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Q: please give me a list of ways to lose weight FAST! i need to lose alot by august 30th. and keep in mind i am 14 and i WILL NOT get lypo. i will rate!

Well, first thing cut down on your calorie intake. Do not eat past 7pm and if you need to eat before meals definitely eat fruits and veggies. Secondly, for exercises, you should go walking once a day and before you go to bed do some exercises like crunches or situps. Also, leg lifts which you lay on one side and lift your leg. I recommend doing 30 on each. If that's too easy then do more. Also, another exercise I do is arm curls. Basically, you get some small weights and bring your arms down in front of you and keeping your elbow still you bring the weights up to your chest. Do as many of those as you can. One last thing, it helps if you do stretches right before you go to bed because if you don't eat past 7pm and you stretch you'll sleep better which burns more fat. I hope this helps and good luck!
Crystal

Q: I feel that my father is cheating on my mother. There are some obvious signs, and I'm not sure on whether or not I should confront him about it. (I'm thirteen.)

1) There have been small pieces of paper in front of the family computer with porno sites on them.

2) I have seen porno links on the computer's history.

3) At strange times of the day, his 'work' cellphone rings, and on the phone's interface it reads 'private call.'

4) I went onto the computer one day, seeing that a Singles website was completely filled out with my father's information.

My feelings are mixed--it could all just be a coincidence, and if it isn't, should I confront him about it or would I just be getting in the way? Please help me guys.

xoxoxox,
Constantly Confused

I definitely think you should confront him if you're so worried. It doesn't hurt to share your feelings. Just let him know what you found. Also, just to let you know men sometimes are into porn. It's so hard I know but just let him know it's hurting you and you're afraid. I hope this helps and good luck!!
Crystal

Q: Is it safe to cook with pans if they're getting rust spots in them?

I definitely recommend you getting new pans. The rust might get in your food and that's not very good for you so definitely get new ones. I hope this helped. :-D
Crystal

Q: 0o0ok Now i really hate tha way i look.I am 13 n i weigh almost lyke 169. I am way over weight. I am not very active but at nite i walk around tha track 2 tymez. Sumtymes i walk n run.And i wanna lose weigh by school starts n that is August 31st. N 2 day iz July 24. Iz there ne other way i can lose ALOT of weigh bye then.Ne suggestions on other things bye running n walkin fast?

That's good that you are walking and running. You should do that at least once a day. Also, I suggest every night before you go to bed to do leg lifts. In other words, lay down on one side and lift your leg. I would start out with 30 on each leg. If that's too easy then definitely do more. Also, arm curls will help. You'll want to get weights for that. Just small ones and do as many as you can. Arm curls are when you bring your arms down in front of you and then bring them up to your chest. Also, I recommend doing as many crunches or sit ups as you can and stretch before going to bed. Another thing you can do is watch your calorie intake. Don't eat as much and don't eat past 7pm. If you need to have a snack fruits and veggies are good for you. Well, I think that's it. I hope this helps and good luck!
Crystal

Q: hey, i have this plant. it bit me, well sort of. it's a venus fly trap, and i stuck me finger in it. is it poisonus? should i see a doctor, or am i doomed?

Well, there is good news...you are not doomed. Sticking your finger in a venus fly trap will not kill you. They are not poisonous. However, I wouldn't do that again if I were you. :-D I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: I just turned 14. I'm about 5'5 and weigh about 105 lbs. I feel I am fat for some reason even though I wear extra smalls and zero's in clothing and everything. Everyone thinks I am very tiny but I don't see myself that way. Because I feel I am fat I try to do 200 crunches a day along with running for about a half hour. Is there anything else I can do to loose weight and just tone up more? I also don't eat much. Like for maybe a couple days a month I'll eat like breakfast, lunch, and dinner. But all the rest of the time I usually only eat a small breakfast and that's it. Am I over doing the whole weight loss thing? Everyone has been yelling at me and saying I am overdoing it and I really want to know if I am. Please help and answer. Is my weight ok for my height and age? I both cheerlead and run track and want to make sure I am skinny cause for some reason I feel people won't like me otherwise. Can someone please give me some advise and help on the situation? Thanks. *Love Always Annonomous*

Well, I do think you are overdoing the whole weight loss thing. I think you are fine for your height and weight. You are not fat whatsoever. First off, you need to eat 3 meals a day but you can watch your calorie intake and you'll be fine. If you need snacks, fruits and veggies are good. You can eat a lot of that and be fine since that is so healthy. Also, for exercises, crunches are good but if it hurts too much to do 200 then you shouldn't do so many but it sounds like you get plenty of exercise with cheerleading and running track so that's good. Just be careful!! I hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: i was in two carwrecks with my mom. i am now in a
wheelchair. i go to the doctor alot so i miss school alot. but i still have a 3.5 . anyways,
i can't go and be in sports anymore and i can't ride the rides at the fair and i can't do all of the stuff i used to. is it wrong for me to cry when all of that stuff gets to me? am i just being selfish and a cry baby? if you could please help. signed,
feelin blu

