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I'm M/16. Recently I've been starting to believe that I'm crazy. Not crazy as in jumping ans screaming crazy but by the way I think about myself & others. It's like I analyse things in my head in such a weird way. I'll think something, then I'll think back to myself like, "What the hell is wrong with you" Then I'll do something like judge someone in my head, then I'll get mad at myself for thinking that. THEN I'm always thinking about myself sometimes. Like, in my head, I'll call myself a cocky bastard or something bad. Then next minute I'll like forgive myself and blame others. Then that'll make me feel horrible again. Its like I'm stuck in a cycle. One minute I'm motivated to do something, then I'll lose interest or feel there's no point anymore. And if someone says something good about me, I feel like they're wrong or that they shouldn't say it. I'm basically not doing what I need to do to get what I want. And mentally attacking myself because I can do it but I don't. Its like physical vs. mental. (link)
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It's your hormones changing right now. It's perfectky normal as long as your not hurting your self. If you want to prevent this try thinking other thoughts and not cursing as if you are 5 years old :) If it makes you feel any better, I do tis too and it makes me laugh sometimes and sometimes makes me depressed. Just stay focused in school and don't let it get in your way.
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I like this boy in my class. I don't know if he likes me back. We are friends. And chat on bbm. I want him to like me coz he is really cute. I don't want to flirt. Plz help me. I told him and he was like o oky. Then I asked if he was mad at me then he said no. He really chat a lot with me on bbm. And he makes me laugh a lot. And if I need to flirt I want to know how. 13 /F (link)
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Flirting is talking in a cute way about any topic. You could try it if you want. Try and make the guy interested in you. Talk to him and the people around you guys and he will most likly be more interested with a-lot-of-people-conversation and then want to make conversation with you. Just be your self, not annying, little humorous and try! Good luck.
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well my boyfreind he is kinda older than me and i just turned 15 and he already wants to get me pregnant and im like babe im to young for that and i dont know if he gets it so i really need help plzzzz help me (link)
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Tell him your not ready for it! Say No! Because he can't force you to do a thing. If h gets mad then he's not even the best boyfriend after all. Make the good choce :) Good for yu for telling him.
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Theres this guy i kinda like and I have his phone number. I've seen him staring at me a few times before and we have only talked like twice before. I want to text him but is he gona think I'm wierd for just texting him after all this time we haven't talked? (link)
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This is exactly like my friends situation. Start of by saying "hi it's blah" then he'll be like "hi" Then u could say something like "I wanted to tell you something" Then he'll ask what and you say you like him. Ok, to embarassing? Well, this is what i did for my friends. So they guy she liked had only talked with her a little. But i had gone to school with this kid before and he was my brothers good friend and a good friend of mine too. So I txted him and said "Text (my friends name) and don't tell her who it is cause i wanna ply a trick" So he did and she pretended she was cluless then she pretended to take a wild guess then got his # and she txts him today. If you don't have any friends like that then just say hi. It won't be embarrassing or humiliating as it is as first. What's the worst that could happen. Don't be shy :)
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Second semester college freshman girl.
Ive been good friends with this guy since the first week of college. He's reserved but fairly outgoing and confident in himself. I developed feelings for him in November. I got good vibes from him right before break. Our homes are too far away from each other for us to have hung out over winter break, but we kept up casual conversation. We've been back at school for over two weeks and hanging out more than usual... he's been tossing around the word "date" since the weekend.
You'd think the hard part is over, but it suddenly got so much more difficult. It's like he lost half his age and I developed cooties overnight. Ever since this weekend when we talked until late at night, and probably my feelings for him became clear (though I didn't say anything explicitly), it's like he's been scared of me. Very awkward. I hug all my friends regularly, including him; he won't go in for hugs anymore, he usually does some awkward gesture like patting me on the back.
Is this degree of withdrawal normal? I understand he's nervous, he obviously gets all flustered around me but it's not like I'm acting any differently, we've been friends for 5 months.
I know he's thinking of me differently, but for how long do I have to deal with this? What does this say about a possible relationship with him? I'm very experienced as far as being a (good) girlfriend whereas I'm pretty sure he's never had a relationship lasting longer than a few months and has only made out with girls. I never cared about this before but if he's this awkward before a date even comes about, i can't help but question how scared he'll be about taking the various steps within a relationship.
Should I let this go? I don't want to enter into an unsuccessful relationship :( Anecdotes? - Thanks!
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Like you said,he is shy. Possibly he is shy because he doesn't want you to dislike him after a while. Talk to him though if you want to keep your realation shipp. Tell him how you feel and if he cares he'll listen. Do what is best that you think or agree to. Hope I helped and remeber talk to him and don't be shy!
