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do guys care if you have sex with a bra on cause i will most likely want to because im not 100% comftorable with my booobs since i feel they are too small/too pointy and not like some girls who have these amazing boobs.. theyre not like huge points but idk do you know aht i meen theyre not like the super models who have these huge rounds ones that just stay there.. even tho most of those are fake i know some girls have those naturally .. im a 34B idk not so big..

I'd assume while having sex a guy wouldn't be concentrating on your chest. If you're self concious then yes you can leave it on. But the whole rubbing-against-each-other-thing helps set the mood while having sex. So basically, it might make it a little more sexier to have it off. Talk to your guy, and don't do it just because he might like it.

Good Luck

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when you are blocking in volleyball, what are your eyes supposed to be watching? the hitter?? the ball?? up at the ceiling?? down at the floor?? or straight ahead???

i'm confused!

Not to be rude but the answer before me isn't correct at all.

... I just got back from a seven hour volleyball practice, infact we concentrated on blocking today.
Remember this pattern:
Ball, SETTER, Ball, HITTER, Ball.
(every time ball comes in mind, remember the bottom of the ball)


The first ball is after the primary pass. Then the SETTER recieves the ball, ... watch the ball to the HITTER, then ball as it hits your hands.


When the setter recieves the pass, concentrate on the setter. Listen to her and try to focus on where she is about to set. Some small clues to give away her set will be shoulder position, any arches in her back and or if she calls out middle/outside or 1/4 depending on the position she's setting.

When blocking you want to start out watching the hitters shoulders. This helps you locate where he hit is most likely going to go and this also helps you line up with your other blockers to sucessfully block the hit.

When the ball has been hit concentrate on the very bottom of the ball. Penetrate the net and keep your hands open and firm. Follow the very bottom of the ball to your hands then as it enters play again.

Good Luck and play hard

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so i've been eating healthy for the past month, but i'm wondering how long will it be until i lose the fat on my face? it's really noticeable and i can't eve smile without feeling self-conscious. and i'm 18 so it's not baby fat. trust me. i was way skinnier before. any tips on how to get rid of it? thanks

Have you been doing cardio?
You can eat healthy all you want,
you can exercise all you want to build muscle.
But you will not lose very much weight at all
until you start doing cardio. Eating healthy
is a great start but try some fast pace walking/ full out running or some cardio tapes to help you
burn the fat. For some people the fat on their
faces is the hardest part to burn, so just be
paitent. I know its hard but try to keep going,
encourage yourself and be sure to set goals!

Good Luck

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I just graduated from High School. I'm worried about going through the rest of my life without having any friends. The friends I had in high school really weren't friends at all. I only saw them in school. If there was ever a chance to hang out, it was always me that did the inviting. They never included me in anything. When I confronted them about not including me, they'd make up lame excuses. It hurts my feelings that they did that and now that we're out of high school, I know I'll probably be even more left out than before.

All I have right now is my boyfriend. He is my best friend and the only person out of all my friends that actually calls ME to make plans. He's the only friend that actually wants to hang out with me.

Since my other friends never want to see me, I just spend all my time with my boyfriend. Which is fine, but I don't want to go through the rest of my life having only one true friend.

My question is, how can I make things better with the "friends" I have now? How can I get them to include me? Should I even waste my time with them anymore?

When I go to college, will I be able to make new friends? How should I go about meeting people? Has anyone else been in this same situation?

Hi there :)

I can't really say I've ever had this problem
before because I'm a very outgoing person and
I'll talk to a wall if I have to. Lol, anyways
I think I can help.

Does your boyfriend have any good friends?
I've made alot of new friends through my
boyfriend which is nice to have a different
crowd to be with sometimes and we're both
comfortable around them. I also don't stick to
one group. I'm friends with people from every
clique or group which is also very nice because
I don't have to act/be one certain way.

Now, to make new friends, act friendly!
Say hi to people when you start college,
attempt to start conversation in your new classes
College is a great oppurtunity and there are
so many conversation starters.
"whats your major?"
"you from around here?"
"what carreer are you headed into?"
"how do you like the campus?"

.. the list goes on and on.

As for your old friends, I wouldn't worry
about them. Try calling up some neighbors or
some kids that you talked to in school but never
really took the time to get to know. Or
once again, go for your boyfriend's friends.
I'm sure he'd be willing to help you out in
your situation.

Good Luck

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heyy i think im about ready for a more intimate relationship with my bf but
1. I have never been fingered before and I am worried about what the male thinks of pubic hair and what i should do about it and also what response they like and generally how it works
2. I have never given a hand job/ blow job and would like tips and advice plzz o"o
3. I have heard that it hurts first time...

thankyoo any advice woudl be appreciated :]

xx

Hi there first timer. :)

Now, when getting fingered most guys like trimmed or even little to no pubic hair. Its just cleaner and most plesant for the both of you. My boyfriend likes it when I moan a little, sometimes even giggle when it feels good. Be sure you don't fake anything though, that could give him the wrong impression. It might hurt the first time, I was a little sore. If you start to bleed later it'll be because he popped your cherry and thats 100% normal.

