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I answer ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. I don't care what it's about, I will try to help. I've got a lot of good advice up my sleeve and I LOVE to help. :)
I really try not to be mean, but just to give some people a wake-up call. Sometimes people need it. Sometimes I need it. lol. Well, ask questions and you'll get answers.
~K~
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There's this girl that I am friends with and we seemed to have a really good relationship at first, but ever since she realized she can tell me anything (I'm really good at keeping secrets) she only tells me her problems. It seems like every time I see her she has some sort of depressing story and she always expects me to help her! I'm an advicenator myself, so I do give a lot of good advice, but she keeps pelting me with all of these things that really aren't that big of a deal, but she overreacts and gets really upset about them. Now I never want to be around her because I don't want to get sad, but I think she sort of needs me now and I don't know what to do! She gets upset about EVERYTHING, like if she sees the guy she has a crush on hugging another girl (hugging is a big thing at our school, everyone hugs everyone else) she will freak out and start crying and get really mad at that person and then just expect me to fix it! It seems like my best friend and I are just her counselors and that we are expected to change everything that goes wrong for her. We think she may actually need psychological help, but we have no idea how to say this because she will get really upset, and talking to her parents is not an option. Help! I'm posting this in the morning because I know there is another sob story at school waiting for me, and I'm hoping it'll be the last one! (link)
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Well this is a difficult one because now I believe she is dependent on you to help. You might want to encourage her to see the counselor or a therapist becaause you just aren't trained to help her with these problems. You should also tell her that they know how to fix these problems much better so she thinks that you don't know how and will instead go to the counselor who can.
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Me and this boy have been really close friends for a year. Now he's started hanging around the other guys, who are all jerks. They were beating up on a kid one day and it made me mad. I stood up for the kid and the boys all ended up getting in trouble by a teacher. Now my friend is mad at me because I embarrassed him in front of his friends. I was just doing what I think is right! Well, now he says he hates me and is tired of the "bull shit". I love him and I don't want to lose him but I have no idea what to do now. None of his new friends like me (they think I'm a psycho) and I feel like he cares more about what they think than he cares about me. It's really really depressing. Write back soon, please & thank you. (link)
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I have been in a similar situation. You're not going to like what I have to say.
First off, he's trying to be popular. He's 13. He wants to be "cool". Second, what you did for the boy was RIGHT. Now kid deserves to be picked on and if he can't see that you were doing the RIGHT thing then you're friendship doesn't mean very much to him.
You can try talking to him. In person. With his new "friends" NOT around. It's hard to find a time and place to do that sort of thing but try it. If that doesn't work out, on to 'Plan B'.
Try to call him (but not obsessively, only once every two weeks, trust me on this one). Try to talk to him then. Be serious, don't cry, talk to him, present you're issues in a polite manner. Ask him why he's doing what he's doing and why is he treating you the way he is.
And now, 'Plan C'. All I have to say is if he doesn't see the error of his ways and apologize...HE ISN'T WORTH IT. He's turning in to one of those jerks and if you can't stop it, then there's a problem. It takes a long time (this is REALLLLLLY know about) but you can do it. You might cry, you might get really angry, but DON'T let yourself talk to him. Just cherish the memories. Try to put them away for a time when you can handle them.
If you need to talk more (I have some more stuff to tell you) my email is pink_is_pimpin09@yahoo.com and my screenname for AIM is SoSunKiSsEd09
I hope this helps and I know what you're going through. It's tough to lose a friend (especially a guy friend). Don't let it get you down. You deserve to be happy and no boy can change that.
-K-
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Whats the fastest way to loose weight running cutting calories what? (link)
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I have p.e. and play volleyball so I'm really active. In total I run about 16 laps around my gym a day (about two miles) and do plenty of excercises. Try crunches, push-ups, sit-ups and alternate knee sit-ups. Try and find some Taebo tapes and do them every day. They help A LOT! Jog around your neighboorhood everyday but stay hydrated.
I also eat A LOT but I balance what I eat. You'll need lots of protein so for lunch, have a sandwich (with meat), some yogurt (low fat), some carrots, broccoli, celery and cauliflower and you can ever throw in some pudding. Try to get Jello's low fat kind. I'm not saying become a total health freak, just look at what you eat and if it's unhealthy say, I'll eat less of this right now and eat some carrots (or some vegetable or fruit, preferably a vegetable, they stay with you longer) to make up for what I didn't eat of this.
