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Im really having a tough time understanding why any state would want to raise the dropout age to 18, my teacher always argues that they should raise it from 16 to 18 and now he wants me to come up with good reasons and i can not think of even one. help? please and thanks

okay well the pros would be that every student has a diploma, unless they get held back like 5 times. Meaning they would get higher earning rates. Meaning they could get better jobs in our economy. Meaning they could become engineers and doctors. Meaning they could help our future become brighter and discover new cures for alzheimers and cancer.
cons: it makes teachers focus on those less willing to learn and deprives others who are actually willing the help they may need. Takes money from the state and puts it into things for people who do not want to learn.(and thats really about all i can think for that one)
-hayley

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I need help. Every time i try to tell my parents or friends that i want to kill myself, no one believes me.

wow, they wont take you seriously?? its amazing how ignorant people are. Im gonna tell you this and honestly i dont care about the rating because you need to hear this..

Ending is one of the most retardedist things you could do. I understand you are hurting and its not what is hurting you its how bad its hurting you. But you cant run away from everything you have had. Im serious i mean think about it. If everyone wanted to commit suicide everytime life got rough people would be jumping off of bridges all the time. (woopsies just gave you an idea ;]) But seriously though, i am begging you if you are thinking about doing it, please dont. It is so not worth it.

Do you want to talk to me?? I can give you my email. If you ever need anyone to talk to i will talk to you. As long as you promise you arent a hacker or a stalker ;]... But seriously ask for my email in the feedback and i will edit the answer and give it to you. We can talk, like friends. I will be your friend and you can tell me whats on your mind. I dont want you to kill yourself. I care about you!!
-hayley

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ok i am 17 and my girlfreind wants to know how big my dick is and i measured it and it is 5 inches and the width is 1 and a half and is that small or big?

thats average really, if you want it bigger you still got time to grow. You generally dont stop growing till about 21; in that general area.
-hayley

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the last day of my period was march 17th. it was a 5 day period. it is now april 27th and i have not had a period since. i had unprotected sex on march 12th, march 30th, april 18th and april 22nd. and on the 22nd i noticed that i had a lot of clear/white discharge.i've never had this much discharge,its been constant and lasted for 6 days now. it doesn't itch or smell or anything like that. so what could be happening? possible infection? pregnancy? b/c i heard that women have more discharge when they are pregnant. or ovulation?

Take a pregnancy test, i would reccomend two though because sometimes they screw up. And if you arent pregnant then its probably nothing.
-hayley

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3 weeks ago a girl said she started falling for me and really liked me, after spring break word got around I hooked up with some people on a cruise

and it broke her heart but we were never going out. First of all I never hooked up with anyone

and she doesn't believe me. I told her today I wanted to be with her and she said a couple of

weeks ago I would of said yes but I just can't trust you so i think being friends is our best

bet. Well I told her i was going to try to win her trust back. She said she had some feelings for me

now but just doesn't trust me. What do I do to get her trust back? I want to soon before i loose her.
soooo yeahhh thankss

So you are telling me that she isnt even listening to you about your side of the story and is going with the flow of the crowd, and you were not even dating...odd. I mean if she doesnt trust you, OR listen to your side of the story before making assumptions that are false, then is she really worth it?? Defending every little thing you do....

BUT if you do want to earn her trust, tell her she has to listen to you before you can begin that. Because you didnt do anything wrong and you feel that you need to defend yourself in this case. It isnt fair that she makes these false accusations against you without hearing it from you. Get her to listen, and if she dont she isnt worth your time, because it is showing signs of insecurity on her behalf. If she is going to tackle you everytime you get a yard you will never make a touchdown. (just an analogy there).
-hayley

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15/f

K this guy i know his name's jake and we've been friends for about 2 years but we weren't that close until this semester. I think he likes me cuz everytime we see eachother/say goodbye we hug and he'll always kinda glance at me from across the room.and like the other day he was in mid sentence then just wrap his arms around me out of no where and we hugged. i'm the only girl on his top 12 friends and his friends say that i'm actually the only girl he hugs that much. we flirt alot and i love his personality cuz he was the shoulder i leaned on when i heard my ex cheated on me. We have alot in common too!
i just don't know how to tell him i like him. i'm kinda scared that he might not like me but i'm kinda sure he does by the way he acts.

so how do i tell him and does it seem like he likes me?

thank you =]

well just tell him. It sounds to me like he likes you. Or kiss him, that would let him know! haha
-hayley

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Okay so...theres this guy I'm interested in, (I'm 14 and he's 15) and we've been talking alot lately, more than a month. We have ALOT in common, and its always easy to talk to him. He said he would like to hang out with me but, I don't really know if he likes me. I heard from someone that he said he likes me but he hasn't told me himself. I don't want to tell him I like him, because if he doesn't like me back then he might want to be friends with me. I feel like I'm in fifth grade again, ugh.

Help?

