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does anyone know of any good ways to get better at sight reading? i'm really bad at playing runs [going up or down a scale]. i think it might be because i can't read music as fast as its supposed to be played. does anyone have any advice. thanks

Try saying the notes as you're playing them. I (i play the classical guitar) keep in mind that there're two flats, and still go on saying 'B, C, B...' You don't have to say the whole note name, if it's a sharp or a flat. It's a good exercise though, AND it trains your hearing. Next thing you know, you'll be singing the notes without the music!

*let me know what instrument you play. I've got great sites that've got sight reading exercises*

Rock on!

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ok, im 13/f and i kno everyone has upper lip hair, but mine is starting to get a little more noticable and i was wondering whats the best way to get rid of it? i dont want to wax, if u even can, so dont say that. I have this little grooming razor thingy so would that work? thanks danielle

Hey hon.

I use this Braun Silkepil thing. It pulls out the hair from the roots, and it won't grow back for a week minimum. It's got the special things for legs, armpits and facial stuff. It could be a little painful but beauty knows no pain.

Nair or other creams might burn your skin...

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Ok so i asked a question a few weeks ago about doing something with a rose for Xmas for my girlfriend and i got alot of positive feedback about it.. you might of read it.. had to do with a glass rose? well if not i decided to change it up a bit, tell me how you(a girl) would feel if your boyfriend did something like this for Xmas::
Along with your other presents, brough over a vace we 11 roses in it, and one glass rose, making a dozen roses total. And put a card in there that says, "I will stop loving you when the last rose dies." (for all the not-so-smart girls out there, 'a glass rose wont ever die') Sooo how would you like it? yes? no? maybe?

Not a yes, not a no, not a maybe.

A DUH!

=) Kay

*did that make sense? oh well*

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I get really stupid little things stuck in my head and they end up worrying me for ages. E.g. something I hear about a persons past can really bother me to the point where I can't talk to them without thinking about it. Is there something wrong with me? What can I do about this? I'm pretty normal usually - just for some reason I dwell on really stupid things and end up making a big deal about it.

Thanks.

Hey hon.

Actually, you're not being all paranoid and 'omg'y. This shows that you care about person x or y. Nothing's wrong with you. You're just super-nice, face it. Maybe you wanna talk about it with that person and try to help him/her out?...

Hope this helps.
Kay

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What song can I sing to audition for my schools musical? I do not have a very good voice, so I am only looking to be in the chorus (I have been in it the past, so yes, it is possible to be in the chorus even if you don't have an amazing voice). I am a 16 year old female, who cannot sing very high at all. I would like something that is easy & will sound good on my voice. I would like something from a Broadway show, or Disney. (preferably A MUSICAL PLAY). THANK YOU!

Here are some cool songs that you might wanna try to learn:

"The Trail We Blaze" By Elton John (from El Dorado)

"El Dorado" By Elton John (from El Dorado_

"Believe" By I have no idea (From Peter Pan II: Return to Neverland)*this might be a little high*

"Summer Nights" from Grease *this might be a toughy too*

Anything by Lene Marlin (Unforgivble Sinner, You Weren't There...) Her voice is low and it's amazing.

"Crucify" by Tori Amos

'Tarzan' songs by Phil Collins

That's about it. "Summer Nights" would be awesome if you got a guy to audition with you!!!

Best of luck! *let me know how it goes, ok?!*

Kay

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I have a huuuuge biology test on monday, and im so nervous. It's just so confusing. Im studying so hard but i just know im gunna fail. I have a C- average, so i HAVE to do well. Plus my gramma just died, so thats just another distraction. Im so nervous i feel like im gunna be sick. How can I calm down? What are some good study tips? Pleaseeeee help!

Try to study at night, since it's the only time when your brain's most 'awake'. Make sure you're not studying with an empty stomach. Try using these small card thingies to study, it's much more fun and you'll remember stuff easier.