Well, I don't think you're being selfish at all by crying. Sometimes you just need to let that out so don't think you're a cry baby. It's ok to cry when it gets to you. You have the right too! I hope this helps to make you feel better.
Crystal

Q: what are some good ways to get my muscles bigger? like in my stomache and arms n' stuff.

I definitely recommend, for the stomach, to do crunches. Try starting out with maybe 30. If that's easy, then definitely do more. Also, for the arms I recommend getting small weights and doing arm curls and I would do as many as you can for those. That should help gain muscle. These are the things I do almost every night. I hope this helped.
Crystal

Q: This year my mom gave me a budget for school clothes, only 500 dollars. Last year I got twice as much and this money includes clothes, shoes, accesories, bras and panties! I'm spending my money wisely but what should I spend the most on and where should I go?
I spent 200 bucks today and didnt get hardly anything... I went to Buckle, Hollister, and Gadzooks! I need fashion HeLp please!!

Well, I suggest shopping at Old Navy. They always have sales and they have GREAT clothes. I shop there all the time. In fact, I'm practically a billboard for them. LOL! Anyway, definitely buy what you need not what you want. Of course, I would start out with some jeans and some shirts and then buy other things. I hope this helped!
Crystal :-D

Q: i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, in 18 and hes 19, we have sex often. im a 34b adn he thinks that i should get implants. should i do it just to please him?!?! i really think that he might be the one, adn we've talked about our future.
help

Personally, I don't think you should get implants unless you absolutely want to. Getting implants just to please him is not a good reason to get them. If you think you're going to be with him for the rest of your life and then later on in life decide that you want them then great but you're so young still and have plenty of time to think about this. I just think that you should give it some thought and then decide. I hope this helped!
Crystal

Q: Okay recently my bestfriend Ashlee went on a trip for about a month or so to Texas to visit her sister Melinda and her husbend Robert. well one night Ashlee called me crying, saything robert had.."touched her" where he shouldnt have..and now she feels really weird and crys and shakes everytime she thinks of him or about the situation. Melinda is REALLY happy with her husbend but Ashlee doesnt know what she should do about it? Ashlee wont tell anyone, but i think she needs too, its bothering her so bad..and ya know Melinda doesnt deserve a guy that she thinks is so good to her if Roberts really something else than she thinks...what do i do about Ashlee!!?

I'm so sorry to hear about your bestfriend but something has to be done about it. My first advice for you is to definitely listen to her because she needs a friend to be there which it already sounds like you're doing. Secondly, Ashlee needs to tell somebody. That's a hard thing to do I know but it's the best. Melinda, for starters, needs to know. I'm not sure how Melinda is going to react to the news. She might not even listen to Ashlee but at least she was warned. Also, I'm not sure how old Ashlee is but she should maybe tell her parents if she still lives with them but she needs to tell somebody. Also, Ashlee might need some counseling. It sounds like she was pretty traumatized from this situation and a counselor will definitely be there for her. That's really my only advice and I hope this helps. Just keep being there for her and just say encouraging words. She may not want to talk to anybody about the whole thing and don't push the idea but try talking to her about it and if anything when and if she is ready to tell somebody at least let her know that you are willing to be right there with her. It always helps to have a friend there. Well, good luck with this and I hope I've helped.
Crystal

Q: does anyone know any good clothes stores with cheap clothes? i'm not saying cheap cheap but cheaper than abercrombie type cheap. help asap! i rate REALLY good!

I definitely recommend Old Navy. I shop there all the time and they have great sales too. Good luck with shopping and I hope I helped.
Crystal :-D

