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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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What are hopeless romantics?

Hmm, people that are so romantic its crazy.Like, a guy taking a girl to a candle lit dinner/ to the beach, and all this other stuff. He would be called a hopeless romantic. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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so there is this guy. he really likes me, and i kninda like him, he yougner than me but ive finally decided it doesnt matter. The problem is like a lot of my friends like him and i really cant i mena CANT go out with him becasue im not like that too my friends, but htats not the problem. i think he thinks we ARE going out. last night he text me saying i luv you and all this shit about us, and i couldnt text him baq, dnt remember his reason, but now i dnt know how to tell him were not going out, and that i dnt love him i like him....i dnt know what to do or say, cuz now rumors are going to spread and i cant stop them becasue i dnt go to the same school[[anymore, so i know everyone]] wut shud i do about him and what he thinks our relationship is like, even though i still consider us as just friends

I think your best bet is to just call him. Tell him straight out that you think the vibe he's getting from you is not what you meant it to be. Just let him know that you just like him, and that your flattered that he cares so much about you, but, its just too much "lovin" right now. Do all of your friends like him or do they just think he's a cute kid or something, because if they dont actually have feeligns for him, you should consider actually going out with him, if thats how you feel. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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There is something wrong with me! Everytime i start liking aguy i change myself (sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad). It's not just my peronallity it's also my intresets! I just want them to like me back! I am so affraid to show "real me", i'm afraid they will never like it!! And I have gotten to the point i don't know who the "real me" is anymore! I have just copied all the guys i have been intrested in and that's it...am i a hoplesscase or is there any light at the end of my tunnel? Please help me!

Your not a hopeless case. This happens sometimes when someone likes someone.You just need to understand, that if a guy doesnt like you for you, thats their problem and not yours. Everyone is special in their own way. I'm into Jazz, and I like a guy whos not, i'm not changing my preference in music for him, because its something i care about a lot. Get what I'm sayin? The "real you" is still their, you just need to be yourself. Theirs a guy out there that has the same interests as you, you just need to take your time in looking for that guy. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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bored...what should my boyfriend and I do ? both 13 years old if it helps.

Go for a walk. Go to the movies. Go to a store. Watch some movies. Make cookies/a cake. Just little fun stuff that makes you unbored...lol. Hope I helped! Happy SPring!

-Brina

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Okay this is complicated. I'm 14. My first boyfriend and I broke up Feb 27th. We were together 8 months. It was his decision...although we both knew things weren't the same and hadn't been in a long time. He basically just said it first cause we both have been thinking it for a long time. I miss him a lot and I would love to have back what we had before. He moved on evidently. I don't see him or talk to him, but I want to. One night a couple of weeks ago I was on messenger and this guy friend starts talking to me and asking me if I still go out with ******. When I said no he just kept talking at night the next few days. He asked me out to the movies but I told him it was too soon. A week later he asked if he could come home with us after school and just hang out. We had a good time, just watching a movie and talking. The next night he asked me if I would go out with him and I said yes, but now I wonder if I have done the right thing. Is it wrong to go out with this guy? How do I know if I am using him to get over this other guy? I try to stay in the moment and not remember back, but it is hard. This guy is sweet, super nice and not the type of guy I would usually fall for. He is very athletic, smart, and treats me like a queen. He calls when he says he will, etc... I guess the other guy used me and I just hung on for a long time because he was my first kiss, my first love. How can I move on? Or, should I just tell this guy that I'm not ready to date him? Please help. I don't feel like I am being fair to this new guy if I can't go a minute without thinking of the other one.

