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okay, my best friend, "jenny", she dating a guy name "james", i met James last year and we talk and i sending him my nude pic, for now we stopped talking, of course, but jenny dating him, i told her it gross that a guy saw your best friend's nude thing, she thinks nude pic thing is nothing, cheap to her, but not to me, james knew me and saw my nude and now he dating my best friend, i felt like gross.
what you think? it gross huh?
help pls.... (link)
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Actually I think its stupid that you sent him a nude picture. Your friend is perfectly fine.
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How good is a 2160 on the SAT? (link)
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Quite good, out of a possible 2400.
Thats the equivalent of a 1440 on the old SAT, which would get you into any number of great schools. I made a 1400 and got into UT Engineering. (back when it was out of 1600)
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im 5'1, short, AND SELF-CONSCIOUS.
- my boobs, WONT grow! I'm in a 32B & im 17. its really embarrassing for me, and i just dont know what to do.
is there A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G. i can do to, make them develop, get fuller etc.
its really humiliating,
and my body isnt beautiful.
i dont ever want to go out in a bikini,
wear tank tops etc.
- implants isnt an option for me,
something safe..
thank youuu so muchh (link)
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You're kidding, right?
Why is a B cup making you self concious? My girlfriend is 5'1 and a 34B and absolutely gorgeous. Her breasts are perfectly proportional to her body.
I can understand bad body image, are you in relatively good shape? I mean, if you arent overweight that sounds appealing from a guys point of view.
I think you should worry less. Why you think that 32B is a negative thing I havent a clue. Most guys would think thats absolutely fine, and you don't need Cs or Ds to wear a bikini and wear it well.
To answer the actual question, there are exactly two ways to make breasts bigger.
1) Gain weight
2) Plastic Surgery
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how would you get a myspace tracker? and how would you know if someone has one? (link)
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Myspace Trackers do not exist. The only record of hits to your web page is on the actual servers of Myspace.
A web page like that is not going to give out hit information like that. Its proprietary and them allowing anyone to have that information could be considered an invasion of privacy.
So, anyone who says they have one is lying through their teeth. If you ever see an advertisement for one it is a phishing scam. Phishing is the practice of getting someone's personal information to hack their account. Ive heard of people claiming they have trackers who installed things on their computer that generated fake hits based on who is on your friends list (it checks your list when you sign on to your account, and just makes up numbers saying "x person visited your account on x day" while it recorded personal information and passwords.
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Why is it that life always takes a dump on the nice guys and gives all the great shit to the assholes who dont deserve it? Im fed up with it, Im nothing but nice to people and i love being the nice, sweet guy, but why is it so hard to be happy? All these jerks get everything, why? Do i have to be an asshole to get what i want? Nice guys never get the girl... (link)
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I'm going to answer assuming that you are talking pretty much exclusively about the fact that you cant get a date and guys who you think are assholes can.
Why?
Because girls are immature. In a different way then most guys are.
In this day and age, girls don't have to look for guys with needed qualities. This isnt a day where girls in high school have to look for guys who would make good husbands, or anything like that.
So, in the absence of necessary standards, high school society created unnecessary ones. You have to look or act a certain way, be exciting to them in some way.
You, by comparison, are not as exciting. I'm not saying it to be offensive, and overall its not even a bad thing. The last thing you want to do is turn yourself into what high school thinks you should be, because once high school is over the entire social hierarchy disintegrates into nothing. You'll hit college and watch all the assholes and the girls who like them join frats and sororities and you'll laugh as you find a decent girl and date her while the other idiots pass herpes back and forth like a beach ball at graduation. If you happen to be IN college already, then just find some new girls to spend time around, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
So, having that in mind, a few tips.