Q: A Soldiers Tears

I was scared stiff
For i knew that this pain wouldn't ever lift
I took one last look at my baby
Hoping one day maybe i would see her again
I looked around
I saw 20,000 frowns
But we all knew
As the wind blew
Today wont go by fast
It wont be a thing of the past
It will stay in our minds forever
Please someone just pull the lever
He gave us the go
And we all began to flow
I felt a tear
Symbolizing my fear
I knew it was the end
Good bye my dear friend
We began to march
And we formed our arch
We placed them on our shoulder
The wind made it colder
The leader yelled."FIRE!"
And we raised them higher
I looked at the guy across me
And i wondered why
Why did we have to shed each others blood
And sink into this warm flood
I wanted to just be their friend
This all has to end
But this country is full of hate
Each and every state
So I pulled up my gun
And i fired one
It hit him in the leg
Then he fell to his knees and started to beg
"Please Lord",he said!Just let there be peace
Im sick of the fights!
We should all have the same rights!
The Lord said yes i know theres to much hate
But you make your own fate
All the guns began to burst
It hit me first
I looked down and i was about to drown
Everywhere blood
Making a little flood
Men everywhere fell
It looked like Hell
OH GOD PLEASE HELP US NOW!
Bloody terrified yells
From all the brave males
I knew i was about dead
I would now go to my dark bed
I would never see my family again
My last memories were of these brave men
I began to fell numb
This world is so dumb
How would this make anything better
It would just make peoples faces wetter
This isnt a solution
Its a deady pollution
But as i lie
About to die..
I take my last deep sigh...
And i wondered.....
Why?

I thought your poem was very good. I just love reading other people's writing and yours was just wonderful. I wish I could write as well. :-D Anyway, keep on writing and thanks for sharing your poem.
Crystal

Q: Hi, I'm 14 years old. And I weigh around 115 pounds. I don't exactly have a flat stomach but I'm not fat at the same time. I'm 5'2 and I think that I should loose some weight. I've been trying not to eat so much (I don't anyway) But I get light headed when I don't eat. What I'm asking is, is 115 pounds for a 5'2" 14 year old too much to weigh? I also don't feel good about myself because I don't have a flat stomach. Is there anyway I can get a flat stomach? I used to have one when I danced and did gymnastics, but I've quit those so I don't do any excersie anymore and It's hard to keep in shape that way. Also my parent's don't own any excersie equitment and I don't go to the gym. Thanks..*Love Annoyomous*

Well, personally...I don't think 115 is too much at 5'2 and so I wouldn't worry about that but if you're really worried about looking thin and getting a flat stomach then I recommend doing crunches or situps. Those will help a lot and I would start out with 30 if you can. If that's too much then don't do as many but if it's pretty easy for you then definitely do more. Also, eating healthy like fruits and veggies will help to not gain weight and watch your calorie intake. I hope this helps you and good luck!!
Crystal :-D

Q: ok im 5'8 and im to tall already and family always used to say that i was the tall skinny one..but now i am like 130 lbs...i am fat...i mean if i pinch the skin on my stomach i get liek a lot of fat...its really embarssing...bcuz i never want to wear a bathin suit bcuz it shows my stomach...and i live on a lake..so its hard not to...bcuz i aloso luv swimmin very much! i play volleyball but i feel that i need to do somthing else to lose sum wieght...what can i do? {14-f}
~feelin fat :(

Well, for starters I don't think you're fat at all. Being 5'8 and 130lbs is not bad. Also, volleyball is a great sport to play to stay in shape. The main thing if you're really worried about your stomach is do some crunches. They help a lot. That's the main thing and if you need snacks during the day I definitely recommend fruits because you can eat as much of that as you want and not worry about gaining weight. And, one last thing, make sure to not eat late. That adds on weight but anyway I think you're fine but those are things I go by to lose weight. I hope this helped ya.
Crystal :-D

Q: ok well .. i play soccer nd im ahh 14 nd 5'3 nd i think im fat ... im mean im skinner then a lot of ppl .. but i think im wayyyy too fat i weigh lyk 140 nd ahhmy coaches nd evrything say its muscle cause ive been playin soccer for so long nd am on so many demanding teams nd track nd i do other stuff .. but i dunno i can nevr seem to loose weight .. i can only do it in my stomach really which i lyk cause i almost got a full 6pAcK but ahh my thighs i dnt lyk theyre to big but a lot if muscle i guess .. im jst askin what u think i should do
xO0 CoNfUsEdD =/

It sounds like you're not fat at all. Muscle is definitely good but if you are really worried about your thighs there is a good exercise I do all the time for my legs. Every night before I go to bed I do leg lifts. Basically, you lay down on one side and just lift your leg. Do it on each side. I recommend 30 on each. If that's too easy doing more is good. This has helped me but honestly it just sounds like muscle and I wouldn't worry about that. I hope this helped!
Crystal

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My name is Crystal and I'm 22. I live in Oregon. I'm married to a wonderful person. We have been married for 2 years. Some of the things I enjoy doing are spending time with my bestfriend, Christine and her fiance, Aj. I also love spending time with my husband, Brent. I love to go walking and go swimming and also love to read but talking is my main thing. If you need help with something I'm here for you. I would love to give you advice. Thanks for reading!! :-D

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