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I'll tell it like it is.
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I put oil and lotion in my hair. I even wash it and it is very itchy. I have dandruff, scabs and the worse itching ever. I've had this weave in for 2 weeks. Should I just never wear weave again? Why is my hair & scalp like this?
Hi!
I'm sorry for your frustration. I have been wearing weaves and extensions for years and I've had similar problems.
It may be possible that you're allergic to the material. If you have scabs because of it, I would definitely take it out... you don't want to ruin your scalp, that would be bad!
Everyone reacts to weaves differently.
You may want to change it to another weave and see what happens, or try extensions (they can be great too!!) There are many brands out there, and they use human hair, so your scalp should feel better also.
If you need any websites to purchase these or anything like that, for more info, just inbox me!
Hope I helped! And good luck with your hair!
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Hey guys,
I just turned 20 and my boyfriend is 19. We broke up 2 days ago and barely talk. My issue is this. He has a girl friend, a hot girl friend. It never bothered me before actually. But over the Fourth of July weekend I was going to spend the night at his house. He kind of got all shady and said he wasn’t positive if I could spend the night anymore. I was fine with that. Until I got on Facebook and that hot girl posted on his wall that she was so excited for the coming up weekend because they were going to hang out now that she was single and they were going to get high and whatever. This bothered me for multiple reasons. Number one: He swears up and down that he doesn’t do drugs anymore. And number 2: He says he’s unsure if I can come over but now this chick is saying they’re going to get high together? Ugh. I don’t know why she says these things; she knows he has a girlfriend. Anyways I got all upset and stopped talking to my boyfriend for a while. Well he said he talked to the hot girl and told her that she can’t say things like that because I get mad. Then he said he would stop talking to her. So a few weeks went by and he and I got close again. But now all over again he’s friending her on Facebook. I mean I know it’s stupid because I’m kind of getting mad over Facebook. But now he tells me that he’s been lying and that they do talk & that they’re super close and whatever. I mean, I know I shouldn’t be mad but it upsets me. Also the hot chick is best friends/cousins with my boyfriend’s ex. So my boyfriend sees his ex a lot. Maybe I am indeed being overly paranoid but he knows how I feel about all this and finds a way to make it seem like it’s my entire fault. Because then he goes on to talk about how the only reason they’re friends is because they used to do drugs together. Yet, my jealousy makes no sense to him. So, am I wrong for breaking up with him?
You are not overreacting, in my opinion.
Here's the thing. Putting all of these aspects aside, forget about this girl and all that he has done and consider this. If he knows something is bothering you, and he has the power over the problem, shouldn't he fix it? He is, after all, your boyfriend. He indeed should take into account you before this girl. He is dating you, not her, therefore you should come first. If it is bothering you, no matter if you're overreacting or not, he should take it into consideration and try to fix the problem with you.
Now, considering everything you said, this girl has no respect for you, therefore she writes things like that on his wall. If she had the smallest amount of respect for your relationship, she wouldn't do this. In my opinion, if he wants to stay with you, it is his obligation to distance himself from her if he feels that it is threatening your relationship.
You shouldn't feel that you are wrong. You are asking for respect. It's completely understandable.
I lied about my age to this guy I met at a party, its not a big age gap, but I said I was going into year 9, and he's going into year 11, when in fact I'm only going into year 8. Our parents know each other so it could be a matter of time until he finds out my age from parents. When he approached me he did say he thought I was 15/16, and I know he's a nice guy, and he wouldn't hold my age against me, but I'm scared he would hold the fact I lied against me.
Help !
Well if you know the truth will come out, tell him. Think about it in your perspective. Would you prefer someone to come up to you and confess, or to find out form somebody else?
Personally, I would go up to him and start a conversation. Somewhere in there you can say you were joking about your age or something like that.
Hope it works out well! Good luck.
14/f Hey I saw where you answered the question about how it feels for a first kiss and I was wondering how do you kiss like just a simple first kiss like is it like kissing your parents by lol or what? haha please help because knowing me i'd mess up haha(: also do you like just not move your lips and let him kiss you or what? im so confused!
Haha don't be confused! It actually is fun, and obviously you'll get better with practice.
