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This Guy
I used to go with this guy and i really loved him until i found out he was cheating on me. I broke up with him and now he wants me back. I still sort of love him but barely. I wanna move on but if he is still holding on to me i dont know if i can. I think about him alot ever since he started calling me again. I just wanna move on with my life and hopefully never have to go through this again!!
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I do not believe in telling someone to NEVER go back because it only makes that person want to go back.
First of all, dearness - people do change only if THEY want to not because someone made them change. I have expereinced being cheated on time and time again. I also know what those calls an contacts mean after they have messed up. It's a challenge to see if they can get you back, cheat again and most likely be sneakier this time without getting caught. If you do go back to him, you will experience insecurities, and trust issues -always looking out of the corner of your eyes, or needing to know his every move and where about. Eventually you will push him away.
You said you wanna just move on with your life and never hurt again, well, do that - move on with your life and know that you control who hurts you by controlling who you allow to get close to you. Remember that Ms. Lady because I had all kinds of people warning me, telling me, and I already knew what was up with his lying, dogging, cheating tail but I ignored it, thinking he will change for me - NOT.. I tried to take him back and couldn't understand why I kept getting took! make sense? Now, with that being said, time flew by and the more I took him back and allowed him to hurt me, the more he did it and took advatage of me. Don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of or walked on - now, the choice is yours girl.. you know what to do already, I can tell by your question . "smile"
Edited: You may not be smiling now, but it's better than crying later. I promise. you can email me and we can talk about it, so you can smile! sophia_pettus@yahoo.com
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Ignore him. He should know that what he lost (you), he can't get back. So ignore his calls, texts etc. That's if you strongly feel he doesn't deserve another chance...
But if you REALLY feel he deserves another chance, feel free to give it to him because everyone should get a second chance. Maybe he keeps calling you because he finally realised what he had lost and now craves it, craves you.
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NEVER GO BACK. There is a reason he is an ex, remember that every time you want to call him or answer his call. Chances are he is calling you because he needs an ego boost and knows that you will come running if he calls so prove him wrong. Even if you haven't gotten over him completely you can "fake it until you make it" meaning you tell him you are over him and have moved on and you keep telling yourself that until you believe it and he is nothing more than a part of your past. If he cheated on you once, he will likely do so again and becoming involved with him again will likely only lead to heartache.
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