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a few nights ago i was with a friend and two older boys (3 years) weve hung out before, and this guy pressured me into haveing sex with him but i wouldnt. i dont like im or anything its just a hookup. the thing is im a virgin and hes not and then i was drunk a few nights ago and ended up doing something im starting to really regret. sex. i lost my virginity to someone i dont even like he made it seem like it wasnt a big deal and everyones had it so i just gave in. at first i was okay with it but now im starting to think.. what am i going to telll my next boyfriend? or my friends? i dont know if i should just forget about this whole thing and say im a virgin. im just getting upset and i dont know who to turn to and im not going to a councelor or anything. i guessi just need some moral support.. thank you
and no we did not use a condom, we were in a hot tub and he swore to me that he would pull out before, but we didnt even get that far into it i think. plus hs going off to college and hates kids. so im pretty sure im safe. please help thank you
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just forget about it
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awe i have the same exact problam.
i went to the doctor and if your 14 or over they cant tell anyone about it or its against the law.
its ok hunny dont worry about it
yes
the next boyfreind you get you should say your a virgin.
i did that
i believe your still a virgin until you dont want to be one.
buti strongly suggest you go see a doctor.
and i totally understand what your saying in this question
because like seriously i was at a party like a week ago and EVERYONE was having sex so i gave in and he didnt have a condom but it was in the shower.and he swore he would pul it out and stuff
sooo
im lucky im not
i went to the doctor
and yeah.
but good luck!
i hope your ok.
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Sorry to tell you but you were raped because you were drunk and even though you consented, that is still rape you need to tell someone peferably your parents
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your a dumbass for not using a condom, no matter WHAT he says dont be stupid about it like you did. and you are not a virgin just dont tell people how it happened, its deff. not their business and i suggest gettin a preg. test if your so worried about it.
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Just so you know it doesn't matter if he's going off to college, it doesn't matter if he hates kids, it doesn't matter that you were in a hot tub, and it sure as hell doesn't matter that he pulled out. There's a chance that you are pregnant. Just making that clear. Don't get to sure on yourself that it was safe. Don't take this into offense, I just want you to take it into account.
You can't help that you've lost your virginity to someone you didn't love. There is nothing you can do to change it now except make better choices next time a situation like this comes up. If and when you tell your friends and future boyfriends about this, tell them you regret it, but it's apart of your past and you've learned from your mistakes. Don't lie about it, because it will only get you into trouble in the long run. Just be honest, there's nothing you can do to change what's happened- Just accept it and move on with your life.
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Well first of all I would suggest that you get checked by a doctor, as long as you are over 14 it is against the law for the doctor to tell ANYONE anything about your visit. It is important because if he pressured you then it is likely that he has pressured girls in the past and you never know what he could have. He sounds like a total scumbag.
A trick I use with alot of my clients is to have them write down their feelings, what happened etc.. and then rip it up and throw it in the FIB (f*** it bucket) believe it or not it helps.
Also if people ask it really isn't anyones business as a woman of 31 I honestly can say that I don't think any boyfriend has ever asked me how I lost it, my husband doen't even know, and as for my girlfriends I just tell them its not something I am comfortable discussing end of story.
This was a horrible thing and you did not deserve it, this guy is scum and hopefully he gets poison ivy in a really "personal" place!!
I hope this helped.
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its ok dont be upset, in my opinion its try everything once and since you did now you know that you are not ready for sex.forget about that guy i mean it was a mistake you were drunk!but mistakes are a road to success and without mistakes a person wouldnt be experienced at all.now you know whats right and wrong and dont worry bout what other ppl have to say,you dont have to explain it to everyone only to your close ppl.and if anyone(future boyfriend)asks you asks you at first if youre a virgin tell him im sorry i tend to keep stuff about my virginity personal and i dont like talking about it.hope i helped :D
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Well girl that really sucks that you lost your virginity and the person you lost it to does not evn care cause all he want was your twat and then its no big deal but anyway you got to tell your friends becuase then if you get a b/f and you tell him and one of your friends fines out your put in a tough stop and you dont want to be there but i hope that everything is ok and your be fine just make sure the next time you get drunk your around people who are trust worthy and wont do you ...hope i helped -THC-
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just to let you no i'm 13, and maybe not the best person 2 answer this. But i'll try. You can tell your friends the truth. they'll understand if thier your friends. and same w/ your next bf.He'll understand. you were drunk!!! and he pressured you. It's not your fault.don't blame yourdelf. It will only make you feel bad.Next time NEVER give in if you dont whant 2 do it!!!
It may not be easy, but dont!!!
~lucky
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girl seriously thats wack
you shoudn't make someone pressure you into doing something you dont want to do even if you like the boy
what might help its talking to someone you trust
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writing your feelings down but keep it secret hope it helps
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No boy should EVER pressure you. He is not a good friend or a person, and I hope you distance yourself away from him and his friends. Sex is supposed to be between two very emotionally involved individuals. Everyone makes mistakes though, and obviously you admit it was a mistake. It was a bad idea not to use a condom, so please (no matter who the guy is or what he says) always make sure he wears a condom.
You have to be strong and confident about the situation. Realize that it was a one time thing and from now on, you will wait until YOU are ready, not when HE is. If your future boyfriend or your friends are any less than understanding, they don't deserve to be in your life. You sound like a girl who knows when she's messed up & wants to make things right, which shows you are mature. It would be a good idea to take a pregnancy test if you miss your period though, just to be safe. And "pulling out" is NOT a good birth control method, don't listen to guys who say they will do that (Pre-cum can get you pregnant)
Good luck with everything & be safe always!
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Aww I'm sorry he treated you like that and told you it wasn't a big deal. If your friends/future boyfriend really love/like you they'll listen to your side of the story and accept you. You made a mistake. You got drunk around the wrong people. Just learn from this and make sure the next guy you decide to do it with you love and he respects you and does NOT pressure you. I'm sorry, and Good Luck in the future.
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I'm sorry he took advantage of you in this way. Don't get drunk anymore... that'll solve your problems for a while. Take a pregnancy test if you miss your period.
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