For important info and formulas and all that, try learning the stuff by singing it. Let's take 'Holiday' by Green Day, k? And let's say the test is on ... uhm... *sucked at bio* the digestive path. So, you'll go like *while headbanging* "Mouth, e-so-phagus, large intes-tine, small intestine....la la la". That doesn't really make sense, but try it. Simple tunes like Twinkle Twinkle are easier.

Well, I hope I helped!
Good luck on the test.
Kay

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Hey, well I'm 14 female and like when ever I see a cute guy I fall for him. Like I like a guy at my school and another one and when I went to some men's college soccer games i like feel madly in love with them but i know I'll never ever be albe to have then and I can't cause that's like a 18 years dif. and yea. So is this normal for me to be falling for like every cute,hott guy i see? Thnaks

Everyone's got a thing for older guys. (Take Johnny Depp, for example. Let's say he wasn't a celebrity. You'd still think he was hot, right?) It's totally normal to fall for every cute, hot guy you see. And it doesn't happen only when you're 14. I'm 16 going on 17, and I have the same 'disease'. But i think you'll get rid of this habit thing once you have a special one in your life. Then you'll fall for him.=)

Hope this helps.
Kay

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Okay so i'm 16 years old in the middle of my junior year in high school. I really want to move in with my mom who lives across the country from my dad. My mom wants me to move in with her too so she hired a lawyer and had to pay 5000 dollars for all the stuff. Since she had to pay all this money she has really been strapped for cash and might have to move into a smaller house, and maybe even to a new town, forcing my little sister to change schools. If i tell her i dont want to move then she can get some of the money back probably about half. My mom really wants me to move in with her but this financial stuff is really getting bad. Should i tell her i should just stay so she can get half the money back? Or should i just move anyways? Making her have really bad financial security
any advice would be great

Ow...you're going through such a tough time. I'd say wait for a while till she gets better financially. If you move in now, she's gonna have loadsa new expenses (YOUR school, your sister's, food, clothing, transportation, blah blah) and that wouldn't really help make the situation better. However, if you waited and found a part-time job or something, you could help her with the money stuff when you think she can afford to have you move in.

Wish you the best of luck. Let me know what happens, ok? =)
Kay

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I wnet out with this guy for a year and a day to be exact then i broke up with him because hes much older than i and i like this kid in my grade.. How long before i should date agian?
i was thinkin 4 months?

--13/f--

Time? Does it matter?...Dating is not based on a pattern or something like that. If you wanna do it, go ahead. It's a choice that you have to make. Ask your conscience: will you allow yourself to have another bf in less than 4 months?

Best of lucky luck.
Kay

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Ok this is going to be sorta long so if your not ging to read it all then dont read it! Ill rate a 5 to whoever deserves it!

Ok so heres my tale......

One month ago today was the greatest day of my life my x boyfriend asked me out and I said yes! well heres how I met him

I am in R.O.T.C. and so is he Im a freshman hes a senior. Well I went to do colorguard and hes colorguard commander and he said I was hot asked me out and I turned him down. Well 2 weeks later I noticed he was hot and sweet and was destinded to be with me! well on thursday the 27 of September there was a dance and I asked him to meet me there at the school. He shows up 2 hrs late with this grl and I thought it was his sister. He leaves after like 45 minutes and when he comes to hug me he looks at me and I wouldnt let go. Well eventually I did

Well that frieday I went to colorguard to see him present the colors for the football game. after he did I ran down the bleechers w/ my friend so I ciould go see him. Well when I finally got down and he came back from the R.O.T.C. room I saw him leave.... with the girl from the dance AMANDA!! They were holding hands so I assume they were datimg blah blah blah I cried got over it the next day and went to the campus clean up. That Sunday I went to church and saw him in the morning bc I went out to eat and he was worknig. WellI acted asd if I didnt know him. That night my mom decides to go get some food from there and he wasstill working. My sister recognized him and she started to tslk to ihm. My mom went up to him gave him my # and told him to call me that night to make me fel better. He did and all he did was ay I like you and I will eventually go out with you but Amanda this and AMANDA that. So I said whatever and sucked it all up. Well later On thursday 06 he asked me out after drill practice. I said yes duh! So everything was great until the friday befor Halloween. We never ever got to pend time alone latly bc my mom and my sis or his mom and his bro were always in his room. Well finally we were alone and my mom calls to pick me up an hr early. H alloween come we go trick or treating w/ my sis and his bro and were mad bc we have to kkep going and cant be alone. Mymom come to pick us all up and we go back to his house. 15 min later my mom takes me home. Then tuesday it started to get weird

