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Just a couple of things which everyone should know..1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
2) You don't need negative people in your life to bring you down, you get enough of that as it is. You need positive people, to raise you higher.. FACT.
3) Believe in yourself, if you start to, everyone else will. So focus on the good things, because that is what you will naturally flaunt.. Which makes everyone focus on the good things! TRUTH.
4) You only live once, so don't screw it up! Make the most of this ONE life! FACT.
5) Life's all about making mistakes, forgiving, letting go, falling in love, making friends, and best of all, LAUGHING OUT LOUD!! ;) Laughter IS the best medicine.. Trust me! ;) FACT.
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17/f
Guys are very confusing.So i've been hanging out with this guy who i really like,and well i guess you could say were "friends with benefits" but all we've done is kiss for about a month now.He's a shy guy in school,but outside of school he's huge talker.We'll it feels like we go out,and i want to be his girlfriend but i don't know how to ask him like what we are without actually saying it because i don't want to be just a girl he gets with i'm tired of being that.So anyway,how can i ask him without actually saying "what are we?"
thanks :)
Be open and have you told him that most of the guys you have been with just used you, of you felt that way? This could be a rhetorical question too as if is he using you, he would feel guilty about it. But if he isn't he'll understand quickly and most probably, get the hint and ask you out. Most relationships fail because of the lack of communication, so if you want to date him, talk to him openly and ask him whatever you want. Just be comfortable.
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so ive never had a boyfriend. and my parents are really into the whole christianity goody good thing. [not to offend anyone. its jsut that they look at everything in that perspective].
so this guy told me he likes me.
and i think i like him, too. but hes not exactly what my parents good classify as "they guy for me" hes a good kid, sweet kind etc. anyways. the problem is that i am not really personal with my parents. we dont talk about boys or periods or anything like that unless i absoulutely have to. so if i start going out with this guy, how can i tell my parents without them freaking out?
how should i start the convo? etc.
Well you can start with the usual, "Can I ask you guys something?" Or the, "When is it the right age to get a boyfriend?", Or, start with a hypothetical question/situation, like "What would you say/do if I got a boyfriend, or wanted one?" That way you can see what their response is without being attacked and lectured on religion. Talk to your mom first, because you're a girl, most moms like a good relationship with their daughters. So just ask and talk to her openly about it, be hypothetical if you're worried.
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I'd like to know if guys care whether or not a girl they are with has a small house or a big house and what not.
It depends on a guy, but what you should know is that, if a guy is going to like you, he should like you for YOU and NOT your money or house. So if he asks about your house and money he may be after one thing, and one thing only. Money.
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So.. me and this guy have talked for a few yeas, to close. Last year fora few months we were erally close .. but then I introduced him to my best friend we will call Jen. All this year we talked 24/7 , not even kidding. I was always his first choice and he was always mine to go to or anything. For the last month .. we haven't been talking that much, and for the last week and a half he has been a real jerk to me, and my best friend even told me today that he does like he did actually admit it.. and it hurts, im sad
My best friend "CLAIMS" she doesn't like him , and still asks if i like him. She told one of our friends she did. Theyre always together, she like replaced me.. help!
Firstly, don't be angry at your friend, she sounds really caring to have 'claimed' she didn't like him, but at the same time tell another friend she does. So tell this friend you still REALLY like the guy, pretend to not know that she likes him too. And tell her that he's been a jerk for not keeping in touch in a while, and you'd like her to help out since she talks to him too. This is kind of mean because it's like manipulating your friend, but what are friends for?! ;D Don't think of it as she REPLACED you, but rather as she also made a new friend, the same guy.
If you want, you can talk to the guy in person and ask him what's up, ask him how things are going and stuff, there probably is something going on. So be a good, caring friend and ask him. Better do it in person, because then he can't avoid anything. ;)
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There this guy I'm kind of interested in. He's in one of my classes and we're always talking and stuff, but I want to be able to get him to "see" me in a different way. Any tips on how I can be more flirty subtly? I always seem to be near him, and its a class where we are always working on projects or in groups. We're always looking and smiling at eachother and chatting, but I want to be able to do more.
ADVICE?
