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Q: Okay well I'm 15/f and on my chest I have like bumps..some are red some I can feel but can't see...can this happen because of the heat? Or is something wrong? And if I accidently scratch it, it hurts real badly...I have 1 that looks like a pimple..I know gross.
Can someone please help me and tell me what's wrong or what I could do to make em go away
I prefer you go to a doctor.. but if they arent pimples
i think you should

Q: 18/f
Hi, i'm in high school going to be a senior this year and i really want to lose weight and be skinny and like i was in egypt and i think i gained weight, because in egypt they feed you alot when it comes to cuzin's but you get the point. anyways i would love to lose weight fast before school starts. one i have a belly which is not that big but looks a bit big and a not a small or big but just a lil big but not too too big and i'm short so that is not good and i can't help my self when it comes to eating junk food. i did try to lose weight but it's inpossible and i do eat at night which is not good for me at all and usually i get hungry at night but i try to lay it off. (and no i'm not pregnant)

is there any way by losing weight fast? anything??? and how do i get rid of eating at night what should i usually eat if i'm hungry or what kind of excercise should i do.

i need help asap now i seriously need help on this one i'll be waiting for advice please help me and sorry for begging you guys like this i just want to look good this year.

no pills or anything that can kill you....
hhahah omg!! me too i live in egypt
and let me tell you
FOOD IS GOOD
gosh lol im trying to lose wieght i did a lil but thats cause i exersice all the time..
i lost some wieght
but i have like 10 days to lose more weight

this is wht you do
run around for about 10-15 minutes
when your hungry eat a salad..
umm
or if you get hungry again
eat a apple..
or:
when you eat anywhere you should
eeat small amount
and exersice dailly
hope i helped !!

Q: ok so im going to be 18 in like 10 days and my mom is treating me like a child i have to be in the house at night by 12 all my friends can stay out late and im the oldest one in the group its so stupid im so responsible and i get treated like im 7 what can i do to change my moms mind about me staying out late and please dont say some b.s about how i shouldnt stay out late and drink and that garbage just answer my question please.. thanksss
hehe yay you!!!!!
18!!
ok my honest opinion is because
shes probably scared for you.. .
i mean shes a mom
you cant expect to her
to not care for you
ofcourse she knows your old enough
but she still
has to be there for you
you kno?
i suggest you talk to her
and ask her why she doesnt trust
you..

hope i helped
Xoxoxox


Q: I NEED HELP SOOO BADLY!! my love life is going down the drains. I'm 14/f and starting high school in 1 week. In middle school, my love life was great cause I had a crush on this guy for 2 years and he knew and we flirted a little but we were both shy and never asked each other out. (i'm not the slutty type of gal who trys to get a boyfriend at the age of 14) and I was fine with not having a boyfriend.

Then when this summer start, my best friend introduced me to one of her guy friends (well call him first guy) (they were on and off dating and finally broke up for good about 2 weeks ago)... One time when I hung out with him he brought along his best friend, and to my surprise it was the guy that i've had a crush on for 2 years. and I like them both!!!!

the first guy= he's sending me mixed signals. we both have texting so we text each other a lot. he keeps wanting to hang out with me (movies) and if i say i'm busy, then he'll keep asking me what day i can go to the movies with. I get all happy cause I think he's flirting with me and that he likes me, then BAM he sends a text saying he asked out this girl yesterday and she said yes. so my self-esteem went down faster than a roller coaster. :(

crush for 2 years- he recently broke up with his girlfriend, my guy friend texted me and told me that my crush says he likes me too, but doesn't want a girlfriend right at this moment... But to tell you the truth, i'm not even sure if I still like this guy. whenever his name comes up in my head, i smile and imagine myself next to him all safe and everything... but then i think to myself, what do i exactly like about him, and my mine just goes blank. i dont know what's wrong with me!! i half like him/half don't

help! I need advice on what to do about my situation. should i just forget about them both and look for another guy? should i go for my guy friend, or my crush for 2 years? please help me

-sincerely, mixed signals
i think you should just relax and if you dont have feelings for none then dont dat none because tht boy u said that he txt messaging you all the time that he asked out this girl...
honestly hese probably tryin to confuse you
Or most likly
he likes you as a friennd..
because most guys have this Mojo that they lead on girls lol
haha bye

Q: This question is just to get opinions:
If someone you knew told you that they cut themselves, what would your first reaction be? Would you think they were crazy, would you try to help them, would you be scared of them, or what?
I would definetly try to help them
i would tell her to stop cuttin herself
or id smack her outta it
haha seriously sometimes you have to yell to get somones attention
but to get seriouse
i would ask her what the problem was
and id help her
id deal with it
or help her deal with it
try that or something.

