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friend wants nothing to do with me, no idea why
21/f
Recently one of my friends (20/m) has blocked me on AIM and myspace and removed me from his friends on facebook. It came without warning so I was obviously confused. I asked him about it on a different AIM screenname and he told me that he never liked me in the first place, tolerated me because he had to, and that I creep him out. I was completely shocked. None of the little that he said made any sense.
We have been pretty good friends for a few years now. We weren't traditional, hang out all the time friends since we go to different colleges, but we always got along and hung out over the summer. We had many a deep conversation and a lot of jokes together. Him just tolerating me for all that time is bogus. We had a good friendship when we were together. We've never dated and never wanted to. I have a relationship of my own and he does most of the time too.
The problem is, I'd really like to continue being his friend. I like the guy. In the past I rarely talked to him using the Internet or phone, we just talked in person over the summer, but now that he's suddenly blocked me from everything I "can't" communicate with him at all to try to sort this out. How can I get him back as a friend without pushing him further away? About all I can do at this point is send him messages on facebook, since he hasn't blocked me completely there, or contact him through that other screenname. I don't want to seem like some sort of stalker by using e-mail, which I've never talked to him through, or the phone, which I've used once. Plus, he's not much of a talker at all unless it is in person.
What makes this situation hard is that I don't know what the problem is and it's not like we were the best of friends or anything. We were close, but only for short periods here and there when we had the opportunity to be together. Usually when you lose a friend it's for a reason. Something specific. Otherwise you just kind of, drift away from each other. That could have easily happened, since we only really talked when we were together. You don't just break all contact with someone that isn't going to bother you anyway unless there is some specific reason or you've suddenly become a huge bag of douche.
I'm feeling really hurt, very confused, and I'm starting to wonder if all my friends don't really like me. I can't stop caring about him and wondering if something deeper is going on or if I did actually do something specific that ended the friendship. The whole thing just doesn't make sense and I'm worried that if I wait until the summer, he'll have a job someplace else and we will just drift apart, but with a negative end. Is there anything I can do to get him back as a friend or should I just go along with it and hope he comes around?
Thanks.
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well look you should review all the past and think of it one by one. Maybe you did or said something to make him angry or offended or maybe you were jokin around with him and he took it seriously.. or maybe hese just wierd.. lol,just ask him what was going on and im sure he will tell you but if theres no way you could contact him DO NOT act desprite because he will find himself all that because a girl is crying over him and stuff be mature and confident about it
i hope everything works out!! :) =] byee
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Wow, that was pretty mean of him to do that to you, especially if the two of your were once good friends. The only thing that I could think of was that someone close to both of you spread a nasty lie about you to make him do something so cruel.
Is it possible that this boy might have had romantic feelings for you that you didn't know about? That is almost always a reason for a male friend to cut off contact with a female friend. Maybe he secretly liked you but figured if your in a relationship he could never pursue you, and it was too painful to just be your friend so he decided to cut you out of his life.
But still, it was a very cruel and immature thing to do. You don't need people like this in your life, and I wouldn't waste my time trying to figure this guy out. He owes you an apology at the very least, and with friends like him do you really need enemies?
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