When you talk to him look into his eyes, and tend to stare into them for a little longer than usual with a subtle, happy and satisfied smile. When you touch him or whatever smile or giggle, and apologise (if needed). Basically, smile alot, laugh and joke alot! You have to make him know that you're very comfortable with him and it's just great fun being with him, if he knows YOU find HIM great fun then he will think YOU are great fun too. It's a two-way thing! Be at ease, that helps too!
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I have never been so confused in my life!!!!
I'm a 16/f and i was talking to a boy that went to my school...i will call him "R"! So yea i really liked him but now "R" is in jail and might be in there for some time...and recently i have been kinda talking to another boy i will call "N"! I like "N" and we flirt and kiss and we really get along great! As friends and as a couple! But there's a slight problem...he has a girlfriend!!!!! he doesn't claim her at all and they barely talk too! I don't want to be the woman on the side or a home-wrecker but im really into him and he seems to feel the same! And on top of everything i still got "R" on my mind! I don't know what to do!!!! please help!!!
Make up your mind first. Choose one out of the two, either 'N' or 'R' and stick to it!
'N' may be a problem though because he has a girlfriend and the fact that he can't be loyal to her makes me think if he'll be loyal to you. SO tell him to pick one out of the two, you or his girlfriend, if he picks you then think first on what you'd like from him and etc.
'R' is in jail and he will only come out after some time, and as a girl I know, we need someone almost always. So try forget about 'R' and focus on 'N', that is IF he picks you. If he doesn't than he was never worth you and you shouldn't waste your time with him.
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15/f
my boyfriends b-day is in like a week and 1/2. hes going to be 15. into like every sport except rugby,golf, and thats all i can think of. hes mainly interested in football,very athletic. and he loves wierd things no one would ever think to really get.. (like green laser pointers, and a mushroom lamp.)
i am dead broke..normally i spend about 100$ -more on occausions(sp) for him.. i need something sweet and romantic i can do for him and in a short amount of time. we are sexually active..ive done the coupons kinda thing before. weve been dating for over a 1yr. and 8 months.
any tips on how to turn him on, and tricks in bed are really really appreciated.(we have safe sex!)
dont give me a speech.
we plan to stay together for a LONG time. and we are really really serious..like talking about what were going to do when college come around and that kind of thing...
so anyways and ideas are greatly appreciated if you need more information ill be gald to help you think.
thank you so much in advance!!
In bed, have you tried kissing below his belly-button? Wet, juicy kisses, slowly. Kiss the nipples, suck if you want. Run your fingers along his back or belly, gently and slowly, every run-of-fingers should mean a LOADSOME load of love and sensuality! Always start with alot of fore play and kisses and touches, be playful and sexy. You could also try sticking your tongue in his ear, sounds crazy but it's really effective, he'll be getting lots of goose-bumps! This should be enough for now. :)
If you want more help, let me know!
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I used to go with this guy and i really loved him until i found out he was cheating on me. I broke up with him and now he wants me back. I still sort of love him but barely. I wanna move on but if he is still holding on to me i dont know if i can. I think about him alot ever since he started calling me again. I just wanna move on with my life and hopefully never have to go through this again!!
Ignore him. He should know that what he lost (you), he can't get back. So ignore his calls, texts etc. That's if you strongly feel he doesn't deserve another chance...
But if you REALLY feel he deserves another chance, feel free to give it to him because everyone should get a second chance. Maybe he keeps calling you because he finally realised what he had lost and now craves it, craves you.
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im 14/f
i like this guy
he knows but, he says he doesnt kno me well enough i mean we talk everyday on myspace but, nvr imporant things so, is it possible that he just doesnt kno me enough
i would like guy advice
Well, that is probably because you two haven't spoken to each other in person, try that and do it frequently and then see how it goes.
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I need help flirting and trying to get a guy to like me
I'm KIND of shy
But I REALLY like him
I need flirting tips that are subtle AND some that will make him sweat!