It is essential that you eat a lot of food thats good for you if you start working out. Every morning, instead of that very sugary cereal that has barely any nutrients and does not stay with you, I have a protein bar. It helps so much. Fruit is healthy, but your body takes the nutrients from it and then it's gone. It does not stay in your stomach long so you get very hungry. I know for a fact because I used to eat fruit for breakfast and after my first two classes I'd be STARVING. Try having a protein bar or vegetables or something with substance. If you work out and deprive your body of nutrients, then you will feel horrible. Not eating will having a daily excercise regimen is virtually like starving yourself.
Work out, eat healthier and run. Those are some GREAT ways to help you lose weight. Just don't starve yourself. Sorry if this was too much information, but I hope it helps!
K.
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well my ex boyfriends birthday is coming up and we decided we were gonna spend the day together after school or the following day together! weve been broken up for almost 7 months now! ya i know a really long time! but through it all weve been like best of friends and we talk all the time! and weve hung out twice this summer! well he does tell me he knows we both want to be together but it wont work right now because he is dating another girl but they arent going out cause she cant have a boyfriend! and even after being broke up hes like i love u and i always will! and just last night he said he missed us! and i still really care about him! but anyways for his bday i wanna do something really cute! i was already thinking about making him a cake and decorating it all cute and getting him a card! but i was trying to think of something else special i could do to show him how much i care! any ideas? thanks so much! (link)
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I think it's very sweet that you guys still hang out, but I'm skeptical about him dating another girl and telling you he loves you...Don't you think it's a little shady? I mean, don't you think it would hurt the other girl? I don't know this guy but I'd be careful what you say and do, I would hate to find out that he used you.
Some cute ideas for his birthday would be to take him to your/his house and make it seem like you didn't plan anything special, but when he walks into the dining area, have it all lit up with candles (safely, not anywhere near flammable things) and have a nice, romantic setting and have his cake decorated all nicely right in the middle of the table with his candles on it. You could also (if the table is wide enough) have a small vase on either side of the cake, one with seven roses and the other with one rose. Tell him to tear the petals off the seven roses and then spread them on the table and tell him that those were to the end seven months ago and then (make sure there is a ribbon around the single rose, maybe his favorite color?) and hand it to him and say "This is to a new beginning," and kiss him sweetly on the cheek or hug him. Then bring out a nicely prepared dinner and then dig into the cake. You might even make/buy a small cake that just the two of you can eat.
If I think of anything else I'll tell you. :)
I hope this was enough, but I might think of something else to tell you.
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when ever i download the sims2, and i put the thrid disc in, it freezes there, my freind kammi (hi kamz!) said she doesnt know, i have the sims2 doewnloaded on a diff computer, but im not allowed on it, because i got my own, and its my sisters and she doesnt want me to delete the families and stuff like that! can you tell me why its freezing? (it freezes at exactally 49%) (link)
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I might be wrong (It's either on The Sims 2 or The Sims 2: University) but you can play a game during the download and if you play the game it messes up or you might need to clean the disks. It happened to me buuuuuuuut, I fixed it and I can't remember how.....sheesh...If I think of it I'll add onto this. Try cleaning the disk for now and not playing the game.
-K-
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I know you don't want to listen to me whine but really, I have noone to talk to. My boyfriend just dumped me in the rudest way. He made up this horrible excuse that his parents were mad at him and he wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend. He never even told me he was breaking up. Right after that, he put his away message up that said "Oh the phone with the hottest girl ever-Shea!" (Shea is a slut and really easy by the way) Then I imed him to tell him how much he hurt me. And he said, "Yeah whatever, like you would know what pain was. Who cares about you."
I can't stop crying. Is there something wrong with me? He blocked me so anyone who wants his screenname, its: pyroboy9977.
I can't believe this. :( (link)
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Well, obviously he's an asshole. I'm really sorry he hurt you like that. You didn't deserve it, but what you can do is move on and find a someone who will treat you right. What you need to do is just be happy and realize that he is definitely worth forgetting. You can't do anything about it but move on to happier things.
I'm really sorry he did that to you, no girl deserves to feel that way or be treated that way.
~K~
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I eat 3 meals a day and lately abou an hour after my meals I start to get really hungry.
I've tried eating bigger portions but it just made me feel bloated after, I've tryed halfing my portions and leaving half of it for when I do get hungry but it makes my hunger worse and I've tried ignoring it but it just doesn't seem to go away.