Tuesday AMANDA'S great great grandmother died and he went to the funeral he didnt call me at all and was w/ AMANDA and I trust him but not when he doesnt call. So Wedndsay comes and he doesnt call me at all. He told me he went to Karate and then to church and didnt get home till 10. So I belived him. Funny though that AMANDA goes to the same church. Thursday is when it got really bad. He was acting all distant at school and said he was skipping school Friday. Well Thursday we disdnt talk at all after school and he said he was to sick to talk. Friday he doesnt come to school so I call him after. He picks up and I asked him about his day well he went and me up w. AMANDA and a buch of other friends and he said hes in a depression to where he wanted to break up w/ me but didnt. So we hung up I cried blah blah blah. Yesterday I tried to call him but he was at soccer tournaments so no pick up. Well I went to my sisters first soccer game and say 3 of my friends there who saw Dustin earlier. They sad him and AMANDA have been really close latly. So I was so pissed that we left and I drove over to his house to gobreak up w/ him for cheating plus his bro thold me too. Well when I got there AMANDA'S car was there his lights were off so I knocked as hard as I colud he finaly came out and I broke up with him and me and my mom left. I said so much and dont talke anybacck. But what sux is that I love him sooo bad and I just dont know how to get over him. He tried to tell me he wasnt cheating and all and school is tomorrow and I have to sse him and I dont know how Im gonig to hold up whrn i odp see him! So I really want to hear your oppinion and tell me should I trey and listen if he talks to me should I talk to ihm? What sholud I do? What really gets me is she treats him like crap and she breaks up w/ him and he had it soo good w/ me my fam loved hima nd I was always happy and now Isee him like everperiod bc he used to trat me so well and I dont know how to move on so IDK if this is really asknig for advice just more of an opinion on what to do you know . Well I had to tell someone so It would stop bothering me. Thanks to whoever is going to actually reafd this


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Bianca

Hey Bianca.

Hon, if i were you, i'd listen to what he's gonna say. Here's a thing that might help you: if he doesn't keep eye contact and starts rubbing his hands together, that means he's lying. If he chuckles and goes like 'what do you mean?', he's lying. If he sighs and looks at something behind you, he's lying.

I hope it all works out. *me = a freshman too!*

Best of luck.
Kay

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Ive heard you can dye your hair with lemon juice..is this true? does it work? does it look good? how do you do it? i mean do you just squeeze a lemon over your head? Does it work if you have dark hair?? like really dark..
and can you get it out??

Hey there. I was just reading the other answers. Hmm...i never knew they worked. But think about this. Lemon juice is acidic. It might damage your hair or might harm your scalp. I dunno. It's like the pepsi thing.

Kay

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I'm a pretty social person, but everytime I want to plan some time to hang out with one of my friends my parents always interfer.They hardly ever let people come to our house because they claim it's messy when all they gotta do is clean it up! Today I wanted to sleep-over my friends house and my parents wouldnt let me go because it was raining, but it wasn't even raining hard!! Everywhere I go, I'm questioned.One time, I wanted to ride my bike around the block and my parents made me come back in 10 minutes when it was only 6:00..They make me so mad!! It's hard for me to show them I'm responsible because they baby me with how they are overprotective and I'm just so pissed off right now!!I want them outta of my bussiness!! Please help!! How do I get them to stop buggin me and let me be able to do stuff with my friends?

Hi there. Just because your rents are overprotective doesn't mean they don't want you to have fun. They're doing that to protect you 'cause they love you and if something happens to you, well then, think about what's gonna happen after that. You're a big part of their lives, and they want you to be. Try talking to them and ask questions. Lots of questions, it helps. You're not the only one since they were your age once. I'm pretty sure they know what they're doing. It might not seem reasonable to you at first, but know that whatever they're doing, they're doing it for you.

