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hey my name is blace.i am a 14 yr old grl with no self confidence.i cant get a guy because im so fat and ugly.i starve myself like all the time.i cry myself to sleep every night.i just want to die and leave here and go to a place where people wont care what i look like.i put gobs of make up on it dont help.but my best friend can have none and guys get all over her.i can have on name brand and she have on some shit from wal mart and they still are all over her.i hate going out of my house because when i see a pretty grl i just stare and wish i wuz her.what do i do?

Blace~
First of all, that is such a pretty name! You are only 14, your still growing and theres not reason to starve yourself over a boy or change your appearance, because if you have to change who you are to make someone else like you, then they only like who they thought you were. Self confindence has alot to do with how others perceieve you and if your happy with yourself, then dont let anymore make you feel different!!! Clothes do not make a person...Clothes dont make ppl...ppl make clothes!!! There are always girls that are pretty...everyone is beautiful in their own way. Just be who you are and be friendly and i promise you have plenty of time to find the guy of your dreams! Hope i helped-write back anytime!
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What's a good recipe to use to cook my mom (that won't take a lot of time or a lot of cutting up) breakfast or dinner on Mother's Day?

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Well im sure what ever you do for your mom, she will appreciate, you could always make cupcakes or a cake or something with Splenda or another sugar substitute!
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what's moshing?

Moshing basically is an expression of music by the crowd at a concert/gig. It occurs when bands usually of the rock, punk and metal genres play in a live setting. Now it's difficult to explain the essence of the mosh pit without completely underplaying it. But I'll try. At these gigs, members of the crowd will gather at the front and will furiously and passionately shove/ push/ body slam each other in time to the music. But the idea is not to cause any harm to each other( even though that's usually the case ) but just to enjoy the music in a less passive way, like you would if you were to dance to any type of music. But its better than just a dance , much better.

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http://members.aol.com/rik0lar/moshing/mosh.htm

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I have this friend, and we were really good friends at the beginning of the year. Literally every guy in our school thinks shes hot, and i think its gone to her head. She goes out with people shes not really friends with on friday nights and never invites me and acts like im a total freak all the time. on the other hand, shes always really nice to me and stuff when shes not around those people who think shes so hot, and i like to be around her then. i dont want to tell anyone how shes treating me because theyll tell her because they want to be friends with her. i cant talk to her because shes so mean when shes mad at someone and no one will be on my side of the arguement.

Its not always about taking sides! You need to tell her that shes treating you wrong when you were friends with her, not because everyone else wants to be, but because you like being around her but shes changing and you wanna know why!
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i didnt know what catorgory to put his under but my brother is 17 and has done the following

> stole my moms bank card n stoel all of her money out of her account
> stole money out of her purse many times
>stole the truck while not having a liscense and wrecked it
> ran up paperview bills and cellphone bill and jsut doesnt care
my mom didnt press necharges and now she had kicked him out of the house but hes only 17 so the family he went to called the cops and the cops told my mom to wait til hes 18 and kick him out my brother has stoel from my mom again and has began stealing from me but lies about it i think she should be punished for his actions and should get sent to jail or somewhere he needs to go somewhere and i need help of what to do and i need it fats before he steals again

What your brother is doin is wrong! Why is he so out of control? It doesnt matter, using your moms credit card and taking all the money out of her account will get him put on probation! Thats pretty sorry, i think you need to talk to him and tell him that what hes doin is wrong and omg i bet your mom is really upset! I hope everything works out, write me back and let me know!
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i have 2 questions The first one is for prom i think most people get like long dresses and stuff but im not sure is itok to get like a knee- ancle length one ?
and 2 of my good friends already got pink dresses ..thers some pink dresses i realli like but now im thinkin i should get a different color cuz i dont want all of us to have pink dresses...so what do u think?

Today is my prom yay! Some girls dont like to get all dressed up and i think that a knee length would be great! Ive been looking at LOTS of dresses and websites and seen lots of shorter dresses from prom! I decided on a long one and lol guess what, its pink! Pink is in!! Its the color everyone will be wearing, its ok but i didnt think about everyone else, i did what i wanted and chose the best color for me, you do the same, if you really want to stand out though, beg to be different! GOOD LUCK!
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hi! My friend has been absent from school for 3 months and has been in the hospital, most likely with cancer. I really want to visit her and cheer her up...the problem is that I don't know what to say or what to get her as a get-well present. By the way, she isn't coming back to school...she's homeschooled.

