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15/F
I haven't started my period yet. But my discharge comes out in clumps, Recently, it smells really weird and is a yellowish color. It's not like it normally is. So is something wrong??

It could be some sort of vaginal infection or hormonal imbalance, something that can be cleared up with a simple pill or cream from your doctor. In a serious case it could be an STD if you are sexually active. I believe you should go see a doctor or an gyocolegist instead of asking people on an Advice Column, just in case it's something that can be serious.

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14/f.

before I ask you my question, I just wanted to tell you that that is a really pretty pic on your advice column. anyways, well theres this guy that i've known since the beginning of the school year (i transferred to a new school not too far away from the previous school that i was at.) lets call him 'P'. P and I just started talking and we exchanged AIM sn's and then like a week after talking we exchanged phone #'s. anyways, it all was good you know we were just friends and stuff, but i found myself liking him, maybe even as a bf, but i wasn't sure. so we went out for a day and then we broke up and he said it was all a joke and it was a dare that someone asked him to do. i was sad for like a few hours, but then i forgot about it. so lets say a few months after that, we still talked but it wasn't the same as before. and now, i'm just so confused.. he always goes 'ily' and like 4 seconds later, he goes 'as a friend' he KNOWS what i'm thinking and its like he's taking advantage of it. and what i'm thinking of is ily as in the real thing. well, it's hard for me to get over him and i just don't know what to think of him anymore. last night, he goes 'ikly' meaning i kind of love you. and i go 'what?' and he goes 'well as a friend you know' and i just got so like ugh! you know? i can't take it anymore. idk if i like him or if i don't. i talked to my friend about it and she told me to avoid him and she told me that he was stubborn and an a**hole.

please help me out. i don't know who else to talk to. all of my friends are saying the same thing about him being a jerk but why do i keep falling for him?

Thank you for the compliment :]

I understand exactly where you are coming from. This guy seems to like playing with your feelings. He wants you to think he likes you, but then turns around and hurts you. This might be because he is confused about his own feelings and doesn't know how to handle them. Getting over someone is hard, even if it wasn't something big. Whenever he says "ily," know that he doesn't mean it in the sense you want him to mean it. At 14 years old, I doubt he means it in the real sense, because if he did, he wouldn't be confusing you this way. I think that you should try and accept that you guys are friends, and will probably be nothing more. Think about the way he is treating you. Would you want that as a boyfriend? Liking him is one thing, but having a relationship with someone like that isn't worth the time. If you would really like to get over him, chances are to do that is to stop talking to him. Block him on AIM, take his number out of your phone, don't pick up his calls. It will be hard, but it's the only way. Hang out with your friends a lot and keep yourself busy. Keep your head held high, and say to yourself "I am not going to let one guy get to me." I am sure you are going into High School, which is a whole new world compared to Middle School. Keep your options open. Heartbreaks are not something you should deal with at your age. This guy is odviously immature and doesn't know what he wants. Not something you need in your life. Getting over him is probably the smartest thing to do.

Try it out for a while. If you have anymore problems let me know, I'll be glad to help.

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Im 16/f and my cousin has cancer. He is 8 years old and has only 10% chance of living. The cancer started in his legs and now is in his back. He has tumors in his legs and one by his heart. His back bones are disinagrating(spelling) and today we found out that the cancer ate his leg bone away and now his leg is broke.
This is so hard for me. But im a cheerleader and was thinking about having a carwash for him, giving his parents all the money, even if its only 100$. Do you think thats a good idea? And does anyone have any ideas to raise money. We are doing a poker run and a golf thing. And almost all the money for those thigns are going to him. Any ideas that I can do? Please help. thank you!

Car wash is a great idea. If you hold a car wash, have people bake food and stuff. Make a huge sign saying what the car wash is for. Get a bunch of your friends and your squad to help you out. I'm sure they would be more than happy to.
Or you can hold some kind of contest. Make a bunch of flyers and pass them around town. Have your own American Idol. Have fun with it. Put out a donation tub for people to put donations in, also charge probably about 5 dollars for them to get in. It would be a great time.