Just trust me on this one tell him. I always tell a guy if i like them, unless he has a gf. But some of them are jerks and some of them are fine with it and actually do something about it. We all got to get guts at one point or another. At least you wont be wondering at home anymore. Take a chance. Life is much funner when you take a chance.
-hayley

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well, i am 23 , he is 28. We've met 4 years ago, got married; however I 've noticed and people told me that he likes to pay attention to the girls who are 15-16 years old, especially thing that turns him on is a school uniforms ( we talked about that). So i decided make him happy, bought uniform, weared that and yes, he was excited. However! Not at the wedding night, not at the anyother time he never get intimate with me unless i start the game and will play hard . And of course, what I do in this game just trying to make him happy and it works.However what about me? Yes, people say I am pretty : blond, blue eyes, slim and fit, but by living together, without any affection my selfesteem dropped so much, i do not feel beutiful myself, however i really trying to make our intimate lived interesting, always comin up with something fun and romantic, but it not working. I never had an orgasm in my life and he not really care. He just keeping looking at the internet pictures at teenagers, he is 28! believe or not , at 23 i am feeling too old for him. Is it normal? How can I change? /tried to talk to him so many times, even i've got depression because of that, he still not really care. What can i do?

Honey you really dont deserve that. He honestly sounds like a perv. And you dont deserve someone who wants to look at minors instead of you. Dont change yourself for him. There are many other men out there who would die for your attention. Dont cut yourself short. Leave him.
-hayley

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I've just realized something. I think I have something against Hispanic guys. All the relationships that I have been in with Hispanic guys I found the guy to be too clingy, no mind of his own, and ALL of them have kissed me on the first date, extremely sensitive and take offense easily thinking everything is "their" fault.

The Hispanic guys I'm talking about are the ones who were raised by parents who bring the culture into their household (whichever it may be: Mexican, Brazilian, El Salvadorian, etc).

An important thing to note is that I have nothing against Hispanic girls (I have many girl friends who are of that nationality)

I just can't stand Hispanic guys as boyfriend material.

Am I racist? Should I be worried?

PS. I really truly honestly don't mean to offend anyone.

I dont think your racist! haha i just think that since you have seen the boyfriend side, you realized you dont like them as much. Nothing against there culture, but i mean not ALL hispanic guys are like that. My friend Raphael is awesome! So i wouldnt be worried just dont date them anymore...
-hayley

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I love reading. But, the problem is that I don't know what to read next. hah.

So, has anyone read a really good book lately?

I'm 16/f. I like romance, action, and thrillers. But, i read alot of random books too. So if you have a book that you like, please refer.

Provide the title, author and maybe a brief summary (so I have a little idea on what it's about).

So, thanks! :]

Well i have a really good book called Wake by Lisa McMann.

Its about this girl and she gets into others peoples dreams. But no one knows.

It is really all i can tell you without ruining the book haha. It has romance and thrillers. So Perfect huh?? haha
-hayley

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Ok, let me just say that if any of you are going to judge me, just stop now, and leave. I dont need your opinion on me choosing to be bi.

So, I'm 15/m and I've come to the recent realization that I'm bi, or at least I think. I've had gfs before, and it was any normal relationship, just the same. But recently I've been noticing guys just as much as girls, and them I met Nick. Now, I met Nick online. I've never actually met him in person, but we've talked for hours on the computer, texted, and I've even seen him on cam so I know he isn't some 60 yr-old man. Well, over these 4 months that I've been talking to him, I've been developing feelings for him. He's adorable, caring, and has this amazing personality that I've come to love. I want to meet him, since he lives about 20 minutes from me, but something is holding me back. I dont know if it's being caught, seeing as how no one knows I'm bi. Or if I'm afraid of being bi and meeting Nick would be the realization. Also, if i should meet him, how do I ask my mother of all people to give me a ride to go see him?
Oh, one more thing, he's turning 20 next week, and im only 15.

Wow, hope you can help, please.
Thanks, Anthony.

Well im not here to insult you so yeah, but i think that maybe the fact he is 20 is a little not cool. Because i mean five/ four years insnt really a big deal--when your older. But because of the fact that he is over 18 and you are a minor could be a problem. Especially since you are both male. Do you see where i am going??
I think that its refreshing to hear that you wasnt born with your feelings. I mean people change and i get sick of hearing the same stuff over and over. I have a gay friend and he is really cool, and some people do have a problem with it but others dont. Mainly its girls without the problem. So you said your bi, maybe you should come out of the closet to some of your female friends?? haha

But telling your mother might break her heart. Maybe he could come visit you and your mom take you to the movies and you guys meet there?? Sorry if i didnt really help much! haha
-hayley

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just yesterday a friend of mine called me and told me some things about me bf. she told me he's cheats on me constantly and names plenty of girls. i was only really upset b/c this isn't the first time i've heard things like this about him. i have talked to him and i called about it b/c the stuff she told me had me pissed. he says its not true of course and doesnt understand why i dont trust him. i told him i dont a while ago b/c of all this stuff going on and he said he trust me. all i need to decide for now is who ima believe b/c i cnt leave him unless i really knw. so who should i believe??