byee

Q: Am am 13 years old and going into eigth grade...all of my other freinds have their periods and i just want mine already..even though i heard how much it sucks....im pretty flat-chested(dont get me wrong i have SOMETHING just not enought to fill out more than an A cup~~ ive read some replys to the other questions and i do have discharge already...ive have it for like 9 months now... i just still dont want to be the size i am while im going into high school...could some one just tell me how long it took them to get their period after they showed some of the signs that meant you were going to get it soon?...

i know i sound pathectic but i REALLY could use some help
dont worry about it
it will come one day
(If God wills)
so just dont put your mind to it..
i got it the summer after 7th grade and bak then i was pretty big and it came a bit late cause if your big it should come earlier i freaked out but then one morning (when i least expected it )

i got it..

dont worry bout it girl
and no periods dont hurt
atleast not for me lol
thank God haha
okie byee

Q: 13/F I just moved to Moore,Oklahoma. I broke up with my bf in Henderson,KY that i really havent gotten over yet. But then I went out with this one guy named Phillip. At first He was really really nice. But after we broke up, he was a really big jerk. After that I had a bf for like 2 days because he was cheating on me. Now a guy is asking me out, He's cute in all, but he isn't the nicest around my friends. Plus, I'm not the biggest fan of new relationships.I get scared that I'm going to get hurt in the end. I think I'm still trying to recover from my relationship in Henderson. I'm scared and I dont know what to do. Can ANYONE help me?
i dont think you should date him looks like your going out with lots of guyz at ur age but you just broke up with like 2 ppl.. give it a rest..
take some time.

Q: so many people have converses. has it become conformist to have a pair now?
um well yeah kind of but now.. BALLERINAS! LOL

Q: k so i'm dating this kid for the third time. dumb i know but theres just something about him. he's kinda weird but more like outgoing and doesn;t care what anyone thinks of him. which i don't care but my friends are always like ew gross. i don't know i just like him..how should i deal with people saying stuff like that?
tell them to mind thier buisness...
and you like him
and tell them that you wouldnt do that to them

hope i helped =]

Q: 21/f

Recently one of my friends (20/m) has blocked me on AIM and myspace and removed me from his friends on facebook. It came without warning so I was obviously confused. I asked him about it on a different AIM screenname and he told me that he never liked me in the first place, tolerated me because he had to, and that I creep him out. I was completely shocked. None of the little that he said made any sense.

We have been pretty good friends for a few years now. We weren't traditional, hang out all the time friends since we go to different colleges, but we always got along and hung out over the summer. We had many a deep conversation and a lot of jokes together. Him just tolerating me for all that time is bogus. We had a good friendship when we were together. We've never dated and never wanted to. I have a relationship of my own and he does most of the time too.

The problem is, I'd really like to continue being his friend. I like the guy. In the past I rarely talked to him using the Internet or phone, we just talked in person over the summer, but now that he's suddenly blocked me from everything I "can't" communicate with him at all to try to sort this out. How can I get him back as a friend without pushing him further away? About all I can do at this point is send him messages on facebook, since he hasn't blocked me completely there, or contact him through that other screenname. I don't want to seem like some sort of stalker by using e-mail, which I've never talked to him through, or the phone, which I've used once. Plus, he's not much of a talker at all unless it is in person.

What makes this situation hard is that I don't know what the problem is and it's not like we were the best of friends or anything. We were close, but only for short periods here and there when we had the opportunity to be together. Usually when you lose a friend it's for a reason. Something specific. Otherwise you just kind of, drift away from each other. That could have easily happened, since we only really talked when we were together. You don't just break all contact with someone that isn't going to bother you anyway unless there is some specific reason or you've suddenly become a huge bag of douche.

I'm feeling really hurt, very confused, and I'm starting to wonder if all my friends don't really like me. I can't stop caring about him and wondering if something deeper is going on or if I did actually do something specific that ended the friendship. The whole thing just doesn't make sense and I'm worried that if I wait until the summer, he'll have a job someplace else and we will just drift apart, but with a negative end. Is there anything I can do to get him back as a friend or should I just go along with it and hope he comes around?

Thanks.
well look you should review all the past and think of it one by one. Maybe you did or said something to make him angry or offended or maybe you were jokin around with him and he took it seriously.. or maybe hese just wierd.. lol,just ask him what was going on and im sure he will tell you but if theres no way you could contact him DO NOT act desprite because he will find himself all that because a girl is crying over him and stuff be mature and confident about it
i hope everything works out!! :) =] byee



Q: Thers this girl ive known since 2nd grade. We've been on and off best friends ever since then. We used to run around the school goofing off and having fun, but now i guess we've run out of ideas so we've started talking. Actual 1 on 1 serous talking and shes so quiet. Imean, she never wants to talk about herself. I know its her privacy but i dont want to talk about myself the whole time because i know about myself and it cant be that intresting so i was wondering if anybody had any ideas of stuff we could do? Pranks that youve done tht have worked or anything? Its our senior year this year, and everybodys kinda bored and i wnna mix things up. Any ideas would be soo appreciated, thank you!
shes probably just really sHY..:/... so yeah



