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How Can I Move On????
Okay this is complicated. I'm 14. My first boyfriend and I broke up Feb 27th. We were together 8 months. It was his decision...although we both knew things weren't the same and hadn't been in a long time. He basically just said it first cause we both have been thinking it for a long time. I miss him a lot and I would love to have back what we had before. He moved on evidently. I don't see him or talk to him, but I want to. One night a couple of weeks ago I was on messenger and this guy friend starts talking to me and asking me if I still go out with ******. When I said no he just kept talking at night the next few days. He asked me out to the movies but I told him it was too soon. A week later he asked if he could come home with us after school and just hang out. We had a good time, just watching a movie and talking. The next night he asked me if I would go out with him and I said yes, but now I wonder if I have done the right thing. Is it wrong to go out with this guy? How do I know if I am using him to get over this other guy? I try to stay in the moment and not remember back, but it is hard. This guy is sweet, super nice and not the type of guy I would usually fall for. He is very athletic, smart, and treats me like a queen. He calls when he says he will, etc... I guess the other guy used me and I just hung on for a long time because he was my first kiss, my first love. How can I move on? Or, should I just tell this guy that I'm not ready to date him? Please help. I don't feel like I am being fair to this new guy if I can't go a minute without thinking of the other one.
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Your being fair. Of course their is always going to be feelings there for the other guy because he was your first love. All of these things your thinking about will go away soon. Give this new guy a chance, he seems like a nice guy. The other guy wasnt worth it if he used you and stuff. Soon you'll forget about your ex, if you don't, its ok. In the end if you feel your cant give your 100 % to this new guy, then maybe breaking up with him is the best choice until you get over your ex. But, don't make this new guy hang around if you do decide to break up with him by telling him to wait for him. EIther your ready for him or your not. HOpe I helped! Happy Spring!
-Brina
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I understand how it can be tough to forget your first love but you have to remember that it is time to move on.
This boy that you are currently dating seems nice but you have to follow your heart. Ask;;
*Which boy do I like more?
*Who treats me better?
*Who would not leave me?
*Who is my dream guy?
If you realize that it's your Ex-Boyfriend, call him and just start over. Try to be his friend. Then, tell him how you feel.
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Okay I now how hard it is to get over a bad break up i just did but you had a really great time and clearly you have some sort of feelings for this guy and he seems to really like you. You never know if your fully over a guy until you know you've met the right one and that's even hard because your only 14 and you shouldn't be worried bout guys like this at such a young age. Live life to the fullest and I personally think you should stay with this guy because things will only work out for the best in the end.
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first you gotta realize that its going to be hard but if your new guy knows your not over your old guy and still wants to stay with you. . . hes a keeper. i know i sound like a broken record but life goes on, you will have your heartbroken many times in your lifetime. it never gets easier but you need to learn how to handle it. i was with my ex for 9 months during the 8th month he was sent to juvi and i stayed there right by his side and when he got out he dumped me. Now that me and him talk (like a year later) he says he regrets treating me so bad and that he misses me. trust me if things went bad, its not worth holding onto. do yourself a favor and no matter how much you dont want to, let go. it'll be the hardest thing you will ever have to do, but in the end you will feel so much better. realize that you deserve more then your old guy, and you have everything good with your new one. dont give up on your new guy just yet, give it time. and if it makes you feel better sit down with your new guy and tell him that you like him but if hes going to stay with you its going to be hard at first, let him know that you still have feelings for your old guy but also let him know that you really are trying to move on and make it VERY clear that you are NOT using him as a rebound! ok!?!? hope i helped.
P.S. i know how you feel girl, and its hard but worth it. just remember anyone who willingly breaks your heart, doesnt deserve you!
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