I hope this helps.
Kay

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i am so sad because my dog just got run over by my neighboor like 2 hours ago! she was my best friend and her name is raz and i cant but just think she is going to be gone forever i will never be able to see her again! i am amuzed that this happend!:`( please help me try and get over this i need tons of HELP PLEASE HELP ME!! write back as soon as you can please!

Hey. I'm so sorry. It must feel terrible for you. I've never lost a pet before but I'll try my best to help you here. Don't think about the sad bits, like how you're never gonna see her again, and how it got run over. Think about the best times you two spent together. It might be tough at first, but it turns your tears into smiles (eventually, hope so). You might think this is the worst advice ever, but I tried my best. I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful. =(

I hope this helps.
Kay

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Is there some kind of lotion or creme to help me get rid of stretch marks.....I kinda of grew alot and have them so....Can I get rid of them....I've also heard that Shea butter helps....Does it?

I wasn't trying to tell you how to lose weight. That's what I did and I got rid of mine. It's your choice. I was just tryin to help.

Kay

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Sometimes i come to think that im a loner. Its summer time now and i just sit home and do nothing, or im with my boring family. Im friends with the popular group, or the "it" group in school. Whenever i ask them if they want to do something they say they cant or make up excuses. I dont know what im doing wrong. How could i get them to actually want to hang out with me?

Hi there. Is it that important to be with them if they don't wanna be with you? If they don't wanna hang out with you, well, they're the ones missin all the fun. This really tells you who your real friends are. The time will come when you will tell them that you can't or that you have to babysit or whatever, and it'll be then when they'll realize what they did to you. If they don't wanna hang out with you, okay then. There's millions of things you can do on your own without them. Just remember, you don't need all the popularity to have all the fun. =)

I hope this helps.
Kay

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Does anyone know all the techniques for straightening hair? (both temporarily and permanently) Please either give me a list with prices, or websites with descriptions. I rate 5's! Thanks so much

Well, the permanent way is called "defrizee" (French word), and it's the opposite of perm. Your hair stays straight for like months, i think. Just go to the hairdresser and tell her/him to do it for you. I think it costs a lot though. Well, in my country it does.

I hope this helps.
Kay

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ohk so my mom put on some self-tanning lotion but she was out in da sun now she looks like a carrot ... its looks nice though the problem is that she didnt wash her hands after now they look orangy-brown lol ... anyways any - home remedies or anything she can do to help the color go away faster ? thnx in advance

How about washing her hands with vinegar or lemon juice? That's how we do it here if we wanna get rid of that henna color. Maybe it's the same thing, dunno...

I hope this helps.
Kay

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I care a lot about my friends but to some of them i kinda feel like im not that important to them and we always have fights and its really hard and i need to kno how to handle it cuz im tired of fighting and having to deal with it its really hard well plz give me some advice ill rate high
Thanx

Hey there. The more you hold your feelings back, the tougher it's gonna become to deal with the problem. You don't wanna hurt them or anything by saying the truth, I know that, but if they're doing it to you, I mean, that's not really friendship... Sure, you have fights and arguments every now and then, but at some point it has to stop. Try talking to them, and try not to overreact or lose your temper. At times like this, be the first to walk out of the battle. I'm not saying surrender. If you think stuff's gonna become worse, slowly leave the room, avoid a shopping spree, anything. But make sure that in the end they know how you feel.

I hope this helps. =)
Kay

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Does anyone know a website that lets you download MIDI files of music for free? i will rate fives.

Yeah, I do! Hold on, lemme check the sites...
*goes to check the sites*

Back!
Okay, here's one. http://pop.mididb.com/
The thing is, there aren't lots of songs in there. But it's the only site i know.

I hope it helps.
Kay

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okay so i used to be really fat and lost a lot of weight and now i have stretch marks how do i get rid of them?

Drink a lot of water. It helps, really. And exercise a lot. Stuff like running, jogging and walking (riding a bike, swimming...) are also good for getting rid of em.

I hope this helps.
Kay

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