Is there anyway I can stop this? (link)
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It is ok to snack after a meal. It seems like you're active and activity makes the food and it's nutrients burn faster. You can snack, it's not going to affect your weight if that's what you're worried about. In essence, you're kind of starving your body of nutrients. The hunger pains are your body trying to tell you to eat because if your body needs nutrients your stomach acid is well, being acidic and tries to burn whatever is in the stomach which is, in your case, nothing, so instead it is burning the stomach walls. So that's pretty much how you know you need food. Just snack, it doesn't have to be big, but three meals usually doesn't do it for people, especially not me. I eat A LOT but as long as you balance food and being active you should stay at your weight or lose weight. Since you said lately, it must mean you've been getting more active hence the summer, so just snack, I know I've said that a lot, but that's generally what you have to do. :)
Hope this helped!
~K~
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I have a natural outside base tan , you could say, and I am going to go to a tanning salon today. How often should I go to the tanning salon if I'll be tanning outside too? Don't tell me I don't need both because that is my personal choice - I'm just wondering how often I should go to the indoor salon in addition to the outside natural sun. (link)
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Well, it really doesn't matter. It depends on how dark you want to be. I get both an outside tan and go to a tanning salon and I like to be dark, but it suits me. If you want to be dark, then you can go to your tanning salon every eighteen hours depending on the strength of the bed. I'd say do what you feel comfortable with. :)
Hope that helped.
~K~
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O.K. I'm not trying to be nasty or anything but my boob is like really sore and it has been sore for like 2 days now. What should I do? (link)
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It is probably your period. I hate that, don't feel bad, it happens to me or your boobs could be growing....either way take Tylenol (even though it does NOT work for me) or Advil or just regular ibuprofen.
-K-
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hey I really like this guy sooooo MUCH! its like scary lol we talk on the fone A LOT and stuff, but he is not that handsom he is kinda fat and im really skinny, wen i saw him i was lke ewwww and so was every1 else. He is tall and I am short but he is really nice and sweat. I dont know if i shuld go with him or not! he is really nice! if it helps im 13/f PLEASE I WILL RATE HIGH!!! (link)
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Go out a few times together like the people before said. You know, sweet guys are really hard to find and you need to get him now before some other girl finds him. Even if he isn't the most attractive tool in the toolbox doesn't mean the he doesn't work just fine. Go for it!
-K-
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well this guy that i like says he wouldnt go out with me because i was prude but im not soo he said if i wasnt prude then i have to have sex with him to prove him but now i think about it i dont want to cause i just isnt right at my age (15) and i dont what to say to him that i dont want to have sex with him just to show him im not prude!! everytime i talk to him he always says are u ready to have sex but i always say yes because if u dont then he might spread rumors about me which he is really good at!!! soo i dont know what to do at this point!!! HELP!!!! (link)
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Ok, first off, you shouldn't keep saying yes. You're not prude if you don't wanna have sex. Prude is like not wanting to even hug a person or anything like that. You just need to tell him that you are not prude you just don't wanna have sex yet and then begin telling him "What if I got pregnant because the condom broke? Would you stick by my side? What if you suck? Would you want me to tell people that?" and just scare him out of it, but I reccomend just saying, "I don't want to have sex, I barely even know you,". Simple. Well, not really, but you've got to tell him the truth, but you aren't prude and I honestly don't know why you like him. He's just trying to pressure you into sex by calling you prude. So I say "GET OVER HIM!!!". I'll give you five good reasons why:
1) He's a jerk, OBVIOUSLY!!!
2)Do you want to be pressured into sex? Didn't think so...
3)Do you want him to sex you up and leave you?
4)Do you want to get pregnant?
and last but not least 5) He obviously doesn't know how good you are if he's calling you prude. Any guy would be lucky to have you and here this guy you like is already belittling you!