The first thing that your friend would want to tell you is to not treat them any differently that you would any other time, your friend is sick, its something that you cant help, My uncle had cancer and he didnt make it, but his feelings were always hurt on top of everything else that he though that he was really different and ppl were acting weird around him,I hope your friend will be ok, My aunt now has breast cancer but is doin really well and just go visit your friend and take them a baloon or something, just to let them know that the thought is there and you miss them at school! Having to take the treatments make you really sleepy so thats probably the only reason that shes homeschooled!
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Im too scared to use a tampon im in my 1st full year of my period and ive been using pads how safe are tampons i read in my bliss magazine that a tampon made this 18 yr old girl slip into a coma for 2 weeks what if that happens to me!! Do they hurt? After you used one are you classed as a non-virgin? Do they tickle? What are they like?
Luv ya x

Ok well im not exactly the expert on this but from what ive read i will answer it like this: The only unsafe thing is called Toxic Shock Syndrome, ive never really heard of anyone having that, but thats from leaving it in too long, always use the smallest one possible and change every 3-4 hours depending. YES, you are still a virgin, its nothing exciting i promise lol but it makes being girl a little bit more easier to deal with!
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Lately i havnt been much of a good friend, we all slag each other down, act all "friendly", and dont trust each other. So i decided to do a blood bond to bring us together.

We got 4 candles 1 each and 1 for the middle of the circle, we got a knife to slash our fingers and make them bleed, we made a little poem up to say together and we sat in a circle light the middle candel, said our poem, while linking fingers. Then we got our candles, and lite them then blew them out. My friend has a etopic baul/bawl how ever you spell it and i was wondering can the disease pass through the blood? If so i might have it now!!! Ahh! but she was born with it and its to do with the baul/bawl not the blood but im not sure.. what if i catch it will i die? Scary...
lush me x

Well if your gonna "act friendly" and not really be a friend then why would you do this? Theres no way that i can tell you that you dont have a blood disease/ aids or anything ekse, i think you need to go to the doctor, thats really not safe to do that bc you dont know and YES diseases can be in the blood, i doubt youll die, but seriously make sure!
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Hey, i really need some tips that will suit me so im going to list about me so it helps..

Race: White
I have frekkals over my nose which i hate
I have a masive forehead and i want people to be less attracted to it!
I have BIG blue eyes
I hvae nice lips and lipstick does not suit me clear lipgloss dont much either..
I have curly brown hair
And im alergic to foundation any tips anyone for

WANT -
Make my frekkals less noticable
Make my meat head less noticable
Make my eyes look smaller
Any kind of good lipstick colour or lipgloss which will suit me
Any makeup which makes my hair look thinner than it is and goes together well with my face!

ALSO CHEAP MAKEUP WILL BE FAB THANKS PEOPLE!!
x lush me x

x Lush me x
Ok well even though toyr allergic to foundation, you can still use powder and liquid concealer right? That all you can do for freckles, Lindsay Lohan has freckles and i think shes so pretty!! Why would you want your eyes to look smaller? Most guys are attracted to girls with features that stand out, however all you have to do is line your eyes with black eyeliner on top and bottom!! lol how do you feel about bangs if you dont like your 4head! Thats the only thing that will help, maybe if you just cut 2 pieces of hair and make them eye level, that would take the focus off a little. My hair is really thick, theres no way to make your hair thinner unless you get it thinned and you can do that if your not happy, but like i said i think that your lips and eyes are the best features and maybe your a little self conscious over nothing!!
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I want to dump my boyfriend...and yes I have my reasons. He asked me if I would go to the movies with him this Friday. And I said I would, but since then I have decided I want to dump him. I don't know what to do now though. Because I went with him to the movies last week and he thought I got mad at him there. But I didn't. His friend told me that my boyfriend was shy last week and he wanted to give me a kiss and everything but he was to shy. And he was going to this Friday. I need advice on what to do, because there is another guy that I want to go out with, when me and my boyfriend break up. I'm not sure if I want to dump my boyfriend before or after the movies. What do you think?

Well why waste your time goin to the movies with somone you dont want to be with? Just tell him tell how you feel, hopefully he will be understanding and yall can still be friends!
thanks for the question: *:*SaRa:*:

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Ok I have problems trusting people..especially guyys! everytime I put my trust out there fully someone always smashes it... twice I had been cheated on, I have been lied to and ditched and I can't take it... but yea I want to know how do I trust guys more? I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years....at the very beginning of our relationship he cheated on me but we moved on... I can't seem to fully trust him, I tell him I do and I believe I should but I can't help question him after he has gone out... he is really annoyed of it ! and me to, I dont mean to question but my head is filled with them... how do I learn how to trust him ?? (PS pleasse dont go saying how i should break up with him because hecheated, or because i dont trust him, IDO trust him...i just cant show it)

Dont lie to yourself...no you dont trust him but its something that yall can both work on, You have reasons to not trust and thats ok! Your going to make your hunny mad if you tell him that you dont trust him, thats a big part of a relationship, just talk to him about it and tell him that your still hurt over him cheating and how can you trust him, then belive whatever he says bc its kept you together for a long time and if you want to keep this relationship than keep it, remember to always FORGIVE AND FORGET!
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this friend of mine, Lizzy*, is in a serious relationship with my other friend, Seth*. Lizzy adores Seth, but I know that he has stopped liking her...even though I am not supposed to know, and Lizzy does not know. The problem is, I adore Seth, and he might like me, but I don't know what to do. If I ask Seth if he likes me at all and he says no it would be really akward, but I can't imagine being happy as just his friend much longer...help?!

maybe your question is annoying!.. Peace?! lol whatever!

