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How can I ignore their comments?
I've never been considered particularly attractive by the opposite sex and I've accepted that. For years I hated how I looked and it would really get me down but as I've got older, I've become alot more confident in myself. I always make an effort to dress stylishly, have regular haircuts and good make up and I'm not overweight so it's not like I'm hideous, I just can't compete with my friends.
My problem is that every time we go anywhere where there are guys, they will get alot of male attention. There have been several occasions where I've been with my friends and guys have made comments about the fact that they're attractive and I'm not. I try not to let it bother me and tell myself that guys who feel the need to make negative comments about my appearance aren't worth it but I can't help but feel disheartened. Recently it seems to be happening more and more. In the past week I can think of at least three occasions when a guy has said something negative about how I look and compared me to one of my friends.
How can I stop this from bothering me and not let their comments ruin my self esteem?
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you just need to brush it of and forget bout it (easer said than done i no) but you just need to let them see that it dont bother you and you are better the scum that think it is ok to coment on peoples looks. dont let them see you upset brush it off and walk on.
best of luck x :)
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Okay the only thing i need to say is F*** THEM!!! you dont need to have anyone telling you you dont look good if you belive you look good =).
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guy below me grow up
and guys are jerks. dont pay attention to them. You will sooner or later find a guy worth attention. For now try to have a good time. If its really bothering you tell your friends that the guys seem to not pay any attention to you. If they are real friends they will help out. If not hang out with different friends. You can even start being more outgoing like a club just have a nice time. Im sure there is guys that will notice the personality. Well i hoped i helped. :)
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but if you took your friend away from the guy, that would make you a grenade. no one likes grenades.
watch jersey shore, learn a lot.
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Oh goodness. I went to my very first nightclub recently, and it was just like this.
The only explanation I can think of is that they're trying to use pick-up artist techniques on you. Yes, there are guys who suggest being rude and insulting to women to get them in bed. And for some reason, it works on the dumber specimens of our sex.
You've got to be snippy right back at them. Make them look as small as they're acting. If they say "Your friend is way _____ than you", then say something along the lines of "Wow, you are so right. You know what else? Thanks to that little insight, you don't have a chance with either of us. Have a great night."
Your friends need to back you up. They can't be paying attention to guys who are nasty to you in front of them. If your friends are too flattered by the perceived compliment to them, you've got to find new friends to go out with.
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