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I don't even know the signs of a shy guy liking you, but my friends keep telling me this guy does. I'll tell you the story,
My friends and i went out to eat at a restaurant and my friends were telling me our server was looking at me and paying close attention to me. Like he was staring at me far away I'm guessing. When ever i was done with my drink he was there in a snap. My friends were giggling and i was just saying he was doing his job. Then i realized he wasn't even paying mind to my friends. Only me. SO my friends told me to ask him if they're hiring. I needed a job so why not. I asked and he quickly said; "Yeah let me get a application for you." I didn't really ask for one :P So he gave me one and he told me he will be my reference. Haha, i don't even know the guy and he did this for me (: Before i left he told me i hope i get the job. Days later i went for an interview and after that was over i decided to eat there and he came up to me and told me "i noticed you were getting interviewed!" He seemed to be in a great mood that day and he was being so sweet to me. I decided to ask for his facebook. (Phone was broken at the time) and he had a huge grin on his face and told me i can add him. Im just wondering, are those signs that a shy guy like me? and btw i got the job :D (link)
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I wouldn't call this guy necessarily shy but more confident. It seems to me that he does show interests in you and wants be friends. So try and get to know him and see who he is. If he has a job then you know he's not that kind of guy. lol you know what i mean. So hey may or may not like you but I think he deffinantly likes you. I mean signs of, him paying lots of attention to you, helping you, congradulating you, talking to you and if your friends see it there mostly right and can most of the time see things before you to. So see how it gos! And btw Congrats on your new job that's really exciting!
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A good friend who I have known for 5 years introduced me to one of his childhood friends a while back. Everything was fine at first, and we got along fine, but everyone told me that his friend is actually a huge racist. I didn't really care since he wasn't all that racist to me.
Then one day when our mutual friend was gone, he started being really racist to me, calling me the n-word and whatnot with no instigation whatsoever. Needless to say this got me really upset and I left. Later my friend came to me and told me that the other guy didnt really mean what he was saying, and that he just said all that because he had bad experiences with black people in the past (Im only half black).
My friends still hang out with this guy who is super racist, and have all sorts of fun with him, regardless of what he said to me, or the fact that he is racist. None of my friends understand how hurtful his words were because they are all white anyway.
Am I wrong for being upset that my friends are friends with this person? I feel like they are disloyal, and that they care more about him because they have known him longer. How can I really be friends with my best friend if he is best friends with that guy? I cant stand it. (link)
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That's nt ok or good! Try talking to your friend about this. If your friend doesn't listen it's their choice. Do what you feel is right but what ever you do, don't let this guy put you down and walk away. Try and help your friend realize this unexceptible behavior
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I'm 16 years old and I always seem to be horny. Its not always but it just seems that whenever i do things something makes me horny. Like the other day I was sitting on the train with all my friends. We all sit together but when one of my friends didnt have a seat she sat in my lap. Now im not attracted to her but she sat down and everytime there was a bump or turn i felt really horny. There are many things that just randomly make me hot. Anyone suggestions? (link)
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Your sixteen years old which means you are becoming an adult and this is normal. It wouldn't be normal if this never happend. Your hormones are changing so what I would is except it. If yur feeling "really horny" then maybe try masturbating to relief the sexual tention.
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hi i have a huge problem the guy i've liked for four years is moving to England. I started liking him when i was in fifth grade because he was hitting on me all the time and had alot of awkward eye contact but i didnt know if he was just kidding or not. Hes told me he loved me, that i was precious, that i would always be his baby, and everyone thought we liked eachother but after two years of not being in his class he kind off drifted off to another girl who talks to all the time like he used to talk to me but he still tells me he loves me but he sounds like hes kidding and now hes moving to England and hes really sad. i wanna tell him i love him but im scared to death... (link)
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You got to tell him if you want him to know other wise bye, bye he's gone and you never got to tell him and you'll regret it. So pick, relief or regret?
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Im 13/f,and my parents disapprove of who I am.
I'm a HUGE lover of music,it's my life.
I LOVE bands/artist like :Escape the Fate,Falling in Reverse,D.R.U.G.S.,Black Veil Brides,Get Scared,My chemical romance,Asking alexandria,Bring me the horizon,Vampire's Everywhere,and bands of the metal,screamo,rock,and alternative music.
I love "dark things".My favorite color is black.
I'm always learning about cults,love vampire's,and things like that.
But,my parents disapprove of my "emo" lifestyle.
They say it's "demonic".
But that's just who I am.
They've tried taking that music away from me,and "making me normal".
I've told them this is who I am,but they don't wanna hear it.
