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So iv'e been on the pill for over a year and my boyfriend wanted to finish inside me without protection and last night i finally let him. It was on the last day of my period and i take my pill religiously. Im very nervous about getting pregnant.. am i at alot or risk? (link)
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Birth Control will lower the chances, Yes. (If taken properly)
HOWEVER, There is always a chance of pregnancy there is never such thing as 100% safe. If you are nervous about pregnancy then start using a condom because eventually you could luck out
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what do girls do when they start to get sick of a guy? (link)
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The right thing to do if you were dating the guy would be to tell him how you feel and end the relationship.
If you are not dating the guy, The politely tell them you need a break in the friendship and gradually go your separate ways.
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Ok my friend katie likes my boyfriend when we were going out. and then we broke up and she didnt even wait 1 week to go out with him. should i tell her off or just suffer? (link)
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You've learned a lesson, Katie isn't a true friend
You be the mature one and move on, Trust me when he breaks up with her and needs comfort she'll see the bigger picture.
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I really like this guy (im 15/f) like i think it might be love.. but he has a girlfriend.. me n him always chill n like make out n stuff.. and he always tells me he loves me.. but why is he with her? (link)
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It's not love, You are simply flattered
If a guy is making out with you and has a girlfriend then clearly he isn't serious. At 15, Most boys are dating around to see what is out there never mind settling for one girl. Don't give into someone who plays mind games, Respect yourself
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((I'm 15/f))I think i am ready for sex but im not all that sure cause sometimes i think about it and think that i might regret it in the future. I REALLY like this guy tho. Also, I'm kinda scared that it will hurt really bad and i'm scared that i might not know what to do. What do u think? (link)
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If you are having any regrets at all about sex, Then you are not ready.
Sex is something that should come when you are truly ready and fully and completely trust a person who is faithful too you and you have been with for a long time and that being said over a 6 month time period.
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a couple weeks ago i kinda nicked myself shaving on my bikini line, and it hasnt healed yet. i put neosporine on it and havent shaved over it since, but its kinda turned into a lil red bump .. and yesterday there was a lil tiny bit of puss coming out of it, like if you squeezed a zit. but less. has this ever happened to anyone else & what can i do to make it heal? thnx & i'll rate if you give a good answer =) (link)
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Apply Aloe on it and you will see a difference in a day or two. ;)
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How can I get real good revenge on my ex boyfriend? He dumped me b/c he got too horny and we started to do stuffthen "god" told him to break up with me... which is a load of shit... someone help plz.. thanx a lot.and nothing that will kill him or hurt him too too bad :D thanx (link)
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You don't
If you want the proper revenge the forget about him and move on. Seeking revenge on people is an immature way of dealing with things.
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Is it right for a girl you are going on dates with but isn't your gf to makeout with one of her guy friends once while you are both contiuously going on dates?
Also is dating multiple people at once acceptable while not being a couple with anyone but going on dates with one person over and over again weekly?
How do you convince someone to get tied down and realize a relationship isn't bad and that while they may lose their freedoms it's worth it? Should one even try and convince them of this? (link)
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If you two aren't dating then no it is not wrong for her to see other people. HOWEVER, I would probably start to guess whether she is really into serious commitments. If she makes out with other men while she goes on dates with you (Although you are not dating) I might start to get the hint that maybe she doesn't want to settle down and rethink about whether I want to keep taking her out...
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I tried masturbating with a banana because I read that it felt really good, but then I bled after a couple minutes. Should I be worried? (link)
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Things that don't belong up there, Don't belong up there for a reason.
Not only are the changes of getting an infection always possible but if you chuck something that doesn't belong up there you also could very well raise the risk of yeast infections, UTI's etc. I highly recommend NOT doing it again. If anything I would use your hand at least that isn't a hazard...
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I have a problem. I'm 17 and ready to have sex. I WANT to have sex. I mean, I don't want to do it just to do it. I really WANT to. I'm completely ready. Problem- I don't have a boyfriend...agh! What do I do? (link)
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Um...You wait?
If you even have to ask a question like this, You might to rethink about whether you are mature enough...
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hey im 16 and im a male, girls.....this one is for you, is a guy being to nice to you a good thing or a bad thing, nice to a point where hes a real gentleman, opening doors for you, wlaking you to the door step, paying for your ticket and maybe sometimes dinner, depends on the occasion, is that a turn on or turn off about a guy, i thought it was a turn on??? (link)
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Turn on,
It is flattering to know that a guy respects you enough that he treats you the way you should be treated.
Of course it's a good thing
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I am 15/f and I always end up liking younger guys. Usually guys that are 14. Is there anything wrong with that.. cause some of my friends think it's a lil weird. (link)
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No, It's not weird at all
If you were 15 dating an 11 year old then that would be more understandable and wrong.
At 15 and 14 you are only a year apart, Big deal
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I'm a virgin, 15 yrs old & totally in love with my boyfriend. We're both ready to have sex & the only issue I have on it is do you guys like hair 'down there'? I know some guys dont mind or & some guys really do. What do guys my age like? I dont want him to be disgusted when were about to have sex cause of my hair! He's not a virgin. (link)
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Ask him, He is your boyfriend and every guy likes different things.