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Okay well i have a friend and she makes me do EVERYTHING 4 her well at lunch like she will be like here is 50 cents go buy me a cookie and i do it! i dont want to but i do anyways. and i through her trash away 4 her and she pays me a dime and i dont want to do that either i just feel like i can tsay no and when i do i feel like she will be mad at me but whp cares right i cant do stuff 4 her right? well i dont know what do to please help!

Tell her to stop being lazy, she has 2 legs and is capable is doing her own things herself, do you not get sick of babysitting your friend? What does she do for you? Ask her to take your tray and and see what she says, maybe she doesnt realize that shes doin it, maybe your setting yourself up for it Cinderella!
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ok this one is going to be long, so bear with me. i have this guy friend (he's 15/m and i'm 17/f) and our relationship is kinda brother/sisterish. a couple of weeks ago, i was talking to him online and he admitted that he had a crush on me. well this totally surprised me, cause i had a crush on him too. i told him and we were both shocked but then thought that we should try and maybe go out (in secret at first, just in case it didn't work out), and just see how it goes. well we did that, and long story short, we made out a few times then i told him that i didn't think it was a good idea. i'm not really sure why i did it, but i did. but now, i think i have "more than friend" feelings for him again (but i'm not exactly sure), but i don't want to hurt him again. oh, and he still likes me a lot. what should i do?

If yall still like eachother than just tell him that youve had time to think about it and youve realized how you feel, tell him you want to make your relationship public and that you wanna be with him, if he still likes you then youll have no trouble! :*:SaRa:*:

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13/f Ok i get like really scared and my mom thinks im too young to babysit. I want a job so my mom will let me get a cellphone (my mom is so mean i should hav one already!). Well since i get scared i think about stuff like....What if i was babysitting and someone called and said "Im coming for you" or something like that or if someone came to the house. I know there's a REALLY big chance that wouldnt happen but i cant help it i hav a very wild imagenation. Is there any other good job i could get? or anything that would keep me busy from thinking about stuff like that while babysitting?

I rate!

Ok first of all dont believe everything you see in movies! Being only 13 theres really no job that you can have (govt. job anyway) Babysitting would be a good job if your mature enough to handle it and have peoples children in your responsibility! If i were you id mow yards or walk dogs or something, I didnt get my cell phone until i was 16, you dont need it unless your driving and away from home alot, i dont think your mom is mean i just think kids are spoiled these days and even a cell phone requires responsibility! Think about it...
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is there anyway to keep your nails clean, my seem to get dirty all the time?

I have really long nails and they do seem to stay dirty alot, theres really nothing you can do, just clean out from underthen and wash your hands alot, it depends on what your doing...
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Hey I realized my friend sorta WANTS to have sex and she is only 13, shes not going to have it, its just she wants to. I was on her computer and saw alot of porn websites, is this normal for a 13 year old??
I rate high!

Society today and T.V advertise sex among 13 year olds like its a normal and ok thing, its not, being sexually curious is one thing, but actually doin it is a totally different subject! Sex is not something to be taken lightly, it ruins your relationships and messes everything up if your not mature enough to handle it! Tell your friend that true love waits and when she falls in love for real she will want to give herself to that person and it will mean alot more!
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i have this friend and we are really good friends. I am a 15 year old guy and she is a 14 year old girl. She wants me but i feel if we go out and something happens between us that we might not be friends afterwards. I dont want that to happen. How can i tell her this without hurting her feelings?

Well being only 15 i really dont think your ready for a serious relationship and most of the time wouldnt recommend it if you were 45. Im not gonna tell you that it wouldnt work though, alot of ppl stay together that long, but its likely that you wont be with 1 person throughout your whole high-school career! If your really good friends, then just tell her like you told me and she'll understand, dont lead her on, just tell her that you dont wanna lose her as a friend and if yall broke up that you wouldnt want things to be weird!
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20/f

This guy I had a date with kissed me on the firt date. Is that werid? I have never kissed someone on the first date before. Do you think he just wants sex?

Dont stick to the normal stereotypical version of a guy like that! -Meaning that most guys thats true, thats all they want- But it doesnt really matter unless you give it up to them does it? I mean once your together awhile and dont do anything, if he stays, youll know thats not what he was wanting. Ive been in a long relationship now, its my second one and when we were first together it was 4 months before we really kissed..its up to you, dont make yourself easy when it comes to guys, play hard to get, it keeps em wanting more!
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