Don't be nervous, first of all.
No...don't kiss him the way you kiss your parents lol. It's more passionate. All I would suggest is to slightly pucker your lips and press them against his (or if he comes to you, just pucker your lips a little right before he kisses you)...When you pucker, it shouldn't be too noticeable, just a little.
If he continues, yes you move around. It's like...he kisses you and then you kiss him. It's almost like a battle between your lips.
The best advice I can give you is that if you are confident, it'll be perfect, guaranteed. Confidence is everything.
Good luck! Let me know how it goes!!!
ok i have to know whats it like to get your first kiss????
Well every person is different.
But everyone remembers their first kiss.
Mine was so long ago lol, but it was the best kiss ever. I remember feeling so nervous, and the guy at the time told me he liked me but I never told him I liked him. So he just grabbed the back of my head and put his lips on mine. 2 times. It was so simple, but I remember staying up all night thinking about it.
It's definitely something that people don't forget. And you'll get it too, don't worry about what will happen. It'll be amazing.
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I love this, and I originally wanted it on my wrist, but now I'm having second thoughts. I would say the back of my shoulder, but I already have one there.
Any suggestions, or do you think it would look good on the inside of my wrist?
Hey !
Well there are many places, depending on size.
If you want to keep it small, the wrist would be good (keep in mind that if you're worried about getting a job and exposure, this might not be the best place.) Maybe the back of your neck or ankle.
If you want it large, you can do it on your side by the ribcage, or your the back part of your shoulder.
Good luck! I love tattoos :)
My period has been somewhat irregular but lately I've been more on a normal schedule.
However I'm about three weeks late. I've been under a crazy amount of stress this last month though. My boyfriend and I haven't actually had sex, but we've definitely come really close to it and he's cum around me before. So I guess I'm just wondering if it's possible that I could get pregnant without having sex and if my period could be late because of the mass amount of stress. I'm hoping it's the second.
If you haven't had sex, it's very unlikely that you're pregnant.
As for stress, YES!! Stress will postpone your period. I was stressed out last month and my period was 2 weeks late.
Of course, if you want to put your mind at ease, go to Walgreens or CVS and buy a pregnancy test.
Stop stressing! Relax!!
I am a 18 yr old f. Several answers would be appreciated. I have met a guy who I relate to in so many ways. I have never felt so comfortable around any other guy before; it feels as if I have known him for years. He is 35. My heart tells me it is so right, but my head tells me he might be too old. Usually I would think 10 years is a good gap to date someone, but my parents are 15 years apart... What do you think? I am very mature and I would never do anything that I'd think to be a stupid decision. Never drank or did drugs in my life and don't plan to. He has never done this either. Thanks in advance!
I am the same as you, basically. I never drank or did drugs (never plan to either).
I'm 18, and I'm with a 37 year old.
I'm very mature for my age, aside from what people may think regarding this relationship.
My parents are 22 years apart.
My head says no, my heart says yes.
I've been in this relationship for 8 months (since I turned 18)
After a while, your head says yes too. I would NEVER recommend anyone to choose to be with someone much older, just because there are always consequences that come with this.
I personally worry if my dad (who is 75, mom is 53) will be around. Luckily, he's in good health. I think about my relationship and I realize that it is worth it to me. But I can't speak for you, or tell you what's best, because this topic is controversial, and it basically depends on personal opinion. If you feel you can handle this situation, regardless of what people will think and say (and you will be ridiculed, I am all the time), then make your decision.
You have to remember, it's neither my decision nor the people who commented below.
You have to make the decision and do what makes you happy the most.
It's not easy, but if it's meant to be, it will be.
Hope I helped.
I am 22 years old and live an hour from my parents in Bowling Green Kentucky and attending college. However, I have made the decision to move to Miami in about 4 or 5 months to be with my boyfriend. Although, he is not the only reason...I am pretty miserable here in Bowling Green, need a break from school, and would love to have new surroundings. The problem is, I know that my parents are going to be furious, disappointed, hurt, and probably hateful. I love my parents and have always worked hard for their approval so I am absolutely dreading telling them the news....so much so that I lose sleep over it. I keep telling myself that I'm an adult, I support myself financially, and that my happiness is what is most important. But they won't approve of me taking time off school, living with my boyfriend, or moving 16 hours away. I'm desperate for some advice on the best way to break the news to them. Please help.