Your being fair. Of course their is always going to be feelings there for the other guy because he was your first love. All of these things your thinking about will go away soon. Give this new guy a chance, he seems like a nice guy. The other guy wasnt worth it if he used you and stuff. Soon you'll forget about your ex, if you don't, its ok. In the end if you feel your cant give your 100 % to this new guy, then maybe breaking up with him is the best choice until you get over your ex. But, don't make this new guy hang around if you do decide to break up with him by telling him to wait for him. EIther your ready for him or your not. HOpe I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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Ok the girl i asked out said no she said she dosent want a boyfreind rightnow, how do i ask her if she likes me so if she dosent i dont have to wait for , also how do i tell her that i will wait for her till she alright with getting a boyfreind all at once please help

Call her up, or talk to her in school. Just simply ask her if she's interested in you. If she says yes, just let her know that your willing to wait for her when she's ready for a boyfriend. But, I suggest move on, its not nice to make someone wait for you to be ready. Either shes ready for a boyfriend, or shes not. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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my dad says im going thro a growth spurt because im sleeping so much. do you think that might be it?
i mean like im already really tall and have long legs but peopl are sayign that im taller and stuff so yeah. and umm.. =] yeah. i havent been eating all that much tho. so idk. =[
could someone tell me like.. what are some signs of growth spurts... thanksss.

Hmmm. I grew 4 inches one summer,and grow about 2 inches each summer, so i have tons of advice about your growth spurts :). Ok, so. Your bones, and muscles will most likely ache. Sleeping could do with it a bit. You deffinitly need to start eating, because, your body needs energy for you to grow. Its good that your sleeping a lot, it gives your body rest. You'll pretty much act normal, its not like getting your period or anything, your body is just changing. Oh, and you might go up a shoe size.Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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bigger boobs. thats what i want. im pretty flat and i know that im kinda pretty right now but i just need some .. boobs.
okay i know like pretty much all the tricks but like.. idk if i can do any.. like does any one wear two bras to make there boobs bigger.. like on this site? and umm well i would never get a boob job... im 13 haha. =] (im a 30 A) and uhhh. yeah. just tell me a WHOLE BUNCH of ideas even tho i know alot already =] thankss.

Hmm, two bras might hurt your ribs, because it would be tight. Deffinitly look into getting a padded bra.Your 13 right? So, your breasts actually might grow more in a few years. Drink milk, sometimes, they say that the hormones in milk make girls breasts bigger, you could give that a try. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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Ok well I'm 5'8, need a 36'-37' inseam. I can't find jeans or pants anywhere that are long enough! I'm NOT willing to spend over or even near $100. PLEASE HELP!!!

I have the same problem too. I am 5'9, so you could imagine what its like trying to find lengthy jeans. I know it might be odd, but i suggest checking out guys jeans. They have many different lengths that i think will help you a lot. You might think guys jeans are all baggy, but, some fit very nicely. And, you dont have to tell anyone their guy jeans. Hope I helped. Happy Spring!

-Brina

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My best friend is a guy. I like him as a little more than a friend...but I value our friendship far too much to make it awkward by telling him. Anyway I think he has a clue, and I think he likes me sometimes. (He's a huge flirt - it's hard to tell.)

Thing is - I called him up Friday night to come over and watch a movie. We watched the Davinci Code - a long one. We were both pretty tired, and of course we talked throughout it and weren't like, on top of eachother or anything. :-P

Anyway, during the movie in the middle somewhere, my guy friend joked, "watch us just fall asleep and not get up til morning, haha :)".
And...I was really tired and wanted to rest my eyes, so I shut them and sort of leaned on him a little, but I'm pretty sure he didn't mind, cause he was kinda close to me the whole time. Eventually I was sort of half-asleep but just enjoying the moment. A lot ...because even though I'm only 13, it seemed romantic to me ;D haha...and I'm all about wanting romance =P.

So my question is this - afterwards he didn't seem mad, but just sort of calm about it, and woke me up. But I knew I was leaning on him, I was just sort of half-sleeping. -
Did that make him feel weird? Because he's been acting a bit strange at school, like he isn't talking to me much. And as if he's annoyed with me or something.

I really hope I didn't do anything to mess things up - we've known eachother about a year but went through alot, including my father's death, and I feel so close to him. I hope he didn't mind my leaning on him.

It's just weird seeing him at school, because he doesn't seem to want to be around me. It's like I'm some annoying pest or boring person, when I'm not even doing anything...that I know of.

Any ideas why he may be acting this way?

sorry so long:( but I really want to save this friendship. Thanks sooo much if you took the time to read this. :-)

Call him up, or talk to him in school and just straight up ask him if something you did is bothering him. Thats the best thing to do. Theres many possibilitys of whats going on. He could have feelings for you, and thinks that you have feelings for him,but that your not doing anything about it. Or, he just felt it was awkward. Hope I helped! Happy SPring!

