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ok so im going to be 18 in like 10 days and my mom is treating me like a child i have to be in the house at night by 12 all my friends can stay out late and im the oldest one in the group its so stupid im so responsible and i get treated like im 7 what can i do to change my moms mind about me staying out late and please dont say some b.s about how i shouldnt stay out late and drink and that garbage just answer my question please.. thanksss
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Well talk to her about why she doesnt think you should stay out late. Maybe there is a good reason behind it. After she gives her side then you calmly and being mature about it give her your side to why you think that you should stay out later. Dont say that all your friends get to because that will make you sound 7 years old.
Maybe even though you think that you are responsible she doesnt think that your quite there yet. This is very common with parents. They dont want to let their babies grow up. If this is the case then take some more responsibility on around the house without her asking. Dont expect her to acknowledge you either because if you do then she will think you did it so she will let you stay out late. Show her that you are mature and can handle more responsibility.
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Well, unless you want to move out and live on your own, I would say don't "try to change her mind". Begging her or coming up with good reasons why she should extend your curfew will only make things worse. The more you bring it up, the more suspicious she will become of your activities. I'm not sure if you were being sarcastic about the drinking comment, but if you weren't, no wonder she has set your curfew at 12 if you're going to be that irresponsible! Moms know what's going on more than you think and it seems like you have a really good mom. I know it sucks, but as long as you are living with her, she sets the rules. Stop bugging her about it and she might just let you stay out later.
That said, there's ways to make it seem like you're not begging or desperate or even asking at all. You're going to have to get your friends involved because you can't lie about what you're doing though. Get them all to attend a midnight movie (kinda lame, but you have to take baby steps in a situation like this!). Approach your mom and be really nice about asking to go. Say that you know that your curfew is 12, but a bunch of your friends are going to this midnight movie and you don't want to miss out. Give her the option of dropping you off and watching you enter the theater. Once you can get her to give on the curfew once, it'll be easier the next time. Take one step at a time and in the beginning always tell her exactly what you're doing and be truthful about it! If she says no to the movie DON'T get mad. Take the high road. Say something like "yeah you're right mom, I just thought I'd ask". Not whining about it or getting angry shows a lot of maturity and respect on your part. Plus, it's not the end of the world if you don't get to go to the midnight movie. Try something else a week or two later. Pretty soon, if you handle her "no"s well, she will most likely let you go. Keep working up from there. Good luck! :)
Good luck! :)
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hehe yay you!!!!!
18!!
ok my honest opinion is because
shes probably scared for you.. .
i mean shes a mom
you cant expect to her
to not care for you
ofcourse she knows your old enough
but she still
has to be there for you
you kno?
i suggest you talk to her
and ask her why she doesnt trust
you..
hope i helped
Xoxoxox
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dam 18 !!!! congratz and happy birthday =D haha talk to her !! deffitnly thats all you can do.....is talk to her explain to her and that your 18 and your about to go to college and that she cant be treating you like your 7 beacuse your wayyy older then that ..hope i helped =D
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make her realize that she can trust you. that you're becoming a lady.& you'd like to be treated like one. That you aren't some little girl anymore& need to havev a social life. Explain that to her, nd don't be really mean or it might make matters worse.
Good luck!
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