If you find yourself becoming a best friend to a girl who you are interested in, stop. Girls by nature will become "just friends" with you if they can get the emotional support and care they want from you without dating you. This is known as the "friend trap" and has sucked in many a guy before you. I've been there myself. Theres nothing like hugging a girl whos crying because some asshole treated her badly and you're the one she unloads it on, and you're sitting there the whole time seething thinking "Jesus you're stupid, I'd never treat you like that"
Don't wait for girls to realize that you're interested. You're waiting too long. If you like a girl, approach her from the angle of "I'd like to date you"
Another thing, is probably confidence. Assholes are assholes because they are sure that they can get what they want without putting in much effort, and because they don't want to put in any effort at all.
While girls will lament the fact that they date guys who don't try, they still date them. Why? Because the guy is so sure that he has something to offer that the girl assumes he's right, and sticks around to try to figure it out.
You, on the other hand, probably don't have alot of that kind of confidence. While some people just have large and unjustified amounts of it, it is something that can be developed.
Someone once told me this, and Ive found it to be true. Its better to be rejected up front than to build a relationship with a girl who you'd like to date and be disappointed.
Oh, and another point. Later in life, being a nice guy becomes much more playable. In high school you have this society built on nothing except how stupid kids who don't know what they want or need. High school is NOT the real world. Dating doesnt work that way past senior year.
Later on, you will meet girls who never really wanted the bad boy in the first place. Girls who will appreciate you for who you are and be attracted to you because you arent some brain-dead imbecile who thinks only of sex and never of the girl he is with.
The other thing is, that the "hook up" scene that gets perpetuated in college by those who couldnt let go of high school will amuse you to no end. The bad boys keep thinking they're studs because they hook up with a new girl every month. They get laid on the weekends with some girl who was too drunk to remember it all and celebrate your conquests.
You, by comparison, will meet some nice girl with a voracious appetite for sex and date her long term, getting laid daily by a girl who loves finding new ways to make you squirm.
Who do you think wins in the end, my friend?
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I have a Dell Inspiron 6400 laptop. When I open the screen, it's really loose, it wobbles around a lot.
I've read that the screen hinges get loose from opening the screen all the way and all I have to do is tighten some screws. Problem: I don't know where to locate those screws.
Any help would be appreciated. (link)
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Contact Dell customer support.
My laptop screen now doesnt close because one of the screws stripped itself and the right hinge isnt connected anymore. If I move it, it cracks the laptop case.
If this happens to you, its usually covered by warranty. Dell will have more information than that. (My laptop had this fixed once, but its not under warranty anymore)
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Ok, I didnt make my question clear enough last time and ive changed it a little
first off, should i download lime wire or blubster?
second..i wouldnt burn any cds, i just want to make a playlist [ is this wrong?] [ please tell me]
Should i have limewire or not?
I downloaded Lime Wire!Result!But
everytime i try to search a song it says "lime wire is currently connected to the network.you may not return many results until you are fully connected with the network" and I dont know why!
- i downloaded it perfectly
- internet connection is perfect
- it has downloaded....fully
What could be wrong? how can i fix it
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Fair warning, limewire is a portal through which all manner of viruses can get a foothold in your computer.
Most P2P applications are like this. Also, limewire is very, very trackable and opens you up to the RIAA. The last thing you need is a letter because you downloaded something and a corporation with more money than sense tracked it to your house and decided that your parents don't have enough resources to fight a lawsuit.
Stay away from it IMO
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16/f. 15/m. my first boyfriend's getting to be REALLY kinky...and it's okay, to some extent. but i've just had enough.
i have a kind of ..a fear of male genitalia..its not a fear..more like a disgust [because of events that have happened previously..to me ..when i was young] and..my bf (lets call him A)
well, A showed me his penis. and i wasn't exactly turned on or anything. we're much too young. and whenever i reject looking at it, or touching it or anything, he gets PISSED at me. and he goes...so you have peniphobia now? WTF?
he ALWAYS finds something wrong with the way i act-how i'm disgusted by certain crude..sexual acts - IN PUBLIC.. WHO touches themselves in public? Please tell me..? Am I insane or -what..?
He takes pictures of his penis and gets upset when I refuse to see it. He doesn't respect my irrational fear...no matter how stupid it is.