For blow jobs, personally I find them gross.
I prefer the guy to concentrate on me before I go sticking his buisness in my mouth. Make sure he's clean and try checking to make sure he doesn't have any weird bumps or rashes on himself before starting. When you do, stick as much of his penis in your mouth and slowly move it in and out of your mouth. Swallow the cum if you can, if not spit it out or ask to stop. I personally can't stand the cum, it makes me sick.

During handjobs, using lotion to get started is helpful. My boyfriend loves that, so it works. Just get somewhat of a grip on his penis and move your hand up and down. Start of slower and get faster the more and more he gets into it.

Good Luck
Stay safe

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Hey,
There is this guy i really really like at school, but i dunno if he likes me.Last semester we had a class together and he would talk to me and smile at me alot, but he would like talk to me one day and ignore me the next, but i would sometimes catch him looking at me. So does he like me or is he just being nice.....?

thanks

You can never be very sure these days.
Maybe he likes you, maybe he finds you attractive. Maybe he wants to be friends or maybe he wants more.

Find him and try to strike up a conversation.
Once things get going try some flirting by smiling alot and maybe touching his arm here and there. Just don't jump to the conclusion that he likes you, things could get messy.

Good Luck

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I need your help deciding what the ideal menu for a public dinner would be.

Not knowing what would be the best dishes to serve is making this an impossible task.

If you will tell me your favorite foods, or point me to your favorite recipes, it would really help a lot.

You can list as many things as you like. They don't have to be fancy things at all. I am all about the comfort food baby! :)

This will be a mixed group of people so I would like to have something for everyone.

Cooking for a banquet is not as hard as trying to figure out WHAT to cook!

Everyone will receive feedback.

Thank you!

P.S. If all that was a lot to digest, pun intended, here is a summary: Please list all your favorite foods.

I'm deffinetly in love with italian;
lasanga, ziti, spaghetti are all great choices.

i'm also into the homecooked stuff like
chicken pot pies and cassoroles.

as well as the normals like pizza, mac&cheese,
fancy sandwhiches, and anything else thats full
of carbs :)

hope i helped some.
Good Luck

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My boyfriend and I recently decided to have sex. I was not a virgin my first time with him, but it was painful and I bled quite a bit during. The blood eventually stopped after 3 days or so. Today we decided to try again. And while not quite the ammount of last time I did bleed and there was a slight bit of pain. Does anyone have any idea what might be going on?

You broke your hymen or "popped your cherry."
It's 100% normal and eventually the bleeding will stop completley. It happens to all virgin on their first time unless they've already broken it do to fingering or some vigorous activity. Stay safe!

GoodLuck

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15/f

i'm a night showerer and i usually straighten my hair but if i get up early enough in the morning i can scrunch it because it looks so good. The thing is i want to scrunch my hair but have it stay for the morning and it just won't if i ponytail it or just let it hang.

how can i keep it in place?

Also i absolutely hate my skin under my eyes. i've always had dark under eye circles and youcan kinda see my veins underneath. Also i have wrinkes it seems under my eyes, and i don't want to look 50 when i'm 20!!!!

I've come up with this new curling-routine I used and my hair stays perfect and curled all day long!
-When you get out of the shower, wrap your hair up in a towel for about 3 minutes to give it a little curl and take out some of the water.
-(Make sure hair is still somewhat wet) Use Garnier Frutis Curling Mousse and scrunch your hair. (I like to wet my hands and run them through my hair before I scrunch it just incase the towel took out a little too much water)
-Let it sit for a few minutes and air out a bit.
-Spray John Frieda Curl Renewal throughout your hair and scunch it again to get it worked in.
-After hair has dried, finish off with hairspray.

It stays curly and scrunched all day long :)

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will my hair be severly damaged if i straighten it 3 times a week for 30 days? thank you =] ♥

Hey there :)
I've straightened my hair for almost three years now, and I mean every single day almost. My hair does have damage, but not to an extreme point. I snip my split ends off every once and a while, and I've even started using Garnier Fruitis Deep Conditioning treatment which I'm now in love with :)

However, you can always try to mix things up by wearing it curly on some days. I got alot more compliments when I changed things around.
GoodLuck

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I'm reading a book called The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold. Couple of hours ago, my little cousin ripped the book completely apart and colored ALL over it.

I have a few questions that I need answered as soon as possible. I never got to finish reading from the middle to the end. How does the story end? I tried googling it and none of the websites gave me the ending or the middle.

Also, I have to write the exposition, rising action, climax, falling action and resolution as well as internal.

Is there anything that you could please help me out with. My book review is due first thing tomorrow.

Here you go :)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Lovely_Bones

It even includes the ending.
I finished the book about a month ago,
I really loved it.

Good Luck

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I love to read. And I found this really great book called just listen by sarah dessen and ive read it like five times and it never seems to get boring. But i need a new book to read. I like books that are written like diaries, like the book It Happened To Nancy. Or the princess Diary series. So if anybody knows any good books like that or anything other then mystery please let me know. THANK YOU.