-Brina

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For my bithday, my step mom gave me her '98 convertible BMW z3 Roadster. There was some things that needed to be fixed on it such as inspection, registration, a bald tire, and the rear window was sun burnt and needed to be replaced. My dad also added a new radio. Note that my step mom GAVE me the car and DAD has been the one to fix all of it's problems.

The only problem is that I don't have a lisence and everytime I mention going to my driving school and picking up a form for classes, he avoids the subject so it makes me think he doesn't want me to have a lisence or that he doesn't really care.

Now my dad has given me the rules in driving my car but then when he drives it, he breaks most of the rules and I am very anal about my car so the last thing I want is him dirty-ing it up.

Yesterday, I accused my dad of fixing the car for selfish reasons(such as him fixing it so he would drive it) and he was VERY offended and accused me of being ungrateful. He wouldn't talk to me all yesterday and I spent my day after work smoking bowl after bowl with my boyfriend and crying about it.

Today, dad seems alright at work and he's talked to me about several different things but I still want to apologize to him. Someone give me some good words to apologize?

Just sit him down and apologize. Let him know that your ready to get your license and that he needs to understand that. Smoking bowl after bowl? drugs? no no! Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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Well. Me and my boyfriend of (9 months.) have a serious jealousy problem. No big. It's just that he doesn't go to my school, and he doesn't want me talking to guys, and it's okay cause I don't want him talking to girls. He wants me to prove it to him that I don't talk to guys. He wont believe any of my girl friends, cause he doesn't like any of them. Oh well. I don't hang out with them anyways. But, anyways. He wont believe if people tell him I don't. I just need a way to prove it to him. I'm sorry this doesn't make any sense. I know it doesn't, but I need advice. I need for him to trust/believe me! Help please. :]

I suggest you seriously sit him down and just tell him that hes the only one for you in this point and time. Tell him if he doesnt believe your friends, and doesnt belive you then thats not nice. Evidently he has a trust issue. Isn' it upsetting you that he doesn't believe you? Talk it out with him. Hope I helped! Happy Spring.

-Brina

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Okay, well I have a boyfriend who i've been with for over 9 months.. and i love him with everything that i have. he doesn't have the best life, and he's such a happy goofy kid. i love him mentality because he's always so carefree, even though alot of things in his life suck. for example- no father, very sick [in the hospital for years] mother, loser brother, and lives with his uncle. yet he's such a cheerful and funny kid. but, i tend to get annoyed very easily, and whenever he does something dumb, i make him feel stupid about it by saying something mean or sarcastic. and i've finally recognized that i do it, i just don't know how to control it. there have been several occassions that he almost broke up with me because i treat him so crappily. and i can't stand it. but he loves me so much, so he can never bring himself to officially leave me. and i love him too. he's the sweetest boy in the world, and my first everthing [i'm still a virgin though] and i really am the luckiest girl in the whole entire universe to have him.. but i just wish i could be nicer to him! now, i too have an advice column.. and if someone asked me this question, i'd just say- 'well if you want to be nicer, just simply be nicer' but it's really not that easy. i try so hard but i'm just a spoiled bitch. and i dont get it because i do realize what i have- the most amazing boy anyone could ever have, but i just don't act like it. and i don't want to lose him because of my attitude.. can someone please help me??? =( ♥

Let him know how you feel about him. Tell him how much you love him and how his personality makes you feel. Maybe you feel that his life is to happy, and that makes you upset. You see how happy he is, and you wnat to be that happy too. After he does something that you think is "dumb" don't say anything at all, just laugh and see how that goes.Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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I don't have any acne, but i do have a lot of acne scars and big pores and I would like cheap products to get rid of those and make my skin look good.

