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I was raped.
I was raped a few months ago. I was a virgin and the guy knew that. I just feel so empty and confused all the time now. My parents know and I see a counselor, but nothing really helps this feeling go away. I have a lawyer and they're trying to get something done, but so far nothing because my last detective chose to believe the guys over me. I just don't know how to shake this feeling or move past this. I don't know what to do. Advice?
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Hi,
Let me just say, i know where you are coming from. From a personal experience. Nothing helps because no one except you was in that situation and even though people try to understand they could not even come close. I feel like this all the time, when i think about what happened to me in the past. This is not at all easy, but take each day at a time.
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I'm sorry you were raped, no women should have to endure such a horrible crime and then be told in essence she is a liar as well. I thought the time when all I guy had to do was to get 4 or 5 of his friends to say she was a party girl and the rape charge went away was long gone.
A girl or a guy for that matter, can say no at any time even after intercourse has started. If the guy does not stop once you say stop from that point on it is rape. The law is very black and white on the subject. If the local District Attorney or States Attorney will file charges then ask your attorney to look at applicable federal laws. In the hairs on the back of my neck are telling me local District or States Attorney has never been contacted. Your lawyer should confirm this him or herself.
Where I live in Maryland any rape charge has to be reviewed by the County States Attorneys office. A detective does not have a choice in whether or not to file charges or make the arrest. The detectives follows the directions given by the States Attorneys office.
Short of murder rape is the most horrible of crimes. As a victim it is going to take time to get past this and on with your life. I say past this as you never fully get over it. You are in counseling which is good. You may also want to contact your local rape crisis center as they can also help you.
You may also want to look at this website: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). RAINN stands for Rape,Abuse,Incest, National Network. They also operate a 24 hour hot-line staffed by trained staff who are there to help you.
Once again, I'm sorry for the what you have had to endure. Things will get better with time and the proper help.
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Well, I agree with the person under me. Honestly I can't say I understand because I haven't been in your position. But I know that your never going to be able to forget this. And talking to a counciler usually makes me feel a lott worse about things.
Sometimes keeping things to myself helps a lott more. Maybe eventually you'll take it off your mind. Since it was kind of recent you probly won't be able to get it off your mind for a while. Let time go by and take it from there (:
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what you need to remeber is it was NOT your falt, it wont go away it will always be in your mind but i know it sounds hard to do but you need to stop it ruling your life, try and come to terms with what has happend and move on have a fresh start and try to not keep thinking about it it's easer said than done i know but you are a very special person and it will soon become easyer to deal with it and it will make you stronger for you to push on with anythink that comes your way, keep your chin up.
goodluck in your future :)
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