If you do have sex, Use protection and be smart
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I really like this guy and he really likes me. The problem is, he lives about 3 hours away. So if we did go out I wouldn't be able to see him very often. I talk to him on the phone and online everyday. I'm thinking about just asking him out. Do you think our relationship could last? (link)
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Most long distant relationship do not work out unless the both of you have some serious commitment plans. Moving in, Traveling on weekends, etc.
My ex lived 3 hours away from me, In the end it didn't work out. The traveling became to much, The money to travel was costly...and the stress from the distance eventually became a big problem.
My answer is probably not, Almost impossible.
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hey my mom said whenever i want to become sexually active she would give be birth control pills does that mean she cares or not? (link)
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Yes, She cares about you.
She is preventing any possibly pregnancy for you at a young age, She's looking out for you and doesn't want you to do something that will end up being a mistake when your young.
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My bf and I have been going out 7 months and things have been great overall. However, on our last date, I just wasn't turned on. I hardly even wanted to cuddle. I have only been on the pill for a month, so maybe this could be a side effect? and I definitely overate at dinner, but I don't know whether that could have had any effect either. Was this just a one-time thing or could it be a symptom of a deeper problem? (link)
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Depends,
Some birth control can cause woman to have mood swings and be less affectionate then usual as most birth control have "low sex drive" side effects depending on the pill and the woman.
It could be maybe you are falling out of love in your relationship, The spark isn't there anymore. The only way to know is to go out a few more times and if it keeps going on the way it did then it would probably be that you just aren't feeling it for him anymore.
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So here's my little pickle.
Met this guy, got wasted a few days later and had sex with him. Texted once in a while, but didn't really talk or hang out that much. Texted like buddies would. I was "talking" to someone for a very long time, and was sexually active with him, but we were drifting apart, and then something huge happened and we are no longer on speaking terms. So this brings me and this guy extremely close together, pretty much best friend status. BUT, we have sex every once in a while (but it is extremely rare, and usually when we are drunk, except I stayed a weekend with him and that was all sex pretty much).
So what kind of relationship is this? We get along so well, he knows about my heartbreaks with my guys, and gives me shit about my stupidity when it comes to guys all the time. I love him, but I think its only as a best friend. We are like from two different planets, yet we never run out of things to talk about, and we'd do anything for each other. Problem is, I've never heard of best friends having sex before. Could we be one of those best friends who are in love with each other, and not even know it, yet everyone else knows we are? Like sometimes I just look at him, and think I want to hold you as close to me as I possibly can, because I love you to death, and sometimes this leads to sex, although otherwise when I look at him I don't think I'm sexually attracted to him.
Help! So confused. Just want your thoughts and opinions. Reason that made me ask this, is because last night we had sex (last time before that was like a month ago, although we see each other every day) and I cannot stop thinking about him, and how we kissed, and how much I care about him (he's been there for me through a lot).
We are both college age. (link)
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Friends with benefits, basically a F-ck buddy.
Careful with that though, Sometimes having a buddy like that can really screw things up for you later on and mess with your head.
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Is it normal for internet friends to last for as long as 6 years or longer? Do they usually end up meeting after a while? I have a friend who met this girl on Runescape when he was like 11 and they're still friends; he's 17 right now. I remember my internet friends only lasted a few months at the most...I just ended up changing my address and forgot to tell them... (link)
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99% of the time people are never who they say they are on the internet.
Different people will have different opinions but mine is I don't care how long I have known someone on the internet I would never meet them in person. Not even in a crowded area. Where there is a risk, If it is possible I avoid it.
Some have met people online and it ended up being a fine relationship and it's all worked out, but again not every relationship works out
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me: 20.f.asian, him: 21.m.white. in short: i'm falling for my bf, but lately i've been feeling things like: wanting to date someone w/ my race/him having a daughter is starting to bother me. half of me thinks i want to be w/ him for a long time, the other half says i want to be single/date around. advice? (link)
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You've already made up your mind here, If your boyfriend having a daughter is starting to bother you then that pretty much says goodbye to the relationship. Your boyfriend's daughter will always be there as he is the father and that is his daughter.
If you want someone who is your race then stop playing mind games and tell your boyfriend how you feel.
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ok as the title says, im like positive my boyfriend is in love with his ex. i cant prove it and i dont want to mention it cause i know he'll get mad at me because im always hassling him about other girls. but the thing is she lives like far away, he moved. they went out for a while and i know he still has feelings for her but the long distance thing wasnt working out for them. we are dating now but sometimes i think he wishes he was still with her, or that he wants her more than he does me. we're still in high school but i havent had a relationship in a while and i just want this to work...what in the world do i do? (link)
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You can't truly love someone, If you are still in love with someone else.
If you can't trust your boyfriend, Then the relationship will not work out, As the key to a relationship is about communication and trusting one another. I agree with the person below me, TALK to your boyfriend as the way of finding out the truth sometimes is by studying someone by talking to them. If he doesn't seem into you then dump him, As what I said above is the truth. If you have your eye one someone but your heart is somewhere else then that person hasn't fully committed themselves to you.
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