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Guy's sudden shyness - wait out or ignore?
Second semester college freshman girl.
Ive been good friends with this guy since the first week of college. He's reserved but fairly outgoing and confident in himself. I developed feelings for him in November. I got good vibes from him right before break. Our homes are too far away from each other for us to have hung out over winter break, but we kept up casual conversation. We've been back at school for over two weeks and hanging out more than usual... he's been tossing around the word "date" since the weekend.
You'd think the hard part is over, but it suddenly got so much more difficult. It's like he lost half his age and I developed cooties overnight. Ever since this weekend when we talked until late at night, and probably my feelings for him became clear (though I didn't say anything explicitly), it's like he's been scared of me. Very awkward. I hug all my friends regularly, including him; he won't go in for hugs anymore, he usually does some awkward gesture like patting me on the back.
Is this degree of withdrawal normal? I understand he's nervous, he obviously gets all flustered around me but it's not like I'm acting any differently, we've been friends for 5 months.
I know he's thinking of me differently, but for how long do I have to deal with this? What does this say about a possible relationship with him? I'm very experienced as far as being a (good) girlfriend whereas I'm pretty sure he's never had a relationship lasting longer than a few months and has only made out with girls. I never cared about this before but if he's this awkward before a date even comes about, i can't help but question how scared he'll be about taking the various steps within a relationship.
Should I let this go? I don't want to enter into an unsuccessful relationship :( Anecdotes? - Thanks!
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Like you said,he is shy. Possibly he is shy because he doesn't want you to dislike him after a while. Talk to him though if you want to keep your realation shipp. Tell him how you feel and if he cares he'll listen. Do what is best that you think or agree to. Hope I helped and remeber talk to him and don't be shy!
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