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dying relationship
my boyfriend and I are at the point where we just fight all the time. I dont know why. I say he pushes me into theses fights, he says im too confrontational etc. etc. blah blah. Its just stupid and we keep creating more problems. It isnt fun anymore. I dont know what to do. Does it sound like maybe we should just move on? Any advice please.
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Ok, remember that it takes two to tango. If you guys have been fighting more often, it's not one or the other's fault, it's both.
When you talk to him, use statements that begin with "I feel" instead of "You are." When you tell someone that they are doing something wrong, they are most likely going to go on a defensive/offensive mode.
But on the other hand if you use "I feel" statements, they can't tell you you're wrong about how you feel, because that's what's inside YOU.
For example; "You don't listen to me" as opposed to "I feel like you don't listen to me."
Step number one in avoiding conflicts is STAY CALM; probably the most important step. Never raise your voice. That just causes more tension between you guys.
If he's one of those people who feel they need to let out all they have to say first, then let him explain everything to you until he is done talking. Then respond with something that you both can work with. Win win result is what you want.
If you don't agree explain; above all stay calm and try to see things with his eyes.
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you both need tosit down carmly and talk about what you both feel and see if the relationship can get back on track for you both and should try and mack a efort to understand each other if you both really whant this to work.
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you don't want to marry someone who you argue with constantly, and the whole point of dating is to find the " one", right? So move on, because life is too short to settle!!
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Every relationship falls out of its honeymoon stage. I'm actually going through the same thing right now.. If you two really love each other, you both need to step back and ask yourselfs do i really want to be with this person, if there is any hesitation then yea you should go ahead and end it before the fights turn physical... You just got to remember that before you can make anyone else happy you have to make yourself happy first and always keep your head up
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Maybe you should talk to him, ask him why you guys fight a lot, and ask him if he loves you and still wants you, Ask him and if he doesnt make effort then just be done!
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i know this sounds funny and stupid but if you guys actually sit down and talk about it you guys could prevent arguing and fighting so much. its not a healthy relationship if you are always fighting. you can both end up getting hurt so its better to talk about it and come up with a solution together. this doesnt have to mean that you guys need to move on. i would say talk about it and if you guys are still fighting then yeah its time to move on. like the person said if you keep fighting your not happy. and if your not happy then why are you guys together? think about it. and it should be something you guys speak about together, and hopefully try to speak. wish you the best. ---Anny. xo
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Yes, you should move on. If your fighting then your not happy. If your not happy then your wasting your time.
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I think that before you move on you should tell him what you just wrote on here and discuss if he feels the same way. Talk about the fights you are having and see what the root cause is. If you can't find one or if he completely refuses to talk about it and the feeling of having enough is mutual suggest, breaking up because then it might just be that there is a conflict of personalities or the relationship has gone just stale. Good luck! :/ Hope I helped x
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