I'm Suki. I love to see the first bloom of a wild rose, to smell the salt spray of an ocean breeze, to hear the laughter of little children at play. Oh no, wait - That's somebody else.
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Location: United States
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BlackBatman
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Hi, I'm going into 10th grade 16/m- and school hasn't even started yet...
Well.. the harrassment has been going on since 4th grade...
Basically all the popular people and the majority of my class think that I'm a fag (like gay).. but I'm not.. I have a girlfriend of 6 months.. and we're really happy together...
I don't even act gay at all.. everyone just thinks I am.. and I think it's because most of my friends are girls.. but I don't understand why that would make me gay- because wouldn't that mean that I like hanging out with girls because they are nice to me??
I just feel like no one cares about me and everyone is making fun of me
Another thing.. I am one of the smartest people in the class (4.0 average).. and I always do good on tests.. do people make fun of me because they are jealous that I get good grades and they don't.. I mean I don't go around bragging about my grades.. people ask me what I got.. and I just tell them in a modest way...
I don't understand why everyone thinks I'm a homo.. when I'm not...
oh.. and on myspace- I put up a picture that was the one everyone does (upside down peace sign with big sunglasses).. so then one of the people who makes fun of me posts a comment about it saying "wow ur a homo" so i posted a comment back saying "i was making fun of myspace.. lol".. so then he posts regular comments saying stuff like "i wasn't kidding about the pic comment" and "everyone thinks you're a fag" and "we hate you"...
So that just made me think of how much my class despises me- and I don't even say anything mean to them.. I try being nice.. but they just aren't.. the only ones who actually care about me are my close friends.. and that's only like 10 people max. outta the 250-300 in my class...
Am I just worried about nothing?
Am I really that much of a loser?
Please don't say "go talk to a counselor" because I tried that in middle school and the counselor was really stupid about it
Please help!
sorry this was so long (link)
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You shouldn't worry about what they think. Don't judge your self worth on what other people say.
I have kind of a similar situation. I am not very social at all and am hated by the school. I don't care, though, since I don't want to be liked by people I hate in the first place. Be glad that you have at least ten close friends.
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So I have 2 really close friends (or so I thought...) and well in about late april, they kinda stopped talking to me and stuff so I made a bunch of other friends and it was ok but I was still wanting the 2 back because I didnt think I had totally lost them. So anyway, I ended up smoking pot in early May. I know, not a great choice, but I did it because I wanted to and I know all the consequences. Well word got out at school and stuff and I denied it of course but I ended up telling my 2 friends the truth. Then when I asked them why they wont talk to me, they blame it on the pot and "breaking their trust" even though I never promised i wouldnt. Keep in mind, I never pressured them into stuff like that ever. What should I do now? Do they just not want to be my friends anymore and are trying to find excuses or what? Let me know if you need more info & thanks in advanced. I really appreciate it. (link)
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They're probably just using the pot as an excuse not to be your friend. Especially since they stopped talking to you before that and you never promised.
Then again, they could have stopped talking to you because they thought you were changing. And perhaps to them, trying marijuana damaged your friendship even more after they gave you a second chance.
It could be either or. You should just confront them about it.
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Anyone know any good summer reads. Everything I usually read is depressing. Like someone usually dies. I'd like suggestions of books that are funny and enjoyable to read. Even Harry Potter depresses me although I do love all the books. Maybe even books I can relate to. You know being a teenager and typical teenage problems. I'll rate anyone who gives any names (link)
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I can think of two books that I like that might fit your criteria.
The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky and The Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger.
You can always type in books that you like in Amazon.com, and look through the Listmania lists. Usually they have similar books to the one you are searching in there.
If per chance you decide you want to read a book that is slightly depressing (to some) but still an interesting read, feel free to send something to my inbox.
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last summer i met a boy in a chatroom ... yes i know chatroom. I use to go in them all the time when i was bored and whatever play around i guess anyways i started talking to this kid, and over time i actuallu started to like him. I never seena picture of him at first so i know i liked him for him and not what he looks like. We kinda dated ... ughhh sounds gay i know i know. Its not like i cant get a guy in real life, i can and i do but i always end up thinking about him. I've seen his picture only a month ago and hes alright! not cute or anything but i still love him. His personality is wonderful and i cant get enough of him, but the whole idea of meeting him from online makes me feel like a geek! i dunt noe. I had a boyfriend before i met him and i was in love or at least i thought i was. i already knew what i wanted but now i want him!! is that weird??? And i know hes not a fake!!! he has a myspace and has ALOT of friends on it from his school and we talk on the phone?? do you guys think its weird .... do you think its possible to be in love with someone you hardly know but in a way you do!! (link)
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I don't think it is weird at all. I have been going on chat rooms and forums all my life. I'm not a very social person and I even resent going out with the few people I actually like. However, in all of my years online, I've met a few really amazing people. They are a lot less shitty than the people I know offline. Although I've met a lot of people I dislike online as well, I've met a few of my closest friends via internet.
