
So Much Love- The Rocket Summer.
Jamie All Over- Mayday Parade.
Time After Time- Quietdrive.
LDN- Lily Allen.
Emergency- Paramore.
Bad Habits- My Favorite Highway.


-Laura. (15-f)

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im one of those chics who are deathly pale and i really want some color, but i dont want to have to pay for the fake bake tanning beds so i bought jergens tanning lotion and the face lotion but im afraid to use it because i dont want to come out lookin orange after the 1st or 2nd time i use it.
does anyone know if it really works? and ive also heard that it has a really bad oder so is there any other products that doest have an oder?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=515508


Use Aveeno or Dove. I know from expirience that they both work. Jergen's made my friend orange, which you don't want. Aveeno smells nicest, too =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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