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is he ok? and what can i do?
well, i am 23 , he is 28. We've met 4 years ago, got married; however I 've noticed and people told me that he likes to pay attention to the girls who are 15-16 years old, especially thing that turns him on is a school uniforms ( we talked about that). So i decided make him happy, bought uniform, weared that and yes, he was excited. However! Not at the wedding night, not at the anyother time he never get intimate with me unless i start the game and will play hard . And of course, what I do in this game just trying to make him happy and it works.However what about me? Yes, people say I am pretty : blond, blue eyes, slim and fit, but by living together, without any affection my selfesteem dropped so much, i do not feel beutiful myself, however i really trying to make our intimate lived interesting, always comin up with something fun and romantic, but it not working. I never had an orgasm in my life and he not really care. He just keeping looking at the internet pictures at teenagers, he is 28! believe or not , at 23 i am feeling too old for him. Is it normal? How can I change? /tried to talk to him so many times, even i've got depression because of that, he still not really care. What can i do?
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Yes, I agree with the previous advice. This is his sexual problem. You will continue to suffer if you stay with him and don't get any help. He is very selfish and concerned about only his own gratification. Now for the other part...it is good news and bad news. YOU are not a victim here unless you choose to be from this point on. People do not change...they can grow if they want to with work, but basic personality, needs, strengths and weaknesses do not change. He will not change for you no matter how long you waste away trying to be perfect for him...he won't appreciate your effort..he is only a taker. You my dear have the power to walk away and find someone better for you. Someone you deserve and someone who wants to be a giver in an equal relationship. However, you will most likely still be attracted to takers, so get counseling and learn why and how you can overcome this. You are so young and your life has barely begun...you will be so happy to be free of him when you find the courage to do so. Don't waste yourself trying to win someone's love who only love's himself.
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You aren't the problem. Your age and race are not the problem. The only mistake you are making is putting up with this for so long without demanding open communication and some rational compromises.
Find a therapist you can trust and work on your negative feelings about your body. Remmeber: It isn't his FAULT that you feel this way. You have to take some control of your own feelings. However, he is making a lot of selfish mistakes as well, and only once you take responsibilty for your own feelings and have them under control, can you really start to calmly and respectfully discuss those issues and make choices as far as what you are willing to live with, and what you aren't.
Pronography becomes a serious problem when ones most important relationship suffer from it. Fetishes become a problem when one can longer enjoy any other kind of sex. HE has a problem and because he has a problem, your marriage has a problem.
You will need to talk to him about this, but first, talk to a therapist and to help you get your thoughts in order and to learn how to approach him in the best possible way.
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if he is not makeing you happy dont make him happy
or else try using sex toys on yourself and then everyone is happy
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Honey you really dont deserve that. He honestly sounds like a perv. And you dont deserve someone who wants to look at minors instead of you. Dont change yourself for him. There are many other men out there who would die for your attention. Dont cut yourself short. Leave him.
-hayley
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