I know many people who've been in internet realtionships and sometimes it actually works out. So, yes. It is possible to be in love with someone you know online. You learn their personality before you learn what they look like, so that factors in a lot.
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I'm 14/f...this year i think i lost all of my friends. I'm a very moody person and I'm always being dramatic about everything and it's not like i'm starving for attention because i'm not! Well I did something and now all of my friends wont talk to me because they think I'm a drama queen and that I'll just keep hurting them. I miss my friends a lot. They're all so happy and it makes me cry to know that I hurt them by just trying to talk to them. How do I fix this, or is it to late? Pls...and thanx
Broken Down (link)
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Well, it really depends on what you did but...
If they don't want to be your friends, you should accept that and move on.
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I don't know why every girl seems to think that all men are controling ass holes. I know that most women have had bad experiences, but that's not excuse to totally rat on guys just because you've been hurt once or twice, because in the end that just gives you a worse imagen, and more of a reason for guy's to think that they actually do have more power then you. I'm a guy, but to be honest I'm not a normal one. I'ma girly man to be honest. But I do hate how all my girl friends complain to me about how guys are asses. I may not like a lot of people, but I still do find it offencive, and I'm tired of it (link)
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Holy shit, I know exactly what you mean, only I'm on the other end of it. I'm a female and people are always assuming that I should be acting differently than I do because of it. For example, people say that I should be a lot less controlling and more feminine. Not every guy is the same, just like not every girl is the same. People need to grow the fuck up and realize this. When people complain about that kind of shit to me, I usually start ranting and debating them. It usually gets them to be quiet. Just tell them that you are tired of them trying to make out that ALL guys are the same.
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okay well i weigh around 117 pounds and im about, 5'4. I am turning 15 this year. I am convinced that im fat, i hate myself for it too, i watch what i eat 24/7 and even though people tell me im not, i still feel that i am. I am probley one of the most self concious people. so i guess im asking about what i should weigh (link)
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You are in the range someone of your age and height should weigh.
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((14/f)) and the boy ((17/m))
k, so i met this kid at the beginning of the school year. and basically we've been in love ever since.
but we aint going out because of my mom
she hates him, and shes never even met him.. and she thinks that he just wants sex, cuz she assumes thats what every guy older then me wants. but ivee already told him that im not having sex, because i think im too young, and he understands completely. and i know he doesnt want sex, because its been 9 months and hes still here.
and we both really want to go out,
btu the problem:
my mom
and our school.
our school talks way too much crap
any suggestions on what i should do?
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Talk to your mom about it first. Try to get her to see it from your point of view. Maybe you can have him meet her one day, but tell him in advance what she doesn't like, so he can prove he is good.
If your mom still can't see your side and you really want to go out with him, there is always Plan B: Date in secret. You can either just hide it from your mother or not tell anyone that you are dating. Personally, I think it is better not to tell anyone at all because it will get around your school and to your parents and shit. Besides, some people say that the best relationships are the ones that nobody knows about. Just keep it between you two.
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ok so my exboyfriend whent on a trip this weekend and he got drunk and went skinny dipping w/ his friend and her sister and ended up having sex w/ both of them cuz he liked both the girls. he told me because he has some feelings left for me but i cant trust him i know i cant ive been trying to get him to stop drinking for ever and its reasons like this that make me try to get him to stop so he doesnt do anything stupid which he already did. he feels bad about it but he already did it! what can he change now? and i had a really strong feeling the night that it happened that he had done something he would regret. lately ive been missing him and considering taking him back but what do i do now? i odviously cant trust him. please help!! (link)
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You can't trust this guy. Forget about the idea of taking him back, unless he actually changes. However, make sure he has -really- changed and is not just doing it to get you to go back out with him. Make sure he stays that way for a while first before you give him another chance. Otherwise, just forget about it. Would you really want him having sex with people you're related to while he's drunk? Or even your friends?
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alrighty here is my story...
theres this guy i like at school-he likes me back and has asked me to go out to see a movie friday night(and my friend wants to talk to him about asking me to my our 8th grade dance)--i hear though, that he is dating a freshman+hes got "in a relationship" on his myspace...what do i do..i really really like this guy?!?!?!
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Talk to people that know him. See if he really has a girlfriend, without making it obvious why you are asking. If you make it obvious, they probably will tell you he is not because they want to help him out. If you find out he has a girlfriend, don't date him.
As for the Myspace thing, a lot of people put "In A Relationship" in their profile when they aren't. Just like some people find it funny to put that they are one hundred years old and divorced. If it really bothers you though, ask him.
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What is the thing that Ron Serling says at the begining of "The Twilight Zone"?
I know it is something to the effect of: "You are dazed, bewildered and trapped in a world without time..."
Help would be appreciated.
I will rate high if you can give me the whole thing.
Thanks!