Help! (link)
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It's your life, do what you want with it. If you want to be doing that stuff go right ahead. If emo meaning you cut your self and stuff then they should be upset. They can't approve of you or dissaprove of you, they have to love you. There's just no suck thing as normal. So really try and tell them by maybe scheduling a "meeting" or something maybe try telling them why. Good luck I hope everything turns your way for the best
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I am a college freshman and i have slept with 5 boys so far, i genuinely enjoy having sex and don't regret what i am doing. My question to all you people out there who consider/ed your college years "slutty" is, how many people did you sleep with over those four years, and how many your first year? (link)
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I am not in my college years yet.
But I suggest you don't waist your life like this because soon everyone will be using you as their ' sex toy' make sure you don't get to far because life could lead you down the wrong path any second now. College is for learning and getting smartso it's not about how many guys you slept with, just think about it. By the way I don't think you could call it slutty because I don't really believen that word and its' definition. Just be safe :)
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Last May 7 my friend Alex Introduce me to the girl she liked named Dayan through texting and facebook and we three started to become best friends. I tried to keep our friendship strong and sacrifice all of my time for them but things started to change last November. I found out that Alex lied to Dayan about having a girlfriend without telling her or even telling me and both of them stopped Texting. I wanted to Fixed things so our friendship will not be affected, I tried to tell the right things to do with Alex and I always remind him to be responsible with girls feelings. He started not to listen and he wont even talk to me. I don't know what to tell to him right now. I'm the left out . that's what I feel..But I just want to help but I don't know how for now.. do you have any advice? (link)
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I suggest you stay out of this and let them work it out ogether because eventually they'll have to forgive eachother. Just stay flexible. They can do what they feel is right, solet them. I know it's hard, but really.
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Okay, So.. My Names Unique, And I'm A Sixteen Year Old Young Lady :) I Love My Ex Boyfriend, And Miss Him Like Crazy.. We Broke Up Last March, Because We Had Nothing In Common.. Well Thats What He Told Me.. But Then A Month Later, I Went To The Movies With My Friends, Including Him. In Total There Where Six Of Us, three Girls, Three Boys, the other boys And girls we're Dating , and He And I Weren't. Well When We Were On Our Way To Bring My Friend home, My Ex and i were sitting in the way back seat, in front of us were my friend and her boyfriend, and driving was my sister and her boyfriend in the passenger seat.. I Was Leaning Fwd Talking To My Friend When All Of A Sudden He Hugs Me. Ya know the hugs where you can feel that misses u? Well i felt it. That night we ended up having sex.. And the next day he said he was high thats why he did it, i know he was lying because i was with him the whole day. So that night we were all at a bonfire at my sis house and he kept flirting with me. Like major flirting. Again, he hugged me, and then kissed me. I could just feel how relieved he was that i kissed him back. Again, we had sex that night.. So a few months had past and he texted me saying he missed me. But then the next day he was talking about girlfriend. Then and hour later he was talking Abt how he hated bein single. So i asked him abt the girl, and he admited he lied about her.. He always does this.. And he says he misses me still. :/ but i told him im going to illinois on sunday and he said we must chill, so i said okay.. Two days later i asked if we were still going to hangout and he said he might have work but he'll try to make it.. But today when i asked him, he said he didnt work on sundays, and that he'd be dwn town all day with his friends and he might see me.. Im so confused. And i want to see him so bad.. Im actually having anxiety attacks again. :( what should i do?? *Keep In Mind,We broke up 2 times before and we still talked Nd ended up back together, We Still Do Talk And We Always Flirt, &Me And Him Have A Close Relationship When We're By eachother, he gets jealous when guys are by me, and i flip sh** when girls try to get with him. . (link)
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He says he misses you? He lies to you? Then he has sez with you? It seem to me this guy is using you. Youdo not want to be used and i know you dont want to hear this but he is. Be careful. Just stay friends for now and experiment with him. Does he really like you? Figure it out and make sure he wont use you then maybe, just maybe you can go farther. This is just my opinion. He shouldn't be getting jealous when other guys are by yu either because he can't tell you what do because it's your life and your decisions!
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I met a guy online about three years ago. I wasn't really intending to meet a guy but you know, things happen. I was in a good mood so I gave him my screenname. Normally, I'd talk to him a couple times before eventually we just didn't talk anymore. That didn't happen with him.
What happened was we continued to talk and after awhile he said he loved me... which freaked me out a bit. Fast forward some months and I've fallen in love with him too.
The thing is, there's this nagging in the back of my head that says I should not love a guy I've never even met, because it's not safe or whatever. I don't know. It's just that nagging.
I guess what I'm asking for is general advice because I'm so conflicted right now.
