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idk anymore..
14/f.
before I ask you my question, I just wanted to tell you that that is a really pretty pic on your advice column. anyways, well theres this guy that i've known since the beginning of the school year (i transferred to a new school not too far away from the previous school that i was at.) lets call him 'P'. P and I just started talking and we exchanged AIM sn's and then like a week after talking we exchanged phone #'s. anyways, it all was good you know we were just friends and stuff, but i found myself liking him, maybe even as a bf, but i wasn't sure. so we went out for a day and then we broke up and he said it was all a joke and it was a dare that someone asked him to do. i was sad for like a few hours, but then i forgot about it. so lets say a few months after that, we still talked but it wasn't the same as before. and now, i'm just so confused.. he always goes 'ily' and like 4 seconds later, he goes 'as a friend' he KNOWS what i'm thinking and its like he's taking advantage of it. and what i'm thinking of is ily as in the real thing. well, it's hard for me to get over him and i just don't know what to think of him anymore. last night, he goes 'ikly' meaning i kind of love you. and i go 'what?' and he goes 'well as a friend you know' and i just got so like ugh! you know? i can't take it anymore. idk if i like him or if i don't. i talked to my friend about it and she told me to avoid him and she told me that he was stubborn and an a**hole.
please help me out. i don't know who else to talk to. all of my friends are saying the same thing about him being a jerk but why do i keep falling for him?
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I understand exactly where you are coming from. This guy seems to like playing with your feelings. He wants you to think he likes you, but then turns around and hurts you. This might be because he is confused about his own feelings and doesn't know how to handle them. Getting over someone is hard, even if it wasn't something big. Whenever he says "ily," know that he doesn't mean it in the sense you want him to mean it. At 14 years old, I doubt he means it in the real sense, because if he did, he wouldn't be confusing you this way. I think that you should try and accept that you guys are friends, and will probably be nothing more. Think about the way he is treating you. Would you want that as a boyfriend? Liking him is one thing, but having a relationship with someone like that isn't worth the time. If you would really like to get over him, chances are to do that is to stop talking to him. Block him on AIM, take his number out of your phone, don't pick up his calls. It will be hard, but it's the only way. Hang out with your friends a lot and keep yourself busy. Keep your head held high, and say to yourself "I am not going to let one guy get to me." I am sure you are going into High School, which is a whole new world compared to Middle School. Keep your options open. Heartbreaks are not something you should deal with at your age. This guy is odviously immature and doesn't know what he wants. Not something you need in your life. Getting over him is probably the smartest thing to do.
Try it out for a while. If you have anymore problems let me know, I'll be glad to help.
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