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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



Feel free to drop one by in my inbox and I'll tell you what to do to the of my best ability in any situation. But remember, if it doesn't seem right, then don't do it. It's only my advice, not me telling you what to do.


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Okay so i am a 14/f and i have a disability called cerebral palsy (cp). This diability affects my legs and makes me walk very differently from others which can make people juge,stare and make fun of me. Now my friends who are 13 and 14 have a had at least 1 boyfriend and madeout and stuff like that. I have never had or done either of these, is this because of my disbility (does it scare or bother guys?). Aside from the disability i am a normal person with other than this problem a normal socail life....will i ever a romance coming my way?? please be honest no pity.

You'll definately have romance in your life! Hello, guys are completely immature and it takes them forever to grow up and realize that you are a great person. Romance at this age, trust me, isn't all it's cracked up to be. If I were you, I would wait until romance actually meant something other than putting "i

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is there a way to just leave a message when calling somebody? like you dont want them to pick up you just want to leave a message?

Yeah.. Do you have Verizon? If so, you dail voice mail, press 2, then follow their instructions. It's way cool.

And for the three way thing.. No.

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iimm like 125 pounds!!!!! i am only 14 and i am like 5 feet dont u think thats wicked fat!?!?!? well what should i do to get skiinny i feel like a fat cow and i dont like to wear athingsuites and stuff infront off people i need to get skinny by summer what hsould i do? i rate high!!

So you're just on the heavy side. It's definatly not wicked fat, but you're almost overweight. Not quite. To get skinny by summer... well... that's a long time from now. So eat healthily and burn more calories than you take in. Eating less may help you not gain weight, but burning the calories makes you lose them. Good luck

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ALL FIVES FOR WHOEVER TRIES TO HELP!!!!
i'm doing a math project and i need real-life examples/uses for slope-intercept form(y=mx+b).
i really need this in like the next 30 min!! please help! all fives!

Maybe a stairway or a ramp.

y= slope of the stairway x + y-intercept.

Hope it helped?

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how can you change what it says on your xanga instead of "Add Comments" "Add Eprops" and "Sign Out"?

ex.) make it say "Add Hugs" "Add Kisses" "GTFO"

I got the code and made a whole new xanga just for you. Just change the x's to what you want it to say. You should love me just about now.

http://www.xanga.com/woiethksdnfw

There you go kiddo.

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My boyfriend and I are constantly getting into debates about everything, especially religion and politics. We usually don't get that worked up, but I'm afraid it's going to do our relationship damage in the long-run. Is debating normal? Or should we avoid doing it in case we start fighting and potentially ruin our relationship? Do other people have experience with this...?

16/f

I think that it's perfectly healthy to have some disagreements. Just make sure when you're argueing that you only prove your point clear without offending your boyfriend. Avoid fighting in public.. in fact.. avoid fighting at all. But, hey, it happens. You'll make it though.

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So BASICALLY Im going on a cruise in December to the Caribbean and Im really excited and all, but I dont have a lot of warm clothes! Ive outgrown my summery clothes and I live in MASSACHUSETTS so EVERY store only has cold weather clothes. And Ive tried! I mostly just need BATHING SUITS! Im thinking I probably need to order them online? That would be the best option. I leave December 23rd. Im a size 14 in bathing suits (in like kids lol) Does anyone know a website(s!) I could order bathing suits on. Ive tried obvious stores - Abercrombie, AE, etc! Please be POSITIVE they have bathing suits & in my size & Ill rate you a 5! thanks!

Thanks!

Try department stores! They'll probably have some. Don't worry about where they are from, nobody will probably know. Pac Sun has a great deal of them, but I'm not sure if there are still some there. When you're checking the sites online, make sure that you're looking in the sale section.. because that's probably where they'll be. Good luck!

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Do guys just want girls who are hot? Or something more?

Some guys.. just want girls that are hot. Other guys aren't idiots. Some guys want girls that are intelligent, witty, fun to be around, nice, affectionate, and happy.

All in all, guys are like girls. Their appearance matters.. but it's not everything.