Try smiling and just being nice and a friendly person that is open-minded. Don't be too clingy (follow him alot), and don't be desperate! For example, if he gives you cold replies, don't take them too seriously and don't pay NO attention to it. Like talk to hyim about school and everything, you have to get to know him kind of well and then you'll know what to flirt with! Or do the 'look'! As in, look meaningfully into his eyes for a second or two and then look away smiling. Usually works... :D
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ok this is kinda bad i know but here goes. i'm 17/f and theres this guy i met online who's 20 (its legal where i am) We talked for awhile and he said all of this stuff about how he really liked me and i was amazing and beautiful and i wasn't really sure that i liked him but i liked being liked so i kept talking to him. I was his friend on facebook, along with about 70 other highschool girls with skanky pictures who he still talks too, but anyways he started talking dirty to me and we exchanged some pictures and such and eventually we met up. By this time i liked him too. We hung out for awhile..went to a movie and dinner...and then in his car...yeah....lol i feel like a slut but whatever.
And now he's saying stuff like he wants to have a threesome with my mom or my sister or one of my friends. and he talks to all of these skanky girls on facebook. But he also says stuff like i want to get you pregnant so you're stuck with me, i wanna be with you for ever, i wanna marry you, i want you to move in with me, and even...ugh i love you.
He swears all this stuff he says is true and he seems pretty sincere but if i'm the only girl for him like he's said then why is he still talking to so many other girls and wanting to have a threesome?
Firstly, he's LYING! He can lie about anything online, about how he wants you, how he cares and most of all, how he 'loves' you! You don't really know him so well, he could be lying... about EVERYTHING! Including his age!
Wanting a threesome with your MOM, sister and friends just shows how much he disrespects you! He just wants to get into your pants, talking dirty to you is another way of showing disrespect. He could hurt you, physically etc. The fact that he talks to SO many skanky girls, you can only imagine what he could be carrying! And he probably says the EXACT same thing he is saying to you to ALL those other girls, hoping to get into their pants!
So, ignore whatever he says, block him and remember you don't REALLY know him and finding people online and making them more than friends is something risky.
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i really like this guy. on thursday, my teacher said that if these two girls bring in baked goods on friday, she'll make this writing assignment thing due on monday. i missed class on friday, and i didn't know whether the two girls brought in the baked goods or not. so i facebook messaged my crush:
me: hey, did we end up handing in our writing assignment on friday?
him: nah it's due monday
me: oh okay thanks. i just wanted to know if i should email it to her or not
him: you're welcome
i need to know if it would be awkward and / or obvious if i continued the thread, saying, "ooh so did ____ & ____ (the two girls) bring in the baked goods for class?
PROS IF I CONTINUE THE THREAD:
- i can perhaps talk to him more and become friends with him, especially since the school year will be ending soon
CONS IF I CONTINUE THE THREAD:
- i'll risk that he'll think i like him
PROS IF I DON'T CONTINUE THE THREAD:
- i don't risk that he'll find out i like him
CONS IF I DON'T CONTINUE THE THREAD:
- it's going to be really hard for me to try to facebook him in even a couple weeks because it'll seem even more obvious that i'm trying to rejuvenate a dead thread
please help me! i know i'm over-analyzing this but it would suck if i made it TOO obvious that i like him. he's a few social classes above me and i don't know if i'd ever be able to hang out with him aloneee...
Who cares if you like him and he finds out?! As you said, the year si coming to an end, so do the things that you've always wanted! Be risky and try all sorts of things, it could be your last chance!
The fact that he replied to your email shows that he is a kind person and is willing to be friends, so continue the thread. Talk about school, hobbies and everything else... This is NOT obvious that you like him because everyone wants to make friends and how are you suppose to start a new friendship if the two people don't talk, or if one of the two don't come out of their shell and talk to the other?! And once you've probably spoken to him for about a month, continuously, ask him if you could meet up with him, just for fun. Say it is because you feel you're friends with him and it would be fun to hang out together. Say 'hang out' because that sounds cool and laid back, not too excited or too desperate for a meeting.
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My boyfriend of a year and I broke up last week. I love him so much, and he tells me that he loves me too, but I don't think it's as strong as it use to be. We're still friends, he still calls me everyday, so I think there's still something there so, I want to win him back.