I hope everything works out for you and your family, good luck.

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So I went out with my boyfriend for 2 months last night and I've been out of the country for 3 weeks and last night was the first time i've seen him since then... when I got there he was standing in the doorway and he didn't come out to hug me or kiss me which I didn't like... so when I got into his house the for the first time in our relationship, the first thing he said was ughhh my head hurts (he had a migraine) and his best friend (girl) was there and they were playing the games that I let him borrow while I was out. Well then my bf who was in pain laid on his bed and I showed him the gifts that I got him while I was out and he didn't seem really excited about getting them... he was actually kind of apathetic and gave me some weird looks when I showed him some of the funny stuff that I got for him when I was in China and Japan... By the way we're both gay which will make this part make sense... so he was laying on his bed and he asks Dana his best friend to come and lay on his chest... not me, but his best "girl" friend so then i felt kind of like shit since he obviously didn't want me to hold him or anything... then after that when his friend left we just laid there and like stared at each other
and didn't cuddle or anything and I asked him to come over but he wouldn't... then more awkward silence came and then he was like... I really need to get to bed... so then I just said.. alright well i guess i'll go... then he goes "i'm sorry..." so then I walk out and he's standing there and he doesn't hug me so then I come up to him and hug him and he doesn't try and kiss me like we usually so then I just left and he was like "bye" then he went back into his house before I got into the car... I don't know what's wrong with him... so I drove home broken hearted and was just really sad about that...

Anyway this morning my friend told me I should call him and leave him a message and an ultimatum... The thing is is that I'm having dental surgery this morning that's kind of serious cause they can actually tear a nerve if it goes wrong and my bf knows about it but he didn't call me to say good luck or anything so I left him a message saying

"Hey James I'm about to go into surgery and... I was kind of disappointed about last night since it was the first time I've seen you in three weeks and you were acting pretty distant the whole time... I don't know what's up but if you still want to be with me leave me a message sometime today...
*click*"

and yeah, my question is did I do the right thing by making an ultimatum like that?? I mean he could've actually had a migraine that would make him emotionally stagnant but I don't think that's what it was because even if you have a migraine or w/e you should at least hug your boyfriend and let him know physically and emotionally that you've missed him for such a long time....

bleh.
thanks for the answers, really appreciate it.

I believe what you did was more than fine. For him to act like that after you guys not seeing eachother for a while is heartbreaking. It is a possiblity that because you guys did not see eachother for so long he kind of lost feeling. What could most likely happen is that after seeing eachother a little more it could go back to normal. You handled that situation VERY well. If I were you, I probably would have punched him in the face. I personally think that you deserve better. Good luck to you, and I'm sorry he was a jerk.

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im never gonna try drugs but what would it look like if a person was on lsd? like is there a video of like an example? 13/f

When people use LSD or acid, they see some pretty screwed up stuff. I have some friends who are stoners and hardcore druggies, and most of them said they would never do it again because of the stuff that they saw. Pretty much stuff as in the ground opening up, or trees coming to life. My friend said that when he was on it, he was in a moving car and thought they were at a stop and was about to get out.

I found this on Youtube, many people said it was pretty acurate.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=h9EpnVAl5JA&mode=related&search=

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ive never really gotten in a fight before except for with my brother and we never actually beat eachother up ya know? and lately ive been "involved" with this girl who has a psycho ex that wants to kick my ass, and im probably stronger than him but i dont really know how to fight? i mean i can punch and stuff but yeah any advice is appreciated, telling me to talk it out etc etc is not appreciated hah

Don't have your brother back you up. If you are in a one on one fight with someone, bringing another person in pretty much says, "I cannot handle this on my own."

Never throw the first punch. If the first punch is thrown by you then he can say that it was self defence and you would get in trouble. The first columnist had great advice. If you say that then he might just back off.