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My birthday is coming up very soon. I know this sounds really stupid, but I want to make cute invitations =) I'm using plain computer paper. My question is, besides who, what, when, and where should go on an invitation?

Make sure you have an R.S.V.P. date and phone number. Don't make the R.S.V.P. too early, or else people will be like, "Ew what a nerd." Use pretty colors and maybe add a border. I wouldn't add too much info about the party... Things like "snacks will be provided" "come ready to dance!" sound corny.

Another fun thing you can do is get a picture of yourself (in a tiara or something) and make it the background. Get creative!

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this'll b a lot
i really like this guy and i was at a party with him nd he was like flirting w/ my 1 friend then like sitting on a couch holding hands nd stuff w/ my othr friend and only really said hi to me. i dont think tht i am outgoing enough im really shy and i wish i could change that do u have ne tips on how 2 change to b more outgoing b/c i really want him to notice me and for me to b able to talk w/ him

To be more outgoing.. simply put yourself out there! It's a lot easier to be outgoing when you're around people that you're comfortable with. So hang out with your friends when you're with new people, and then get close with them. As for boys, figure out what they're interested in and bring the topic up. Don't fake liking something if you don't. And if the conversation isn't going well, walk away. If you're at a party, than hang out with others. Instead of devoting your whole time with the kid, just hang out with him for short periods of time.

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ok, i feel like a complete loser, everyone i kno really has had a bf or tons nd i havent i feel like a reject or smthingis tht wrong

Hey.. it happens to all of us. You're not a reject, because there are tons of singles out there. And you never mentioned that you liked someone. I wouldn't strive to have a boyfriend if you don't like someone to start out with.

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ok im 13/f well about a year ago i went online to a chat room and was super bored and said does anyone want to talk..and this kid imed me hes 14 and we talked for 6 hours straight that night and not anything at all sexually..well ive been talking to him and he helps me out with my problems and i help him out with his...and i really really like him i dont want to tell him this because he lives far away..and hes not one of those creeps ive seen his myspace and hes had friends and all... should i tell him i like him or keep this to myself??

I'd keep it to yourself because you have to face it. He lives miles away from you. Yeah, you can help each other out, that's great. But you never know who that "kid" really is.

So remain online-friends with this boy.. and leave it at that.

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how can i be more confident in myself?

It depends in what way you're not confident.

Say you don't like how stupid you are. Study it up and make sure that you're always doing your homework. If you try hard, you'll suceed.

Say you don't like your appearance. Maybe you're too fat, or too skinny; too tall, or too short; not fashionable, a fashion victim; have too curly hair, have compeltely straight hair; don't wear enough make-up, wear too much make-up. You get the picture. If you don't like your appearance, work it out with yourself without changing yourself so much that you don't even resemble yourself. And make sure you're making the changes for yourself, not anyone else who doesn't approve.

Basically, if all else fails, make a list. Grab a piece of paper and fold it in half. One side is the pros, the other the cons. Now, write down all of the pros and cons of yourself. Once you're finished, split the paper in half. Post the pros list on your ceiling, it's nice to fall asleep and wake up to. Put the cons away somewhere safe. Work on these until they become pros. Once you've reached your goal, tear that paper up. You're a winner.

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my bf gave me a hickey on tuesday and it hasnt lightened at all or anything..i mean its VERY noticable. its like very dark. i can wear my hair down the rest of the weekend and to school on monday. but for cheerleading i have to wear my hair up so idk how im going to do that without my whole squad seeing it cuz trust me they will. can anyone help mee!?

5's for any bit of help

As others have said, concealers, foundations work fabulously. Also, use the color wheel to your advantage. The opposite of red is green. So what you do is you put on concealer, something green (a light green eyeshadow is perfectly okay), then another coat of concealer of foundation. It should work perfectly. There are concealers that you can buy with one side is skin colored, the other side is green.. but if you already have light green eyeshadow.. then you shouldn't waste your money. Good luck!