So please just get rid of him, before you do something you'll regret. I am not for waiting until marriage, but I am for waiting until you find someone you really know and love with all of your heart and truly trust. :)
~K~
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I just got my period like over a year ago and i'm going to the beach in like 3 weeks. My period is very UNEVEN. I don't know when to expect it..my question is, what am i gonna do when i have it on the beach..is there any way i can prevent it? please help (link)
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Well, it will be uneven for the first few years, but if you do get it, use a tampon. Their not as bad as they sound. I used to be like, reallllllly afraid of them, but they are actually quite convenient. You can swim in them and everything. If you don't want to use a tampon, don't wear a pad in the water! Trust me. It's very annoying and heavy and it doesn't absorb anything, just water. :( Jsut try to use a tampon and get the Tampax Pearl Plastic. They are wonderful. You can put a lil bit of vaseline on it and it will go in easier! :)
~K~
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I have liked this guy since I was in third grade, (I'm in tenth now) and he told all of my friends that he liked me too. But when my friends told him that he should ask me out, (with out me knowing so i was like incredibly embarresd) he said he wasnt alowwed to date yet. But just last Sunday when i was sitting in his car and we were listening to music (Hollaback Girl) he said it was his girlfriends favorite song! I just brushed it off at first and pretended that i didnt notice, but it really hurt! I dont know how to act around him anymore, cause he still acts like he likes me....Someone help me please! (link)
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Wow, I'm beginning to think that he is a jerk. I'm also beginning to think he was messing with your mind but then again, maybe he didn't want to hurt you. He could like both you and his girlfriend (which is kinda bad if you think about it)I think you just need to get over him which I know is easier said than done or you could wait for him but I wouldn't waste my time even though some things are worth waiting for. Just stay friends and maybe you'll find another cool dude to like. :)
~K~
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ok i have liked this guy since maybe second grade. i still like him a lot. the thing is there's a dance and i asked him to it. and i was so happy when he said he would go with me if he goes to the dance! yeah for me right? wrong. my friends were like forcing him to him to actually say yes. well i felt really bad so i was planning to talk to him alone about it but i don't have the guts to go ask him to go talk with me for a minute or 2 because he's always around his best friend who i absoulutly hate. then i got the feeling he really doesnt want to go with me to the dance and wants go with someone else and not me. i am fine with that but i don't know how to tell him that. then just yesterday my friends from a different class went to his house and made him feel horrible. the thing is i dont know who it was and he wouldn't tell me who it was so i am totally lost right now. so i guess my questions are: how do i ask him if he doesnt want to go with me or not? dont say aim cause he only signs on past 9 oclock and thats when i have to shut my computer down. next is: should i ask him if he is really mad at my friends for making him say yes? also: how do i talk to him in person without his best friend? finally: how do i actually talk to him daily and normally? help me please! (link)
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I totally agree with xMisplaced_heartX. Just ask to speak with him alone. I know it's gonna be very hard to do, and you might have butterflies but I know you feel strongly about knowing the truth. Then when you do ask him, just say "I know that my friends pressured you into saying yes to me. If you don't want to go with me I need to know now and it's ok if you don't want to, it was wrong of my friends to do that." Then smile and walk away. It's gonna be hard to get the courage but you just need to be brave, think, he might really want to go with you! And he might think it was really nice of you to give him the option not to. So just do what you heart tells you to and don't worry about his best friend, if you hate him, what does it matter?
Hope this helped you!
~K~
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I'm 14/f. I've had crushes on several guys in the past, but I've never had a boyfriend. I feel like such loser because all of my friends have had at least 1 boyfriend bfore and most of them have had more.I kno I shouldn't go bywhat my friends have had, and I know that you're gonna say "my time will come",but I just really don't know what to do anymore. I did like this one guy ALOT,and actually I still do. I think I might be in love with him, but my friend told him and he said "ok", then he said he was dating someone right now. I'm just so confused I don't know what to do anymore. I don't think I'm really pretty or anything, or skinny, but I have friends who aren't like that either, and they still have had b/fs. Srry so long, I just am so confused, and wanted to see if anyone could help me.
I'l rate a 5 for nice answers.
Thank you.
*heartbroken, and confused* (link)
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Well, first you need to boost your self esteem. You don't seem to be very confident at all and guys like confidence in a girl. It lets them know that you trust yourself and can be more comfortable in a relationship. Don't just look at your body for confidence, you need to look at all of you, meaning inside and out. You are pretty in more ways than you know, you just need to find it within yourself to believe it.
You don't have to have had a boyfriend to be 'popular'. My friend had never had a boyfriend in her life and she was one of the most popular girls in school. She is nice and funny and that's why everyone liked her. Boyfriends aren't meant to show everyone how cool and pretty you are, you can shine on your own.
