I made this column to answer any questions you or your friends may have it does not matter what it may be about i can only give you my opinion.
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Age: 20
Member Since: October 12, 2010
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Last Update: October 24, 2010
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i was talking to my boyfriend and we started talking about sex (we were sending dirty messages etc. no pix). a little while later we started talking about our future and he said that he wanted to have sex for real and asked how i felt about it. i told him i wanted to stay a virgin and he told me that hurt his feelings and he got mad. then i got mad at him for thinking i would actually just hop in bed with him and we got into a fight. he said he was sorry but im still mad. what do i do? (link)
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if you whant to stay a virgin that is upto you not him he has no right to get mad at you, its good that you stood your grpund and didnt give into him only do it when you whant to and if he like you then he will stay with you untill you are ready and not when he is ready. it is your body and you are only 15 so you should wait till you feel that it is right for you.
Good Luck x
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My dad was talking to me about learning a musical instrument. He is really big into music and learned to play all sorts of instruments while he was growing up. He said it's really helped him "grow as a person" and that he'd be willing to buy me an instrument if I was interested. The only instrument I can think of to play is the guitar. For those of you who already play the guitar, do you think I should learn, too? I mean, is it really that enjoyable and helpful in life or is my dad a little crazy? :P (link)
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i think you should go for it i meen like he is offering you the chance to learn soomething new andit could be a good bonding thig for you and your dad. i would jump at the chance to lern.
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So I really want to work at Hobby Lobby (an 'art and crafts' kind of place). I'm only 16 and I haven't had any job experiance before, so this makes it kind of hard to get hired. I've applied at Hobby Lobby before but I don't even know if they ever looked at my application. So I was thinking, what if I turned in a LOT of applications, like once a month or something? I've tried asking for the manager but she never seems to be there :/ so I can't think of any other way to draw attention to my application so I can get a job there. Any advice? (link)
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send in a letter into the shop that way they whont think it is a aplacationformand they will read it and they might just offer you a interveiw and then tack it from ther because some employers dont even read the form but if it is a hand wrote letter explaining that you whant to start a care with this company and offer some kind oftrile run then they might just gove you a chance.
Good Luck :)
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I have tried a few different eyeliners and they all seem to be cheap or something. They end up fading off, smudging, or being smeared over and look weird and ugly at the end of the day. I have gym class this year and I don't know if it's because I have to run sometimes or what but my current eyeliner still isn't doing what I need it to do. Does anyone have a favorite eyeliner that stays on all day and doesn't look gross at the end? thanks (link)
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you can get Permanent Eyeliner
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I took a pregnancy test like 2 months ago and it was positive. So, I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant here, especially since I've been having all the signs, too. Today I woke up and I had blood in my panties and I really don't feel good. I know I read some place something about women having their periods in the beginning of pregnancy sometimes. Is this blood what they mean or is something wrong? (link)
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There are many different reasons that a woman may have vaginal bleeding during pregnancy. Some women can continue to have light periods or spotting during pregnancy, especially during the first few months. but go see you doctore just to check.
good luck x :)
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I've never been considered particularly attractive by the opposite sex and I've accepted that. For years I hated how I looked and it would really get me down but as I've got older, I've become alot more confident in myself. I always make an effort to dress stylishly, have regular haircuts and good make up and I'm not overweight so it's not like I'm hideous, I just can't compete with my friends.
My problem is that every time we go anywhere where there are guys, they will get alot of male attention. There have been several occasions where I've been with my friends and guys have made comments about the fact that they're attractive and I'm not. I try not to let it bother me and tell myself that guys who feel the need to make negative comments about my appearance aren't worth it but I can't help but feel disheartened. Recently it seems to be happening more and more. In the past week I can think of at least three occasions when a guy has said something negative about how I look and compared me to one of my friends.
How can I stop this from bothering me and not let their comments ruin my self esteem? (link)
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you just need to brush it of and forget bout it (easer said than done i no) but you just need to let them see that it dont bother you and you are better the scum that think it is ok to coment on peoples looks. dont let them see you upset brush it off and walk on.
best of luck x :)
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I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she's so shy around me. I think it's adorable but at the same time I know she isn't comfortable and that makes me unhappy. Why would she be so incredibly shy and how can I get my girlfriend to loosen up and relax while she's around me? I want to know the real her, inside and out, and it seems like her being overly shy is causing a barrier between us. How can I get her to just relax? Why is it like this? (link)
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I was like that with my bf i was nervis that he wouldnt like me if i was my true self it did take a while for me to start acting myself around him, Once i new that i could trust him and he actualy liked me i could start to loosen up around him and we got closer after we spent time by ourself and i new he woould be ther for me. she will come round just let her now that you do like her and she will soon get more confident with you.
best of luck :)
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Nobody understands me. Nobody understands how it feels to be all alone like I am. Nobody understands how it feels to feel so lost all of the time. Nobody understands how it feels when nobody cares or loves you. Nobody ever listens to me when I tell them these things and I feel like I'm such a hopeless cause in the world and like I'm just taking up space. I'm not happy. I don't fit in with anyone.