I'm a bit of a tomboy and I dressed pretty for him and he was all over me that day, I don't know what else to do though... any tips? stuff that worked for you guys?
If you guys had dated for a YEAR, which is VERY long and I'm very proud of you, then, you should't have to 'dress-up or dress-down', the reason he got with you wasn't because you dressed up and ACTED like someone else. If you're a tomboy, that is what you are and you shouldn't change for anyone, even him! I doubt you even need too, he was probably all over you that day when you dressed up because it was something new to hima nd so he got excited, guys usually are like that to new things.
So, my advice is that you play it cool, keep talking, flirting etc. And because the two of you dated for a year, I'm sure you two can talk about ANYTHING, because that is how comfortable you both are, so talk about the breakup and TELL HIM!! tell him you still love him, and want him back. Guys can be quite practical! Most relationships fail because of the lack of communication, so talk to him, have a serious talk and tell him how you feel, don't be worried about what he thinks or anything. You are who you are and that is who he feel in love with in the first place and that is who he truly loves!
P.S This is what I strongly feel, and it has helped me through many tough times and as well as my friends. So be true and all will come true! ;D
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Has anyone been in an interracial relationship? Did you encounter any heat from your friends or family? Did you live in an area where there was a majority of one race?
Thanks
Yes, i am in one actually, and it is fabulous. The thing about most people is that they don't really know the person you're having a relationship with and tend to judge way too quickly. And yes, you will obviously encounter some type of heat from the people around you that care, because you are getting yourself into something new they find it not so appropriate, they like you staying in your comfort zone because there everything is the same old thing and dealable. No matter where you go, what you do... You'll always encounter heat!
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This guy asked me out.. and tomorrow I'm seeing him. Thing is, I'm way nervous and don't know how to act. Any tips are welcomed by males and females.
Help?
Firstly, don't worry, he is probably as nervous as you. So, start off slow, talk about your day, ask him how was his. If he gives you short answers, don't be offended, he's probably nervous and he didn't mean to. I'm sure you guys have talked before right?! So continue from there, don't expect TOO much from a first date.
Dress up simple, not too excited , not too desperate, probably a pair of jeans and a cool top. :D Mainly, feel comfortable and open to any type of converstaion! Just relax, whatever happens, whatever you do etc. could be the reason he wanted to go out with you,so just take a deep breath and let everything flow! He'll carry you through it!! ;)
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okay 16/f, i have this boyfriend, and we've been going out for 7 months and he is very respectful and is in love with me and treats me right, but i've told him i wasn't comfortable going too far, with sex and he understands, but he like expects me to when we've been going out for a year..and i don't want to like dispoint him or make him wait for me, cause i dont know when i'll be ready. He is 100 percent comfortable with me, but i dont know why i'm not 100 comfortable with him, which can be the problem, im also scared to do some sexual things like head or fingering me, and i dont know whyy. so i believe that from my lack of sexuality he watches porn, but i feel like since he does, my expectations of those girls are higher and that im being compared and even if he doesn't see it like that or compare me in any way i feel like it does, but i'm just mental about the whole situation. i don't know what to do to make myself relax or feel more comfortable or do i just have to wait untill im comfortable whenever that will be. and i dont know what to do about my boyfriend because i don't want him to feel like hes gonna get something i'm not sure he will. so please give me advice thanks
If he is that understanding then, tell him. Tell him you don't know, you're not sure, when you'll be as comfortable as him and that you don't want to make him wait for something that you're not sure he will get. Communicate, most relationships fail because of lack of communication, so speak... Speak your heart out! ;)
Many guys watch porn, single, not single, married, divorced... It is in their nature. You can't se the future unfortunately, so give it some time, take it slow. Tell him you MAY get MORE comfortable with him after some time, and you appreciate the fact that he is so understanding and is willing to wait for something YOU'RE unsure about. Say those words or something like it and I'm sure you'll feel much better! That way you're praising him, guys like it, and you're getting open, a sign of comfort! Shows that you're getting comfortable with him mentally and emotionally, being able to talk to him about things like this show your relationship's maturity! :D Plus, he can't blame you for not being a 100% sure, no one can.