The first sentences that you wrote is the most important part. "I am 22 years old"
I'm 18, and I usually never give advice to those older than me because I feel like people may take it the wrong way, but, I had news for my parents similar to yours. I ALWAYS tried to please my parents and not be on their bad side. I love them with all of my heart just like you love yours...
With all that said, you have your own life to live. They will be furious and disappointed because they don't want you making mistakes. You have to be certain that this is what you want. Remember, you cannot keep trying to please them all of your life, because in the end, you'll end up living a life based solely on what they want for you, not what you truly want.
For example, what if they stop liking your boyfriend? Will you break up with him to please them?
Again, you're 22. You have the right to live your own life!
Now to your question...
You need to sit down and talk to them. Be direct and honest, and make sure they realize that you are making your own decisions. Tell them they need to respect these decisions. They can't tell you what to do and what not to do with your life. That's all up to you.
I guarantee that they are worried about you making a mistake, but you already know that if you make a mistake, it's your decision and your life. You will try to fix it if it happens. Meanwhile, they have to support your actions.
I hope everything goes well!! I understand your situation! Good luck.
Hello my husband is going to be deploying to Afghanistan the end of this month and will be gone for a year. I will be working a lot while he is gone but when i come home i want to start a project or have a hobby to keep me busy. I'm not really into reading or doing anything with knitting. So please dont suggest anything like that. But any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! I do rate :)
Are you into arts?
Make an album for him. Or...
I had a friend that I knew was leaving for Afghanistan as well, and I made him an altered book (basically you take any book, and decorate it. i painted over the pages, added pictures, fake flower pedals, movie tickets from the last movie we saw etc.) it's a very personal gift and there are tons of ideas online.
Do you like sports?
take some sports classes
Get a group of friends and have a "girls night out"
There are many things you can do to keep you busy, and good luck! I wish you the best!
so im a senior and i have no idea what i want to study in college. I want something where there isnt alot of school but when i do get a job its pretty decent and i make a decent amount of money. any ideas? thanks
If you want to get paid a decent amount of money, you're going to have to work for it.
But, lately, the majority of jobs that need employees are tech related jobs. So, my suggestion is to study technology
My bf is just turned 24 and I really REALLY like him a whole lot, hes so funny. The thing is I told him I had just turned 18 yrs old. That isn't the truth tho. I'm really almost 15. I guess you could say I developed fast and am mature for my age? haha Anyways, he totally believes I'm 18 and I kind of feel bad because my bff just said it's illegal to date when he's so old and he can go to prison for it. He hasnt ever been to jail. idk what do I do? My mom don't know I'm dating even tho.
I know you're happy you have a boyfriend, but in any relationship, honestly is extremely important.
You lied to him and he might not forgive you. You realize that if someone finds out and tells the police (whether he was aware that you were 15 or not) if he lays one hand on you, touches you, kisses you or calls himself your boyfriend, HE WILL BE ARRESTED.
This isn't a joke, and sooner or later, he will find out your real age. It's best to come clean with him before he gets in trouble, even if it's risking your relationship. You can still stay friends, then when you're 18, you can date again if you think you'd want to be with him.
I strongly urge you to do this. When I was 17, my boyfriend was older, and I managed not to get him in trouble because I was turning 18 in a week, however he did receive a warning.
I have a friend who is a girl and shes 17. She was dating a guy that is 30. He has tatoos all over his body; he was in the pen for 10 years, and he does cocaine, and sells drugs. They were together for a year on 9/1, but they broke up last friday because he got mad at her for not takin him to west nashville to pick up some drugs, (he was already messed up on coke) and he started yelling at her, telling her he was done with her skanky ass, and hes got plenty more dimes than just her, and she was a bitch, and started callin her dead mom a bitch too. So she said some mean things while she was crying. She took him to his moms house to drop him off, and he was acting like he wass going to hit her, and he kept threating her to take him up the street, so he could get a ride to west nashville. She didn't want to do it, so he spit in her face! Litterally, a loogie in her face! I got pissed off, and I tried biting my tongue, but when he did that, I couldnt take it anymore.