Worst of all, he forces some acts on me...he grabs me by the crotch and forcefully grabs my boobs. I liked the making out stage...But it's just getting too retarded now. He's way too horny. And I tell him I love him..because I do. But I can't be with him anymore. I feel like he only uses me for my body. That's all he wants.
Can somebody PLEASE tell me ..whether or not this relationship could be worth saving? Or..?
There's also no intellectual attraction - We have nothing to talk about. It's all physical. And I don't feel like I can tell him anything.
I have no experience with boyfriends prior to this one. So I don't know what to do. Any help would be GREATLYYY appreciated. (link)
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So, you're dating a relatively dumb guy who constantly pursues sex, makes you uncomfortable, passes limits left and right with your personal space, who you feel used by.
Walk. Not tomorrow, not next week, now. He is not worth it.
At 15 you're stating that theres no intellectual attraction. On the one hand, the fact that you can evaluate a relationship like that at 15 is somewhat impressive. On the other hand, the fact that you can say that and are still with the guy makes me a little sad.
For the record, his behavior is odd. Taking pictures of his penis and showing them to you is odd.
Now, I wont speak to "crude sexual acts in public" as I happen to not have a problem with most things sexual when both parties are enjoying themselves. Live and let live and enjoy is my personal philosophy. But a boyfriend who is openly sexual not because you have that bond but because he doesn't know how to restrain himself?
Heres what you do.
You tell him. "Your behavior has been unacceptable, you want sexual acts without caring what I want or am ready for, and we really have nothing else in common. Its over"
Not "I think its over" or "I dont want to be with you" or anything he can argue with. Simply, "Its over" Period.
Now, speaking to your irrational fear. Thats something you will have to work on. I mean, sex organs aren't exactly pretty, but they arent something to be afraid of.
I'll be frank. At 15 you express yourself very clearly and are obviously intelligent. You shouldn't be dating someone whom you don't have an intellectual attraction to. He is beneath you. I know you don't have prior experience to go off of, but this will help you set a limit and realize that you have certain standards in regards to guys you date, and stupid assholes who use words like "peniphobia" in regards to exposing themselves inappropriately aren't worth your time.
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16. female.
parents are devorcing, dad is moving to florida my mom is staying in michigan (where i always and currently live.)
i cant stand my mother, and i refuse to move to florida. my mom dosent have a job, or anything and i truely can not get along with her, and my dad is gunna pay a large amount of child support.
i have decided that i want to get emancipated but how do i get a lawyer ect. and i need any advice on this subject. (link)
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Ok. First step, talking to a attourney.
http://gotler.com/familylaw/index.html
Thats a good start, as consultation is free with this attourney. You are going to be dealing with Michigan Family Law (of which I know absolutely nothing) so you are going to have to talk to someone who can help you get educated on the subject.
The yellow pages will have listings for lawyers as well. Call a few offices and see if you can get in to speak with an attourney. Ask about your options in this regard. Ask about CPS (Child Protective Services) involvement and if its a good idea to get the involved or if you want to stay the hell away from that.
Generally speaking, you have to provide proof that your parents are unfit AND have their agreement to emancipate yourself before 18.
Its possible you could have yourself remanded to foster care as a ward of the state, but usually its required to have parents who are really F*&#ed up, dealing crack out of the living room in front of you or something like that.
Its possible but I think unlikely that you could simply become independent.
Ive looked into it in Texas, and if you want to simply be independent the court requires you the child to do alot of things. You have to prove that you have a sustainable income that can support you, and a place to live, and you must still be able to attend school while not violating any labor laws. The details once again I cant say, because I have no idea whats on the books in the Michigan Family Code.
Basically, if you want to just move out on your own you are going to have to convince a judge its a good idea. And judges are HEAVILY biased in favor of one of the parents keeping you until you are 18. Its a long uphill battle to convince them otherwise.
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14/f
so me and this guy, we have no interest in a relationship
we've liked each other on and off for 3 years
i really love him
he loves me
i've given him a blow job
hes eaten me out
fingered
handjob
we've made out with just bottoms on
we've talked about sex
i love the feeling of being fingered while we're topless
am i ready for sex? (link)
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No, you are not ready for sex.
