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don't like Hispanic guys
I've just realized something. I think I have something against Hispanic guys. All the relationships that I have been in with Hispanic guys I found the guy to be too clingy, no mind of his own, and ALL of them have kissed me on the first date, extremely sensitive and take offense easily thinking everything is "their" fault.
The Hispanic guys I'm talking about are the ones who were raised by parents who bring the culture into their household (whichever it may be: Mexican, Brazilian, El Salvadorian, etc).
An important thing to note is that I have nothing against Hispanic girls (I have many girl friends who are of that nationality)
I just can't stand Hispanic guys as boyfriend material.
Am I racist? Should I be worried?
PS. I really truly honestly don't mean to offend anyone.
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I don't think you're racist at all. You are simply making observations about a race from your personal experiences and applying them to your lifestyle. If the characteristics don't fit with you then it's perfectly acceptable to steer away from the sort of people who may contain these sorts of things.
I think a lot of stereotypes are actually quite right. There have been multiple studies done that show that a person tends to believe his/her own racial stereotypes. I feel this proves most of the stereotypes to be true--especially when the race itself believes them to be.
It is also a fact that people tend to be attracted to one specific race more than others. This usually is from the person's upbringing--who they have been around and what they have gathered from interacting with various types of people. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this.
It's a fact that black communities have a notably higher crime rate than that of other communities. This being said, a person living in such communities may observe blacks being aggressive, cruel, and hate-filled toward others. The person may then apply this to other situations because the majority of blacks they have encountered have had these negative aspects. This may enforce a physical attraction to another race and may make them feel less attracted to the African-descendant race. This does not make the person racist, as it is completely natural. It simply shows that the person is trying to seek out the best mate possible for their personality and such.
Take something else into consideration other than race for a moment. Say you have met and interacted with fifteen convicts. You notice that they are all not very truthful, less-hygienic than average, and physically aggressive towards others. This may make you feel less attracted to people you find that have spent time in jail. You may also apply this to dating situations and inquire if a person has been imprisoned in the past so that you feel you can get an idea of what sort of personality they have. It doesn't mean that you hate these sorts of people, it simply means that you are looking out for the well-being of yourself and possible future children.
People gather information all of the time about others. It is natural to gather information based on physical aspects. It is natural for all humans to make theses sorts of observations to find what sort of mate will make the best offspring. This is really true for lots of things like race, weight, height, body-build, etc. It is completely natural to seek out a mate without negative aspects.
I hope I've helped you clear things up in your own head and can understand why it is okay to feel the way you do.
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If that is a enough to qualify you as a racist, then I imagine almost everyone on the face of the planet is a racist.
The best thing you can do is keep an open mind and be willing to accept that not all generlizations are true. As a general rule, I don't like to date guys who live at home. I have found them to be irresponsible and irrational in thier expectations on my time. Is that a totally fair thing to say? No, not at all. It's an unfair generalizations, but never the less, it is my experience and would make me hestitant to date someone in the future who lives in thier parents home.
That doesn't make me evil. You aren't evil either. All you need to do is be aware of your bias and accept that although that is a perfectly ligitimate personal reason to choose who you date, to allow it to extend beyond that or to talk about experience as through that is true with all hispanics would be racism.
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No, you're not at all racist.
I assume you live in CA or TX. There's a lot of Hispanics in both states.
Well, many people look down on Hispanics because they're usually the ones that honk at girls walking down the street, they're usually the ones in porn shops and in bars and strip clubs.
I look down on Hispanics because of that. But then again I have to realize that ALL Hispanics aren't like that. Give them a chance.
It could work.
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I dont think your racist! haha i just think that since you have seen the boyfriend side, you realized you dont like them as much. Nothing against there culture, but i mean not ALL hispanic guys are like that. My friend Raphael is awesome! So i wouldnt be worried just dont date them anymore...
-hayley
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