Anyways. They are supposively still broken up, but I feel as if shes lying to me. What can I do, to make her realize she doesn't need a piece of trash like him? She's young and truely beautiful, and I dont understand what I can do to knock some since into her. Please help me, before she ruins her life, even more than she has.
*P.s whenever she asks me for advice, or tells me something about him, I'll tell her the truth, and than she makes up excuses.
For example: Her: "Kaci, nick gets mad at me when I dont want to have sex with him."
Me:"Well stephanie, than maybe that shows you right there what he really wants from you? I dont think you should be with a guy who gets mad over that"
Her: "No kaci, he doesnt get mad when i wont have sex with him, he just thanks i aint attracted to him like that"
Seee? Thats what Im talking about. Please help me.
The only thing i can tell you from experience is that when a girl thinks shes "in love" nothing will change her mind.
I would just keep drilling it into her head saying "You deserve to be treated like you are special because you are" stuff like that.
You can't really open her eyes if she's not used to being treated better.
Aside from that, it's illegal and it should be stopped immediately, because this obviously isn't a rare situation of love, but instead, a young senseless girl thinking she's in love, when she's actually in lust, for a person who's worthless and has no respect for her.
my underarm hairs grow really fast and i have to shave them like every day or they will be stubble and you can notice the hairs because they're dark. i really dont mind shaving them often to be honest. i'm just curious if this is normal. is it normal to shave your underarm area every day to keep it smooth and hairless or am i weird?
Mine grows back at the same rate too :(
Lol and I hate shaving but I do it everyday too.
And I've looked up how to slow down hair growth, and the only thing I could find was waxing (but not many people like that experience under their arms) which will slow it down if you do it a lot over a long period of time.
Other than that, you're normal :)
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
If he's immature enough to make a group and let the whole world know about your relationship( i dont know what kind of things he posted, but if they're about your personal life he should know better) , then he's too immature to have you as a girlfriend.
If he thought it was normal, he would have mentioned it, not kept it hidden. He knows what he's doing is wrong, and he think he'll get away with it because you wont find out...but you did.
Now it's up to you, whether or not you'll do something to stop him or just let it keep going.
You need to confront him, don't play games, just tell him straight up that you're not comfortable with it. Then ask a friend to check if it's still there or if he's done anything after you've told him.
I'm not trying to sound like a bitch, or trying to "baby" you, I'm telling you like it is cause you need to hear it.
I hope everything works out for you, good luck.
And remember, if someone hurts you this way to the point where you cry, that person isn't worth your time.
okay so for a few weeks now i v just been wanting to watch really realy sad movies , i recently watched a walk to rember and i love it , it was really sad ,but do you guys have a suggestions of movies for me to watch that are really sad that are gonna make me cry ? please try not to give movies that are too old lol im only 16 so yeah :P
lol anywaays so i would really appreciate really really sad movies ! thanks < 3
im sorry , i really ddnt know what catagory to puut this under :$
Hi :) I went through that mood too!
1. Notebook
2. Titanic
3. Carousel (it's old, but i'm 18 and all of my friends have seen it and love it)
4. Moulin Rouge
5. Ghost
I'm not really sure what you're looking for but good luck :)
Hi... this may sound really lame but I need some advice. Background:
I am a junior in HS
Overweight
Unhappy w/ my life
I just want to be my old self.. I don't wanna be the big girl anymore.. I have tried dieting but I give up with the lacking results.
I have considered skipping breakfest and lunch and only eating supper. One meal. But then again I thought that's crazy I shouldn't have to starve myself to get results... but i would just like some imput... what to do once you have had a bad day.. motivation anything.. I don't wanna hit "rock bottom " I just wanna be happy again
16/f
C.D.
HI,
I was in your position my high school years too. I skipped meals, and let me be the first to tell you, it's not worth it.
You lose everything your body needs...energy, and nutrition etc.