You are 14. At 14 you can't manage to take care of any of the consequences that could happen as a result of sex.
At 14 you are apparently too young to realize that being in a relationship is important to sex. You say you love him, but have no interest in a relationship?
No, you don't love him. You're just 14.
Also, most telling, you are on a website asking people if you are ready for sex. If you have to log onto advicenators to find out if you are ready for sex, then you are not.
Being horny and wanting to have sex does not make you ready for sex. Control your impulses, sex should be part of the natural evolution of a relationship not a decision to go a bit further with some guy you like and have been playing around with.
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Hi, i am sort of worried about this decision i will be making in about 3 months. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 24. He lived in boston and went to college there for 6 years when i met him back in the end of June. it was great, we immediatly clicked. After spenging the night together legit every single night, give or take about 4-5 from July - September 1st, he then had to move back home with his parents because he was done with school. he now lives an hour and a half away and its been hard but since september , we manage and hangout atleast one night a weekend. we still miss ecahother alot and because we are far, we have begun to fight about the popular relatonship issues: loyalty& cheating, and pet peevs. we both are silly because we`ve both been faithful, but paranoid. he has been intering as a phsycial therapist m-f 8-4 and it is terrible because the money situiation to hangout is bad. He will graduate in may and well as i and we are interested in living together.
since he will be starting a job, and i will be a par time student and go to school, money will be fine . the fighting may keep up but i think alot will clear up. since i go and see him every weekend, i have decided to move down there. we really love eachother and want to be close but dont want to ruin things.
help or opinions from anyone who has moved in with a boyfriend (link)
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First off, loyalty and cheating are not something to fight over. You shouldnt move in together if you don't trust each other. And by that, I mean you shouldnt move in UNTIL whoever has the issue has learned to clamp down on it and not be accusing the other of anything.
I wouldnt recommend moving in this quickly. Usually Id say you should date for a year or so before moving in together, at least. Its a big step, and things that weren't a problem before WILL become a problem later. If you move in there has to be the commitment on both sides that you arent going to leave, that you will stick it out and work it out, no matter the issue. Thats really hard to do (trust me)
Fighting about stupid things is going to happen. You just need to work on the resolving the fights and minimizing them, because its alot easier to stay mad at someone when theyre right in front of you, or when you have to share a living space and so you cant get distance to chill out.
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This has been ruining my life. Its embarrassing, its destroying my self esteem, and I'm completely fed up with trying to hide it, yet if I flaunt it, I will be considered gross and ugly by society.
I have discolored, puffy areolas. The puffiness causes me to have a noticeable mound on my breast. I have to wear extremely padded or hard cupped bras in order to hide them, or very tight shirts/swimsuits to flatten them down.
My nipples are flat. They are not inverted, and they make no bump whatsoever. The only way you can tell that there is a nipple there is that that area is redder than the areola. Although I don't mind my nipples that much, what if I were to become intimate with someone? I know that most men will be disappointed by two red dots. And what about breastfeeding? The baby won't be able to find anything to latch on to.
When I'm cold, and I get goosebumps, it is the only time my breasts looks okay. Sure, my areolas get slightly wrinkly, and bumpy in some parts, but they look so much more attractive because they become flat and a normal color. My nipples also protrude a little bit... by maybe 2-3mm?
I am wondering if this is because my breasts are still developing? Has anyone had such problems? Did your breasts change? I know that there is surgery, but I would be very unwilling to go under the knife.
I understand that if someone that truly loves me could care less what my breasts look like, but I know I will not show them to anyone (except doctors) while they look like that.
My breasts were completely normal until I started puberty. I have seen my mom's breasts and they look normal.
Doctors have looked at them during routine check ups and never said anything about them. Only my obgyn asked me if I experienced any itching or discomfort. (she was checking me for cysts, and she found lots... all normal and deep in my breast tissue so there is no connection to them and my nipples.)