*Turtle* (link)
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You're dazed, bewildered, trapped in a world without time, where sound collides with color and shadows explode. You see a signpost up ahead -- this is no ordinary place . . . You have reached, "The Twilight Zone"
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Ok so I have this friend, let's call her Sammy ok? So Sammy recently has started like leaving me and kinda ignoring me. Today she even started hanging out with my enemy! Like 2 weeks ago we started hanging out with a girl named Natasha and ever since she has been doing all these things. Oh and I already talked to her a billion times. It's like she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. Should I just start hanging out with different people? (link)
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Yes, that's happened to many people. The best thing is to not cling on to the friendship. It is obvious she doesn't want to be your friend; she said it, after all. Just move on.
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Someone keeps prank calling our home phone. We have no idea who it is and why this is happening. It happens a good 15 times a day. It's been going on for 4 days now. Prior to these past 4 days (about 4 weeks ago), the same thing was occurring - prank calls a good 15 times a day. Yes, that time those calls did stop on their own, but it went on for weeks on end. We never did anything about it, but we probably should have. My main focus for now is right now. Nothing is said when we answer the phone, and they only stay on the line for maybe 1 second. The number is set 'Private'. Could this be a business? Is it more likely that's the case? What can we do about this? How do we go about reporting them? Do we just dial the police? Is there a certain number we should have? Isn't what's going on here illegal!?! Does anyone have any idea what we should expect if we report them? (link)
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Yes, that's illegal. A similar thing happened to me a while ago. You call the police to report it, and if it continues they can fine and/or arrest the person, depending on the laws in your state.
If it isn't the Morgage Company, maybe someone cloned their phone number for the purpose of making prank calls.
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for my xanga does anyone know how to put on a backroound layout?? do i need to pay for it to get a layout.. cus i have the free one and i know what layout i want i just dont know where to put it..
i rate 5's
thanks in advance (link)
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You go to your look and feel page, click "Input HTML Header" and paste the code in there. Hit preview and save.
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Whats the difference between anorexia and bulimia?
arent they technically the same thing because either way you aren't getting food into you system?
and which one would cause the worst effects to your body? (link)
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Anorexia is when you hardly eat. Bullemia is when you eat but throw up after.
As for which one is worse, it's a matter of opinion.
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totally random question, I know..but howcome you can always tell when a note is written by a girl/boy, I mean it's pretty obvious when it's a girl, cause we write more..bubbly? I dont know, but you get it right..? Like howcome all girls write pretty similar, bubbly and compact, and..well..girly. Like us girls, we write in more "round" forms, and guys write more squared, straight..you know what I'm saying?
WHY is that??
Is it something in the brain we're born with?
Cause it obviously has something to do with gender.. (link)
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It really has nothing to do with gender. Girls just usually spend more time trying to make their handwriting "pretty" and like the other girls in school.
Personally, I am female and when I write a note, most people think it was written by a guy.
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Okay, i have this friend and she can really get annoying. what really gets on my nerves is when she brags about how cool she is. shes always like "yeah, i think i like this guy because we hung out yesterday and he told me how pretty i was and blah blah blah". she always does this to get attention. its like she adds little facts about what she and her other friends did the day before when it doesn't relate to what we're talking about at all. i know she just does it for attention but she always acts like she's better than me. and it feels like she wants me to take notes on how popular she is. i hate when people do that so much. its like, do i really care that you have a boyfriend 5 years older than you?
also, she's very trashy. she'll go out with a person for a few days and then decide that she has a new fad for this other guy that she hasnt even met before. you cant just do that. we've had a lot of good memories in the past but sometimes i just want to tell her to shut up. can anybody relate to this?
please help. how can i tell her to just quit it? (link)
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I've gone through this many times.
What I usually do is bluntly tell the person how I feel. If they still continue doing it, I just stop hanging out with them.
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this is random, but i'm thinking of this song and i can only remember one line and it goes "everything is wonderful now" lol
does anyone know what im talkin about
thankkks (link)
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It is called Wonderful by Everclear.
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i know this may sound stupid but what does it mean when someone is outspoken??
thanks in advancee!!
ps
5s for anythinggg! (link)
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To be outspoken is to be frank, blunt, and unreserved when you speak.
Bascially saying whatever is on your mind without sugar coating it and always being honest even if it might hurt someone else.
In my opinion, being outspoken is a good thing. People just tend to think it isn't.
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hey! well my birthday is commin up this weekend and i have no idea what i want to do! i know i have to go out to eat with the family first but there is this big thing at school that goin on called relay for life and everyone is goin well most but im not since it was on my birthday! soo i really dontknow what to do i dont want to have a party..or just a few friends over cuz they are all gonna be at that thing and plus theres nothing to do at my house! i just wanna have fun i mean its gonna be my sweet 16!! :] any ideas? i dont have many friends sadly..but i have some!! but like i said theyre gonna be gone on fri and sat! and do you think i should do something with the ones that arent going? but what do you think i should do..have any suggestions?!
i'll rate 5 for anyone who helps me think of somethiN!
thanks so much.
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Have a few friends over to hang and and do whatever you want. Since most of them will be gone, have the party the weekend after your birthday.
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