Boyfriends don't always bring you the glory you think they do. It's very hard work. It takes two people in a relationship to make things work. Only the best guys can give what it takes to make a great relationship. It takes trust from both people to make it work. Relationships can distract you from school and they also bring stress. If your boyfriend has accused you of cheating or not liking him, you are going to worry about it until it has been cleared up. It's very draining emotionally.
So enough of that, when you find a guy that you like and he can see how beautiful you are, then it will be right. Rushing into a relationship is never good. You will find the right guy, he just might not be around right now. Your fourteen. Remember that. You have so many years ahead of you to enjoy life. Being single is so much fun! You can flirt with anyone and you aren't restricted to not talking to your guy friends. Enjoy being single and free, don't rely on boyfriends to make you happy. Party with your friends and just chill. :)
I really hope this helped you out!
~K~
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I know that most of the people that ask a random weirdos question are being stalked by a random weirdo, but I really like this one girl, and well, I am a girl too. I know it's weird though, but every time she sleeps in my study hall I watch her and fantasize. She woke up one time and saw me and got freaked out...and called me a weirdo. I have a picture of her in my class when we were in kindergarten when she dressed up as a chicken and I look at it every morning when I wake up. This is the only girl I'm attracted to, usually I like other guys. Am I really a random weirdo lesbian or am I just a straight girl with a big strange crush? help!
16/f (link)
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You could be a lesbian or you could be bi-sexual. It's not a bad thing, just try not to freak the girl out. That isn't going to get you anywhere, but unless she's trying to hide her feelings by pushing you away, I have a feeling she's not bi or a lesbian either. Try not to be obsessive. There's probably other lesbians in your school you might want to talk to.
~K~
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There is this boy that I am crazy for. I've been getting to know him very well now and he is great. And I know he feels for me but I don't think he's attracted to me. What are some little ways to flirt and flounce around him to come across as more attractive? (link)
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The way I got my current boyfriend was just being cute and funny and nice. Always make eye contact and just be flirtatious. Only flirt with him and don't flirt with other boys when he's around. Talk to him a lot. When your talking to him, touching him is good.
~K~
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Does anyone know how to interpret dreams or w/e?
(Sorry it is so long, but it is interesting) Well, if you think you can help here it is:
I was in a car with a few eighth graders I knew pretty well (this is probably because I was in a play with them last night) One of the eighth grders was driving (kelsey) and so we went riding around for a while. I can't clearly remeber where we stopped, but I know we stopped somewhere. I got out, and came back in. While I was trying to buckle my seatbelt, Kelsey was buckling hers as well (she was still driving) and the car started to slide down a hill that broke off into a cliff. At the bottom was a shallow river. We tried the brakes but they didnt work in time. The car slid down and landed in the river. None of us were hurt. It was actually kind of thrilling.
So we get out of the car as it begins to float down the river (at this point in the dream it is more like a van) It stops at one point (again I can't remeber) and we get out on this dock-barge thing. We enter what appears to be a big mall. At the enterance it has stores, all with perfect before their name(example: Perfect Fine Jewlery)
We were walking through and stuff and then the next part I remeber is that there were none of our parents there and we were sort of releaved. Then my friend Liz (who hadn't been in the car before) was there and she met this really nice guy. They were PERFECT for each other. Then I met this guy, and so both she and I were going out with them.The funny thing was, that "mall"
was actually the whole town. It was all indoors. Then my chorus teacher (who had directed the play) was there and said we needed to find a way to get home. We stayed a few weeks because we couldn't bare to leave everyone that we had become friends with. Then we left (I forget how we got home-I think I woke up then)but not before Liz and I each kissed outr "men" and said the sad goodbyes.