I'm in love with Sarah Dessen; she's my absolute favorite and I've read everyone of her books. I recommend the other ones to you if you haven't already read them:

The Truth About Forever
This Lullaby
Dreamland
Keeping the Moon
Someone Like You
That Summer

I totally recommend each one, but keep in mind alot of people love Sarah Dessen so they are often hard to find in the library and bookstores.

Also, I recommend:
Peaches- Jodi Lynn Anderson
Bermudez Triangle- Maureen Johnson
Perfect Family- Jerrie Oughton
Life in the Fat Lane- Cherie Bennett

Good Luck =]

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I have been doing gymnastics for basically my whole life. I thought that it basically defined me until this year, when I joined track. I'm a really good sprinter, and hurdler. I qualified for states in both events, and it's my first year. The problem is next year, my brother is going off to college so my mom is getting a full-time job. I won't be able to get my lisence for another two years, so there is no way I could drive my self to sports, but my mom said she would only have time to drive me to one. Plus, I'm going to need to get a job. My question is, what would be a better choice? (in your opinion, I don't care if I should do what my heart desires, because I have NO IDEA!) haha. but back to that point, would it be a better choice to stick with the sport I know and am good at, though I might not excel as much as it, along with all of the friends I have made throughout my time in that sport? Or should I continue on with the sport I will undoubtedly go far in? Please tell me why you chose the sport as well. Thank you very much!

Why not take a break from gymnastics? I was a competative cheerleader for almost five years and I thought it was my life; then I played volleyball. I was very good as a beginner and chose to take a break from cheerleading. Now I've become passionate about volleyball and I don't plan on going back to cheerleading. You can always try to go back to gymnastics, so just give it a break for a bit. Go with track and see where it can take you. Its usually more fun to succeed :)

GoodLuck

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Listen, most of my bffls are moving this summer, and i have alot of picture books, but i dont have any money for a camera. What should I do? Should I just leave with no memory or what.

P.S. I'm really scared for my closest bffl, because we have known each other since 2nd grade. Ill miss her the most, what should I do?

Try buying disposable cameras; they're relativley cheap and they'll get the pictures for you.

Also, fill the memory books with pages telling about some special times you had with each of your friends, they'll love it.

Good Luck

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how do u get rid of love handles fast?

Stand straight up with your feet shoulder-width apart and legs stick straight. Lean to one side and touch your mid-calf (or knee to start with) then return to the upwards position. Then touch you're other mid-calf with your other hand. Be sure you do not lean forward during this, you must be straight up to make it effective. Do 50 every morning and every night. You'll see results.

Good Luck

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theres this guy I like but i dont know if he likes me? theres this guy that has liked me since 2nd grade and wants to go out with me should I?

NEVER date a guy you don't absolutley like. I'm not sure how old you are, but the older you get the more you'll realize how special relationships are and you'll learn not to take advantage of them. I advise you to persure the boy you really want instead of giving false hope to the one who wants you. Whats more important: Having a boyfriend you actually want to be with? ... Or just having a boyfriend at all?

Good Luck

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My boyfriend kissed another girl. What should I do?

It wasn't a french kiss and it was on the lips.

The thing is, my friend saw this. He was at karate with one of his classmates.

And I think my friend isn't lying because she told me the ADDRESS of the building and the time he was there. I know the karate place and I know what time he goes. And my friend doesn't go to his school so it's not like they talk about what time he goes there and where. We all hung out like 2 times [movies] so no conversation, basically.


My boyfriend didn't tell me anything though..

So i'm not sure how to go about this..

My friend isn't known to be a liar. But I don't know about my boyfriend. :/

Bring it up with your boyfriend: Ever heard the phrase "communcation is key"? Because it really is.

First, talk to your friend and get all the details you need. Then, approach your boyfriend in a calm, unaccusing manner. Start with "If something was wrong between us, would you be honest with me about it?" or "Is anything going on?" Slowly ease into the fact that you heard about him kissing another girl. If he denys it, ask the girl, if they both deny it maybe you and the boy need to take a break for a little bit until you are positive of who is telling the truth.

I'm sorry you had to expierence this;
if you need more help feel free to inbox me.

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when your going "down there" to finger a girl. Is the clit the place to focus alot of your time? Like will that gaurantee an orgasm? Thanks

Like everyone said, there's no garuntee.
But from personal expierence it works best; I'd recommend it. Be sure to try different things to see what the girl reacts to most.

GoodLuck

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a couple days ago i was listening to this country song. i dont remember what its called but it kinda has a story line of this person thats leaving for califonia. if you know what its called or think what it might be called any answers would be appreciated. thanks.

I do know of a song called:
Heads Carolina, Tails California
by Jo Dee Messina.

Good Luck

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I just finished reading Prep by Curtis Sittenfeld. When I go to the library I never seem to be able to find a book that actually looks interesting to me. Like all the books are about 26 year old single women that work for a magazine in New York City. Does anybody know of any books kind of like Prep, more for teenage girls .. that are good? Titles and authors would be great.

Sarah Dessen, I absolutley and completley recommend each and every Sarah Dessen books. They have literally changed my life, I love them.
They are all about teenage girls dealing with problems, but her style of writing sets all of her books apart.

- This Lullaby
- Just Listen

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