Well really you got to put aside what every one else is feeling. I mean go with your gut on this one.
Once a Player Always a Player.
Thats right they lie. And it isnt the first time he cheated. So maybe you and your friend should do a little spy work on him. Like have you ever seen the Taylor Swift- Picture To Burn music video?? It deals with this. The girl and her friend do a stake out and watch him and find him with a girl, then she gets revenge by destroying his apartment. You should look it up on youtube. Its really good and deals with this situation.
-hayley

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13/f
ok if i go to a public pool and im just swimming, minding my own busines and this dude cums or [watever comes out to get a girl pregnant] and it floats in the water and it gets into mee can i get prego?
even if it was innocent and stuff?
[and wud not be on my period]

I dont really know. I mean i have never heard of it. I would say the chlorine would kill the sperm. But i dont really know. I would doubt it though.
-hayley

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13/f
okay so today i went to the pool
but i got out and went home cuz i had to go to the restroom, when i wiped there was light red but not dark or a lot and in my swimsuit it just looked like discharge.
well 30 minutes later i checked and there was no blood. now im not due for my period yet but then again im irregular because i first got it in feb. of 08
i had it for 5 days [april 1-5]
so am i getting my period or spotting or what im so confused!!
[im not sexually active either]
help

its probably just spotting. Took me off gaurd too. 4 years and last month was my first spotting sight. But its all good. Its perfectly normal. ;]
-hayley

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whats fatigue?

tiredness
-hayley

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I want to wake up soaking wet but I want to have peed while I'm totally asleep. Can anyone tell me how? I'm Female

Why? Are you pissed off at your parents or something???????

But whatever your buisness is your buisness, haha

Okay well like the person below me said drink lots of water before you go to sleep. And then just like if you wake up and have to pee, then just drink more water and go to sleep, eventually you will umm wet the bed.
-hayley

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ok so im one of these girls who have hair on their stomach. and im also really pale which makes it easy to see. should i shave?
and if i do, what is ithe best way???

shave across your stomach and then up against the hair. Not with it because you dont shave it that way.
and everyone gets hair on their stomach. Its just different colors.
But if you do shave it, be sure you shave it everytime you get in the shower, that way it dont grow back black with stubble haha
-hayley

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she sometimes tells me about a guy she saw and how cute he was, but when a guy ask her out she says no. she will lie to them that she is busy every week. but she isnt on the weekends. but she makes time for me even though she is busy. just to spend time with me. she is close to me when we walk and her hand always seem to brush against my amr or leg. when she talks about guys i cougar her to step up and go on a date with him if she wants to. but when i do that i am lying to myself, i act like i dont care of the men asking her out and show that i think its cute of them asking her out. but i really feel up set and jealous about it. i hide it because to show i am over her (which i am not). is it right to lie to myself? what can i do when she fines someone?(nothing just be there as a friend and move on) i just dont want to show my jealousy...i am a bisexual female.

Well...does she know you are bisexual?? Because if she does, it could mean something. Or nothing at all. I mean its hard to tell in cases like this. Why dont you just tell her how you feel. I mean it shows courage, and obviously she is telling those boys lies for some reason. You never know unless you try.
-hayley

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ok so im trying to get over my boyfriend that i broke up with like a few months ago and idk my way of getting over someone is to like someone else idk why so now im not sure if when i like someone if its just because i want to get over my ex or if i actually like them.
any advice?

thanks :)

well just try not to do that. Like the person below me said time heals all wounds. Maybe you could cry it out. Thats what i do. It seriously makes me feel better. Dont just rush to think someone else is cute, because it is probably your brain talking. You should be able to tell the difference between your heart and your mind.
-hayley

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I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 16, we've been together 4 months or so but i've known him for almost a year. My bff whos known hm 10 years says he's probably one in a million; meaning he isn't the type of guy after sex like most idiots....and he really is one in a million.
He's trustworthy, sweet, but if he even sees a guy hit a girl.....that guy needs to RUN!
ESPECIALLY if it was me.But....a lot of guys say that but some dude at his school talked bad about me and well.....it was not good for the guy-good thing about it was that theguy threw the first punch.so it was like self defense.
ANYWAYS. He told me he loved me and i freaked because my ex said that and i said it back but neither one of us meant it....with TJ(BF) though....its different.... get butterflies in my stomach even when i think about him....i'm going crazy even now cuz i can't see him today and i saw him yesterday! I know he means it cuz he really won't say that to anyone....he never has i'm the only one....and even his DAD said he was IN LOVE with me....even his sister and brothers....you know its true but i don't know if I AM! I've never been in love but it's different feeling with TJ! Ive NEVER felt like this.....HELP!?!?!?!?!

Awh! you sound like the perfect couple. And honestly i think you do love him, you are just afraid to get your heart broken. But it sounds as though TJ really loves you. And its really a heart mind controversy. You probably really do love him, maybe your just scared?? I mean like you said you and the last dude pretty much lied to yourselves. But i think this time is different. I think you really are IN LOVE with him.
-hayley

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