If he doesn't, and he starts integinizing you and starting stuff, just stand there and take it. He could possibly loose intreset. If he doesn't loose interest and throws a punch, dodge under it and punch him in the gut, hard. If your reflexes aren't great, maybe you should work on that. Try and avoid any blows to the head, even on him. Possibly nose, that hurts a lot.

Haha, my friend and I used to get into random fist fights all the time for the fun of it, so hopefully some of this will help.

Good luck!

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how much would 2 sleeping pills knock you out? enough for someone to take all of your clothes off without u knowing??

Are you pretty much asking how to get someone to into a deep enough sleep so you can rape them?

Even if you didn't mean it in the sense, I don't think anyone is honestly going to answer this, just in case.

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i cheated on my bf. i admitted to it. but he keeps thinking theres more. but really there isnt. and he wont ebelieve me. he saids itll never be the same again no matter how much he wants it to be... i told him i was sorry and everything else about how i regretted it. but he keeps saying how much i hurt him and he cant look at it the same. i dont know if i shuld just let the whole thing go and just stop talking to him , cause obviously im getting no where. or keep trying. i believed when you loved someone you should overcome an obstacle, but he wont believe me and he wont overcome it.

If you love someone, you shouldn't cheat on them.
I don't blame him at all for being hurt and not trusting you at all. You ruined that and you know it. You need to take into considerations HIS feelings, not just yours.

Give him time, and if he doesn't want you back, then so be it. You need to suffer the consiquence to your actions.

This probably isn't what you want to hear, but it is the truth. I have been in a situation like this. I know that begging and saying sorry just won't work, it is not that easy. Let him think over his options.

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ok so i have a hugeee problem. i sort of have bags under my eyes. its not a puffiness from allergies or from sickness or anything, its just like there. it makes me feel really self concious because they are kinda of big. it makes me feel really old because i use old womans eye reguvinating stuff, and im only fifteen. i was wondering of any homeade or store bought products to use to make my eyes look better, other than cucumbers? and does the burts bees eye cream work? thanks in advance.

Put spoons in the freezer for about 10 minutes or so, then place them on your bags.

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this is very embarrassing, but my boyfriend often teases me about having hair around my butt hole. is this normal? I'm a 17 year old girl and i was wondering if its normal or not. its not very hairy at all but there is a tiny amount of hair around it.. is that weird?

No, almost everyone has it. No worries.

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i've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a month. i'm 16, 17 in less than a month and he is 18, almost 19. we have been perfect together and he used to think everything i did was cute, but now he gets annoyed or mad at me real easy. is he getting sick of me? that is what i initially thought, but i asked him and he said no i'm not, i'm just gay. why is he doing this? what do i do?

He needs his space.

Everything that may have seemed cute in the begining of the relationship, probably just annoys the crap out of him. You know when guys hold doors open and what not, sure it's cute, but after a while it's like, "I can open my own door thanks."

Give him some time to do his own thing.
That will most likely help.

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f/16 I want to become a decent singer. I can sing some songs, I suppose but people always tell me I'm a bit flat. Help? I can't get vocal lessons, I'm not singing professional or anything. Just for fun, but I want to become better.

Sometimes I feel like I'm out of breath. No websites please. Just some tips?

Is there any songs like "There are Worse Things I Could Do" ?

Slow and a bit alto /soprano-mezzo ish? I can see that song good.. just like "freddy my love".. but I can't find any other songs slow like that to PRACTICE with.
Help? :D

Do some breathing drills. When you suck in to breath, make your stomach fill up like a balloon. Then when you are about to hold out a note or whatnot, tighten your stomach, basically pushing the air up and out. This is called control. It takes a while to get used to, since it's opposite breathing for most people.

You can practice with any song that is in your range, usually the radio has stuff like that on.
Good songs to also practice with would be from the musical Wicked.

Usually good singers have vibrato, but that is extremely hard to learn and takes a lot of practice. Vibrato is the part at the end of a word that the singer holds out, and it pretty much sounds like the note is stopping and going real fast. That pretty much comes from the throat. I just learned how to do it and I have been singing for 4 years or so.