--go watch a movie
--go take her for a burger

stuff like tht man.. lool

Q: Well I am really awful at showing my feelings. Well, there is this boy i have a crush on and I can't even show him that I have feelings for him. What are some small acts of affection I could do so he might see that I care about him.
i love this question lol
when your around him
laugh
and smile
and when you see him
smile or something
show eye contact
when you see him in the halls
smile
and go back to your class..
while i waas writing this is was just remebering somone real special i cant have.. and now im tearin up lol..
haha
take care
hoped it worked
bye

Q: anybody have any good advice on how to wake my self up before i go to school?

Ps. dont say to take a shower or to rub a hot rag on my face
haha im sure this will sound pretty dumb but
if you need to pee before you sleep dont..
then ull wake up because of needing to pee.. "hehe" lol

Q: I feel really awkward when people ask me about my religion and stuff because i'm agnostic and don't think there is a way to prove if god is real or not. I really don't want to tell my friends that because most of them are really religious and i'm scared they wouldn't like me if I did. Why do people think it's such a big deal if you don't believe in god? I don't know if I should tell them or not.
yeah damn straight im cool..

Q: Lately, I have been waking up with a sore back and legs. I find this odd, because I don't go to bed with sore anything, and Im only a teenager. I exercise but not vigoriously so I don't see why I should be in pain. Does anyone know what could cause this and how to prevent it?
hey
its probably the way you were sleeping..
or maybe ur matresses..

Q: Okay i am just going to get straight to the point.

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and 2 months and we were always such a close couple never argue never fight nothing but the all of a sudden she would start getting mad at me for every little thing that i would do and wont let me hang out with my friends without getting mad nothing.

But there is this girl we will call her "3"

So 3 and I have been talking and she likes me and all and she says that it is stupid how My girlfriend treats me and that she would never treat me like that she understands that i love my girlfriend and everything so she is not mad that i wont break up with her. But the thing is I can't handle how my girlfriend is treating me. It has been going on for a few months and she says she isn't doing anything wrong but thats not the truth its like she don't see the error of her ways. And the question is How do i break up with her?

I have always told her i would never leave her no matter what and i will always love her. But now that she has started treating me like this i see things a bit differently. And we have such a strong bond with each other just im not happy anymore. How do i let her know i want to break up? please help me.
well im very sorry about ur Gf.. anyway seems like its hard for you too to let go but you have to face it you have to go up to her and tell her that what she is doing to you is wronge give her one last chance to straighten up with you if she continues with you like this your gonna have to break it off tell her that if this is happening now then how would our future be you have to let her know that your not her lil pet for her to be getting mad at you like that for no reason you have to tell her that its wronge and if she cant staighten up then u have to break it off
hope i helped
bye**

*BLack ROse*

Q: This may sound silly...but I think I may have lost my writing mojo. Last year, it seemed as if I could write really well. I always received compliments from my teachers on how well I could write creatively. But now, as I'm sitting here and typing up an assignment, nothing comes to mind and my story sounds so amateur and horrible. And I can't think of good vocabulary either. Does it just seem that way to me? It disappoints me tremendously :( What can I do? =/
i know what you mean its just your thoughts that are telling you that u lost it but You really didnt if you keep telling yourself that you did then you will if you tell yourself that you didnt and u can make awsome stories and stuff then itl come back beleive me just sit down and write and relax and put positive thoughts to your head okay?
hope i helped

*BLack ROse*

Q: My best friend is going through a lot. Something very serious and bad happened to her. Me and my boyfriend told her to go to the police and tell them...but she can't. This girls like my sister. I know this is going to sound crazy, but she's from the internet. She's 13 years old. Please tell me what to do. Thanks!!! By the way I'm 19/f (yeah)
well... she has to call the police cause it might be very seriouse you have to make her pick up the phone even though your not next to her she is only 13 and aswell becuz shes from the internet she could not be saying the truth but im not gonna jump to any conclusions but you have to try to Help her by any way or tell a adult or something

*BLack ROse*

Q: how would you feel if your happy to see your friend because you missed her and you were RIGHT FRONT OF HER to give her a hug but she said"im gonna give hug alisha" and she went all the way back and hugged her instead of you?
lol.. umm..are you seriouse? lol. yeah id probably feel down and sad but then id be like screw her.. and leave.. lol..
bye

*BLack*ROse!*

Q: whats a really good way to get rid of acnce?
like fast& easy?

please&thankyou
well i have a big pimple on my face aswell so i kept reading on sites that if you put toothpaste it will go away, and i didnt really beleive it but then i tried it last night and i kept it for about 3-4 hours.. And ---- it got way smaller it was a miracle! haha you should try it


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