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okay, so heres the story. i broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. i just thought i needed a break and stuff. then one of my bestfriends liked him the whole time we going out. and today this kid i liked cause was over my ex boyfriend, asked me out and tonight at the dnace he broke up with me while my bestfriend and ex boyfriend are going out. i cryedd so much. i still love him and want to go back out with him. i dont know what to do. i don't know if this means anything but at the dance he kept looking at me and stuff and making sure i was okay. PLEASE HELPPP!!!! should i tell him i like him ? what should i do? i cant eat and i need to know fast before i start to loose weight...
Move on. Everything happens for a reason, remember that! You broke up with your ex, and that has ALREADY happened. You could tell him you stil like him, and that you feel what you did wasn't the best solution, OR, you could simply just move on. You could find someone just like him or even better, you never know and don't understimate the unknown!
Take it slow, spend LOADS of time with your friends, go out, have a blast! Dance 'til you drop, do whatever in the world you have ALWAYS wanted to do, but kept posponing!!
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female/ 15
i really like this guy at my school. i dont know him but i saw him once and i thought he was so hot. later on, i found out that a friend of mine knows him pretty well through her boyfriend. i talked to this friend and her boyfriend. they told me that this guy is really fun to talk to and interesting and intellectual and that mnay "pretty" girls approach him all the time but he is looking for something more. he is my age and both my friend and her bf said they dont think he has ever had a gf. i tend to get really obsessed about guys i like and i dont wanna get my heart broken. this guy is my dream guy though, both his looks and from all these great things i have heard and seen even from far away of his personality. he plays guitar and my friend offered me to go to his concert next week. i get picked up in the same place as him after school and i have wanted to start up a conversation but either i chicken out or he isnt there. for some reason, i keep seeing him a lot lately and although a lot of the time i do try to go to places at school where i know i can see him it is often a coincidence. my friends tell me that when i see him i stare and almost drool. i wanna meet this guy so badly but im afraid that if i do it at the concert it will look like another one of those awkward stalker situations that i feel like im in with him sometimes. help please!
Firstly, BREATH!! It really is okay!! Many people go through this. If you have problems talking to your crush, why not ask your friend who knows him to talk to him when you're there and introduce you to him. That way, you don't feel like a stalker but as a friend, a caring friend, who actually KNOWS him. You know what I mean... Ignore what you're friends say about you almost drooling, everyone is unique, and so are you, you may drool and they may not, who cares?! You never know, your crush might actually like that about you, some guys actually lik girls that snort when they laugh! It is all natural. And when you talk to him, don't rstrict yourself, let the converstation flow and see where it goes, mainly, have fun! You could be the one he's been looking for! He may find you the MOST beautiful person out of all, not necessarily your looks but your personality too.
Don't jump to conclusions too soon, you never know what may happen!!
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ok so i am with this girl we have been dating for a while now and things are absoloutly amazing i love her so much.... so whats the problem? well ok i am 15 years old ill be 16 on june 22 but my gf is.... 13 and in seventh grade i dont see whats so wrong with that but my dad hates it and no one approves not even my best friend... but i love her so much plese help someone idk what to do.....
Sweetheart, you could be confusing 'love' with infatuation. You may like a HUGE amount, but not LOVE! And many people confuse the two together, it is natural. Your dad probably thinks it's 'puppy-love' and not real love, so be understanding and understand the fact that he doesn't know how you truly feel about your girl. The two of you, you and your girlfriend have really good chemistry and that is good to hear, give it some time, give your friends and family some time. You never know what may hapen in the future, they could accept your relationship after some time, they probably are just new to it. :D
So basically, don't do anything, let them judge or whatever, give it some time and see what happens... ;)
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i pulled a chair from underneath a guy and he fell and everyone laughed and then he laughed too as he got up. and then he gets up and sits right next to someone else and he barely talked to me when i asked him if he was mad at me.
i later found out he was embarassed? WTF? i wouldn't get embarassed if that happened. whats up with guys? do they really get embarassed that easily?
Be understanding and open to different people, some people get embarassed easily, and he may have laughed to avoid the embarrassment that he was in, making it not obvious, which was a success! ;)
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