I'm turning 17 in less than a month, and although my breasts changed when I was about eleven, I got my period right on my 16th birthday, so I guess you could say I'm a late bloomer.
Its just so hard to find bras that will hide my condition. I have one bra, and I always get questions why I wear a bra when I sleep at sleepovers. I have a really hard time trying to find bikini tops, in fact, I won't go into the water all the way for fear that my top will stretch out and reveal what I've been hiding for so long.
Otherwise, I have great body image, I'm completely comfortable in my body if no one can see my condition. Please help me. I would really appreciate any input: advice, pep talk, anything. Thank you (link)
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::Edit::
No, it really is no huge deal to me if your nipples are ugly. The point, however, that I was trying to make is that you are far more concious of how your nipples look than other people are going to be.
Hence, its NOT a huge deal, because you are a teenaged girl who like every other girl in the history of the planet, has to find something about herself to hate, and I was assuring you that no one else is going to be as obsessively neurotic as you are. That should be of some comfort.
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On the intimacy thing, every breast looks different, and guys at least are too busy being happy that they get to see breasts to sit there and analyze what they look like.
I wouldnt be so self conscious. Theyre nipples. Its not a huge deal.
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how old do you people think is an ok age to lose yor virginity? (link)
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There is no such thing as "an OK age".
Sexuality is individual. Some people are ready at 16, some people arent ready until 30.
Though, as a practical response, if you are asking what an OK age is, you aren't ready yet. Anyone who asks others a question that is something like "do you think I might be ready for sex" isnt ready for it yet.
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Ok my friend Terry (26) and I (23) are always very flirtatious, but really good friends too. And yes I do have a crush on him. We have been friends for a few years. I always catch him staring at me and when he realizes I catch him he just smiles because he loves it when I catch him. Like when I sit in a skirt he shakes his head and just says stuff like "Err that's not fair." like when we are at karaoke or watching a movie. He is always wanting to get caught doing something. and that is one thing that is exhilarating to me. Well with all our flirting we have gotten a little touchy lately. The other night we were watching a movie with some friends and we were cuddled up (like usual) with him laying across me on the couch. Our other friends fell asleep, I was massaging little parts his back and head, and he started slowly tickling my legs that he had been resting on. well..... it got a little further with him rubbing inside my legs tickling me and he… starting rubbing my clit. it was feeling really good until he tried fingering me. It just did not feel right and I told him not to do that. And he understood and stopped. I don’t want to hear that he was taking advantage of me because I could have stopped him sooner, and if he was he could have kept going. Now…I am a virgin and he does now that. We are both celibate ( we don’t have sex with anyone, for those of you who don’t know) and respect each other. It is just the way we are. Now is it normal that I don’t like it when he is trying to penetrate me with his finger? It just doesn’t feel good. Makes me queasy. I don’t like that I don’t like it because I want it to feel good. Also do you think this well effect our friendship? Also I have been trying to come up with some icebreakers how I can talk to him about this, Anything anyone can help me with would be great (link)
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Wow.
Ok, first of all, you two should have gone out on a date by now. Seriously. You both like each other and obviously you like him touching you in an intimate way.
The penetration thing is your discomfort with being a virgin at 23. Its something you are going to have to get over eventually, and its something you are going to have to take slowly. Becoming comfortable with new things is never very easy.
Icebreakers? Do you really need one? You have a crush on him and hes playing with your clit, I think that ice is at least a little bit broken. Get off your ass, go talk to him, kiss him, and tell him he's taking you out to a movie already.
Oh, and the friendship thing. You two can't remain just friends for too much longer. Too much tension, you both want each other and denying it or trying to "preserve the friendship" just means youre going to both drive each other nuts until you end up dating _later_ or one of you walks away.
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13/f he's 16/m
MMkay , wellme and my new boyfriend have been dating for 4 days and yesterday he wanted a handjob...I've done it before and all but I told him no , he had to wait because I have my own morals and I'm not a slut...I know it was a good choice to wait.