I know. Weird, right? I also write ( I won this kids in print contest before and have also writeen many plays) and was wondering if this would make a good story if I substitute some names and (obviously go more in depth and come up with a better theme) I WILL RATE 5'S FOR ANYONE WHO ANSWERS!!! (link)
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That's an interesting dream. I have no clue how to interpret dreams but it would actually be an interesting story if (as you said) you added more depth and detail. It sounds cool. :)
~K~
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ok well, my friend, i really like him alot, but were like best friends, so i dont wanna mess that up. but anyway, last night i came home, and i wasnt at school yesterday. So i was online and he came on and usually i IM him first, and i was typing to him, but he IMed me first, and he was like... I MISSED YOU SO MUCH TODAY! and i was really surprised because i didnt think he would say that because i thought he was mad at me and i'd been thinking about it all day while i was away, and no matter what me and my friend were talking about his name always came out of my mouth. So anyway then we were talking and he was like, listen to this song i found today, and he made me listen to let me hold you by omarion and bowwow, and he was like, when i heard it i had to have you listen to it. And then i had to go and i was like, im gonna go, im dead tired. and he was like, go to bed, and that kinda surprised me because usually he's just like w/e bye. i know this sounds kinda gay, but does this mean anything? (link)
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Wow. I have to say that I think he is trying to show that he likes you. It's good that you have been friends so it's not a 'jump in the pool and find out what's in it' kinda relationship. If you really like him, then I say GO FOR IT!!! I went out with one of my best guy friends and when we broke up, we were still best friends. It was a little bit awkward at first, but I still talk to him alllllll the time.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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Hi. I'm a fellow Advicenator. I have my own column, if you ask, I could leave you feedback with my username. Although I've always been good at advice...I feel lost right now. Maybe I do know the answer, but I just need to hear it from someone else.
For the past few years...Something hasn't been right with me. I'm tired of not fitting in, I'm tired of always needing to get good grades, I'm tired of people not telling me anything, tired of being ignored, hurt... I'm one of those 4.0+ GPA students. Friends would describe me as hyper. Heck, that's even part of my username. But all this time it's been a cover up of how I really feel. Crying by myself sometimes make me feel better, but time doesn't heal, like they say. Things get worse for me.
This year seemed to work out so well. Until last Friday I realized that this year has all been a lie. A friend told me about something my other friends have been hiding from me. I found out that the people I LOVED, my FRIENDS, were talking trash about my boyfriend and me.
They don't realize that WE HAVE ALL CHANGED. I know I have changed, and I accept that. I accept that they have changed as well. We all want our "old" friends back, but what can we do? I miss them, but I cannot change what has happened between us. My boyfriend has brightened up my life. I thought they would be happy for me. What's funny is THEY were the people that pressured me into saying YES to my boyfriend sooner than I expected. (I don't regret it at all.) I could have gone for months, not giving him an answer. "OMG, say yes already" "Oh, he's a nice guy" I remember lots of quotes, CLEARLY. And now, here they are, talking trash?
My REAL friends are supposed to be there for me. They're supposed to talk to me, even if it's something I don't want to hear. They need to at least try to see things my point of view, and NOT talk trash behind my back. They need to either talk to me about it or keep it to themselves and NOT spread around how I'm such a changed and horrible person.
The only person that is giving me the will to live is my boyfriend. I feel bad he has to see me like this. He tells me he knows how I feel, but he doesn't care because he has me. I'd like to say the same, but honestly, it hurts too much. I love him, but the pain won't go away.
I don't know what to do.
At first I wanted to like yell at my "friends" and go rawr! But then as these few days passed I just wanted to forget. But then I can't forget the pain... I see them every day. I think to myself, maybe if I forget, we can all pretend it never happened because I don't want to ruin things even more. But then I tell myself how could I pretend when something like this has happened? My brain goes back and forth...all the time.
I want to thank you for taking the time to read this. I apologize for the length...I really needed to get that out... Please...I need some wise words. (link)
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I've been in a very similar situation where my friends who I had loved and cared for so much wrote me this stupid note (ho cowardly is it to write a note?) telling me EVERYTHING that was wrong with me. They've done that twice and you know what, I went back to them even after that. That was a mistake and a good thing. You can go back to them, but then again, would you WANT to?
You can't avoid them forever, I tried. I've had the same feelings as you. In my situation, I was too vain but all last year they kept telling me to have confidence and be confident. When I finally do have confidence, they crush it. They more than crushed it, they made it dissappear. It's like your boyfriend, they pressured you to say yes, you did, and then they talk about both of you.
You need to talk to your 'friends' about this. Tell them that they've hurt you and that instead of being back stabbers, they could've told you to your face and then you guys could've actually talked about it or something. Or you could just tell them that they are bitches and they deserve each other, but I wouldn't. lol.
What you need to do is breathe and talk about it with someone. That's what I had to do. I had to talk about it with someone 'cause I was getting to the point where I wasn't me anymore. You can't let that happen. You need to talk about it and then decide to talk to your friends or not. I don't have a lot of time, but you can leave me a message in my inbox or IM me or e-mail because I'd love to you help you out more because I've been in a situation like yours. Feel free.
~Hope that helps~
~K~
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