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confused relationship
17/f
Guys are very confusing.So i've been hanging out with this guy who i really like,and well i guess you could say were "friends with benefits" but all we've done is kiss for about a month now.He's a shy guy in school,but outside of school he's huge talker.We'll it feels like we go out,and i want to be his girlfriend but i don't know how to ask him like what we are without actually saying it because i don't want to be just a girl he gets with i'm tired of being that.So anyway,how can i ask him without actually saying "what are we?"
thanks :)
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just be straight up with him. Tell him how you feel and then theres only one way to ask and thats just coming out and asking what you are like are you just friends or what. most guys in the case will just tell you but if he hesitates about it just be as blunt as possible.
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Be open and have you told him that most of the guys you have been with just used you, of you felt that way? This could be a rhetorical question too as if is he using you, he would feel guilty about it. But if he isn't he'll understand quickly and most probably, get the hint and ask you out. Most relationships fail because of the lack of communication, so if you want to date him, talk to him openly and ask him whatever you want. Just be comfortable.
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Most guys have egos - and so, compliment him and let him know that not only have you had fun with him, but you appreciate the time that you two have been sharing. You want to be positive and not negative - the words of I don't just want to be.. or I don't want to ONLY kiss and be a random chic.. don't come across kind of lowering the time that you two have shared as if it means less to you, this could push him away. Instead say words like, you need and want more from him because you have more to give to him.
Ask him if he has desires of being in a relationship with just the two of you, and let him share his opinions and desires with you. Also, prepare yourself to make a decision on what you want or will accept if he says he is not looking to be in a relationship at this time of his life, and that he enjoys what the two of you have been doing and that's all he wants.
Good Luck and remember that a closed mouth doesn't get fed. "smile" always ask for what you want, if you never speak up on it, no one will ever know but you which means you will never get it.
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well i would highly suggest just sitting down with him and being like it has been fun, but I am looking for more than just random hook ups. and see how he reacts or if you don't want to do that... you can just go up to him and be like ohhh my goshh [insert friends name] keeps bugging me and asking me if we are going out ?! and see how he reacts to that.
I would try to just talk it out with him though.
Good luck :)
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