Also , he's 16 and expelled from school , so he doesn't go to school and has no plans on going...meaning he basicly has no future.This upsets me...
Another thing is that yesterday we were talking and he asked me what are my limit's ? And I said nothing below the belt.And then we were talking about how many previous sexual partners we've had and I told him I'm kinda a virgin [ well techniclly not because penis in vagina = non-virgin ] and he said he'd had about 35 girls who he's had sex with and 15 who have given him blowjobs.I was like :O man whore.He said if he tried he wouldn't beable to rememeber all their names and he didn;t know all their names in the first place.This also upsets me.
So , I'm thinking about asking him to get tested for STD's , STI's and AID's and all that before we do anything.
Answers ? Opinion's ? ANYTHING would help me...I can't get this out of my head !! (link)
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Jesus christ.
Ok. Reasons why you should not be going out with him.
1) Youre 13 and he's 16. At 13 you have not even been dating a year. You should be going out with 13-14 year olds if anything, the similarly unexperienced. 3 years is alot of gap at your age.
2) You're gullible. He hasnt had 35 girls. Ive known manwhores. I came close to being one when I was younger. If he had actually had sex with 35 different girls, he would be with one of them, having sex. Not with you, the virgin. The fact that "he cant remember their names" is a big clue. Thats a smoke screen so that he doesnt have to make up fake names of 35 girls, or name girls whom you just might be able to ask.
3) You've been dating for 4 days. 4 days. Thats not "we've been dating". Hes a sleaze, all he wants is to get laid, and hes found a girl he thinks is gullible enough to let him have some. Don't be that girl.
4) Expelled? At 16? Do you know how hard that is?
At 13 the last thing you need to do is date a guy who just wants sex, who lies (badly) about his experience, who is a loser, etc. You were completely right about it being a good choice not to touch his dick. You've got a good head on your shoulders, and you're cautious. But consider this a severe learning experience. Guys are full of shit. Being a guy, I can say that.
Right now, you need to be dating. Dating as in getting to know a guy, going out and being cute together, and being giddy about kissing. Leave anything sexual (which means hands do not go under clothes) for a few years from now. And drop this guy. He is lying to you. Thats not a question, its a certainty, and you don't need to date a guy who lies.
If you don't dump him, demand that he gets tested, and demand to go with him to the STD clinic when he gets tested and when he gets the results.
But please, don't make the mistake of "giving him a second chance". He doesnt deserve it and you'd be better off not putting yourself in the situation of dating a horny 16 year old loser.
I have a movie to recommend to you. Its called "Kids". Its not a fun movie, its actually kind of depressing, and its definitely not meant for your age group. But if you do watch it, remember the following.
Your 16 year old? Hes Telly.
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is all the hype concerning 2012 true? with planet x becoming close to the sun and then causing solar flares to hit us and etc? with global warming? cause i just watched some videos on youtube about it and im kind of scared.. because i'll only be 19 in 2012.. barely lived a life :/ i wont even get to have children unless i survive but i cant imagine how life would be like.. i dont want my friends and family to die either :( (link)
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Its all bullshit.
Humans are always trying to define the limits of our reality and always failing.
Its possible the world could end in 2012. Its possible the world could end tomorrow. Its possible we could make it to year 4792. Its possible that the world will never actually end, but that the human race will simply destroy itself one way or another.
No matter what happens, some idiot will claim they predicted it.
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Gan you get an STD by giving a blowjob... like swallowing cum and such?
Thanks.
=]
Oh, also... someone told me you can get stretch marks around your mouth if you give head a lot...
Is this true? (link)
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Yes you can, and no you can't.
You can get an STD, stretch marks are just something kids say because they want to believe they can tell if someone is having oral sex just by looking at them.
Being someone who sees protection during oral sex as counterproductive, I say get tested. Its a reasonable thing if you aren't just giving head to random people at parties. Go with your boyfriend and get a clear STD panel and thare she blows.