Unfortunately for the Acne Scars you'd most likely have to see a dermatologist {skin doctor} and get something called a chemical peel. Its not plastic surgery or anything major like that. I know, its not the easiest solution to your problem, but it would help the best. And about the big pores. Just make sure you clean your face well so that those pores don't turn into pimples. Scrub your face and wash it was deep cleansing products. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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alright sorry this is so long, i'll try to make it quick
so there's this guy i've liked for a while. he's a juinor and im a freshman. to top that he's got a child. anyway, i've been talking to him via text mess. then we both started doing the musical together. we talked quite a bit then too. well musical is now over and we still talk, more like flirt. badly, like he'll say something about me, like call me hotty or something like that, so i'll do it back, and we go back and fourth. but sometimes we do have deep convo's. well once he told me he likes this girl. we'll call the girl Amara. well Amara sits next to me in math, and we talk all the time. seriously were good friends. But it really surprised me, when he said he liked her, i didn't care. seriously fine go ahead, like her i could care less. well Amara told me she likes him, they text also. Her parents won't let her date him. but the boy went to florida for spring break. and before he left he told me that they kissed three times on the lips after school. WHY WOULD YOU TELL ME THAT? anyway i was kinda hurt after that. i havn't texted him because he's still in Florida, but i have a feeling when he get's back ill get a text. what do i do? im upset, hurt, sad, but i don't want him to know that. what do i do? or do you have any good rejection habbits? you know like chocolate and a chick flick? lol please some advice would be nice. thanks

Hmm. I think you should tell him how you feel. Let him know that it makes you upset when he talks to you aboutg the girl. Tell him he needs to realize the signals he's giving someone. Because it seems to me like this guy is just dangling you on a fishhook. So, your not upset with that they like each other, but you dont like it that he flirts and stuff with you but doesnt like you, is what I understand from this I think. When he gets back from FLorida, just let him know either he likes you, or he doesnt, and if he doesnt then stop messing around with your feelings. Hope I helped! Happy Spring.

-Brina

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i really like my boyfriend and i have been going out with him for alomost 6 months and im starting to have feelings for another guy...but i still like my bf a lot...idk what to do..please help.

Its ok to like another guy, as long as its just that. Stay with your current boyfriend. These feelings for this other guy might go away. Are you sure you have feelings for this other guy? It could possibly be that he reminds you of your boyfriend. Hope i Helped!

-Brina

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Where could you get a shirt with Jack Sparrow (or the ever hott Johnny Depp) on it?

And Where could you get a shirt With Fabio Lanzoni on it?
(don't ask)

Thx!

I'm sorry, I dont know about the fabio shirts, but i know you can get jack sparrow shirts/johnny depp at Hot Topic. Hope I helped :)


-Brina

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Ok, so I have these two best friends and we all hang out all the time. We rarely fight and theres never any drama. But lately, I have been feelin left out. Me nd my friend have been fighting cuz of our other frend. We know that she's the problem and we just think we need some alone time. But im not sure thats it. What do you think I could do?

Aha, thetrio thing. I had this problem with 2 of my best friends. Thisis what stinks about having a trio of friends, when you do something with the other, you need to invite the other. But, if you dont want to you dont have to is the thing. If youneed alone time, then takeit. Your not forced to hang out with her all the time. Let her know that you'dliketo spend alone time with each of them. ANd she'll get the hint. Hope I helped.

-Brina

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what is herpes?
everyone knows
but ive never known, alls i know is its a bump.
xox

Its an inflammatory virus disease of the skin or mucous membranes,There are two types of genital herpes herpes simplex virus-1 and herpes simplex virus-2. The herpes simplex virus (HSV) a common cause of genital blisters and ulcers. During pregnancy, herpes may cause miscarriage or stillbirth.Hopew i Helped!

-Brina

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Ok a famous guy said that the secret to his perfect white clean baby skin is:
"My secret is that i don't use soap or cleansing cream to wash my face."
"When i was young, i got skin trouble aftering using soap. So afterwards i only use water to wash my face. So if you wash your face only with water, you can get a white, clean & baby skin like me."
Does that mean that he didn't use any acne medicatin and just washed his face with water?
So does that mean I can stop using acne medication from the doctor and just wash my face with water?

Unfortunately, just rinsing your face with water does not help everyone with their skin problems. If you want to take the risk and try just using water...make sure its ok with your doctor...i suggest keep on using your acne medication. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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