If it helps any, I'm 17 (almost 18) and in the USA. He's 21 (almost 22) and lives in the UAE. (link)
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You may think you know this guy but you don't know him at all. You don't if you'll like or love the person when you meet him? He could be some creepy, old man about torape you. Please, be careful. I would not tell him any more personal information till you have met him and when you do meet him have someone with you that can pretect you if something goes wrong. You honestly don't know anythng about him. Just be careful! I knew a girl once who chatted with this man a lot then decided to go meet him and they planned to meet somewhere and they were both alone (she was like 15) and he killed her. Someone I knew!!! Just stay safe.
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Okay well I like my friend. And lately, it seems confusing. One day he'll be my friend and sit next to me and talk to me and act like he really likes me, and then the next day he won't acknowledge me. So tell me, does he like me? (link)
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It's possible he does. Look for signals. Does he flirt with you a lot? Does he stare your way? Have you heard him talking about you or any rumors about him liking you? Maybe he's just a bit shy. Just don't be shy yourslef and be yourself and look for signals.
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so ive had my braces on for 4 years and now there getting ready to come off i am extremely nervous just because of the possibility of white marks on my teeth. i usually brush my teeth twice a day once in the morning the whole time im in the shower and then at night for 5 min. i don't really floss but when i do i dont have any food in between my gums. i had a baby during my process of braces and due to lack of sleep i didn't brush as good (twice a day for a few min.) but that only lasted like 2 months is it possible to have white marks just because of that? HELP I AM SO NERVOUS!!!! ( oh and I got my braces off at 14 so for like the first like 2 weeks I didn't brush that good either) (link)
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Getting you braces off is such a relief! I hd to have braces twice and getting them off was amazing. White marks can be sometimes caused by the glue which your orthadentist will scrape off as hard as they can. Those white marks though are not that big of a deel and most people who have them (like me) were from bumping your teeth on something when you were little! You have nothing to worry about, just be happy your getting your braces off! It sure is an exciting thing and I wish you good luck 8D
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I want to get a drawing tablet for my laptop just so I can get into drawing and editing. I've found a few nice ones online, but I'm indecisive. Just because I'm not quite sure what brand would be better, and what size would be best. Any and all help thank you! (link)
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Go to a divice store where they have experts, they should know the best brands and what your looking for. Your better off doing that but if you look online look at its rating and comets if it has those. good luck finding one!
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I have 4 hens and 2 roosters that I have raised from birth. They are healthy and mostly eat crumbles. I have also given seeds and scraps etc, but I haven't been able to find anything concrete about the "amount" of food. Any ideas? (link)
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Ask a farmer who has raised or raises chickens. They can help you and tell you how much to feed your chickens. If you have been feeding them a certain amount that seems tonwrk stick with that. it's better to be stuffed than empty though. If you can't find someone to help experiment but don't rapidly change their food diet around! Have fun raising those chickens :)
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Hey guys so my boyfriend and i usually hangout friday nights becuase of our crazy scheduals. But recently im seeing that hes low on cash and such. So i guess i try to pay for the food and such most of the times. (He doesnt have a job anymore becuase of school, but he tries to work with his dad sometimes) anyway, i feel like im always the one paying and im basically broke after that! Lol. I really dont mind. Basically what im asking is if you guys know places where we can go that are not that expensive? Yes i know the movies. But i mean other than that. We usually go to the movies or to eat at a fastfood resturant. I just want ideas so it doesnt get boring going to the same places. So where do you go with your boyfriend/girlfriend/friends on a friday night!? Oh i dont really go to clubs or bars or anything like that. But any idea would be helpful! Thankyou :) (link)
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Lets see...
1.) Go paint pottery together
2.) Go to a mall and look at stuff you both enjoy
3.) Go see a baseball/basketball/football or even a hockey game and get cheap tickets.
4.) Spend a romantic evening at home
5.) Go to a frozen yogurt place
6.) Go to a party
7.) Go to a festival
I hope you find something you'll want to do in the list I made. Enjoy your friday :)
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19/F; This is my first year in college and I am assigned a research paper 6-8 pages long in APA format about Childhood. I can pick any topic within childhood, so I picked Toddlers. I figured it would be something with a lot of information about; I was wrong. I've look in books, internet, and even articles. I can't find anything.
Can you guys help me with a website that I might have overlooked, or maybe a topic within childhood that would have more information and interesting?
I'm not going to copy and paste; I just need some ideas, and facts; so I can use a work sited page.
Thank you so so so so much! (link)
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First off if you reslly want to do well on this your better off relating your project to your toddler years. What kind of imformation about toddlers do you need? Do you wanna know how tall most are, how they behave around certain people/things, how they react to things, what the need or what they do? Try going to a park where you'll fine lots of little toddlers roaming the park. Interview them with the permission of the parent first then interview the parents. Things you relate to and real life information you find for your slef is best. If you can't do that then maybe google "toddlers."
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Anyway, good luck and I hope you do well :)
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