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Every night for the past week or two, I've been having really bad nightmares. Two of the nights I've had nightmares that I was in a car accident. The other two nights, I've had dreams that I killed someone I love and tried to hide their body, then realized what I did was wrong and felt scared and guilty. I looked everywhere online to find out what these dreams mean and why I keep having them. Can someone tell me what all of this means? I rate 5's for all answers.

Car accidents are supposed to mean that you're confused in life and are experiencing major troubles. If these car accidents include visuals of the drivers, than it means you don't trust them. If you are driving, you don't trust yourself.

Killing someone you love is because you may be having troubles in the relationship, but you hide your feelings.

You really need to try and write down your feelings. Dreams reflect upon your innermost thoughts, even ones that you might not be aware of. Don't eat, drink, watch tv, or listen to music 2 hours before you go to bed. (Unless the music is relaxing like jazz.. Nothing suspensful or anything with lyrics) Keep a glass of water by your bed.

Good luck.

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how do i make icons for free? like for xanga

You can grab images off of image search engines such as google.com/images and then plop them into paint. Feel free to move them around, add text, add effects... The only thing is, paint doesn't have animation. Sigh. Oh well.

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Everynight for 2 weeks stragith I have had this dream, what do you think it means?

My 2 friends and me are walking up a beatan path/trail in the woods and its kinda stormy, we are headed to the top of the mountain. When we get to the top of the mountain I see my ex, so I walk over there to talk to him. . Then all of a sudden out of the woods a dark evil shadow pushes him off the cliff. I look down the side of the cliff on some rocks and he is layin there blood surrounding his head. I scream, and the proceed to climb down the side of the cliff and go over to wear his body is. I put my hand under his head and blood is all over my hand. I lean over and hold him while crying and screaming while his blood is dripping all over me. I lean over again to kiss his bloody lips. I kiss him while holding him close. I wake up screaming & crying. Whats so weird is I could swore I almost taste blood in my mouth. I dont know what to do anymore, please help me before I go insane......

Characters//Your Feelings Towards Them

Two friends- You find these two people very supportive when you're in the roughest times. You find they understand you the most and are willing to have fun with you. You also feel guilt towards them because you tend to be the center of attention a lot.

Ex- You want him back, but others believe that it isn't going to work. You care about him so dearly and will put yourself at risk for him. You might even love him.

What You Should Do

You really need to try and write down your feelings. Dreams reflect upon your innermost thoughts, even ones that you might not be aware of. Don't eat, drink, watch tv, or listen to music 2 hours before you go to bed. (Unless the music is relaxing like jazz.. Nothing suspensful or anything with lyrics) Keep a glass of water by your bed.

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I'm 12 years old and I don't hardly even have any pubes, and all my friends have there periods and mine is like 3 years away, whats wrong with me!?

There's no way to predict when you'll get your period. And don't stress it, mine didn't come until last year (on the last day of school.. it sucked so bad). I was kind of anxious too, because I thought I was unhealthy. If you're underweight as I was/am, it might come late. You have to be near 100. I was 89. Or maybe you're just late, period. No pun intended.

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I hate it when I come across questions asking for help on other sites, but yes, I'm about to ask one of those questions. I've already read through their FAQ and contacted Tom and the website about it (yes, it's a myspace question) but nothing has worked, and I haven't heard back from Tom or the site.

I don't know how, but I set my myspace to private, so if anyone who is not my friend goes to look at it, it won't come up only some stupid message saying that I set it to private and you need to be my friend to view it. Normally I would like that for internet protection and stuff, but it's been getting on my last nerve. So if anyone here has an idea or knows how to unset your myspace from private PLEASE let me know!! Thanks in advance!
SC

You're probably 14 or under
Set your age to 16 or 17 and it'll work better

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So i like totaly dont know what to do please help me. My boy friend like is all nasty liek he has thoughs werid boy parts down there and i dont know what to do every time i look at him i gag. I just want one woman to keep me satisfied wiht out having to call my self "bi" just so i can be boned and still grab boobs honestly SAM please help me!!!

Don't worry about lables. You don't have to call yourself bisexual. You can just go with the flow, and follow your heart.

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