You don't have to skip meals. Eat a healthy breakfast, have some cereal, just don't overeat. For lunch, have some fruit. So many delicious fruits, apples, watermelon, cantaloup, honeydew, oranges, peaches, grapefruit (which happens to be the best fat eliminator), chinese apples, bananas....do you see my point? Find a few that you like, and enjoy them at lunch. This way, you feel good about what you're eating, and you're not starving.
I was depressed most of the time when I wanted to lose weight. But guess what? Being depressed didn't help me achieve my goal. I started walking around my community once a day, every school day, and sometimes on the weekend. I walked moderately fast and slowed down here and there. i usually would walk for an hour. I know, it's boring to walk alone. So, see if any of your friends wanna go for a walk and talk. Or call them up while you're walking, it'll make the time go by much faster.
Think about it, an hour of your time isn't that much.
You will be so happy once you start and see results, and believe me, you will. Also, starving is useless because sooner or later, you will be hungry, and you'll start eating as you normally do, and your body will gain back everything and more.
A bad day should motivate you to start trying to make yourself happy. Happiness is vital to your health.
If you need anything else, or to talk, message my inbox :)
Good luck, you can do it, and it will feel great once you do!
I need some help with my face. I have acne, not a lot like most people. Just a little here and there, nothing too noticable. But it still bothers me. I would like to know if there are any home procedures that could be done to clear up my skin fast. Like I said, its not that bad, but its annoying. Im also broke, so I cant afford any skin creams, so dont suggest that. Thank you!
There are a few things you should be doing, one of them is washing your face daily. In the morning and at night.
Also, the foods you eat might contribute to the acne. If you eat spicy foods, you're most likely to break out, so stay away from those. Foods high in sugar produce the same effect.
Olive oil is great for your skin, believe it or not.
So are lemons. Some people take a lemon, squeeze the juice over a soft sponge and rub it on their faces and it produces a smooth clean feeling.
Toothpaste, like the other person suggested, does exactly what it does to your teeth...removes a layer that is on top. So if you want to remove a part of your skin, you can try that lol.
Hope this helped :)
I am starting high school next week and I'm really really nervous. I haven't gotten to talk to many of my friends over the summer and I guess I'm afraid they've changed a lot. I want to fit in and I'm afraid I won't. Is high school really hard? Do you get a lot of homework? Will my friends still be my friends? Should I dress differently than last year? I don't know what to think of this new school...please tell me everything you kno!
Hey, dont be nervous!! I recently graduated and I remember my freshman year.
Trust me, there are so many people and so many different groups, that you're guaranteed to fit in. Actually, you might fit in to a couple or many. Don't worry.
A lot of freshman are insecure their first year. I'm sure all of your friends feel the same way that you do right now. Guess what? They'll spend the first part of freshman year figuring out who they are and where they wanna fit in. Most likely, they'll try to be cool and popular....and it will get them nowhere cause the upperclassmen don't see freshman as popular.
Either way, you'll make a lot of new friends. And high school is different then middle school, you have a greater variety of people.
Dont be nervous! You'll be fine. You're not the first to enter high school and not know what to expect!!! Those seniors, juniors and sophomores where in the same position a few years ago. High school goes by fast, just enjoy it!
Hello ,
So I just got a new job , and it's sort of like a server and waitress in a big hall , I was wondering , what are some tips to do to impress the people around you?
Thank you , Betty
Congrats on your new job! I've been a waitress for since I was 12 (working for family) so for 6 years.
You have to be VERY friendly. If you're having a bad day, you have to put your problems aside, make sure you have a smile on your face and continue working.
Ask the people how they are doing today. Joke around with them, it enhances the dining experience for your customers and everyone prefers a waitress who has a sense of humor and is vibrant as opposed to "dead" and boring.
Also, when you're smiling, being nice and friendly, you get tipped much better than if you just do your job.
I'm not sure what else you need to know, but message me if you need some more info :)
Good luck on your new job!!
ADDITIONAL:::
People get mad when they don't get what they want. Don't take it personally. you'll have the nice ones and the crazy ones. Just smile and be nice. If they give you an attitude after that, it's their personality, not your fault. If you have a blushing problem, I highly recommend wearing liquid foundation all over your face...it also helps keep your face from going red while you're running around getting dishes. So basically, if you get hot, it'll cover up the red face :)