I don't want to live any more and have decided to kill myself. I want to commit suicide soon. What are the quickest ways to commit suicide? Preferably I want to do this at home for ease. (link)
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i no how you feel i have been throu the same thing as you i hade no one who would isten to me or even give me a bit of time till i met my bf i wasnt used to it he was ther for me. i dont know how old you are or anythink but i am shure life will start to improve for you and you will find somebody who cares for you, you just have to give it time and life will start to get better i remeber when i whanted to kill myself i was so deprest and nothiing seemd to help me so i now what you meen and i feel for you ther is people you will meet in your life that will help you and get yoou throu your problems, just take a step back think about somethink that you could do to get you throu this time. it will get better belive me.
best of luck x :)
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When my boyfriend gets mad he gets really really mad. He hits me and has choked me twice before. I don't think he'd actually kill me but he does leave a lot of bruises and I'm really tired of it. I can't talk to him about it because he's just going to get mad. I don't want to leave him because I love him with all my heart and soul. I'm just tired of having to hide bruises and cover them up with make up and clothing all the time when I go out of the house. We live together right now and I just don't know what to do. My friend has seen the bruises and got worried but I told her it's no big deal. It is a big deal. What do I do from here? how can I make my boyfriend stop hitting me? (link)
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you need to leave him you may love him but it will only get worse belive me i no, you need to put yourself first he will try and stop you he will even promise you that he will change but he wont, if you stay with him it can only get wors you need to leave him and make him see someoneabout his anger and sort him self out and if he loves you the way you love him he will do it to be with you but move out of the house and he can sort him self out and if you do deside to get back with him then take it slow dont ever move in with him till you no he is sorted and wont ever harm you. he need to see that you whont stand for it and he will lose you if he dont get his anger sorted.
best of luck x :)
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My boyfriend broke up with me over a month ago. I brought up the break up, and he did it. Any way it was only until after we broke up that I realised how much I loved him. We discussed getting back together but he didn't really make an effort, so I told him to make a decision and he couldn't. He says he still loves me he just doesnt know what he wants right now. I told him I no longer want to be friends with him. And that we wouldn't be speaking again. He was a bit angry with me for this. I told him i'd met a few guys (which I had, nothing serious. I'm SINGLE) and he said it hurt him.
Literally 3 days after I told him I didn't want anything to do with him he starts flirting with this girl in a club and kissing her. My friends all saw him, and he kissed her and stuff. One of my friends knows her from college and she said that the girl he kissed fell out with him that night. Do you think he's doing this because he knows i'm out with other guys? He's trying to get over me? Do you think he's gonna contact me again now that it didn't work out with her? (link)
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you both need to start being honest with what you both want and if you both whant to be together then mack a effort to bein a relation ship you should not be messing eachother round and trying to score points it is your feeling you are both messing with you need to sit him down and talk it through with him and figer it out what it is you both whant and if you dont whant to be together go yoursepret ways and get on with you life.
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I was raped a few months ago. I was a virgin and the guy knew that. I just feel so empty and confused all the time now. My parents know and I see a counselor, but nothing really helps this feeling go away. I have a lawyer and they're trying to get something done, but so far nothing because my last detective chose to believe the guys over me. I just don't know how to shake this feeling or move past this. I don't know what to do. Advice? (link)
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what you need to remeber is it was NOT your falt, it wont go away it will always be in your mind but i know it sounds hard to do but you need to stop it ruling your life, try and come to terms with what has happend and move on have a fresh start and try to not keep thinking about it it's easer said than done i know but you are a very special person and it will soon become easyer to deal with it and it will make you stronger for you to push on with anythink that comes your way, keep your chin up.
goodluck in your future :)
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ohk i was suppose to stay the night at my friends caitlyns but i ditched and went to some guys house there i had sex smoked weed and my best friend got beat the fuck up by some drunk bitch .the next morning cops r looking all over for us they find us my friend goes to juvi and her mom goes to jail those guys that we had sex with told us they were 16 but they were really 19 and 20 .i had to take a pee test came up positive now i have more shit added to my record .my life is a living hell hole and i might get sent to juvi again .wtf do i doo? should i run away? (link)
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face upto what you have done dont runaway you are pregnant so you need to do what is best for the child and get you life back on track.
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im Dede,17. me and my bf have been together for 20 months and we love each other...im really in in love with him!! but today we got to talking and he told me that he dnt know if the relationship thing is him anymore so i asked if he wanted us anymore..and he siad he didnt know...what do you think he means and how should i feel cause i cant picture my self without him he is my love of my life me and him have been thought so much together and how can i make it work out?? (link)
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Hello, i think you should ask him what he meens by this and he might just need a break sometime relationships can get to cumfy you needto do more diffrent stuf together it as only been 20 months but if he is already feeling like this you should just take a break and see how you both feel after a cuple weeks away from eatch other then he might just see how special you are to him and will make a efort to be with you. if not you are only 17 you have years and yeas to find the man of your dreams that love you and would do anything for you.
good luck?
