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RAPEVICTIM.
I am looking for advice on a rape victim, keep the kid or not?
16 YEAR OLD GIRL.
Really, it's not the child's fault, they didn't ask to be killed because they were concieved wrong right?
But then again, having the kid will be a daily reminder, and ruin her future.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
ANY ADVICE?
Thank you for the time!
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I would probably get an abortion because I am Pro-choice ESPECIALLY in cases of rape. Some people may say they would keep the baby even if they were raped, but many of those people have not actually been raped and they have a hard time understanding how horrible it is. YOU didn't want the baby, YOU did not make the choice to have sex, so why should you have to keep the baby even if it wasn't his/her fault? 16 is very young, and most girls are certainly not ready to be a mother at that age. You have to think logically. Would you be able to get by financially? Would you and your kid be OK with not having a father around? Or would you actually want to see your rapist again so he could spend time with his daughter? Not a good idea. Whatever you do, there is a BIG chance that this kid's life is going to be screwed up. So you can either get an abortion OR if you absolutely can't do that, have the child, then put him or her up for adoption. They may actually be able to have a normal life with a mother and a father, but you could still probably visit him or her. If you didn't want the baby in the first place, and you were raped, I see no reason why you should feel like you HAVE to raise this child.
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i would keep the the kid because it is your child no matter how it was concieved
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please dont kill him ! i have friend tht was raped and sufficated her child and is in jail. please just have the baby youl love it i garrantee you will.
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It all depends. Personally, i think i might have the child. But i dont know.
Would you take care of it, or would you put it up for adoption?
Would he/she get the love they deserve?
What about school?
Are you ready to go through pregnancy and labor and recovery?
What do your parents think?
You need to do thats right for you
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Being a rape victim this question has popped in my head many times. In my opinion if you think that your baby won’t live a happy life because of the circumstance, I would give it up for adoption. But I would never go with abortion.
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i would keep the child even knowing that the child would be a daily reminder. i look at it as a good thing from a bad and horrible situation.
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sorry its long;but read it i guess.
in my opinion, abortion is wrong. however if its because you were raped its ok if you are not ready to commit because its no like it was your choicer. so abortion would be ok in this situation.
personnally, i would never get an abortion, its killing someone.
but, if you arent ready for a kid, have an abortion or have the kid &+put it up for adoption[honestly i wouldnt do that either caz then the kid is gonna get older and wonder where there real parents are. ya know?]
if your ready just have the kid, my mom was raped and im the result of it. she was only 17 but she felt she was ready &+iknow my mom was never ashamed of me and was proud that im her daughter.
make the right decisionno matter what it is.
just really, really, really, think about it.
a kid could ruin your life, iare you ready for that.
hope i helped. :)
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I strongly disagree with abortion, no matter what the circumstances. There are other options. MUCH better optnios. Adoption is a great one! This way, the child will get to live it's life, and it will have a loving, responsible family.
Like you said, it's really not the child's fault, so why should it be punished? It shouldn't! But you do not have to keep the child, because you think it will ruin the mother's future.
I would say to go with adoption, because abortion is just terrible. That child could change the world, that child could do something. You never know...
Make the right choice =]
-Laura. (15-f)
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I disagree with most people. I agreed until earlier today when there was a rally outside planned parenthood.
While I do believe the woman has a choice & the baby doesn't [because it obviously doesn't think about living yet?] that whether you're raped or not you should still keep it. Abortion can bring such horrible emotional problems. You'll be linked with guilt & you'll always think about it. Who wants to think about the fact that they murdered a being that could be so amazing?
I mean, yeah it could ruin your life; but honestly? Think of the life that baby will have. That baby could do something really special & you're taking that away once you kill it. Getting pregnant at 16 isn't as big a deal as people say. My cousin did it & my cousin turned out just fine. She even kept it, and her son has turned about to be the most amazing little boy I've ever seen. But honestly, that baby could do so much.
Once you have the baby, you don't have to keep it. You can give it up for adoption, but let's not forget that no one will love you like a baby can, and you'll become attached in those 9 months & giving it to another family could be hard. However, if you know you cannot provide that child a good life, then give it to someone who can. There are plenty of people who want children [because they can't have their own] & plenty of people who will give that baby a good life even though you can't.
I'm not advising you to keep it, but babies are precious gifts to each human, and killing it would be horrible. =[
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I completely agree with Matt. Whatever's going on in her body, is her decision. A fetus should not have more say than a 16 year old girl.
You're not hurting the fetus's feelings. Having a baby will change her entire life, could hinder her from going to college, etc. And one simple procedure can prevent it.
Obviously in the end it's her decision.
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The population is too high as it is, there is absolutely no reason you should allow an unwanted child to be born. Since you are not financially or emotionally ready for a child, it will live a sub-optimal life and will only hinder humanity's progress.
The child is alive even before conception, just the same as every living cell in your body. It is *not*, however, morally wrong to kill it until later. Most people say the third trimester; I would go so far as to say a few weeks after it's been born.
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This is an extremely personal question. In the end, it is the rape survivor's choice. Even if you don't believe it legally SHOULD be her choice, the fact remains that it IS her choice. I'm not going to get into whether it should be or not; that's not what this website is for.
She has essentially three options when it comes to the child:
(1) Adoption.
(2) Keep it.
(3) Abortion.
Of the three, it seems to me that the first is the most compassionate insofar as the child is concerned, and it may also offer the survivor some comfort to know that from this terrible event, there was at least a new life that need not be tainted by it. The problem with keeping the child, aside from the obvious emotional trauma to the mother, would be that eventually he's going to ask "Who is my Daddy?" and that question will have a terrible answer.
Insofar as the third option... once again, it is her choice. It is not a "clean" choice - there are emotional consequences. But there will be emotional consequences no matter what she may choose.
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Well, a couple things. First abortion is killing the child no matter what you say. I understand how it would be hard for the mother though. So first she would be able to be strong and overcome such an event by having the chirl and loving her child more everyday. She shouldn't know the child as a child she didnt want, one that is a mistake. She should think of the child as a miracle. Something so beautiful came out of something so horrible. Someone to love and that she will always love. But also not having a father might be difficult. The best option might be to find a nice, loving family to adopt the child. Make sure to do it legally and check out the parents, home, and such. I think that might be best with the girl being so young (16 still a teen) and not able to handle herself and what shes feeling right now let alone a life to take care of. And if she wants she could still be in contact with her child later in life and tell them what happened and that she still loves them or whatever. Hope i helped and i am terrible sorry. I know how hard something like that is. Its a terrible horrific thing and i cant imagine how people can do that to young girls. or anyone. please rate me if i was helpful and best of luck.
Theymos HOW can u even think KILLING the baby AFTER its born is ALRIGHT?!?!?! That for sure IS murder whethe or not abortion is! And its illegal for a reason!
What is the world coming too these days????????
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I disagree with "Matt" because "God" paints a clear picture that even a fetus happens to be a life and to take that life would be murder. I think what are you going threw happens to be a hard thing to decide. I think it comes down to what you thinks best for you and the baby. I wish you the best of luck!!!!
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Get an abortion. When an abortion is performed, it's ideally in the fetus state.
Fetus does not equal kid.
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