Singing is an amazing thing. Even if you aren't "good" it's still something to enjoy and have fun with.

Mostly just learn to control your breathing.

Flatness you can fix just by listening to the note real carefully.

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How come guys r such pervs

Hormones.

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So i'm 15/F
and i was wondering to the girls that have gotten fingered before.. how does it feel ? because some of my friends told me that it hurts, and thats one reason why i don't want to be fingered.. And also i just started wearing tampons, and for the first time it hurt alooot, so i have no idea if fingering is the same way, i really am curious haha. (:

Real good.

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i really haven't ever used make-up and when i do my friends tell me that it doesn't look good. I have like SUPER LONG eyelashes and when i use mascara it doesn't go all the way down my eyelashes.

what kind of makeup(colors,types,ects) should i use?
I have red hair, blue eyes, fair skin, and freckles,and SUPER long eyelashes. if that helps.

The person below me I don't think understood when you said, "My friend's tell me it doesn't look good."

Black mascara is not needed. Try some clear mascara, which just separates the lashes, and leaves them looking natural, yet full.

Blue eyes? Brown eyeliner.

Blush? Light pink, or none. You can just pinch your cheeks a little bit to get a natural color.

Tinted Chapstick.

You don't want anything too over the top or complicated. Something simple. Your friends are honest, so they can probably help you with what you want.

If people say makeup doesn't look good on you, you should take it as a compliment saying that you are naturally pretty.

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IS it possible for someone to fall in love in over 4 months of dating???



P>S we knew each other for a year in school

I did.

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okay so ive been going out with this guy for two months and i love him so much and i know he loves me too. the other night i was talking to him and he said " i love you so much and i think we could take our relationship further" ive never done anything with him, and im not ready to do anything with him, but i really love him. what should i have said to that?

"I really like you, but I am not ready to do anything with you."

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I have hit this really bad plateau with my weight loss (5'2" and 155 lbs) and i've been this weight (and fluctuating about 5 pounds near it) for about 2 months now. And my diet and exercise habits have remained the same.


I was having 1200 cals a day, then i recently took it up to 1400, then 1600, but i keep screwing up.

I feel so deprived of food that I actually like (ice cream, pizza, fries, cookies, candy, etc.) that I completely binge on it whenever I have the opportunity.


I would like to know what you thin people do to stay in shape/thin (or is it just your fast-as-hell metabolisms?)


and is it okay to pretty much throw your diet out the window from friday night-sunday night? (i need some time to have my junk food)


please just answer.

I am blessed to be naturally thin. At first I hated it because i was gawky and awkward, now I have grown into it and I realized how lucky I was. But just because I am thin doesn't mean I cannot pack on weight. I work out every other day 3 times a week at my school's weightlifting program.

My mom has gone on a diet where she watched what she ate every day, no white bread, no junk. Then on Sundays she would eat what she wanted.

She said she lost about 15 lbs all together.

It's ok to splurge one day, but don't over do it.

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I like this guy, we have been friends for three years and have dated a little in the last 8 months, he is quite a bit older than me, and I believe it bothers him a little bit but at the same time do believe he likes me, on my birthday he wrote in my card " your a great girl" what does that mean?

It means he thinks you are a great girl.
Not much else to say about that.

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last summer was the best summer of my life i met the lov of my life we were best frinds for the whole summer and we knew we liked eachother everything was so perfect then he aske dme out in october and we've been going out for 9 months now las month i cheated on him and everythings so different now well even befor ei cheated on him things changed we still love eachother to deatha nd we cant be without eachother but last summer was awesome becasue we were always having fun and now we argue a lot how do we bring back how it used to be? please help

You can't. You cheated on him.
Which ruined your trust.
Trust is a huge part of a relationship.
Until you prove to him and you build that trust back up, things won't be the same.

I know, trust me.
You need to prove to him that it was a stupid mistake, and that he is the only one for you.

If you cheated on him in the first place, maybe you should rethink your feelings.

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