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im thinking abouut rrunning away and i would just like to know the consequences and whatt im gettin myself into. and also if yu havv any advice about gettin outta here when no one knows .i ahve 7 ppl living with me so thhats goona be hard. uhhh thanxx:))))) (link)
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it depends what you need to get away from and how old are you? their is people you could contact like friends family members that wouldput you upfor a couple of days just going and leaving it would not be nice for who ever you live with to find you gone and will be so worried about you i think this is the wrong step to tack.
it is not a safe world for someone to runaway you could get mixed inwith bad people.
reconsider your options.
Good Luck.
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i am a 28 year old female i don't know what it is aout me but i can't seem to keep any friends. its not anything that i did its just that people don't like me. ESPECIALLY WOMEN. Women hate my guts they are always talking about me behind my back.I was friends with this girl since 7th grade she slept with my boyfriend behind my back. And i got her a job working where i work and she started talking behind my back spreading rumors about me to all my co-workers.
I was also friends with this girl from high school. and one day for no good reason she just stoped talking me LIKE LITTERALLY she stoped when i called her she did not pick up when i stoped by her house she acted like she wasn't home. and i knew she was home cause i saw her peeping through the window. I was so embarresed. I keep trying to figure it out does my breath stink am i annoying to people its nothing like that at least i don't think so.
And then recently this other girl stoped talking to me. I've known her for years too. She asked me for $500 dollars to pay the rest of her rent. (mind you she always asks me for cash and i always give it to her) $10 here $20 there gas money stuff like that and she never pays me back. This time she asked me for a whole $500 when i told her that i didn't have it she stoped talking to me she acted like i betrayed her or something.
i don't know if i'm the one with the problem or if its everyone else. What do you think? (link)
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dont ever doubt yourself you just havent found the right friends yet. these peopledo use you, by the sound of it you have hade a lucky escape friends dont always ask you to lend them monyand if they did they would pay you back friends are ment to be their for you keep clear of these people you deserve better.
good luck :)
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I moved out at the age of eighteen. i stay with my boyfriend and his family. Everything is great except school is really expensive and i can't seem to get any loans. The issue is i could go to school for free if i move back in with my parents, but i do not want that. I was so depressed there. But its really stressin me on how long its taking to get back into school. im feeling as if i wont ever get back in. So what do i do, choose love and eventually i can have my career or choose career and be miserable back at home and worry about love later? (link)
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i think you should move back homoe and get your career back and if your boyfriend loves you then he should be find and suport you in your career move.
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my boyfriend and I are at the point where we just fight all the time. I dont know why. I say he pushes me into theses fights, he says im too confrontational etc. etc. blah blah. Its just stupid and we keep creating more problems. It isnt fun anymore. I dont know what to do. Does it sound like maybe we should just move on? Any advice please. (link)
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you both need tosit down carmly and talk about what you both feel and see if the relationship can get back on track for you both and should try and mack a efort to understand each other if you both really whant this to work.
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My boyfriends ex girl friend will sometimes text my boyfriend and tell him that she wishes things would have worked out differently in their relationship & that she misses him. She'll also tell him that he isn't truly happy with me & that he's just using me as a rebound. He won't change his number due to work reasons, and he keeps telling her that she needs to stop texting. This is really upsetting me because I dont want him to listen to her & start thinking that he really isnt happy with me & he'll take her back. He says that he would never do that to me & I believe him. Its just the fact... Should I confront her myself or leave it to him to handle? (link)
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i think you should tell him how you feel just let it go and if you are the real deal then he will stand by you and you could both confrunt the girl and tell her together as a couple and she should see she is wasting her time and tell her to move on life is to short.
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Ok I have this problem where if I'm active I'm fine but the moment I sit or lay down I fall asleep realy quick .I can't even watch my favorite show on tv without falling asleep .so what's my problem do I have narcolepsy .or something eles .of course I'm pacing back and forth right now as I'm typing or I wouldn't. Finish without zzzzzz so anyone have any idea what I have please let me know cause I'm cluless (link)
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it does sound like narcolepsy but i think you should contack your doctore and ask him about it and seeif he can give you anythink to help you.
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I really like thhis guy he's sooo cute and i just wanna have sex with him soo bad .but im scared bcuz i told ive lost it already but i have nott and hes gonna know bcuz i donnt think ive popped my cherrry yet and since i havent had sex yett i donnt know how im going to react to it and i really dont wanna embarres myself .Whatt do i dddo? (link)
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it is nothing to be embarrest about that you havent done it yet, be honest with him if you lick this guy then tell him and if he truely licks u he will understand if you whant to start a relationship with this guy you BOTH should be honest with each other from the start. once you start lieing in a relation ship it will just snowball and get out of control.
good luck :)
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