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hey! i am not yet 18 but my boyfriend and i have been talking about having sex soon in the safest possible way. i dont want to bring this up with my mom (i do talk to her about things but i dont think she would understand this one.. and im not asking about how to tell her) but im just wondering any other ways i could let her get me birth control. for example... my period is irregular so i asked to use it to make it more regular so it doesnt just surprise me.. any other ideas would be great!!
thanks! (link)
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Any birth control ad will list all the possible positives. Period regulation, clearing up acne, lessening of cramps, etc.
My girlfriend is suggesting one she used (though she and her mother had already confronted sexual activity at the time) is that she told her mother she wasnt having sex but that she knew she would eventually and it would be alot more awkward if she came and asked then, rather than now when it wasnt really an issue.
You might want to visit planned parenthood's website and see if theres an office near you. You might even be able to get low cost birth control from them, possibly without your mother's knowledge. Depends on age and local/state laws about it.
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A few days ago I started to have a lot of trouble with my computer. Command prompt is opening by itself, usually two windows at a time, and then an error pops up and closes them. Why is command prompt opening? Is it dangerous?
Another thing, I always use firefox [latest edition] and never ever use IE [for many reasons]. Now though, I'm getting pop ups that open in IE, stuff like 'crush calculator' or that pop up that says to run a system scan. Yeah, I exit out of them.
I ran AVG free edition and it detected some threats labeled 'virus lop', so I moved them to quarantine, but now when I start up windows I get an error "rundll" or something like that, is this something I need to be concerned about?
I'm getting a lot of errors with stuff like 'winlogin' and 'explorer.exe' and 'ctfmon'. I have been trying to get screenshots but my computer has been restarting automatically when these errors show up.
AVG also found some trojans and removed them.
I'm on my college's internet connection.
I'm running Windows XP and my computer is about 5 years old and getting kind of low on hard drive space [I don't know if that matters with this problem though].
I have to get through the rest of the school year with this computer. It ran fine until this started happening, now it's slow and error-ridden. :(
My main question is: what's the deal with command prompt opening without me doing anything?
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is there anything I can do, besides run AVG, to figure out what's going on with my comp and how to fix it?
I'm not the most tech-savvy person, but I'm not completely ignorant either [at least I hope I'm not that dumb haha], so is this something I can fix on my own?
thanks to anyone who reads this and helps. (link)
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Hmm.
Go here.
http://www.safer-networking.org/index2.html
Download Spybot. Its amazing.
Search for and download updates. Run the immunization, then search for problems. Let it eat whatever programs it wants.
Also, you need norton antivirus. I wish I still had the link to the corporate edition, it doesnt require subscriptions.
Now, back up important files. Pictures, documents, etc. Anything you can re-download doesnt fall into this category.
If your computer isnt fixed, I recommend a wipe. About every 6-8 months I back up everything I have thats important onto CDs or an external hard drive, and reformat and reinstall windows. It gives you a clean slate to work off of. Thats pretty easy, you just put in the windows installation cd, boot from the CD, and reformat your hard drive.
If it helps, I'm in your position. I'm running a laptop that was top of the line about 5 years ago. I have to be very careful these days because my CD drive died about two months ago. Save for a new computer in the meantime.
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While leaving school today, As I was pulling out of my parking spot, I hit another kids car. I pulled into the next available parking space, and got out of my car to go talk to the guy whose car I hit. Well he hadn't been in his car when I hit it, but he was walking toward it.. and he gave me a dirty look. Well he got into his car and left before I could even talk to him! I brought my car into the dealership, and they told me my damage was so little that I didn't even have to report it. There was just a little bit of paint chipped off. I know the kids first name whose car I hit... but I don't really know him. I don't know what to do ... He just left! The car dealership people said to just leave it be.. he's the one that left.. it's his fault for leaving. I still feel I should do something about it... Anyone know what I should have done? thanks ... Calissa T. (link)
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He left.
Its that simple. He didnt get your information, he just gave you a dirty look.
At that point, its his responsibility. Don't worry about it. Fix the paint chips. If he comes and talks to you, exchange information.
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