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occaisional sex with guy bestfriend. What?!
So here's my little pickle.
Met this guy, got wasted a few days later and had sex with him. Texted once in a while, but didn't really talk or hang out that much. Texted like buddies would. I was "talking" to someone for a very long time, and was sexually active with him, but we were drifting apart, and then something huge happened and we are no longer on speaking terms. So this brings me and this guy extremely close together, pretty much best friend status. BUT, we have sex every once in a while (but it is extremely rare, and usually when we are drunk, except I stayed a weekend with him and that was all sex pretty much).
So what kind of relationship is this? We get along so well, he knows about my heartbreaks with my guys, and gives me shit about my stupidity when it comes to guys all the time. I love him, but I think its only as a best friend. We are like from two different planets, yet we never run out of things to talk about, and we'd do anything for each other. Problem is, I've never heard of best friends having sex before. Could we be one of those best friends who are in love with each other, and not even know it, yet everyone else knows we are? Like sometimes I just look at him, and think I want to hold you as close to me as I possibly can, because I love you to death, and sometimes this leads to sex, although otherwise when I look at him I don't think I'm sexually attracted to him.
Help! So confused. Just want your thoughts and opinions. Reason that made me ask this, is because last night we had sex (last time before that was like a month ago, although we see each other every day) and I cannot stop thinking about him, and how we kissed, and how much I care about him (he's been there for me through a lot).
We are both college age.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Friends with benefits, basically a F-ck buddy.
Careful with that though, Sometimes having a buddy like that can really screw things up for you later on and mess with your head.
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He's your f*ck buddy. I have personally never understood this kind of relationship, but suprisingly it appears to be pretty common nowadays.
Usually in that relationship, one person starts feeling things for the other and that becomes the end of it. I actually know a girl who used to have one. They had rules and everything. If one of them started dating, they would stop having sex. If one of them started feeling things for the other, they would stop. I personally thought it was the sluttiest thing I had ever heard of, but I kept it to myself. This girl did have feelings for this guy, which just made the relationship that much more twisted.
You need to stop having sex until you figure out what it is you want. Continue hanging out with him, and try to figure out how he feels about you while you try to figure out how he feels about you. Try dating. It couldn't hurt?
Good luck!
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